***Let's support each other again - Part 2***

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Well ladies, I thought I'd better start us a new thread

May it bring us all good luck, see us through happier times, and at least two new bundles of joy

xxx

How is everyone? MBM how are things?? I hope you are ok. You too Nandos with your twins.

Everyone is very quiet.

We've had a bad week. We've had chicken pox! Toby was absolutely covered head to foot it was horrible (see my piccies on my profile). He's getting better now but I've been an anxiety monster and not sleeping well again oh hell. If I do have PND it is horrible. I keep thinking I am much better and then a crisis happens and I am down in the depths again.

V quick as v sick, but just wanted to say hi and that I haven't disappeared off the face of the earth.

Poppy So sorry about your friend, how devastating. Sending you a big hug.

How are you both Becky and Nandos? Hope you're okay...

I had my 12 week scan yesterday, and the baby was moving around loads. The nuchal measurement was just above the normal range (was 3.1) so the dr's have us quite worried that something is wrong. have to go back for a scan at 16 weeks so will know more then.

Really must go and lie back down... Love to all xxx

Sorry Ive not been on just been v busy with loads of RL stuff.

becky poor Toby! Hope he's feeling much better soon. Chickenpox is vile.

MBM so glad to hear your scan went well, it must have been lovely and reassuring to see your baby moving around.Try not to worry about anything else at the moment it's prob nothing and all it does is increase any anxiety you already have and you don't need that when you are already feeling poorly. Take care and big hugs.

nandos hope you are ok and have got over the shock of twins!

My dad's cousin's daughter who I had psychic dream of pg last year has finally had her baby - a wee girl called Daisy. They are all sooo happy.

My friend's daughter also had her baby daughter 2 weeks ago and she was 10lb 4 and she had a natural delivery and no stiches (ouch). She is absolutely beautiful, got a wee cuddle at weekend.

Was at (nice) cousin's hen night in Glasgow at weekend and stayed over. V good night. Only 2 weeks to wedding and I still have no outfit! Panicking like mad! Hopefully going shopping at weekend and will see something nice. Have tried loads on but not seen anything that suits yet! AGHHH

Must go no as it is parents night tonight.

Love poppy x

Hi everyone,

mbm try not to worry too much about the nuchal measurement. I know it is easy to say. Pregnancy is one big anxiety. Sorry you are still feeling so sick. It must feel like the sickness is going on for ever.

Poppy good to hear from you and I hope parents' evening went well. We have that joy this afternoon!

I have the health visitor due any minute so I have tidied the house (why do these people make me so nervous?). The last time she saw me I was a bit of a mess, sleep deprived, anxious and all over the place. I am so much better now. Still feel nervous though.

Poppy I hope you can find a nice outfit at the weekend.

Toby is much better but his eczema has flared up again so he's actually more miserable than he was last week, ironically. We all have a family cold too!

Helloo..

sorry for not being here for soo long..have been very busy with baby and being sick at the same time so didnt come online that much oh btw twins are abt 14+3 today and both looking well

MBM hope u dont get so worried over the nuchal scan and have a really good rest this weekend. it really helps eating a little but frequently to overcome the morning sickness.

Poppy nice to see u here after a loong time hope u get that dress soon! me still not over with the twins news. am worried sick abt wht will happen during delivery..am too scared of needles and surgery..also dont wanna go thru hellish natural birth as well.
is there any miracle to get the babies out without pain? lol

Becky hows Toby? hope hes not scratching too much. i have very dry skin too esp during winter and trust me u wouldnt wanna see my legs lol looks like someone who got scratched by a zombie ..all claw marks

Quicky from me - thanks for your messages ladies... Have only scanned through as still feeling horrific, but wanted to update you.
Got our combined results back today and our risk for something being wrong is 1 in 30 which is really not good. Am having CVS tomorrow so will let you know how it goes.

xxx

mbm you are in my thoughts, please send us an update when you can

Bad news - the baby has severe chromosomal abnormalities and will not survive. Can't believe this is happening.
Have to go in on Tuesday to be induced because apparently the baby is too big now for me to have a d&c. They said I can have an epidural if needs be, but I think it's going to probably be the most traumatic thing I have ever done.

Love to all, have to go and sob my heart out x

Oh MBM I honestly do not know what to say except that I am so deeply sorry that this has happened to you after all you have just been through.

I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers now and next week. ((((Hugs)))))

Love Poppy xx

I'm so sorry chick- have been thinking of you and praying and praying that everythin will be ok and its all just a horrible mistake. How awful for you, Im just so very very sorry.

If you need to talk to someone impartial who will just lend an ear, you know where I am. xxx

Love to all

xxxxx

(mummy2olivia)

MBM am so sorry to hear the sad news..
i will pray for you that everything will be alright. pls take care of yourself and u need plenty of rest so dont think too much abt it dear..

we are all here if u need support.

hugss,
nandos

mbm you poor, poor thing I am so, so utterly sorry and in tears for you. I wish I could give you a proper hug right now. I am so gutted for you. I will be thinking of you all day tomorrow xx

Love to all from me, Becky xxxxx

MBM hope you are ok...
thinking of you

luv,
nandos

Hi everyone, mbm been thinking about you, really hope you are ok. I wish I could do something to take the pain away Becky xx

Hi all

MBM also been thinking about you and wondering how you are coping with things. Take care of yourself.

Love poppy xx

So sorry not been on here recently, how are you all?

Thanks so much for your messages and for your lovely text Becky It realy helped to know you were thinking of us.

We are doing okay at the moment but it has been very tough. The actual act of giving birth was very painful (had epidural in end coz couldn't cope) and the labour ended up being 36 hours long. I did get to spend some time with our tiny boy, and I'm so glad I did. DH couldn't face it, but the lovely midwife managed to do his footprints which we are not strong enough to look at yet, but at least we have them.
I had a nightmare afterwards - came out of hospital on the Thursday evening, only to go back in with pain and high temp on the Monday. Turned out I had retained placenta so was in on IV antibiotics and then had operation on Thursday. Came out on Saturday evening feeling incredibly weak as have lost so much blood. The did give me two units of iron while I was in so am starting to feel a wee bit stronger but still very shaky.

Anyway, apart from having apparently almost lost it in hospital, I am feeling much stronger mentally. DH, DS and I are going to try to do some nice things when I'm feeling a bit stronger, so that's something to look forward to

Really hope all is well with you all? Will come back on later, but am going back to bed for a bit now... Lots of love xxx

Hi mbm it is so good to hear from you as you have been in my thoughts and prayers all the time.

I'm so so sorry about what you have had to go through and the subsequent trauma of needing further op and more treatment. You must all be absolutely wiped out.

I think it is lovely that you got to spend some time with your baby and in the future having the footprints as a memory will be a precious memory of his little life because no matter how short that life was, he was a much wanted and longed for baby and it is good to have something concrete to remember his time with you by.

Sorry if this is slightly rambling.

I am glad to hear you are a bit better as you have really been dealt some tough blows over the past few months and it often just feels like we are being kicked while we are down.

I will continue to pray for you all. Take good care of yourselves and when you are ready it will be lovely for you to treat yourself to something nice with your dh and ds.

Love poppy xx

Hi Poppy Thanks so much, you are lovely. You weren't rambling at all.
Having said yesterday that I'm coping I don't really think I am. In fact everything seems to be hitting all at once and I don't know how to deal with it
Am hardly sleeping and have lost appetite which is not good as I need to eat to build myself up. Am feeling like a zombie tbh.
Thanks so much for thinking of us in your prayers. I too am thinking of you, you haven't had an easy year either Am sending you a big hug and hope to hear from you again soon.
Lots of love xxx

Hi MBM
nice to see u here again..am so sorry to hear the traumatic experience
agrees with Becky re spending some time with your baby..but im sure it must be very sad for you..
we will be thinking of you always and praying that you and your family are ok. you are a very strong lady compared to me. also do eat well dear and take lots of rest ..

atm am not feeling too well on mon had severe stomach pain and had to call ambulance to take me to hosp early morn cos' couldnt get baby ready and needed my husband to go with me in case anything bad happen that day. cause of pain not known but they suspect it might be cysts or fibroids(dont know wht it is) till i get my 2nd dating scan in a couple of weeks. but thank god everything is alright with the babies. am feeling a bit better today after seeing your msgs MBM hope you keep in contact soon..

take care

mbm oh big hugs. I am so glad you got to spend some time with your precious little boy - you must treasure that moment. I was thinking of you all that day and the next few days hoping you were ok. You are so strong and have been through so much this year so far and come out the other end unbroken. I am pleased you are taking things easy and taking lots of care of yourself and your little family xxxx big hugs to all of you from us.

Nandos a friend of mine had fibriods when she was pregnant too. I don't think it is uncommon. They will prbably keep scanning you to check and make sure the babies are ok.

mbm I've just re-read what I wrote and I just wanted to add that you probably do feel like you are broken now despite what I wrote and not coping but remember your hormones are all over the place at the moment and will be for a little while and that won't be helping with the sleep and your appetite as well as the grieving making your head feel all over the place right now. Take good care of yourself xx I wish I could do something to take the pain away.

hello- sorry I havent posted in such a long time and sorry I have returned to post after such a sad event

Just wanted to let you all know that I often lurk and see you are all ok- am just not very good at typing out a post

All ok here, plodding along- DD is 7 today so another year to add to that growing age gap but I dont think we mind too much anymore

love to all but a special hug for MBM....thinking of you sweets xxxxxxxxxxx

Hello everyone, I hope you are all ok. Thinking of you still mbm.

Not much news from me. I have started back at work now but still struggling with anxiety and sleep on and off. Life is hectic.

How is everyone? mbm I've been thinking about you - how are you doing? I'm still struggling with sleep and anxiety on and off. Hey ho.

Hi becky sorry to hear you are still having probs re sleep/anxiety, thats horrible as it usually ends up a vicious circle. Hopefully things will settle down for you soon. It must be v hard for you having to work now as well! Hope all your boys are well

mbm hope you are coping with things. Have been thinking about you and wondering if you are alright.

nandos how was your scan? Hope your stomach probs have settled.

littletortie hope your dd had a lovely birthday
My ds will be 8 in august and I have long since gave up worrying about age gaps we are far to far along the road for that! Would still like to give him a sibling though but odds are defo stacked aginst us now as I will be 38 this yr and after many yrs of ttc think we may be coming to the end of the road just don't know if I have the energy for it anymore.

We have not had a good wk here. Ds has been having recurrent ear infections for the last year with some of them being really bad. He had one 2 wks ago and though it seemed to clear up he was still twitching etc. as if he was still having pains but he said he wasn't anyway on monday I collected him from school and he was in agony with pain in his stomach near appendix area. To cut a long story short we went to docs and were then referred to sick kids a&e in edin and after being examined having blood taken etc he was admitted for the night. It was just a nightmare as he was terrified. Poor dh had to do round trips to the house to get overnight stuff for me and ds. After a very uncomfortable night ds seemed much better and by lunchtime tues he got discharged. Apparantly not appendicitis - thank gd but a viral infec which inflamed glands in his stomach and prob followed on from ear infec!

After we came home he seemed ok then at night he was complaining of pain again so I headed down to our local tesco to get more calpol. I was rushing round with my basket and it was busy with shelf stackers and at one point I was stuck between huge cage and a wee woman browsing fish. I very politely took her by the arm and asked her to excuse me so I could get past. "no problem" said she. I thought to myself I know that voice so looked round to discover I had just manhandled "subo" aka susan boyle. Oops. But she looks lvly in real life

Anyway take care

lv poppy xx