***Let's support each other again - Part 2***

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Well ladies, I thought I'd better start us a new thread

May it bring us all good luck, see us through happier times, and at least two new bundles of joy

xxx

Hi everyone.. Hope all of u are doing fine. Life here is madness at the moment juggling with 3 small kids. Nearly went into depression after baby girl keep screaming loudly ( without crying ) everytime needs changing or wants milk. Sad to say I don't feel like I love her that much due to the "screaming for no reason " attitude" although I care for her ATM. Other twin is doing fine n doesn't scream as often or loudly like her. Can't wait till they are able to sleep at night without the regular 3 hourly feeds as I haven't had at least 4hour continuous sleep ever since they are at home.. Just need a little advice from mn re this problem of mine. I don't know if it's related to postnatal depression or not but the thoughts of killing her is immense . Not that I will do it but either I might harm myself or her is bad enough :(..anyone had this kind of experience pls kindly post so I know am not the only one feeling this way when baby doesn't behave as well as we wanted them to be..

Oh nandos so very sorry things are this difficult for you atm. Have no personal knowledge of pnd so hoping someone else may be able to advise you on that but can totally understand that even just the stress of being responsible for three small babies and the severe sleep deprivation you are suffering from would test most people.

Take care of yourselves - do you have a health visitor/midwife you could chat to for some advice.

Sending you love and hugs.

Poppy xx

Thx poppy for replying.. Yeah it's stressful here n dh has gone abroad for a mth re work and I'm left mostly by myself with 3 kids at home :( just realized my posting doesn't suit the conception topic so might go to the other discussion board. In the mean time I thought of calling the mental health chatline but still considering it cos they might think I'm crazy.. Well with crazy thoughts for a start. God I hate myself for hating her. Told dh abt it n he can't seems to understand my problem. Am trying to be patient with my baby 's screaming nightmare ATM but feels like if I don't get help soon I might harm her.. Think will go now and get some rest. Will try to update all of u every few days so at least u know me n babies are doing ok..

Hi nandos wow a month on your own with 3 babies - that's very hard and can see why you are struggling. The mental health chatline would prob be a very good non judgemental source of support and advice for you. I know here in the Scotland we have Sure start which is a voluntary service of people with parenting experience who go to the homes and help families with kids under 5 who are struggling (for varying reasons). I was v ill after having ds and physically couldn't cope due to arthritis and they would have been a saviour to me but it was a fairly new organisation then and weren't in my area until after arthritis began to improve again. Don't know if there is anything at all like that where you are. Anyway off to read ds story. Please take care and do keep posting, thinking about you and will keep you in prayers.

Love poppy xxx

Nandos try posting on the mental health thread - there are a lot of people there who have been through similar things and are very, very caring and understanding. You are under a huge, huge amount of stress at the moment, dealing with one new baby is hard enough. Please post there xxxx big hugs.

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Nandos, how are you doing?

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Boo all!

Hi ladies

Just wondering how you are all doing. nandos hope things are a bit better for you now.

Is everyone organised for xmas or are you all like me and beginning to feel slight panic setting in

Love Poppy xx

Hiya, it's been a long time - I'm getting stressed about Christmas! I've nearly done all the present shopping but sooo busy in the next couple of weeks with various things going on: nativity at school, Christmas dos in the evening, etc.

Nandos how are you doing?

Hello everyone! I hope you have all had a good Christmas xxxxx

We had a lovely time: chaos of course. The house is full of toys and leftovers!

Ooo hellooooo there becky

Hi becky glad you had a good Christmas, we did as well and our house sounds just like yours - stuffed to the brim with toys and other goodies!!

Hope everyone else had a nice time.

Love Poppy xxx

GetDown hello! Everyone, meet GetDown she's my good friend from the 'I can't sleep' thread!

Hello Poppy - hope the madness has settled now. It has here. Getting ready for the back to school madness now. DS2 officially starts school tomorrow.

Boo everyone. How are you all doing? We're all doing fine, getting through the cold January days, DS3 sitting on my lap being a wriggly little thing. He is growing up so fast. He can now say 'cat', 'again', 'match attax', 'daddy', 'book'.

Hi Becky, lovely that ds3 is coming on so well

All ok here, except I've been poorly (fluey tummy bug thing) . Nothing new really! How was your Christmas and New Year?