Whose trying to conceive baby no2 this year?

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I have a 2 year old and looking to start TTC later year. I made great friends on here last time when trying to conceive in 2020 so thought I would start a thread for anyone who is trying to conceive whilst looking after another child (in my case a toddler ekkk)

@Bells3032 that's great news!

I didn't track ovulation or anything last time but I think it was within 3 months of trying so quite quickly.

I'm on the combined pill and need to come off it (not looking forward to that due to severe PMS and cramps:-( ). With us wanting to start trying end of the year.... How long do you think it takes for cycles to adjust? I should probably stop ASAP or say September?

I can't help but feel envious of you all saying how quickly you conceived before 😂 it really sucks struggling for years and that's why I came here for support. TTC is such a drag for some

Glad to hear things are improving @Bells3032! I have no clue what my husbands are like. We were only just about to get his tests when we conceived our first. Just because I waited the year before going for fertility help as recommended and our appointment was still months away when we finally got it booked.

Sorry to hear that @mumsince2021 it can take a long time to conceive. I did read some statistics on it when I was TTC number 1. Can't remember the exact figures but I think it was around 80% of 'healthy' couples should conceive naturally by 18 months or something. Might have changed by now but it definitely put it into perspective that it's not as easy as we were led to believe when we were teenagers

Hey I'd love to join.
TTC #2. My son is 18 months and was conceived via IVF after 18 months of trying.
I never really had periods or regular periods before so was difficult to actively try. I have PCOS. My periods returned around 13 months post partum and much to my surprise have been regular. Started tracking ovulation this month and got a positive yesterday on cycle day 16. Which confused me Cus my cycles are usually about 36-37 days long so ovulate later on in the cycle.
Anyway I'm rambling, my partner also has a varicocele causing low sperm count so not holding out much hope on conceiving naturally but all we can do is try. ❤️

Not actively trying but stopping the pill on Tue and seeing what happens, have a 6yr old and leaving this up to fate, i'm 38 so felt like it was now or never.

Hi I’m also trying to conceive baby number two this year. On the first cycle of trying 11dpo and still getting BFN’s so think I’m out this month. Think I have some unrealistic expectations of how quick I’ll get caught again as my little girl was kind of a surprise. I mean I kinda knew after it had happened that I could end up being pregnant but it was one time where we were clearly too into it if that makes sense 🤣 so we were incredibly lucky. Think I’m going to find it quite hard if it takes a while this time. I struggle with anxiety quite bad and always think the worst x

Hello may I join? I'm 39 and have a nearly 2 year old. Happy to see some other older mums on this thread, it's a bit scary thinking oh no how much time is left! I feel like we should have started trying last year but not sure I could have managed.

TTC cycle #2, I'm on day 27 and normally my cycle is 25 or 26 days. Feeling crampy and bloated. Have used two cheap boots tests past 2 days, both negative. Had a really stressful month so might just be late for other reasons! Trying not to feel too anxious about trying again, it took us about 9 months first time around and then we had a perfect baby so I'm staying positive if possible. There's always next month right?

Also, having one child already, I do feel less pressure (hysteria?? 😅) than I did first time around. I love being a mum and if it doesn't happen again I'm grateful for my one. But I have a great sibling and would like two for that reason.

Why does everyone else on this thread want a second? Curious to hear your lovely reasons.

@WolfMother326 very similar to your reasons to be honest. I'd be ok with just one. But i am super close to my sister and would love for my daughter to have a sibling to love. I think it's the greatest gift. I'd be thrilled for another one but if it doesn't happen it doesn't happen

@WolfMother326 I want my daughter to have a sibling as I love having siblings, however if it doesn't happen I am ok with it. I wasn't too keen on newborn stage. I felt so isolated and nap maths just hurt my head. My sense of being was also affected on maternity leave and I felt better in myself once I returned to work.
My cycles used to be 28 days pre child and now sit around 34 days 😭

@WolfMother326 Yeah I feel like this, would love another to give my son a sibling. I am really close to my brother so would love for him to have someone growing up etc. I know they won't necessarily get on but we can hope haha. I'm also ridiculously broody and just feel like I want a second. But so grateful for my son and given our fertility problems I didn't even think we'd be lucky enough for one child. If it doesn't happen within a couple of years we may go down the IVF route, maybe not though (mainly expense).
Partner is definitely happy with one child and says it will be financially easier (it will), but he's also not against a second and happy to try for another. Just trying not to put pressure on it really. Like if we don't feel like DTD then we won't. It can get into a bit of a chore thing and put a strain on the relationship and don't want it to be like that.

@WolfMother326 I also am keen for my little girl to have a sibling. She does have 3 cousins within 13 months of her age (one is just a fortnight younger) so hopefully, if we aren't lucky enough to have a second, she certainly won't grow up lonely.
I'm so close to both of my sister's and I can't imagine not having them at all!
What will be will be I guess.
I quite enjoyed maternity leave- was definitely ready to return to work though! I feel we've had an easy first 18 months with our little girl- no colic, always a good sleeper etc. I know you don't get two the same so bracing myself for a whirlwind second time round! 😬
For all I do want to give her a sibling I did struggle to feel ready to try for the second at first. Our first is such a happy, secure little thing and we are such a tight unit of 3 that I was really worried I'd upset things by introducing a second into the mix.
And, as silly as it sounds, what if I don't like them as much?!
Once I'd decided I was ready though I was reeeallly ready and just want that BFP ASAP 🤞🤞 Xx

Hi 👋🏼 joining this thread as TTC #2 (hopefully) this week as I am due to ovulate in the next few days. It feels really intense this time, I'm not sure if it's because I'm getting older (37) or because my DC is 3.5 and I am conscious of a bigger age gap.

Good luck to everyone currently trying & congratulations to those who have had recent BFPs

Hello ladies,
Trying to conceive baby #2 since August last year. Our son is already 6. So, we're doing our first round of IVF as I can't wait any longer given I'm 40 already!
Baby dust to you all and wishing we all have a little one in our arms very soon 💕🙏

I have always wanted two children. I did want a boy and a girl just so I could experience bringing up one of each but not too sure now. I still haven't got any signs of pregnancy or AF so no idea what my cycle is doing this month! I am trying to loose weight so maybe that is affecting it.

Hi to everyone new! And a big shout out to all the older mums! 👋It's so nice to have company on this journey.

I feel like ttc a second is odd territory. We're so lucky for the DC we already have but somehow that doesn't make ttc any easier! I'm on cycle 1 and haven't even ovulated yet (hopefully will this weekend) but I'm still feeling a bit pessimistic. 😳

We're going for no.2 because we have space in our hearts for another. It's easy for us to imagine. Also because we don't want our DD to be alone in the world when we're gone. She has cousins (boys age 2 and 6) and we're emotionally close, but practically they're growing up in another part of the country so there isn't that frequent contact. I love having a sibling, but my DP is an only and is fine with that too. I guess there are no guarantees siblings will get along as adults, but you do what you can to foster that closeness when they're little.

If we don't manage it, I don't think we'll go the IVF route, partly for financial reasons but also perhaps because I'm not looking forward to ttc, pregnancy, or the newborn phase. I want another child, but not necessarily another baby. Does anyone else feel this way? As DD is only 1, it's still quite fresh for me, and though I had a textbook pregnancy, I found it hard post c-section (thanks mainly to bronchitis and a severe sprained wrist). DD also didn't sleep at all until 7 months, which almost killed us! 😂I sort of wish I could fast forward to 6 months postpartum!

@deliwoman1 100 percent with you on this one. We had a really hard time with our son, he was so colicky and screamed constantly for the first 6 months. He didn't sleep through till 13 months and now currently wakes at 5am and is still in our bed. Despite how hard it's been the good times have definitely outweighed it and he's so much easier now he's a bit older. Having tantrums to deal with isn't as stressful as a crying baby (to me anyway).
But yeah, we want another child and that's why I want them close in age so we can get the baby part out the way 😂 and get all the baby toys out the house !!

@deliwoman1 I feel you. We were v lucky with no 1, even though she arrived a bit early, she was healthy as a horse and never had any feeding or sleeping issues and slept through early. So worried the next one will be a nightmare!! also my anxiety was awful and always checking on her to check she was breathing etc but looking forward to being pregnant even less. I hated being pregnant. the exhaustion, the anxiety and anticipation. and now to do it again with a toddler euch

I know what you mean @deliwoman1. My 1st was so difficult and it really was harder than I ever imagined. I couldn't put her down for the first 6 months. She wouldn't go to anyone else etc so I can almost guarantee that the second can't be as bad as my first 🤞

I did say to someone that if I could skip to 18 months I'd have another one instantly. But I know I'd miss the good parts of having a newborn, even if it is the same this time round. I have been on the fence about having a second due to this, but I know deep down I'd love to have another and see how different their personalities become.

Morning everyone.
Can I join in?
We have a 2.5yr old DD and TTC our second. We had a couple of unsucessful cycles early in the year, then took a break and had a chemical at the weekend. Think we'll try again in Aug.

Baby dust to all 💕

@heybb Welcome, and I'm sorry to hear about your chemical. I hope you're okay. Good luck for August!

@swirly3468 Oh it's so nice to be reminded that the good times do outweigh the bad!

I'm trying to be positive and think of all the things I did love about being pregnant and caring for a newborn. This week I felt myself getting really low about the possible hard work to come, and then I realised how sad I'll be if I don't get to do any of it because I can't conceive. So I made a little list of baby things we'd need to replace/don't already have, and took a look at our old list of baby names. I felt a glimmer of excitement, which was nice. Back to being pragmatic and somewhat pessimistic now though! 😂

@Bells3032 Oh yeah, that's one of my fears too. DD gave us a run for our money with sleep, but I'm petrified of having a very high needs baby, and feeling ragged and guilty for all the time I wouldn't be able to give to DD. I truly envy the parents who don't worry about this stuff!

@PerfectPairOfPlums Seeing them develop their personalities is one big plus to hang on to! I'm finding it fascinating and really magical with DD.

Is anyone approaching testing day this cycle?

@deliwoman1 AF arrived this morning. Can't even remember what cycle day I was up to so here's to this cycle! Need some baby dust. When will you be testing?

@PerfectPairOfPlums Oh I’m sorry. Sending you lots and lots of luck for next cycle. My LH is on the rise and I’ve had some ovulation symptoms so I guess I’ll get my peak today or tomorrow. I plan to hold off testing this month until AF is due, or at least I plan to try! Now the TWW is almost here I’m already itching to know. 😂

Thank you @deliwoman1. Fingers crossed for you. I always say I am going to wait until AF is due but it is so hard!

How is everyone?