TTC for those taking longer than average ✨

[YaWeeFurryBastard]

I just wanted to start a thread for those who’ve been trying for a little while (or a long while) and it doesn’t seem to be happening. It’s great seeing all the positives on the TTC threads but I’m starting to find it a little disheartening as it seems to be happening quickly for almost everyone but me! Statistics seem to vary but suggest between 60-70% of couples get pregnant within three months. We’ll be heading into cycle 5 shortly TTC our first, both in our early 30s.

Is anyone else in a similar situation?

On day 4 of AF and it just horrendous it's so heavy I keep leaking through everything 🙈 have a migraine and a cold to boot 😂 happy Saturday! 😂

@Daniki My period was also really heavy this month and I was still bleeding red blood yesterday on cd6 when normally it’s should be done by then.

I decided to start testing again this cycle and I've had a huge surge this morning. Very surprising as I'm on CD8, could I be about to ovulate ?

Mine lasts nearly 10 days now it's very annoying 😩

@Daniki @emmatcc1 that sounds excessively long. Could it be a chemical ?

@Favofit I didn’t test so I have no idea but could be as I started cramping in the evening and then started bleeding, with normal af I get it in the morning and then start cramping couple hours later. Was also leaking through tampons for a day and lots of clots.

I think it definitely sounds like a chemical, so sorry. Hopefully you stop bleeding soon and can start tracking on the next cycle ❤️

I do actually think I had a chemical this month, I have been using the trigger shot and altho it's usually gone by around 10 days after I was getting squinters up until 14/15 days after. In saying that i always have long periods, with one really heavy day anyway 🥴

TW- pregnancy please feel free to skip this post

I just read this entire thread and it resonated with me so much because I too was in the depths of what I can only describe as despair TTC. Months and months of endless disappointment, tracking my ovulation and temping- but I never had a confirmed ovulation. I never got the spike in temperature and my cycles just seemed so bizarre and irregular. Some months the cycle would be 28 days, others 40 days and I don’t have any underlying conditions as far as I’m aware that would have caused that.

It was so all consuming and I just dreaded my period coming every single month, dreaded the sex when it was purely for TTC and killing our entire intimacy. I just started spiralling and finding it so depressing seeing everyone around me get these positive tests after a month or two of trying. I hated being asked what our plans were for children and just felt it was never going to happen for us.

I ended up speaking to my dr who referred me for bloods to confirm ovulation- and these didn’t! I had bloods on days 1-7 of my cycle and then day 21,25 and 28 and it failed to show I was ovulating. To be quite honest, I convinced myself I was infertile. There was something wrong.

We then went away for a month and I thought sod this, I can’t keep going with the temping and ovulation sticks- so I stopped. After the trip, pregnancy test was negative- but 5 days later, still no period. I didn’t think anything of it because standard irregular cycles. However, I am actually now 9 months pregnant and due next weekend.

I really don’t mean this in a braggy way at all- I just wanted to hopefully give a positive spin that after months and months of all the odds seeming to stack against you and you losing all hope- if does randomly happen. My best friend also conceived on her 48th month of TTC- the day before she started her IVF journey. After endless negative tests, one day you’ll hopefully get your positive too- just out of the blue when you feel it could never happen.

It’s the worst club to be a part of- but don’t lose all hope. Just keep going and I pray that all of you get there in the end. I really really do understand just how damn right crap it is getting there though. I’m sending you all so much positive vibes and I really hope you all get your wishes.

I've just bought the Zita West Omega 3 suppliments for fertility as image. Has anyone used these and if so would you recommend? Thanks

@LondonGirl1992 great to hear some success stories! It really does make you feel like just giving up with it taking so long to happen.

Congratulations and wishing you all the best for your soon to be new arrival 🥰

Hope everyone is doing well and has a great week ahead!
@Catillac ive never used these but would love to hear how you get on with them!

Im now either 8 or 9 dpo. No symptoms shock 😂
usually I have sore boobs at this point in my cycle.
in a moment of madness I just ordered a box of tests from Amazon despite knowing how bad negative tests make me feel!!!

@Shortcake06 im about 9/10 dpo now aswell no symptoms what so ever but then again i have a cold right now and feel rough af 😅 still holding off testing for a few more days as just dont wanna see another BFN.

@RRAEE snap!!!
Ugh sorry you have the cold that is miserable!
I have seen people on this site saying that they had a cold the month they got their positive.
My period is due on Wednesday or Thursday as I have a shorter luteal phase. I kind of just want to know either way now even if it is a BFN. I’m the same though I got so fed up of seeing negative tests I stopped it x

CD1 for me again, onto cycle 12 😖.

I had my hormones tested on Day 21/7dpo last cycle and my progesterone was low. I know I'm 100% ovulating as I get pain which is the release of fluid from the follicle (that's what my gynae told me anyway).I made a separate post about it. I'm confused as well as this has been my longest luteal phase in a long time (12 days). It's usually 10-11.
I'm not even sure if it's worth calling my gp about it judging by some of the posts on here or whether I should try and see someone privately to prescribe progesterone/ wait til my next gynae appt/ do nothing.
My cycles were 10-12 days when I conceived my daughter so don't think it's that much of an issue but I don't know if I had low progesterone then.

I've got acupuncture starting in a couple of weeks so I might be lucky enough for that to make a difference.

@Shortcake06 if my DP hadnt given me id be more optimistic 😅 felt like death for a few days now and exhausted but thats probs from being ill. Im hoping its a good sign but dont want to test yet, I'm on the mend now at least.

My cycles are between 30-35 days so going to try wait a few more days if not till next monday But same i wanna know either way but it's still too soon to get a proper answer.

Hopefully you get your BFP by the end of this week 🤞🏻🤞🏻

@RRAEE i hope these are all good signs!! And I’m glad you are feeling better hopefully the cold is gone very soon! How are you today?

Im now 9/10 dpo. I have woken with tender boobs so im pretty sure im out and my period is on its way. It never gets any less gutting and its more worrying every month it doesn’t happen 😢

@Shortcake06 i hope so. 11dpo now and still no other symptoms so i think its gunna be another BFN this month.

I usually get sore boobs when in due on aswell so currently no sign of anything either way.

And same it's so worrying I'm starting to think it's never gunna happen. 😕

Hope you are doing okay ?

@Shortcake06 @RRAEE fingers crossed for you both but it’s so hard to be hopeful I know ☹️

@YaWeeFurryBastard thank you 💕

God I have the proper flu, been a long time since Ive been this sick! Thank god it's on shark week so hopefully won't affect our chances 😂

@Daniki its horrible isnt it 😅

@RRAEE omg it's awful! I just kept going between the chills and a fever all yesterday evening and kept waking up drenched through the night 😂😱 I was delirious at one stage, great fun parenting today 🥲

@Daniki mine was the same but the runny nose and cough is the worst. Hope you feel better soon 🙂

@RRAEE thanks! Yes iv an awful cough going on a few weeks and it's quite painful now to cough 🙈