***Let's support each other again - Part 2***

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Well ladies, I thought I'd better start us a new thread

May it bring us all good luck, see us through happier times, and at least two new bundles of joy

xxx

Boo! Not much to report here really - been having a rather bad time - mild PND would you believe it. Suffering from lack of sleep (not because of Toby ironically). Trying to get better without resort to medication - tried to take anti-depressants but made me feel really poorly. Gosh. I think I've got this partly because I wanted Toby so, so, so badly and the shock of what it is like with a new baby has really hit me badly - it's all very surreal. Anyway, better go, busy time of day Hope you are all well.

hello everyone

oh becky, hope the depression goes away soon..i never had it with baby but had severe deppression during early marriage days. i find it easier after talking 2 friends but took a long time for me to recover.

MBM, hows your DS? whts grommets?

Poppy, how r u doing? hope all is well.

We got back from malaysia last wk and most of us got sun tan marks. didnt expect it to be so hot but we enjoyed it
i dont know how many water slides i went but wished there was a lift or something to go up the slide rather than stairs which are like 3-5 storey high..
unfortunately dh had to go bk to UK the same night we reach home, now hes in Africa.

btw.. a bit of news from me, not good but not bad either.. maybe mix of both.
i am pregnant did a test yesterday night, played PS3 alone then looked at it and theres 2 thick lines?
my AF isnt due yet. tmr is the date and had stopped chess at CD13 so ..WHAT THE..?
can HCG be from past pregnancy? i feel a bit sad for DS hes still a small baby to me.. and to most of u i shoud think.

anyway did test cos' feeling warm,sleepy n had 2 pee all the time so it was a bit not normal. needed to clear my thoughs of 'wht if im diabetic' so tested it.
need to go now s DS v fidgety today,will chat soon nxt time..
take care

Nandos - pregnant??? Wow! That is amazing!!!!

I'm doing ok by the way, never had any sort of depression before (perhaps a little tiny bit PND with DS1) so really unsure of what is going on and why I feel anxious, sleep a big issue for me. I've been given sleeping pills but not happy about them. I've been taking them as mum and HV insisted as I was utterly exhausted a week ago. Hope to stop taking them soon although HV thinks I need to carry on. DH is being wonderful though - he's a rock.

helloo..
very quiet lately,
hope everyone's ok..
btw got my laptop today..yayy
now can type in peace n harmony..and faster as well, otherwise even checking mail is a big problem.
am still in shock re preg..havent told parents/friends yet except online friends n MN friends n DH.
might go back to UK soon, maybe by next mth for a couple of mths..then come back here...although told DH its a waste of time n money travelling to n fro with a 5mth old baby, he just kept quiet..
anywayz got to go have lunch now..
take care all

Can't believe I'm writing this but just came on to tell you I won't be around for a little while - my poor mum died yesterday and I'm back in the UK with dad and brother.

Hope you're all okay x

omg mbm I am so very very sorry to hear that. That must have been a great shock for you. Please take care of yourself. I will be thinking of you. Love poppy (((hug))) xx

MBM
im so sorry to hear that..
Condolences to you and your family ..
i hope you and family are doing ok in UK right now.
i dont know wht to type at the moment, am too lost for words
hope to chat with you again once you are feeling calmer over the loss of your dearest mom.

take care

mbm huge, such sad news, huge hug from me (((hug))) xxx I'll be thinking of you.

Ladies, just a very quick one from me - in amongst all this grief I found out yesterday that I'm pregnant. Have got a whole host of emotions flying round, and feel like I am going crazy. Just cannot cope with all this.

Thanks for your lovely messages, and yours too m2o. It's just been such an unbelievable week

mbm I don't know what to say. Life has this funny way of throwing things our way, positive and negative, at the same time. No wonder you feel all over the place, you are in my thoughts right now. Take big care of yourself and give yourself time xxxx

MBM, i agree with what Becky just said..
its weird how life has to offer us..sometimes bad things happen but good things come after that.
take care of yourself k..

hugss

Have left a message for you on FB MBM.

to everyone!!

xxxxxx

MBM,
hope you are ok..
thinking of you..

nandos

Hi mbm sorry i've not been on this week. Totally agree with becky about good things coming into our lives at times when we are almost unable to cope with them. I am thinking about you all and hope you are coping at this difficult time. Take care of yourself.

Love poppy xx

Hi all,

Thanks for your lovely messages of support - am feeling a bit stronger now, but totally numb with regard to my mum. We're just taking it one day at a time at the moment - everything we do is difficult

Have been feeling like I have a very heavy tummy, and it's sticking out a bit, so can't help but feel a little excited. Have got first appointment on Wednesday when I should be just six weeks. They said they want to see me for scans and blood tests every week so they can stay on top of what's going on. Not sure whether we'll be able to see anything at 6 weeks though.

How are you all? Nandos I forgot to say congratulations on your pregnancy - you must've been very surprised! Will be a lovely age gap when they're older though, and at least we can go through it together

Becky How are you doing? I hope you're okay? Are you taking anything for the PND? At least you know that's what it is, and hopefully you're getting the support you need.

Poppy How are you and ds? Hope all is well with you...

Must dash as ds is wrapping the phone cord round himself as I type and will need rescuing me thinks

Hi all

mbm how are you doing? How was your appointment? Thinking of you xx

We're all fine here. I'm not taking anything because I'm not sure I have proper PND but the insomnia was making me feel depressed. Trying hard to redress it with hypnotherapy and also trying a homeopathic remedy. Apparently postnatal insomnia is quite common.

Toby is nearly 12 weeks now and a lovely smiley little boy. He's just developed eczema though so has been suffering at night.

Hope the rest of you are ok

Nandos how are you doing?

Poppy hope you are ok too and m2o if you are lurking.

Hello all..
hi Becky, hows little Toby doing?
N MBM n Poppy hope u two r ok.

Am a little tired here atm..DH came back a week ago, everyone having a major crisis with dad cos' hes not being a proper dad atm. n the weird thing is he thinks we are enemies of him..
and mom just came back from hosp again after being admitted for a wk due to blood in bladder..
so basically everyone here is stressful except baby.
well rant over..
btw may/maybe not going to UK this mth..if not going, i'll get my 1st scan here itself. according to ov date, am 8wks today..but not so sure abt dd.

anywayz..gotta go n sleep now.
goodnite all..

Just a quick one from me to say hi Am feeling soooo sick that I have to stay lying down the whole time.

Had scan today, and so far so good - strong heartbeat and good size. We shall see what happens.

Really hope you're all okay - must go as think I might need to grab my sick bowl

Love to all xxx

Oh mbm I am soooo happy for you and your little bean and I feel for you feeling so poorly. I remember you do suffer quite badly from sickness - hang on in there. I know it's rotten. How many weeks are you?

Nandos hope you are feeling ok too.

Hope everyone is ok.

Helloo..
very quiet lately..
just reached london abt a wk back and now just got settled properly.
Hope Becky,MBM and Poppy are doing fine.
Btw had an early scan 2 days back and got a shock of my life!
TWINS!!
How on earth am I gonna cope with 3 under 1 and a 1/2yrs old??
i am going nuts at the moment..DH is delighted though. havent told mom yet, she might be here next mth so will tell her the news soon.
morning sickness come n go but luckily (touch wood just in case) not as bad as the 1st one.
anywayz would like to get in touch with all of you on FB cos' am not on MN too often at the moment..
take care all

Hello!

I had a text message from MBM she's in hospital (or was when she sent the message) as she's so sick with morning sickness at the mo. Poor, poor thing.

Nandos TWINS!!!!! You are kidding me! No way! Wow!!!!! That's amazing. And so lucky you not having such bad sickness as it is usually worse with twins. You must be in a state of shock!

You'll cope. It'll be hard but you'll cope and think how lovely it'll be. My best friend has twin sisters two years younger than her. They all got on really well growing up.

Are you on facebook? If so please be friends!

Just a quick one from me as just come out of hospital - starting to feel sick again already

Nandos Oh wow! Twins!!!! Goodness me! You WILL cope, although it's going to be very tough, but you will get through it. Defo get on FB!

Becky Thanks for updating and for your text last week - how are you doing?

Poppy How are you? Hope all is well...

Am now 10+3 and scan last week was fab so am cautiously optomistic. Must go as need to sit down but will try to come back on soon. Love to all x

Hey girls

poor you MBM, morning sickness really sucks isnt it? Have you got anything to reduce it?

Mine is now getting more regular once every morning and I have a feeling that its going to get worse as time past.
Theres just nothing for me to ELIMINATE it at the moment and i just feel like asking doc/gp to give me anti-vomit pills for the next 6mths
oh btw didnt heard from Poppy for a long time..hope you are well wherever you are..
Oh btw my email for FB is [email protected]

Got to go now as not feeling well now
take care all

Hi all sorry not been on for ages but have had a lot of bad things happening just now and just feel so drained by it all. The very worst thing was my lovely friend died last sunday and we had her funeral on sat just past. It was unbearably sad. Church packed to capacity as she was so well known and well thought of. The most bizzare thing happened though last monday with regards to it. Was having a dream where I was getting a chap to park cars for me outside a building when a phone inside the building began to ring. I went in and answered it and a voice said "hello is that poppy?" yes says me, "well I'm sorry" (says voice) "but I have really bad news for you, X is dying". I say "pardon" then voice repeats this. I wake up in the horrors and realise it is 7am in the morning. Then dh says to me that out phone was ringing downstairs. He trots off to answer it and comes back up to tell me it was X's dh on phone telling us she had passed away late the previous night. I was v shocked cos it felt like an awful kind of premonition. Anyway enough rambling.

nandos twins!!! omg. you will cope and it will be wonderful just hard for the first while - but worth it

mbm I am delighted for you. It must be a real relief having such a positive scan. I hope your sickness clears up soon and you are finally allowed to just enjoy being pg. Good luck.

becky hi hows Toby doing?

My friend is about to become a granny agin any day soon. V exciting. It is a wee girl as they have had a very cool 4d scan done and it was amazing to see baby's features. V like her brother.

Anyway take care lv poppy xxx

Hello all, Poppy big, big hug to you for what you've been through, how so terribly sad. That is fascinating about your dream: that just shows how close you were to your friend. I believe strongly in premonitions like that.

mbm how are you doing? Thinking of you.

Toby is doing ok. He's suffering badly with eczema and we've had a few run-ins with our GP who seems unwilling to find the cause 'it could be anything' were her words. Sigh. We're waiting for a referral letter from dermatology and hopefully after that things will start to move quickly. I hate to see him suffering so much, he itches so much.