Anyone else trying to get pregnant and want to talk about it?

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I thought I'd start this thread as monkey and I have been talking about getting pregnant on another thread. Is it just the 2 of us? Anyway, this might be a good place to talk about it before (and if) we can add to the expecting in 2003 thread

My ds is just 5 so if I do get pregnant soon-ish he will be 6 when any half sibling is born (separated from his father). I feel ambivalent about being pregnant again, as I've said elsewhere. Some days I feel excited at the prospect, some days I think Oh No, no sleep, ever again...Anyway, I thought we could all (or both if it's just the 2 of us!) chat about ttc, pregnancy tests and feelings here. For me I have to say that starting trying was strange (sorry if this is too much info) as it's the first time I've ever had sex whilst deliberately trying to get pregnant, as ds was a happy mistake. Very odd...

Marina
I've got a brand new in the box Persona that I will never need/use. Are you going to the thing on 30 Nov? If so I will bring it for you so you don't have to go buy another.

That's so sweet cam - nothing to do with me, but sweet.

Thanks bayleaf & www but it's this w/e coming, so I'll probably do a test on Friday morning, or even Thursday. Going away for the w/e so that should take my mind off it whatever the news, but also means won't be able to go to docs til next week, again whatever the outcome. Should we have another 'live' test?

By the way, I CAN"T stand it. I had a really bad tummy ache last night & thought sadly that this was it (again) but no, still no period. If it's neg. after all this I will be so depressed.

Sorry you feel sad Lizzer. I know what you mean. Maybe you could use it as an opportunity to discuss with dp, then have annothe go when he's ready. This may at least have brought all that sort of stuff out into the open quicker? Sorry - just trying to see a psoitive side for you. Oh, definitely no pun intended.

Oh, Cam, that is incredibly kind of you . I did try and resuscitate mine in the airing cupboard for a couple of days, plus a set of new batteries, but it took quite a bash as well as a dunking and it seems to have had its chips. I went straight out and bought another, yesterday afternoon as it happens.
Thank you for your offer, Cam - with or without handheld fertility device (it is electronic Janh and as it analyses a stick you've weed on you'd think a quick swim in the stuff would not put it off ), I am looking forward to seeing you on the 30th.

Aw, Lizzer. Know the bittersweet feeling all too well.

Thanks for your support folks, I feel a bit of a fraud on this page with all you people who want a baby more than anything in the world (so am sending you all lots of luck for the future.) But having been through this little 'scare' its made me open my eyes/heart to the possibilty of me really wanting a child in the next year or two myself. I have always focussed on the fact that I wouldn't have another for 5-7 years as I said that stright after having dd, but now I'm admitting to myself that that is simply not the case. ARGH! I'm scaring myself now!
Mokey, that's a great idea about talking to dp and the wheels have been set in motion. I have to lay it all on the line to him and my biggest fear is that he'll say he can't handle that. HE's just recently put our idea to move in together in the new year on hold - and I'm gutted. But I have to be brave and tell him exactly how I'm feeling as its only fair. So scared of being on my own again, but if he's not ready then I can't force him... I'll talk to him tonight. Keep you posted, but warn you that I might need a big box of virtual tissues tomorrow morning!

Hi Scummymummy by the way - missed you too, and jodee, joe1, marina, cam, www, batters and everyone else who I've 'hung out' with in the past. See thread on mumsnet book launch for explanation...

Lizzer good luck with talking to dp. You're not a fraud on this thread - you thought you were pregnant and the thought has made you consider the future. Virtual tissues at the ready but let's hope you don't need them hey?

Lizzer, good luck with the chat tomorrow and keep us posted. WWW has summed it up!

I'm feeling kind of flat and disappointed today. I had a scan this morning and decided to abandon this month's attempt at IUI treatment. We won't be able to try next month because of dh's Christmas plans, so it means there's almost no chance I can get pregnant now before January. I'm trying to convince myself it's almost a relief because now I don't have to start the dreaded 2 week wait (poor Monkey, I do feel for you; 2 weeks is bad enough), and we can have a break until the new year (It's so tiring not being able to think about anything else while the treatment is going on). Still, if it had worked this month there'd have been almost exactly 2.5 years between my son and his brother or sister, and it would have been so nice. Oh well...

Jane 101, sorry you're feeling flat & deflated. I sympathise. You never really know what an impact it can have on your life till you hear things like - dh has to work away/got stuck in the traffic/ Christmas plans & the realisation it mean that for at least another month you've got no chance. No wonder you're feeling flat & miserable. It's v. frustrating.

I'm just about holding on, but as 'd' day - or should that be 'T', day approaches, I can't help but feel miserable and dejected too - all these weeks of frustration & I bet it's just going to scream negative back at me

I'll take another with me when I go away so I can reapeat it on Monday or so, just to make me feel even more miserable. Ho hum.

Jane101, I'm so sorry to hear your news, life must really feel 'on hold' for you. feel free to vent

Oh Jane - I really empathise with you - what made them decide not to go ahead this month? I'm not much of an expert at iui -( well I know what it is but that's about the sum total of my in depth knowledge of the procedures involved)I'm much better informed on ivf tho!
If I manage to get pregnant this month then I'll have the 2.5 years between them that you mention and I have to say I've kept obsessing about how nice that would be - from the little I know the statistics on iui aren't great so you did well to get there in 3 goes last time.
Keep moaning wiht the rest of us and concentrate on as much healthy eating etc etc as you can until January, it can't do any harm can it? ( Says she who came in from work and had a Caramac cos she was hungry...)

Jane101, Monkey, no good advice, just tons of empathy. Am wondering if I will ever ovulate again... and know just what that hovering feeling is like. Thank goodness for this site and this thread.

Well here's a quick update on me - was due yesterday or today - nothing so far except a little - I suppose you'd call it 'spotting' - enough for me to think "Oh well, that's it" but then nothing more...so....am going to buy a test this pm - keep fingers crossed. I'm very unhopeful actually - don't want to get my hopes up.

Was feeling a bit sick yesterday, but could have been pre-menstrual cramps.

Good luck musica - thinking of you

Thanks monkey - I'm trying not to think about it, but hoping...

How are you doing?

Just done the test - it's come out positive!!!! Yeah!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Haven't told dh yet - feeling a bit emotional! In fact, I'm shaking. Hope this is correct and I'm not getting unduly excited...but...

I'll let you know anything further.

Good luck everyone else who's trying.

Congratulations Musica, excellent news!!

I'm hoping to test later today or tomorrow, depending on when I can get out to buy a test. Still experiencing pg symptoms, over a week late, so fingers crossed.

Brilliant Musica! Congratulations!!

Oh, now that is great news! Well done.

Congratulations Musica! Wish you the best on your wonderful journey.

Musica, That's wonderful - I'm so pleased for you.

Bayleaf - the reason we're not going ahead is I've only got one fallopian tube and the egg follicle is developing on the wrong side this month. It's quite possible it could be picked up by the opposite tube, but it's less likely than if it was on the same side. We've decided as we only have a limited number of goes at IUI to only go ahead when it's on the same side, to maximise our chances each go.

Thanks for everyone's support. I'm feeling calmer about it today. It's nowhere near as bad as last time when I didn't know if I'd ever have any children. We know how lucky we are to have our son. And I haven't given up hope of being sucessful eventually.

I'm sooooo pleased for you musica. Well done.

Good luck with yours tomorrow bluestar

And to you Monkey!

Thanks everyone! Good luck bluestar and monkey - I've got everything crossed for you. Hope you get some good news. Jane I hope things work out for you too.

And everyone else obviously!