Anyone going to TTC in April?

[zeromango]

Hi all! Just looking for some TTC buddies! We have planned to start trying in April, we already have a DC who is 2.5. Would love for somebody else to join!

My goal is to lose a bit of weight first as I've gained about a stone back during the 3rd lockdown and want to be as healthy as possible. I've also started taking the Seven Seas Trying for a baby vitamins! Feeling nervous but excited (DC was a surprise )

@wishfulthinking93i hope you’re ok, I know what it’s like to just want af to come after a BFN to get the next cycle going.
I’ve been trying for over a year now and have my first fertility appointment in June. That still hasn’t sunk in.
Currently I have one app saying af is due in 3 days (using cycle history) and another app saying 9 days (using opk results). Trying so hard not to symptom spot already. Nothing. Just right dull ovulation like pain.

Hope all you ladies are ok x

@DeeDee20 thank you! I’m ok, trying not to be too disheartened as I wasn’t expecting it to happen this month since we’ve only just started trying. Came off my pill in July/august time last year and wanted to let my body adjust, thought it had happened in those first few cycles a few times because my cycles were all over. Then we had a loss in the family and took a break from trying and have just picked back up to hope for a 2022 baby, having long cycles is so hard because I feel like it’s such a long wait between trying again. I’m on CD 34 and usually come on between CD32-34.

Best of luck with your appointment

Hope everyone is holding up ok!
I'm on 12dpo now - tested yesterday morning and it was a BFN just waiting for AF to come along now too!
Would be good to know how long my cycles are actually since I only starting tracking AF last month.. I assume its 31/32 days because I remember it getting later and later each month

Oh well got drunk yesterday so that's a plus I guess

@zeromango

Thank you *@charja100! This week will last forever it seems  I won't test until somebody else does (cough, looking at you *@hullaballoo19**, cough) 

@hullaballoo19 That's lovely you have something to look forward too on Monday, especially if you did get a BFN (which I'm so hoping isn't the case!) I also feel like it's not my month, even though I'm having so many weird symptoms. My boobs are starting to kill now but that's also consistent with AF. I can keep mulling things over but until I miss AF or test end of the week, I simply don't know. DP had basically said only to test Saturday and Sunday, he says if we just take it day by day and try not to get our hopes up then it won't feel so rubbish.

My heart goes out to everyone who has been trying a while, I'm assuming it doesn't get any easier.

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I think the thing I find so frustrating is the symptoms of early pregnancy and pms being so similar! Breasts have got more tender this evening but I don't know if it's a sign or just pms and I'm just so impatient 😩

Wishing you all either bfps or for af to hurry up so you can get on with your next cycle(s) x

Hi all, I have a daughter who is 11 this summer so it almost feels like the first time again, plus she was a lovely surprise so I never planned anything before.
I stopped my pill mid-pack and now having a horrendous bleed but I just want it to be over with so we can TTC. I’m 34 next month and all of a sudden felt panicked that I’ve left it so late. Anyone else have a large gap between their children??!! I feel like a first timer all over again xx

So I caved ... can anyone else see something?!

@wishfulthinking93 Bless you it's so horrible when that happens, it toys with so many emotions. I didn't get a BFP last time until after AF so until she arrives I'll keep everything crossed for you. 

@Elsbeth1 happy drinking  so sorry you tested BFN - I've found tracking cycles a huge help so after a few months you should get a really clear idea of where you're at.

@hullaballoo19 could you test with an early response type test for now? Boobs hurting is always a good sign! Well it doesn't feel nice but you know what I mean!

@Emloba87 welcome!! Apologies I don't know about big age gaps but there might be some ladies on here that do - however there is a huge age gap between me and my sister and we love the bones of each other I'm sure your DD would be delighted! Best of luck 🤞🏼

@zeromango I can see the slightest shadow (and I am usually terrible at seeing faint lines), however, doesn't look like it's got any colour to it. Hate to say the thing eeeveryone says, but wait a couple of days and test again (sorry!!). I know some people get bfps this early, but if you think about it, sperm meets egg can happen up to 24 hours after ovulation, say implantation takes 10 days (think average is 9, but anywhere between 6-12days), that takes you to 11dpo, then hcg needs to rise to levels high enough to detect. So you're definitely not out, but given the faintness of the shadow I reckon you'd need at least a couple of days to get high enough for a visible line. Thinking of you ❤️ I'm going to try and hold off on testing til Thursday/Friday, so if you can last that long we can do them on the same day 👍

[quote zeromango]@wishfulthinking93 Bless you it's so horrible when that happens, it toys with so many emotions. I didn't get a BFP last time until after AF so until she arrives I'll keep everything crossed for you. 

@Elsbeth1 happy drinking  so sorry you tested BFN - I've found tracking cycles a huge help so after a few months you should get a really clear idea of where you're at.

@hullaballoo19 could you test with an early response type test for now? Boobs hurting is always a good sign! Well it doesn't feel nice but you know what I mean!

@Emloba87 welcome!! Apologies I don't know about big age gaps but there might be some ladies on here that do - however there is a huge age gap between me and my sister and we love the bones of each other I'm sure your DD would be delighted! Best of luck 🤞🏼 [/quote]
I do have a frer but trying hard to wait as long as I can 😊 the chemical did throw me and I'm worried about testing and getting the faint line and then it disappearing. That could still happen even if I didn't test til af due though

@zeromango

So I caved ... can anyone else see something?!

Did you use an early response or just standard test?

@hullaballoo19 it's a early response one from amazon (the babyplan ones) I think you could be right - I can't quite tell. It definitely does look pink but it's so faint - definitely going to wait until Friday now if you want to do it with me? Definitely not worrying about it either way because my period hasn't been missed yet. If it doesn't happen it's ok! Just a few more days to go

@hullaballoo19 my friend said the exact same thing about chemicals which is why I'm so annoyed with myself for not waiting - the leg aches and cramping have been so bad I thought I had a pelvic infection or something! It's all lessened a LOT now, just mild cramping and sore boobs.

@zeromango it's a date 😊

Yeah, chemical pregnancy is something I didn't know about before. When I got pregnant with dd we hadn't been trying to, so this is the first time I've ever been aware of it (and aware of experiencing it). And with dd I was 21 and quite unaware so I didn't even really think about losing a baby as a possibility (obviously knew it happened but it just didn't occur to me that it might happen to me then). Much more conscious of that now with my proper adult brain

@Emloba87 welcome! My dd is 9 and a half so a big gap for me too 😊

@hullaballoo19 oh bless you A part of me is worried it'll end as a chemical because I've never had a positive this early before (even with my MCs) - definitely not overthinking it until Friday, and lessen learned for next month too! What happened with your chemical if you don't mind me asking? Did you test positive and then your period arrived?

@zeromango I can defo see a line and most of the time when people post pictures I can't see anything haha
Fingers crossed for you!

My AF came today so I guess I'm on a 31 day cycle!
I went crazy and brought like £200 worth of fertility stuff lol
I brought the Proceive female vitamins, FertilMan male vitamins, Conceive Plus Fertility Lubricant and Clearblue Advanced Fertility Monitor & Refill Test Sticks
Anyone have any experience with any of these?

[quote zeromango]@hullaballoo19 oh bless you A part of me is worried it'll end as a chemical because I've never had a positive this early before (even with my MCs) - definitely not overthinking it until Friday, and lessen learned for next month too! What happened with your chemical if you don't mind me asking? Did you test positive and then your period arrived? [/quote]
I don't mind :) started getting sore breasts around 10/11dpo, had a faint positive on a cb early detection at 12dpo (with FMU) and breast pain got much worse that evening and for the following 3/4 days (felt really swollen, tingly and sensitive to touch). Then breast pain stopped around 16dpo and I had a negative test with FMU at 17dpo. I also did 2 digital tests morning of 16dpo but both showed as 'error'! I had thought maybe the faint line at 12dpo was a false positive but the breast pain was so much more intense than what's usual for me (just slight tenderness usually) so that coupled with the positive just seemed too much of a coincidence.

[quote Elsbeth1]@zeromango I can defo see a line and most of the time when people post pictures I can't see anything haha
Fingers crossed for you!

My AF came today so I guess I'm on a 31 day cycle!
I went crazy and brought like £200 worth of fertility stuff lol
I brought the Proceive female vitamins, FertilMan male vitamins, Conceive Plus Fertility Lubricant and Clearblue Advanced Fertility Monitor & Refill Test Sticks
Anyone have any experience with any of these?[/quote]
Lol that's a lot! No experience from me sorry, I use pregnacare conception vitamins and cheap opks. But let us know how you get on with them and good luck for your next cycle 😊

@Elsbeth1 there is definitely something there, I might need to take a better photo. Just praying it sticks and hope AF doesn't arrive, definitely trying not to think about it too much at the moment!

Oh wow!! I hope it all works for you - Highly recommend the Conceive plus lube it was excellent, no scent and really good consistency, not sure what size you bought but the smallest tube has lasted, hardly seemed to have used any. I also use the seven seas conception vitamins, however it seems they work or they make peoples cycles longer there doesn't seem to be any in between. DP isn't taking anything as he can't swallow tablets bless him  but id be really interesting in hearing if they make a difference! Zinc on its own can be really helpful for male fertility too.

So sorry to hear about that @hullaballoo19 that must've been so heartbreaking. That's the same as me at the moment boobs are so so sore. My history of MCs has always made it hard to get excited anyway so until I miss AF I won't be counting anything just yet. Keeping everything crossed for you this month!

@zeromango it actually wasn't heartbreaking for me. It was definitely disappointing and I had a little cry, but it was so so early so I hadn't even got to the point of truly 'believing' I was pregnant yet anyway. But of course I'd still like to avoid having that disappointment again

And it certainly can't compare to having miscarriages, you have my deepest sympathies ❤️ I really really hope this sticks for you

Thank you @hullaballoo19! Glad you weren't upset by the chemical, but it must have been a bit pants still. They were years ago now but still get little "what if" pangs! Friday is creeping ever closer. Just going to see if I can defrost my chocolate hot cross buns in the microwave (supposed to be eating better, oops) I know how to party! Are you still persevering with the pineapple?!

Enjoy your buns 😊 I have indeed been persevering with the pineapple! Now have a little pineapple stash at work 😆 but I am about to eat some dessert flavoured fruit pastilles I discovered earlier!

No increase in my breast tenderness, feels like usual pms boobs. But Friday's not too far away so we shall see...

How is everyone today?