November 2007- going through, been through or ttc after mc, still positive and still eating cakes

[grinningbee]

Here we are then, if it worked!

A nice new shiney thread to fill up with gorgeous cakes.

I'll start with a gooey sticky pecan pie at got at the W.I market yesterday morning

Oh GB I am glad it isnt just me who is going slightly insane. If you had BFN following MC then all traces of previous pregnancy have gone. Any BFP now will be from a new pregnancy.

I was right. TEW is making an appearance. I had actually convinced myself I was pregnant this time. My breasts were so sore, just like when I am pregnant. Still sore today!
Can anyone please tell me why it has to be this way. Why can it not be simple. Sperm meets egg. Egg gets comfy. Mum gets big tummy. Baby arrives 40 weeks later.
There simple.

Ronshar, CD1, TTC#3, MC, Mar,Oct07.

Hugs Ronshar, so sorry

I wish it was that simple for all of us and feel irrationally annoyed for those for whom it is that simple, which is bad of me I know. I keep thinking back to when I was so naive when I first got pg and thinking I'll never be so unconcernedly happy agan

Claire I know what you mean. When I had both of my DDS I was so innocent even though I had worked in labour/antenatal unit. I had absolutely no idea about the pain and trauma that some women had to go through just to get into the unit in the first place.
I shall never take a pregnancy for granted ever again. Thats assuming I get pregnant again.

Hugs to you Ronshar.

I know just what you mean. I think I have convinced myself that I am possibly pg, but I'm sure it's just AF. I guess I will find out in the next few weeks.

I must admit, I also look at people who are pg and wonder if they just fell, or if they went through similar to us.

I read on msn this morning about kerry katona...grrrrr. She is still smoking and drinking after she thought she had an mc for goodness sake!!!!

Anyway. I'm not going to get bitter.

We just had a call from DH's consultant, and it looks as though the treatment is working. There are no new cancer cells being produced, so he's having a huge dose of treatment this week to kill off anything there now. Then it's fingers crossed for a good result next week.

The consultant said he's not out of the woods yet, but he is "dancing on the verge"!. I'd raise a glass in celebration but I daren't! (He just took a swig from the Jack Daniels bottle after putting the phone down... lol).

Grinningbee Fantastic news about your husband! I'm really pleased for you both. I'm also still keeping my fingers crossed that you are pg - perhaps it's just really early and not all the tests are picking it up? Keep testing!
Ronshar So sorry TEW has made an appearance. I was also very naive when I got my BFP - I thought that was the major hurdle over and that I'd be holding my baby 8 months later... I now know it doesn't work that way. I too wonder how many women have had mc - another friend I spoke to the other day said she'd had one before her first DC. I didn't know her then but it seems to happen to so many people and yet people don't talk about it. We will be pg again, we have to keep believing that.
Hope everybody else is OK.

Hi everyone. You know i said we were trying again, well we tried once and i appear to be pregnant already. Test has a faint line but i am really worried now in case i am not and the molar has grown back and i don't know who to ring or talk to. HELP

grinningbee great news about your hubbie!

Crici I found the same thing, eg told my mentor at work about mc and she told me she had one then 2 healthy pregnancies. Like you say it just isn't talked about.

Lou congrats but also can see why you are worried, don't know very much at all about molar I'm afraid, I recommend you go round to doctor today if you can get booked in. Far better for you than sitting worrying. If you can't get booked in ring gynie unit you were treated at?

thanx claire got docs app for tonight x

Good luck with it Lou hope he can put your mind at ease and let us know how you get on.

griningbee - it certainly looks good if you have had a negative after the mc, with my ebay cheapies I had v v v v faint lines but I did one last night and it was definately a lot stronger. Go get a Clearblue digital now and come back and tell us. Great news about your hubby as well x

ronshar - about AF turning up, it's such a lottery this ttc business, the month before last I had positive on the opks, had loads of sex at the right time, BFN, this month had less sex BFP, it's so strange how sometimes it takes sometimes it doesn't. Anyway onwards and upwards for that August babe.

Lou - I agree I would phone the EPU or where you had your molar and see what they recommend.

grinningbee Great news about DP. Lets hope the good news just keeps on coming for you and everyone else here.

My daily dose of MN has made me feel so much less alone. Had a pants day today. Irrationally irritated and angry with the world and everyone in it. Totally agree re: Kerry Katona. Everyone just seemed so insensitive today. Although it is probably just me being overly sensitive !

Pregnant friend came in to pick up her maternity uniform from my office today and totally avoided/blanked me. I know she is trying to be nice but made me feel awful !

Looks like I'm not the only one who is feeling a bit low today so big hugs to you all - think big cakes also in order.

Leaving a plate FULL of fresh cream choix buns for you all to help yourselves.

Ronshar - sorry about af
grinningbee - great about dh; lets hope it's not af but more good news
teehee - I don't think your friend blanking you helps at all. Just makes you feel like a social leper Yum, cakes, thanks!
Lou - great news -GOOD LUCK at drs!!!

Feling even more pants and ,frankly, irrational today.
Is it cos my edd would have eben in a couple of weeks - and 3 of my friends have dates booked for sections/inductions over the next 3 weeks, which makes me feel even more strongly, what i'm missing? or am i just losing my grip even more?
How was it so easy when i just got pg by accident with dd and had nothing more traumatic than bad sickness??

a

alittlebit Sorry to hear that you are not feeling any better and yes I would think the events of the next few weeks are upsetting you - you'll get though it.

I don't think my friend really did it on purpose but yes I did feel like a social lepar.

LovelyLou I do hope its a BFP for you and your DH. You have waited for so long you deserve it for your patience. Let us know what your doctor said and then we can pop open a bottle of champers.

ALBS I got very irrational and paranoid and sometimes quite unpleasant when it was my EDD. Looking back now I realise that I really didnt help myself at all. I focused so much on what I had lost and forgot to keep those I already had close to me. You will get through this time and come out the other side a much stronger person. Once the EDD has passed you may find it a little bit easier to move on. It feels easier for me, but I am aware that we are all different. That doesnt mean that I dont think unkind thoughts when I see pregnant ladies. Why are they everywhere???

GB Fantastic news about DH. Fingers crossed treatment is soon finished with.
It would appear I was being a little previous this morning! I had a small bit of old brown blood(TMI)but now nothing all afternoon.
I am now officially confused and I am going on strike. My body is going to be dealt a good talking too and then I am going to send me to my bedroom!
Hello to every body else, hope all is ok.
Did ILTS get a confirmed BFP I cant remember and where is she? Probably eating sausage quietly in her bedroom!

Evening all.

Thinking we might start ttc again this week. Do you think 2 weeks after a m/c is too early? My mum thinks we should wait until I have a period...? I feel great physically, now, and if we're going to do it, why use contraception? (sorry if tmi!)

ronshar - those bloody internet cheapo tests are devilish! The first few months of ttc I think I got through 5 every month. I think one month I did about 8 . I've come to the conclusion it's a waste of time. My new rule is that I don't test until I am at least 2 days late. Hard, though!

Everyone going through the dreaded 2ww - Good luck! A few (almost) Christmas pregnancy announcements around here would be lovely

meant to say I feel physically great

loveangel - I think the only reason they say wait until you have a proper period is for dating reasons but chances are once you have a scan tehy change your EDD anyway, if you feel ready go for it.

I would echo the ebay cheapies, this was my experience last week

9dpo 3 days before AF due - BFN
11dpo 1 day before AF due - v v v v faint line
12dpo day AF due - v v v faint line, BFP on CBD

few days later still a faint line, last night peed on one and a bold line I think they are good IF AF is late, rubbish for impatient Annie's like me.

sorry ive not been on, been having problems with dp and hes erm....moved out! then on top of that ive been having quite heavy brown bleeding today and on top of that..

my mums next door neighbours went away to holland for the weekend as he is into rally car driving and she enjoys it too so went along to watch. Well on saturday he was a co-driver and the car flipped and he ended up in intensive care, by sunday he had got a bit better and today he passed away from major head injuries. I dont understand how it happened with all the anti roll bars and helmets etc but it has and my poor neighbour went to enjoy a weekend away with her husband and now has to come home alone he was only in the garage with my dad and dp last week messing with the mini my dad brought to do up. I lived next door to him for 16 years before i moved out and still saw him nearly every day, its such a shock!

Bloody hell ILTS your poor thing you are going through it, hope things work out with your DP and you get through this.

whats happened jules?

I'm around jules, I think it's only natural you have had a great high now you have come crashing down. You just got to stay positive hard I know, you were given temporarily custody of those little mites who were too fragile and beautiful to walk on this earth but were given as a gift to someone so special as to love them with everything they have for a short period of time. I do believe that.

You will be a great Mummy one day I'm sure, keep coming one here rant scream if you have to as load as you want. When you do have a LO in your arms you will treasure him or her so much more as you have been through so much to have them.

IT'S NOT F FAIR used to work for me.

I wish my words could comfort you more I feel pretty useless as I know how much you are hurting (((((((((hugs)))))))))

omg that was so insensitive of me obviously i know ats happened i just thought something else had happened, im so sorry

jules! - big hugs to you - hope you are okay.its been such a rollercoaster, as kitty says. lots of positive vibes to you, lady.

ilts -so so sad. i am sorry, you must be shocked. hope everything is going well with you otherwise.

sweetkitty - you are lovely. how are you doing? things going well?

loveangel - we started having sex a week after the d&c. i think your body knows what it is doing and if you feel okay, then do it. good luck!

grinningbee - yay! so happy that your hubby is almost out of the woods and hope that you get a undisputable bfp in the next few pees!

teehee - its weird how some people react, isn't it. i mean, of course it would have been painful too if she came over and gave you a massive hug and a few nice words but i think so much better than that shifty, evasive embarassed way. northern europeans - we just don't know how to do that warmth thing very well sometimes. anyway, hope you are doing good this week. its a weird place to be right now, but it gets better.

cricri - i totally agree with this stigmatism about mentioning mc. its weird. but on the other hand, i have had a few danes talk about these to me and it was a little bit too cavalier for where i was at right then, if you know what i mean. you don't want people to be flippant about it, when you are still in the throes of that emotional turmoil. but i have decided to be really open about it.

ronshar! i am gutted that tew turned up and ruined the party this month. #ollocks, is all i can say. unless - its just implantation . . . . .keep us posted please.

i am writing this from my bed - having a "working at home" day, as couldn't face a room full of twattish male advertising cliches today. also i have my 'fanny physio' this morning, then acupuncture and finally my scan at 4pm. wish it was the other way round . . . .

sorry, haven't had chance to catch up on everything

Jules, I hope you're feeling a bit beter this morning. I think that it all feels like a big rollercoaster anyway after mc, ok 1 minute, in tears the next - so agree with SK, it's probably a big down after you've had such a big up the last few days. Look after yourself, try and find something to do to treat yourself, even if it's just a long deliciously scented bath. And come on here and vent your feelings if that helps.

ILTS, sorry to hear what you're going through, and understand a bit how you're feeling as experiened both sudden unexpected death (my mum) this year and having relationship issues too.

Tjuice, hope scan and the physio goes well (tell us what the physio involved if not too embarrassing!!)

Ronshar, maybe it's not af after all. Hope so for you

Hope everyone else ok. I have decided that my way to be less upset at the sight of pg ladies is to think that maybe they've been through mc too, or probs ttc.