Anyone else trying to get pregnant and want to talk about it?

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I thought I'd start this thread as monkey and I have been talking about getting pregnant on another thread. Is it just the 2 of us? Anyway, this might be a good place to talk about it before (and if) we can add to the expecting in 2003 thread

My ds is just 5 so if I do get pregnant soon-ish he will be 6 when any half sibling is born (separated from his father). I feel ambivalent about being pregnant again, as I've said elsewhere. Some days I feel excited at the prospect, some days I think Oh No, no sleep, ever again...Anyway, I thought we could all (or both if it's just the 2 of us!) chat about ttc, pregnancy tests and feelings here. For me I have to say that starting trying was strange (sorry if this is too much info) as it's the first time I've ever had sex whilst deliberately trying to get pregnant, as ds was a happy mistake. Very odd...

sorry, and musica too

No, me too! I've got 1 1/2 year old ds, and trying for no.2. This month, I'm very unoptimistic, as dh got stuck in Europe due to the gales on the optimum weekend....my bad luck I guess!

My dd is nearly 3 and I am thinking about number 2 - even bought 'Persona' to try to get the right timing! DH is very keen and I feel that dd needs a sibling but I am not really keen to be pregnant again - I am nearly 36 and worried about being that bit older...maybe will start 'trying' in the new Year....

would love to!
Just to explain my complicated background.... I have a 10 month old ds with my partner - only she gave birth to him! Now it's my turn and things are proving more tricky (she got pregnant in about 5 seconds...). 8 months later I'm having blood tests and a scan as I had a diagnosis of pcos when I was younger and I've got an underactive thyroid gland. Not brilliant when you're trying for a baby, so I'm taking a couple of months break, but then am trying again from January - possibly with the help of Clomid.

Phew! Fingers crossed for us all...!

Add me to the list!! - have been trying for about 6 months and nothing.. DD is 18mths old and would I would love her to have a baby brother or sister

and me. also feel very strange about trying (this is the first month) as ds who is now 1.5 was a happy accident. Also had a diagnosis of pcos when was younger though didnt seem to stop me getting pregnant the first time. Period due tomorrow and not feeling very optimistic.

Well I feel like the aged aunt on this thread as I have the dubious pleasure of having been trying the longest - 15 months at last count
I had less trouble getting pregnant with dd ( 21 months) but had 3 miscarriages so it stretched out over 2.5 years in the end - not fun.
I'm 38 so people worrying about being too old at nearly 36 make me smile wryly - have done months of Clomid Dot - no side effects apart from hot flushes in the middle of the night - but if your GP prescribes it rather than a specialist make sure
a) it's for 5 rather than 3 days
b) you are regularly scanned/21day tested rather than just waiting and seeing - you need to know if Clomid is definitely working not just find out it probably isn't when you're still not pregnant 6 months later! ( Bitter experience talking here - spending £90 on a private referral was money well spent for me). It must be hard having a very fertile partner - at least most of us can't compare in that way so we don't have that added stress.
Anyone who is trying to conceive should look on www.tcoyf.com as there is loads of information on there which could help - it is the website of the book 'Taking Charge of your Fertility'.
Our local Pound shop does pregnancy tests at £1 - so I feel free to test as often as I am tempted!

I shouldn't worry about ''too much information'' WWW - it's almost inevitable on a ttc thread!

Bayleaf, my sympathies - ds was eventually conceived by ivf after 3 years, so I know what its like trying month after month. I would love to be pregnant again, but after 8 months or so of 'trying' (more in hope than expectation) we are now gearing up for more treatment.

Hi www - I'm trying to cut down on my mumsnet addiction & you go & do this!

Well, I'm sure you're all bored of my sorry little tale (but I'll tell you anyway). Had my mirena coil removed beginning of October. Since then had pg symptoms but test negative. Period now 2.5 weeks late (or something).

Dis try for ds1, but used persona, so didn't really think about it in detail & it happened quite quickly. We decided we'd be happy to have n.2 quite quickly, plus I had to take thyroid medication after ds1 & was worried it might affect my fertility, so didn't want to put n. 2 off just in case & we luckily conceived really quickly, when ds1 was 8 or 9 months - about 2 weeks after stopping my thyroid med.

Now we're trying for n. 3. I suppose I'm most frustrated at being in a period-free pg syptom limbo, so the sooner I have a positive test or a period the better.

BTW if we're going to go into too much detail, ds seems to want to 'you know' every night. I dunno whether me being a fertile goddess thrills him, whether he's really desperate for n. 3, or if he's just making the most of the opportunity, as I generally can't be bothered, but feel like I should make the effort! So this is the first time too for me really having sex to try..
There we are no more

ps hello everybody!

Thanks for the advice Bayleaf - my GP said she wouldn't be the one prescribing me Clomid, in case she got it wrong and I ended up with Octuplets (aarrgghhh!). So I'm probably going to be seen by my thyroid specialist - a really lovely dr. who I know well.

Yes, the annoying thing is that if dp tried again we'd probably have baby no. 2 in a matter of moments! I adore ds, but would also love to be able to add to the family myself, so we're giving me all of next year to have a go, and then dp will try if I don't have any luck.

Oh I can beat you all! We've been married for six years and trying for all of that time. Though we did get help for about a year of treatment and have a 3yo daughter from that. No one could find anything wrong with either of us, so we are just trying and trying, but its not happening. So technically I think I'm the winner (loser)?

Add me to the list! I've been lurking, addicted, for the past few months but this is my first post. My dd is 2 1/2 and I've been trying for no2 for 10 mths now. Had to try for over a year for dd, after a miscarriage at 10 wks, so I suppose I shouldn't be feeling impatient - but I am. I'm 34, so no real hurry except I want dd and no2 to be close enough in age that they can play together. Just bought Persona in the hope it'll speed things up. Anyone have any success stories in using it?

Hi Monkey!

Re: 'you know'.... I've kind of got the opposite problem in that our donor is in Manchester and I'm in London, so it's a dash up the M6 for a couple of gos at the right time each month..! I always feel like I'm going to just miss the v. narrow window of opportunity and it means having to get time off work at the last minute/either take ds with me or dp take time off, etc. At least yours is on tap!!

Yes, Sprout, conceived ds1 after three months on Persona having tried for seven months before that. Have just dusted it off following the death at 21 weeks in utero of ds2 this Summer - it took two months of Persona to conceive him, but we had been trying for two years in total. I'm 39, and have been dithering all morning over whether to even post on here. Good luck to us all.

Thanks for the Persona success stories. Before dd I used to have a really regular cycle, but recently I'm all over the place. I'll just wait for the famous little red light and lock dh in the bedroom

janinlondon, there's apparently 'nothing wrong' with us too (ha ha). Frustrating, isn't it? Though I am extremely thankful to have ds, would love him not to be an only child. Are you thinking about having more treatment?

sobernow, I've spent a fortune on ovulation prediction tests in my time, so maybe persona would be value for money!! I presume it works on the same principle, though it must give you earlier warning of ovulation - do you remember how long before ovulation that the 'o' sign appears? These days my cycle is so regular I tend not to test for ovulation, but have to say we are not that frequent at bms since ds, so its possible I am missing the critical days.

Hi elliott

re your earlier post. I conceived naturally for dd2. Although like you we were gearing up for IVF for the second time, when we had to wait as couldn't afford it for a while, then bingo! I got pregnant a couple of months later and that was without actively trying. So good luck to you and everyone else.

My dh and I are actively trying this week for #4 so if its gonna happen this month it should sometime by the weekend. I would like another child but my mind has been going back and forth the past month from wanting to not wanting to wanting again. Sometimes I think my kids are getting to old for another sibling. I have a 13,10, and 2 yr old. I thought another baby would be good for my 2 yr old. My 10 yr dd wants another ds so much. I told her (in a joking way) you get what you get and that you really cant pick and choose. She understands that shell have to endure another db if thats what were blessed with. Well have to wait and see the outcome.

Good luck to everyone out there trying to have a baby.

Sorry, its suppose to say wants a sister not ds.

Hi, I want to add my name to the growing list of ttcs. Ds is nearly 3 and I am 37 next spring so i am hoping things start to happen soon. Not that I like being pregnant, I hated it first time round and miscarried the second time. To me it is a necessary evil in order to have a baby. We have been sort of trying for about 4 or 5 months but I am too knackered to have sex most of the time right now which probably accounts for the lack of success!

Hi everybody,

I've just had a horrible couple of weeks waiting to see if our fertility treatment (IUI) worked and getting all hopeful and then disappointed. We're lucky enough to have a beautiful 22 month old son conceived through IUI in April 2000, and are hoping for a brother or sister for him. Last month was our first go this time and we're hoping to try again this month. It took 3 goes to get our son, so I shouldn't have been surprised it didn't work first time. Good luck to everyone.

My doc has said that they will do some investigations if I still don't conceive by Christmas, does anyone know what this would consist of??. I didn't ask as I was hoping it wouldn't come to that but it is loooking like a possibility now (I'm 36)

the investigations they're doing for me are a day 21 blood test, which I think checks if I'm ovulating, (although if other people know more about this I'd love to know!) plus other hormone tests to see about pcos, plus a scan to see if I've got cysts around my ovaries.

Dizzymummy, I'll try to remember what happened last time for us. I think the first thing was a blood test for me to check my hormone levels on a certain day of the month. It gives an indication (but no guarentee) that you are ovulating. They also did a semen analysis of dh farily early on. He had to provide a sample to the local hospital. Those tests were arranged by the g.p. After that they refered us to the fertility clinic at our NHS hospital. One of the first things they did was an internal ultrasound scan of my ovaries to see if they were about to ovulate. Is that enough info to be going on with?