***Let's support each other again - Part 2***

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Well ladies, I thought I'd better start us a new thread

May it bring us all good luck, see us through happier times, and at least two new bundles of joy

xxx

Hello typing one-handed as baby in arms. Hope you are feeling better mbm sorry you are in pain. Toby 2 weeks tomoorow doing well but tough looking after 3! Evenings are hard as Toby unsettled in evening as other two used to be. DH back to work Monday...

Better go this boy has done a poo

Glad to hear you are coping becky Cannot believe that 2 weeks have passed so quickly!!!

MBM hope you are feeling less sore today. Laps are horrible procedures! I had one 3 years ago to "check out my infertility" and it was very painful, sore shoulder from gas travelling upwards and very sore tummy from stiches/op. To top it all, after all that they said I was "fine"!!! Which is obviously not the case or I would get pg easily like others do

Have you had the results of your lap yet? Hope it was helpful. Just rest and take your time recovering from it. Allow yourself to be "looked after"

I have had vile week. Friend with tumour took a bad turn last wkend and ended up bk in hosp. She lost all co-ordination etc. Home next day but her dh is hoping the consultant will allow treatment to begin earlier now tumour is having an effect. Am praying radiotherapy will shrink it away. Had the awful job of telling my girlguides on Wed night what her condition is and why she is not coming along. Just awful.

Also AF almost wk late but pmt was raging so knew pg was out of question. Began this morn with a bang so have been feeling awful today.

Got school fair tomorrow so just off to bed now as have to get up qt early and dh and I have just polished off bottle of sparkly wine we got on wed for wed anniv. Also got friends coming round on Sun for luch and catch up so will need to go and buy some goodies and do some baking tomorrow. Was meant to have been last weekend but dh and ds were ill!!!

Hope you all have a good weekend.
Love Poppy xxx

Hello!

Becky Good luck when DH goes back... Am sure that you will be fine, although the thought must be pretty daunting. How's the feeding going? How are ds 1 and 2 doing? Are they enjoying being big brothers? Must be lovely to have three, although immense hard work at the moment I'm sure!

Poppy I'm so sorry about your friend Life just is not fair sometimes. Maybe your AF was late due to stress? It must be a horrible time for you, and poor you having to tell the guides. You must've been very brave.
Yes, the op was pretty awful, didn't have a clue how painful it would be, esp my shoulders/neck/diaphragm afterwards. There was one point the day after the op when I really scared dh by basically not being able to breathe for the pain - was crying and making raggedy sounds and he was terrified. Felt awful .
They told me straight away that they took out the cyst, and that they also found 'light' endometriosis and took that away too. I suppose that's got to be positive, but am wondering how 'light endo' can interfere with fertility that much?
Am going back on the 9 Dec to see specialist, so hope to fnd out the next course of action then. Started 'playing chess' again last night as the CBFM says we're coming up to ovulation - was v weird as have still got stitches in - dh was v gentle bless him!

Nandos How are things going with you? Hope your little bundle of joy is doing well, and that you've managed to see dh recently?

M2O Hello if you're lurking, and lots of love x

Right, better go and have a shower now - haven't been out the house for a week, and desperately need to get some cat litter so am off to brave the pet shop! Luckily I have my aunt with me to look after ds - he is a nightmare there, he loves all the animals and normally refuses to leave. At least somebody else will be there to drag him out for me

Have a good weekend all xxx

Hello all

Toby is 17 days today and things are going ok. I'd forgotten what it feels like to exist on 4 hours sleep a night! But we're coping. The DSs are ok, DS2 is very fond of Toby and keeps wanting to kiss him, DS1 is a bit more distant. He's not that bothered really but then I think they both realise that newborns don't do anything and that's boring!

Poppy I feel for you.

Nandos how old is your little baby now? He must be changing so much and so different from Toby!!! I can't imagine being a few months down the line.

I need to do some ironing while Toby sleeps... you should see this house IT IS A TOTAL TIP!!!

Becky So glad things are going well, bet you can't believe he's almost three weeks Hope you're managing to sleep when you can, 4 hours a night must be making you a bit of a zombie! V cute re DS2
BTW, forget about the housework - it'll still be there when you start to emerge from the lack-of-sleep-fog in a few weeks, so tackle it then!

Poppy How are you doing? How's your friend? Must be a very difficult time at the moment
Did you manage to celebrate your anniversary? I hope so! How many years have you been married? Time goes so quickly doesn't it...

Nandos How's your mum? I hope you're okay in what is bound to be a very worrisome time... I'm thinking of you and hoping for the best x

Things are okay here - am finally starting to feel a bit more back to normal after the op. DH accused me of being obsessed about getting pg last night I was v upset. Am feeling really down about it at the moment - you know how all of a sudden it hits you that you're not as happy as you thought you were? I am just desperate for another child, so much so it hurts, and I'm so scared it's not going to happen. Am sure you know exactly how I'm feeling all of you It's just difficult, but am sure will pick myself up in a couple of days and manage to put a smile on my face again.

Oh mbm big hug to you. I really, really, really want it to happen for you.

Hello guys! How are you all? I'm fine, still in baby fog, Toby is 4 weeks on Saturday. He sleeps all the time!!

Hello 4 weeks old already Where does the time go? How are you doing? Great re sleeping, hope you're catching up while he's quiet?

Can't be long as out to work Christmas party in half an hour... How are you Poppy and Nandos? Hope you're both okay?

Had my appt with specialist last night, and am still feeling happy He was sooooo lovely and reassuring - I had pretty bad endo apparently which was all taken out, so he said it's looking good now We've got 6 months to try on our own, and then we are putting a 'plan' into action - I'll go on Clomid or Menopur injections, they'll stimulate ov and do insemination! Am so happy that he's going to take control if we're still trying then... feel like a weight has been lifted!

Anyway, enough about me - I really hope you're all okay, are you all ready for Christmas? Can't believe it's so close!

Have to dash, love to all xxx

mbm that is good. My fingers and toes are crossed for you xxx

Enjoy your party!

I can't really rest in the daytime even though Toby sleeps so well as have the other DSs to worry about and entertain - but I feel surprisingly ok on broken sleep. Long may it last (the feeling ok, not the broken sleep that is!!!!).

Wow becky I can't believe Toby is almost 4 wks! It seems to have flown by So glad you are managing on broken sleep. One of my friends had a 3rd child this yr and she has coped immensly well considering the other 2 are both at school, have clubs etc and in the past she had v bad pnd but so far this time seems ok.

MBM Plans are good takes away the feeling of helplessness that you feel when things are not happening naturally. Hopefully now the endo has been removed and you feel something is being done to help your mind will relax a little and ttc will be less stressful.

nandos bet you are looking forward to your first xmas as a mummy

I have promised ds xmas tree will be put up tomorrow. Have spent days looking for new lights as old ones are really past it. V hard now to find nice fairly lights

My friend who has been ill had a bit of a deterioration and ended up bk in hosp but has now begun her radiotherapy and her dd told me that seems to have helped as prob she mentally now feels she is fighting it.
Praying she gets better soon.

Anyway must go as still have rakes of xmas shopping to do (and lights to find!)

Love poppy xxx

Poppy not sure how I have coped with DS1 at school and DS2 at nursery. It's been the hardest month of my life so far but we've coped... with sticks holding up my eyes some days.

Boo!

Boo to you too

How you doing?

I'm fine. Toby five weeks on Saturday. Life hectic x a lot. House a tip. Got soooo much to do before Christmas!

What are you all doing for Christmas and New Year? We're just staying at home this year, taking it easy.

Am sure life must be v hectic!!! Try not to stress too much about Christmas - the most important thing is that you have your lovely family round you, and just enjoy them. There'll always be more Christmases!

We're off back to the UK on Tuesday until the 28th then here for New Year. Have just sent back all our pressies with dad in his car which is quite handy!

What are you doing Poppy and Nandos?

Hope everyone is well - it's just started snowing here, so am hoping that by the time ds wakes up from his nap that there might be a bit settled for him to see

xxx

Hi all..sorry for not updating asap
been down with really bad cough n fever..baby also had it so hes been at home most of the time with dh while i wore a mask to hospital almost everyday to see mom.

re the lump, its found to be cancerous but the docs manage to take it out and a little bit of the surrounding tissue to be on the safe side ..luckily not the whole breast and also another good news it that it hasnt spread to the lymph nodes or other parts of the body..although she will need radiotherapy for 6 weeks..maybe even chemo depnding of the the cancer stage.
mom still in hospital due to the meds she took for her heart so need to stabilise her blood b4 she can be discharged soon.
it was a nightmare b4 the surgery cos' the consultant explained so many scenarios of what could happen at the surgery and that the cancer can spread, so much that i got a headache and got so worried abt her
anyways the plan is that after her discharge from hospital, we were thinking of going to a water games resort in malaysia in early jan with the whole family..

ok i think i've typed too much now..
hope all of you have a nice xmas n holidays n have a very Happy New Year if i couldnt come on MN b4 New Year eve

take care all..
luv, nandos

NANDOS so sorry to hear about your mum being so ill. It is good they have managed to remove it and hopefully the next part of the treatment will make sure it is absolutely gone. I hope you all manage to stay strong as a family to get through the next few weeks. You have had so much to contend with recently - it is so unfair. Just remember to look after each other and enjoy your son.

becky my house is also a tip with all the accumulation xmas paraphenalia and I don't have the excuse of a baby!

mbm we had tons of snow here yesterday. So much so our street got blocked off and 3 cars crashed on the hill leading up to our house.

Have been busy xmas shopping today. Not organised at all Ds had a good wk. Passed another taekwondo grading, got into golden club for good behaviour at school and last week got presented with a headteachers award at an assembly. I was v proud mum

Best be off and tidy the tip!!!!!

Hi everyone!

Just thought I'd say hello while Toby is still asleep.

Toby smiled today for the first time

Nandos sorry to hear about your mum but good news that it hasn't spread. The next few weeks will be very hard but it's the best way to ensure the cancer is stopped. DH's grandfather is going through the same thing after being diagnosed a rare form of skin cancer on his face. My thoughts are with you and your mum.

We have no snow at all... wish we had some!

I still have to buy a present for DS1! Cutting it a bit fine, I know, but I have no idea what to get him. I've done the stockings though, which is always fun. I just hope they don't go hunting under my bed for anything as that is where all the father christmas presents are hidden.

Poppy well done your DS! He sounds a bit like my DS1. I received a letter of comendation from his school the other day for his good behaviour. Was I a proud mummy, like you, or what?

House is still a tip and even more cluttered now we have lots of presents under the tree.

Are you all excited about Christmas? This time last year my AF was 2 weeks late and I was really confused as negative pregnancy tests. It turned up just before Christmas if I remember rightly. Does not seem a year ago.

Becky Oh, that's lovely, it must have been fab to see little Toby smiling, hooray Hope you manage to get ds1 a pressie in time!
Am not really that excited re Christmas as there just seems to be so much to do before it can happen... I wonder if they'd consider delaying it this year?
Am off to UK tomorrow straight from school, and haven't even started packing yet... House is a state and dh will be here for 2 days before joining us so will make it even messier. I need to tidy!

Poppy Your ds sounds like an absolute angel! You must be bursting with pride It's so lovely to hear about all the wonderful things he does...
Has your snow gone now? Ours is still here and am panicking about how on earth am going to get to school in the morning! It takes over an hour to get there anyway in the mornings, let alone with roads so dangerous. Hope your ds is enjoying it?

Nandos I can't believe how much you've had to go though, you poor thing and your poor family. I'm glad to hear they got the cancerous tissue out, and I wish your mum lots of luck for the next six weeks, am sure it won't be easy. The holiday sounds like a fantastic idea, and I'm sure it'll give her something to look forward to. I know exactly what you mean about how worried you were before the operation - my mum has been going through terrible operations too, and probably has a very risky one coming up next year. If I think about it am just filled with terror at the possible outcome, so am choosing to stick my head in the sand and ignore it as much as I can. Thank god your mum made it through.
Am sending you a big hug, you seem to be doing so well and staying so strong... x

Right, really must go now and start tackling stuff. In case I don't get chance to post while at mum and dad's then hope you all have a lovely Christmas (you too m20 if you're lurking) and I'll be back on when I get back next week.

Lots of love xxx

Happy Boxing Day everone

Hello!!!

Thanks Becky for your Boxing Day wishes - did everyone have a nice Christmas? Hope so!

Just a quicky from me as am off to lay table and start cooking for this evening - just wanted to wish you all a very Happy New Year and a wonderful 2010!

Enjoy your evenings whatever you're doing!

Lots of love to you all xxx

Hi all, hope you all had a good christmas. We had lots of fun here although snow and bad weather has meant we have been cooped up a lot more than usual
Ds very happy with santa's visit and has had lots of fun building up all the lego creations. Can hardly see my floor for lego city

Went to pantomime yesterday with ds and dm - Robinson Crusoe. Was very very funny for kids and adults

Ds has decided he is staying up to see in New Year tinight so he is currently getting a late bath then plonked into jammies and we will see how long he really stays awake for

Hope you all have a good night - Happy New Year to come!

love poppy xxx

Hello everyone!

Happy New Year!
Have a great 2010 and may all of us get what we want in life and success in evrything we do..
Becky, hope u n dh n kids are doing well..baby is 6-7weeks already right? time past by so fast and now its 2010.

MBM and Poppy, hope you doing fine too. Hows your kids doing? Hope all are well.

Am relieved that mom is doing fine..excpt for a little set back. The surgry cut is still bleeding due to the heart meds making it unabl to clot but hopfully we make it for our vacation which is a day away.
Baby Ibraheem is doing well..i still cant believe hes mine and hes 5mths and 6days today..
btw pls tell m im not broody cos' hes still small and if im pregnant or wanna be pregnant again, it will be such a short gap between him n next.
also why i think like this is because a friend of mine who is in the UAE gave birth few mths back and i just got to know yesterday. didnt even know she was pregnant and after i got to know abt it, i got this look..or rather evil-eyes..
am happy for her though..she got married like 3 yrs back n just completed her studies..
anywayz have a fun time everybody and may MBM n Poppy n the rest of MN ttc get your dear babies soon.

luv,
nandos

Hi Nandos

Toby is seven weeks tomorrow! He's doing very well, sleeping better at night (although I wake at every cry throughout the night but DH sleeps through it all!). I can't believe that Ibraheem is 5 months already! And it is totally normal to feel broody already. I was broody after DS2 almost straight away...

Poppy did your DS make it to midnight? I didn't even stay up last night. I went to bed at 10.30pm! I woke briefly at midnight to hear the distant fireworks, which was quite nice, but there was no way I was staying up until midnight.

I hope that 2010 brings much to you all - we'll still keep supporting each other as always. I need your support to help me cope with three My mum keeps saying 'you're doing a great job' so why do I cry every day at how hard it is? Better go dish up DS1 and DS2's tea.

Becky I read your last post but didn't manage to reply at the time. Of course you have our support, although I'll bet that you are doing a fantastic job, despite what you may think.
The first 6-8 weeks are by far the hardest, and don't forget that you're suffering from lack of sleep and your body is still getting over the birth and being pregnant. Don't be too hard on yourself, and listen to your mum - she sounds like a very wise lady!!!
Pretty soon things will start to calm down, and you'll start feeling better about things I'm sure Please come on here as often as you can to have a rant etc - we shall be here willing you on. Have a big hug from me - I think you're brill

Poppy You sounded like you've been having a lovely time over Christmas, as has your ds! It's great getting to spoil them rotten isn't it! How long did he manage to stay awake for on NYE? My ds went to bed a bit late as he ate dinner with us, and then was so tired and over-excited that he didn't go to sleep for ages! Was lovely getting warm sleepy cuddles with him practically all the way up to midnight.

Nandos Hope you managed to get away on holiday, and that you're having a lovely time as I write Hope your mum is holding up okay, you must be very worried about her.
Is completely normal to be feeling broody so soon after having Ibraheem - would be great if our thread saw another BFP, although might be quite a handful for you with two tiny ones!

M2O Have been thinking about you lots in case you're still lurking x

DS is off into hospital tomorrow to have grommets put in his ears - we're leaving the house at 6am to drive through the snow to try to get there on time. Am dreading it - like any other mother I would protect him with my life, but there I am offering him up to be put to sleep and have things shoved in his ears. I'm terrified tbh. Wish they could do it to me instead
Anyway, I might not be around for the next few days depending on how he is.

Love to you all xxx