Hi ladies. Hope you are all well, and hope it's ok for me to jump on board?
Bit of background, I'll try to keep it short.
I fell pregnant with my first last March, and sadly miscarried at about 6 weeks. I was devastated but naively thought it was a one off, but went on to have another in July last year. Question mark over a chemical in august but suspect it was actually residual hcg. Was referred to RMC who did all the tests and they all came back as 'great' so they said I'd have progesterone next time. Next time came in March this year and while I had a few little bleeds, it seemed to be going better. Early scans with EPU showed nothing certain and blood tests then confirmed hcg wasn't doubling so they diagnosed another miscarriage. I opted for a mva so they could test the tissue. This wasn't pleasant, as I was awake, but my stubborn personality who wants some control of my body wouldn't have it any other way.
We went on about our lives thinking it was another one (having already become very numb to the news, but no less sad) but a couple of weeks after I almost collapsed at home and I had to have emergency surgery for what turned out to be an ectopic that had been missed. Turned out the hospital had had the results from my unnecessary MVA which wasn't pregnancy tissue, but they hadn't got round to telling me that......
As you will all be aware, it was all pretty traumatic, especially as I was alone and all of a sudden you are signing a form giving permission to take a tube away - as if the TTC wasn't hard enough already!?
When we thought it was another miscarriage, we started planning to see a private specialist, but knowing it was ectopic now makes me wonder whether we have a RMC issue or just horrendous bad luck??
I have still booked to see the consultant which is in early august, as the wait was so long. I didn't want to get a few months down the line and go to book only to find it's 2022! I know this is going to be expensive but I'd not forgive myself if we got pregnant again, I miscarried another, and then find out there's an issue that could have been helped.
I'm excited to have a plan and try again, it's just suddenly dawned on me what a long road we might be facing. I'm sure I'm not alone in saying how sad I am that this journey has come to this. I also really wish we could start trying now, but I know a break is probably best.
I've read this and previous threads and I'm so sorry for you all going through this, and so so delighted for those of you who are pregnant or have had your babies.
I joined a thread like this last year with my miscarriages and it was such a great support, it's lovely to see another thread with so much support in it too xx