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Ttc at 40!!!

140 replies

Av0bo55 · 02/02/2022 18:51

Well we have just made the scary decision to ttc at 40! I have an appointment for my contraceptive removing next month!!
We have older dc and it just feels like the last chance, before age well and truly takes over! Is anyone else here similar age? Have you managed to get that bfp? I’m nervous that we’ve left it a little too late!

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DancinOnTheCeiling · 02/02/2022 19:03

I’m 40 (soon 41), just got my BFP on Monday. Good luck OP 🤞🏻

pinkpirlie · 02/02/2022 19:34

I'm about to turn 39, TTC #1
No luck yet, been referred to the facility specialist (NHS).
Good luck X

Tryingandtrying2 · 02/02/2022 19:50

@Av0bo55 same boat here ttc at 40 but my OH is abit older. Do you mind me asking if your OH is the same age as you or older/younger?

Any other ladies who have conceived at 40 do you think that makes a difference?

TIA x

Nik84 · 02/02/2022 19:53

I had a surprise pregnancy that I was initially shocked about but then delighted. Sadly it wasn’t to be and I lost the baby at 10 weeks last week. I have started to think about trying but I’m terrified, I’m feeling very torn. I’m nearly 38 and would love to hear positive experiences of women a similar age having success.

CherylPorter350 · 02/02/2022 19:56

I'm 41 and DH is having a vasectomy reversal this Friday so we can TTC. 40 is the new 20...so I tell myself.

Seriously, lots of women 40+ having babies now. My mum had my brother at 43.

Good luck

DSGR · 02/02/2022 20:04

I was almost 42 when I had last DC. Could you use a fertility monitor? Think Clearblue do them and they are very good. I didn’t like leaving things to chance when getting older

Pinkywoo · 02/02/2022 20:10

I'm 41 and 35 weeks pregnant with our second, I was 39 with DS1. Touch wood no problems so far, but it took 9 months to get a bfp (4 months the first time).

TiredbutTrying41 · 02/02/2022 20:16

Hi. I turned 41 a couple of weeks ago. We’ve got a DS who’s 3 and we weren’t going to have another. Changed our mind December so currently TTW of cycle 2. Now we’ve decided to try it’s like I’m so desperate for another. We’re only trying for 12 months!

RockingGazelle · 02/02/2022 20:22

Hello! I'm 40 with a 2 year old DD and we are also TTC. Been trying since around April last year but, due to DD not being a great sleeper, it's all been a bit half hearted. Feel we really need to now up our game and make a real effort. I've mentally given myself until the end of the year....

Badhairday101 · 02/02/2022 20:39

I’m 41 and have been TTC for a year, albeit very haphazardly, with no science involved. I’ve got older children and conceived more or less immediately with them.
I think I am going to do some research and make a concerted effort until November when I turn 42, if it’s not happened by then I’ll stop.
Good luck to everyone.

Easterbunnyiswindowshopping · 02/02/2022 20:40

I had a ds at 43.2. Got a bfp third month of ttc!

HazyDays81 · 02/02/2022 20:55

I am 40 and TTC baby #4! It took a while to convince DH, I’ve longed for another for a couple of years. So far I’m up to cycle 9. I hadn’t really thought of a timescale of how long to try for just really hoping it happens.

Lauraliverpool · 02/02/2022 21:48

Hi, hope its OK to join?, I'm 40, 41 next month, have a little boy, before him mmc and then two after, had two rounds of IVF which failed.

Ozanj · 02/02/2022 21:49

I’m 41 and we’re ttc no2. God knows if it’ll work

DancinOnTheCeiling · 02/02/2022 22:19

@Tryingandtrying2 OH is 44 and we just got a BFP (I’m 40, about to turn 41). Good luck

GingerFox2021 · 03/02/2022 00:14

Nearly 42, trying for number 2.

frenchfancy81 · 03/02/2022 00:22

What's BFP pls?

AliceMcK · 03/02/2022 01:22

I was 41 when we decided to go for our 3rd, conceived almost immediately. I wasn’t on contraceptives though so we could start trying as soon as we made the decision.

AliceMcK · 03/02/2022 01:22

@frenchfancy81

What's BFP pls?
I just googled and I think it means big fat positive.
IsabelHerna · 03/02/2022 07:46

Welcome to the TTC train! 40 over here 👋 going through IVF to become a single mum by choice.

Start taking those prenatal vitamins now, cut down on caffeine, alcohol and improve your diet. good luck! It may happen before you know it x

DancinOnTheCeiling · 03/02/2022 08:23

@frenchfancy81 @AliceMcK
yes BFP means big fat positive ie a positive pregnancy test. When I first joined mumsnet I was very confused.. but BFP is used here 99.9% of the time when referring to a positive pregnancy test

RockingGazelle · 03/02/2022 11:00

Congratulations @DancinOnTheCeiling. I love seeing other BFPs as it keeps my hope alive! It took us about 10 months TTC #1 and we are close to that now...

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Av0bo55 · 03/02/2022 19:16

Oh wow 🤩 so many others! I’m in good company!! My dh is a few years older he’s 42 but 43 this year!
I really hope it all works out for us and all Ttc and that we get our bfp asap!
I conceived really fast with my older dc and I seem to have regular cycles and ov pains midway through so hoping that’s a good sign and I know dh is fertile as he’s managed in the past with our other kids!
I’m pleased to hear of some of your success already in the pp and it gives us all hope that yes it can happen!

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Lauraliverpool · 03/02/2022 20:20

Have any of you tracked ovulation? I have in the past but found them a bit of a pain remembering each day to do one. Also I've found my periods seem to vary each month, I know it might seem a silly question but with this happening how many times throughout the cycle to have sex, with not tracking ovulation to cover bases?

DancinOnTheCeiling · 03/02/2022 21:54

Thanks @RockingGazelle. 🤞🏻 for you!!! Love the username by the way xx

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