Anyone else trying to get pregnant and want to talk about it?

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I thought I'd start this thread as monkey and I have been talking about getting pregnant on another thread. Is it just the 2 of us? Anyway, this might be a good place to talk about it before (and if) we can add to the expecting in 2003 thread

My ds is just 5 so if I do get pregnant soon-ish he will be 6 when any half sibling is born (separated from his father). I feel ambivalent about being pregnant again, as I've said elsewhere. Some days I feel excited at the prospect, some days I think Oh No, no sleep, ever again...Anyway, I thought we could all (or both if it's just the 2 of us!) chat about ttc, pregnancy tests and feelings here. For me I have to say that starting trying was strange (sorry if this is too much info) as it's the first time I've ever had sex whilst deliberately trying to get pregnant, as ds was a happy mistake. Very odd...

Oh how I wish someone could provide a definitive answer that that question Marina. I don't want to stop breastfeeding my 12 month old (currently morning and night) but worry that if I don't I will lessen my chances of conceiving again.

Bells, conceiving again? does that mean you're going for number 3 (or have I miscounted)? I'm thinking about it, but hubby is hoping its just the hormones still and I won't go thru with it again.I keep being told how difficult 3 is - and any hopeful thoughts of private education go out f the window.

Elliot - I can't imagine that a persona would be worth the money if you are thinking of ivf ( need to save all your money!) as it takes a while for it to work optimally as it need to build up a pctue of your cycle anyhow. You're lucky to have a regular cycle - tho I also know exactly what you mean about really wanting to know EXACTLY when it is in order to be sure you don't miss the 'best' day if you know you're not particularly fertile and need to maximise your chances in any way you can.
Marina how long did it take to get pregnant with ds1? It's an interesting idea about the feeding - it is basically the main reason I gave up feeding at 6 months as I wanted another one far more than my desire to keep feeding - with hindsight I could have carried on!

There has been quite a lot of evidence that ovulation predictor kits have no effect on conception rates. There is also increasing evidence that the 'window' for conception is far wider than was previously thought. The recommendations are that sex 2x per week (yes, I know!) throughout the month is the best was to ensure you 'hit' the right time for conception. I know I used the odd ovulation predictor kit, and according to them it seemed I was never ovulating. Still got p/g though!

The advice re ovulation predictor kids came from the Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists who did a study - they didn't help and they are so expensive!

Well we've decided to have sex every day this month just to see what happens! Cheaper than ovulation prediction kits and more fun

Yup Lil. We definitely would like a third (and DH is muttering about four!).

bayleaf, well I suppose regular cycles mean I don't have too much waiting and wondering every month, but as far as achieving pregnancy goes they seem about as useful as a chocolate fireguard! How are things with you? Are you having or planning any treatment - you mentioned you'd had clomid in the past - was dd conceived with help?

Aloha, I think I read that study - it was on normally fertile couples IIRC - I think when you've been trying for a while it can be helpful to feel that you've eliminated problems of timing at least. I have to say that no matter how much I try to forget about it, I still find myself wondering every month whether we did it too early or too late (don't think I can face www's approach to overcoming that issue ) So are you trying again too??

bells, I know someone with 4 boys, she is definitely stopping there! Good news is she's got her figure back, but I think its the stress/physical activity in bringing the boys up!

Bayleaf, it took six months first time round.
Sort of relieved to hear Aloha's news on the lack of usefulness of the ovulation predictor kits, but it makes me cross to think of the ££££ being spent by hopeful couples, probably needlessly. At least Persona's manufacturers were confident enough of its accuracy as a monitor of hormone levels to put it on the market...and yes I know it's far from 100% reliable as a contraceptive device.
WWW, carpet-bombing approach, eh? Have fun.

Well WWW - I hope it's still fun by the end of the month! We tried it once when trying for dd and it did actually work ( but was one of the babies I lost) but I have to say enthusiasm was flagging somewhat by the end....
Elliot - Dd was entirely natural - altho' I lost 3 babies ( 2 very early) in those days I didn't seem to have significant problems getting pregnant. Yes I am seing a consultant who is very good and very nice and we are considering our options so to speak - but the bugger of having recommended Mumsnet to various people is that I'm very identifiable from other threads and am reluctant to say anything on here that I haven't told people in real life - serves me right for recommending it I suppose!

Hiya everyone I started to feel sick this morning and even after my negative test on Saturday was so convinced so I did another (Clearblue not Tesco's own) and my result was positive. Am overjoyed but also a little scared etc etc. Good luck to you all that are trying and I hope this little one stays with me as I lost two before my ds everything crossed xxxxxx

lulu, many congratulations! I hope all goes smoothly and especially that the next 3 months are trouble free.

Not trying... but not not trying either IYKNWIM! However,let's just say that WWW's forthcoming sexfest would just about cover our annual allowance at the moment - actually, it would beat it about ten times over. Oops, what AM I telling you all?! So I think trying implies a lot more activity/effort than is actually the case. And I'm in no hurry - we're so happy with ds who at 14months is such an angel, a wonderful sleeper, has an angelic nature and is lovelier every day. He can now say Hawow Dada on the phone to dh, and pats us all and strokes our hair and says 'aah' etc etc. I have to say, all the ovulation sticks ever did was confuse me and make me slightly gloomy. I NEVER saw any sign of ovulation despite using about three boxes of sticks, yet there must have been something going on because ds appeared 1yr after throwing out my pill packet...

WWW - worked for us when DS1 didn't arrive as expected. I think DH was secretly disappointed that we'd conceived actually.

No,I'm not trying nor thinking of trying, I was just being nosey...

bayleaf, I'm sorry to hear about the babies you lost. It must have been a hell of a wait for dd. One thing I am thankful for is that I have never lost a pregnancy (unless you count the other embryo put back with ds, but that is rather different).

Yes, I see the problem with recommending mumsnet - I'm active on another list and keep having to stop myself from raving about mumsnet for that very reason(not that I would really mind my cybermates identifying me - and all my real-life friends are computer illiterate, so I think I'm safe!)

No probs if you don't want to reveal more - good luck with your decision making. FWIW, when we started out we were very reluctant to comtemplate something as invasive as ivf, and didn't want to get into an endless treadmill of treatment upon treatment. Of course now I'm so glad we went through with it, but I still feel it is important to set limits, as I find the uncertainty hardest of all.
So our current plan is probably 2 more attempts, then no contraception until I'm 40. We will see what happens!

Congratulations lulu!

Lovely news Lulu41. Ovulation test sticks worked for me last time around in the sense that they told me when I was ovulating. Still took a few months of using them to conceive though.

Fantastic news Lulu! hoping for a smooth ride for you this time round.

Had a very exciting moment this pm when felt sick as a dog and decided I might be pregnant ( somewhat unlikely symptom when period not due till weekend but hey I'm an optimist!!) then my happy musings were broken by dd puking up mulitiple times - followed by me of course - I don't think maternity sickness is catching is it!
ps Congratas Lulu - I'll bear it in mind when I get a negative - I always think I'm just wasting money getting another one - but clearly not always!

Hi everyone - hope you don't mind me sticking my neb in, as I'm not ttc, but I wondered what methods you were using to get pg. I know it's not exactly scientific, but I got pg twice in trying a grand total of three months by having sex every other night for the middle two weeks of the month. Another side effect is that I wasn't completely bored by the whole thing after I'd conceived. I'll dip out again now - good luck to all of you trying.

aloha - you've given me hope! I never get a line on those bloody ovulation kit things and have spent a small fortune on them over the last year...

Can I have a v. selfish moan please? Went to the doc's today and was told my blood tests are all normal... Should be pleased, but am so used to thinking I can't conceive ('cos of pcos diagnosis when I was 19) that I was really hoping to get referred to someone who'd put me on Chlomid... I haven't had my scan yet, but now I'm thinking everything will be OK on that aswell.

So now it's down to me (and Mr. Donor) - which is quite depressing as I haven't had any luck so far...

Sorry for the selfishness - I know there's lots of you with 'real' ttc problems so I should be grateful there's nothing majorly wrong with me.

HI - Haven't "talked" on mumsnet recently because I'd wanted to tell the whole world how great it was and then was fearful that people might work out my "cyber" name and therefore cotton on to the fact that I'm trying to fall pregnant. Lousy excuse I know...

Anyway I desperate (as my dd would say) to know whether or not an ovulation kit can tell you when you've not ovulated. We went for it virtually evey night last month but no success (apart from that fact that dh skirms whenever I appear at the moment). I having a terrible time at work and home life is also incredibly stressful so I probably didn't ovulate but now I'm panicking so I was wondering whether the kits would help.

Wills, they were absolutely bloody useless for me, never showed that I'd ovulated, and lo... that month I'm pregnant!!

Lulu41, That's wonderful - I'm really pleased to hear your news.

Dot1, I was going to say that a lot of infertility is unexplained so don't worry, there could be something wrong with you after all. But that's not exactly reassuring is it? I don't think that a blood test necessary proves that everything is working perfectly. I don't want to pretend to be an expert, but I'd have said the length of time you've been ttc should be what determines whether you get referred. I believe 6 months is about average to get pg, and anything upto a year is quite normal.