Anyone else trying to get pregnant and want to talk about it?

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I thought I'd start this thread as monkey and I have been talking about getting pregnant on another thread. Is it just the 2 of us? Anyway, this might be a good place to talk about it before (and if) we can add to the expecting in 2003 thread

My ds is just 5 so if I do get pregnant soon-ish he will be 6 when any half sibling is born (separated from his father). I feel ambivalent about being pregnant again, as I've said elsewhere. Some days I feel excited at the prospect, some days I think Oh No, no sleep, ever again...Anyway, I thought we could all (or both if it's just the 2 of us!) chat about ttc, pregnancy tests and feelings here. For me I have to say that starting trying was strange (sorry if this is too much info) as it's the first time I've ever had sex whilst deliberately trying to get pregnant, as ds was a happy mistake. Very odd...

anyway, www, wasn't going to happen if you weren't with dp on the relevant days. plenty of champagne over christmas...

...and a september baby!

glad to hear you are feeling a bit better about it all

Bozzy - that's interesting. I was told that you are MORE likely to fall pregnant if you only do it every other day, as the quality of sperm improves through 'lack of use' to use a euphamism! Amazing isn't it!

Chinchilla, it did also say that daily sex is not recommended when the male partner is subfertile (lower-than-average sperm count) , and are advised to stick with "every other day" to conserve sperm by refraining from ejaculating at all during the couple of days leading up to this period. To bore you even further...it says that sperm counts begin to decline if a man doesn't ejaculate for more than 7 days ....Interesting stuff!!! It is all getting a bit too clinical for my liking but sometimes it is hard not to be when you are desperate to conceive!

It was a friend who told me every other day, and she and her dh had been trying for over a year. So, I suppose she must have been told this 'every other day' method in case her dh's sperm was sub-fertile. Thank Bozza, interesting.

Anyone due to test soon? Last month I had an unusually long cycle so thought I was pregnant but was not. Have increased the ttc chances this month and could test now if I was on a shorter cycle but am trying to wait until next week before testing - thought about testing Christmas Eve as would be a lovely early present but then again if I was on a long cycle again, I'd have to wait until the new year. So frustrating...

I'm giving myself til Boxing Day and then testing... if I get that far, of course. Thought I had a spot of blood last night (day 22 of what is usually a regular 27/28-day cycle), which freaked me out a bit, but no signs of a period since then. Shouldn't really be getting my hopes up yet, after 11 months of ttc, but really did feel we'd timed things right this month. Also the first month in ages that I haven't had to take antibiotics and other "nasties" (for chronic urinary tract infections), so thought my body was in a better state than usual.
Anyway, off back to the UK for Christmas, and then heading for some winter sun - so plenty of chances to relax and try again next month... as long as dd feels like sleeping in her bed not ours (but that's another thread, I guess!).

Well I'm officially not pregnant again - but that's OK as altho we alwasy hope against hope each month I really know that with dh's sprem it ain't going to happen without icsi. I started sniffing this am to down regulate - it is just like Vicks nasal spray - one in each nostril morning a night so not a big deal - I had a few hot flushes last time as it sort of induces a temporary menopause but nothing more and they wre all in the night.( scarey thought!) They do this as they need to 'neutralise' /turn off your natural system before they start to stimulate you with drugs to produce lots of eggs instead of the normal one egg.
I now need to sniff twice a day for 3 weeks - then I ahve a scan and blood test to check it's worked before the stimulating stage starts.
Welcome to the world of ivf! I thought it might make those of you who have gone off sex but still need to do it horribly often decide that it's not so bad after all....!
And if the technical details don't do it for you then think of the money !

Oh why can I never be bothered to preview!!!
SPERM SPERM SPERM.
No sprem involved at all.

bayleaf, good luck! and Happy Christmas!
I'm just about to order my drugs (so to speak). My clinic has switched to a mail order system - its going to be a bit bizarre phoning up and giving my credit card details - but I suppose it beats queueing up at the hospital pharmacy with all the regular punters, writing out an ENORMOUS cheque and walking out with a large carrier bag full of vials, needles, syringes.....
I think I'll be about a month behind you.

bayleaf, LOL at SPERM SPERM SPERM!
Good luck....to everybody!

Yes I'm doing that tomorrow Elliot as well - at the moment I'm using up left overs from last time - had quite a lot of both Nafaralin and Menopure left so am hoping the drugs bill will be significantly smaller this time - I did feel very vulnerable walking around last time with £750 of drugs in a carrier bag!!
What clinic are you at? I'm at the Park in Nottingham - and scans at a satellite hospital - they do mail order too which I think I might use this time - last time the timing meant that I might have missed them and had visions of an unsuspecting neighbour taking in all my drugs and then wondering what on earth was happening/telling THE WHOLE village about it before I even got home from work ( not hard in a 2 street village!)
It's nice having someone who understands it all here on Mumsnet to 'talk' to - as I said before I'm pretty much 'banned' from ivf sites whilst doing it to avoid obsessing about it. I also think Xmas will help as lots to do - and nice stuff too, lots of socialising ( though hopefully not TOO many meaningful questions about a brother or sister for dd...)so I won't be inclined to think about it all too much.

Bluestar..I am going to wait until Boxing Day too..I echo your comments. I've had a cold this week so I've been playing all kinds of mind games and imagining cold symptoms to be early signs of being pg. Why do we do this to ourselves? Bayleaf and Elliot, thanks...your comments they help to keep things in perspective. 2 friends at work are pg, I was ttc at least a year before both of them. It has to be my turn soon!

Bayleaf and Elliot,
good luck to both of you ... I know exactly what you are embarking on - the ivf/icsi rollercoaster! Try to chill out and relax over Christmas and let's hope the New Year brings joy to you both.
Best wishes ... CM

pluto, sprout - thinking of you both. In a way I think its easier for me because I have got beyond hoping to get pg naturally (well only a very tiny part of me is disappointed) - don't know your full stories obviously but just hope things do happen for you, soon!

Cookiemonster, thanks for your good wishes - I meant to respond to your earlier posting but couldn't find the right words - just something like I'm really glad you finally have your dd after all you went through.

Bayleaf - well I was born and bred in Nottingham! Now living somewhat further north and being treated at the local NHS centre as a paying patient. You've reminded me I need to sort the drugs out this morning.
I was going to try and keep this cycle low key so that I didn't have the world and his wife asking me what the result was - but I'm so bad at hiding things, I've already told a couple of friends that we're doing treatment again!! And some will have to know anyway as we'll need help to look after ds at critical times.
Happy Christmas everyone, hope 2003 brings us all what we desire!

Echoing Elliott, let's hope all of us on this thread have a baby to hold before the end of 2003. Good luck to everyone.

HI, Need to pour my heart out so will appologies now. After one of the hardest month's of my life (work stress, home stress etc) I found out on Wednesday that I'd failen pregnant. I couldn't have had more joyous news. I'd suspected for a week as my period was spotting and refusing to arrive but given all the other pressures around I suspected I was merely missing a period because of stress. I was still slightly spotting on Wednesday but was pretty much clear yesterday and then today I've started spotting again. I lost the last one in a similar way (but at 8 weeks not at 5wks 2 days). I know I'm being stupid but suddenly I feel that I'm going to loose this one. My doctor's informed me that I mustn't worry and get stressed because it will only make matters worse - great! and just how am I supposed to do that? I've only had 6 hours sleep in the last 48, I'm full of cold and suspect I'm not really fit enough to carry this little one but I sooo wanted it. Sorry but I'm sitting here going screwy - but trying to tell myself not to be so stupid and overreact.

Oh Wills - what a wonderful and awful situation to be in all at the same time - 2 of my losses were early on so I have some idea what you are going thru' and how hard it is. My heart really goes out to you - as so many people have witnessed on different threads there really is reason to hope - so often the spotting means nothing and plenty of people stay pregnant even when their bodies are being 'abused' and apparently ot in any fit state to be - so your being run down may not tip the balance - I know it's pointless repeating the Dr's advice to relax - but you do seriously sound like you need some sleep - any chance of a really early night tonight - like NOW ????
Big cyber hug to you and fingers crossed
Bayleaf x
ps am starting another ttc thread as this one is taking forever to load

Wills, sorry you're having a stressful time. If its any help, there is really no good evidence that stress or worry or trying to relax have any impact on whether or not a pregnancy will survive - it really is a case of what will be will be. Its absolutely impossible for you not to be worried, but do try to take care of yourself. Hoping that the spotting settles and it turns out to be a false alarm.

Bayleaf and Elliot ...
I know you two are on the IVF treadmill at the moment - how's it going? I know the nasal spray always made me feel very low and I was glad when the injections started.
Hope you're both getting on OK and the festive season wasn't too full of well-intentioned people asking about 'the patter of tiny feet' etc etc
Best wishes ... CM

I'd just like to say a big thanks to everyone cause reading your stories has really made me feel better as it seems i'm in the same boat as many of you. I've been 'trying' for 6 mnths, am 29, my dd is 2 and 2mnths. I've tried Boots ovulation kit-no luck! I dread my period coming. I just feel abit desperate because all my friends and family know we want another baby and keep asking 'are you pregnant yet' and ' did you come on'. I know they're only as anxious as we are but it doesn't help. It's like when dd was due- she was 12 days overdue and I kept getting calls and questions. I think the pressure is getting to me. I know it's self inflicted but I guess I'm just the kind of person who talks alot and tells people whats happening (or nor!) in my life. We've now decided to 'not get pregnant'! I just want another baby. A good friend recently told me she was 3 months preg and I wanted to cry. I was over the moon for her but it just brought it home how much I need and want another baby. But Wht? I guess to fill my time and head space. I've kind of got my work on hold because I feel that as soon as I sart making great plans for making monek I'll get pregnant. So there's no point. I know. That's the answer. Get busy with planning something else to take my mind of the dissappoitment each month. I want dd to have a close relationship with a sibling and she won't if she's 4/5 years older !
BTW I think you're all great women who are in touch with your feminity and you're a real inspiration to me! Puke!

Well I'm gald we've helped Boogs - but I'm not sure I'm in touch with my femininity!
Six months really isn't any time in ttc terms - tho' I appreciate it feels like it - if you haven't already then try some of the advice on sites mentioned here - they have helped others...
Good luck!

Am coming up to my fertile time again, I think and am really hoping that it all works this month. However, have had 3 long periods of 32, 34 and 36 days which doesn't help things and seems that everyone around me is falling pregnant. Hardly a day goes by without some more news and am beginning to feel emotional about it all. DS is only 7 months and I know this is probably all irrational but it helps to write my feelings down. If anyone has any success stories or tips on conceiving, that would be great.

Just re-read this thread (and no 2) and wanted to know how everyone is getting on....

Just re-read this thread (and no 2) and wanted to know how everyone is getting on....