TTC 35+ Thread 5 Cougar and Silver Fox Club

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@selina37 we are actual cycle twins 👯‍♀️ 😅 I’ve tried different things in different cycles but always resorted back to every day of fw as my logic is the more sperm there is the more chance there is. Who knows?! 😅 I’m not even going to try this month will enjoy dtd as and when I like and no tracking- enjoying Christmas is coming first this time and I will regroup in the New Year with more effort! Sorry your af arrived too hoping for a new year bfp for you 🙏 and everyone else on here!

Thanks @Overlyanxious. I'm not feeling very hopeful, after 8 months of nothing it seems so unlikely that it will be any different this month. Have my fingers crossed for everyone else though! 🤞

@Loladoodle we actually are 🤗
Good idea to just enjoy Christmas at the moment! It's been a tough year so we deserve it xxx

I’m waiting for AF to arrive, was due yesterday. But my cycle has been all out ☹️ Last cycle I had was only 2 weeks after the previous one! I got worried so went to GP as worried it was something to do with the D&C I had a few months ago. Blood tests were normal, she referred me for a scan, scan result normal. So what’s the bet having a period 2 weeks after the previous one, I now won’t get one for about 6 weeks.. 🤦🏻‍♀️🙄 I did take a HPT test on Sunday which was negative so know I’m not pregnant this cycle. Boobs are getting tender which is normal for me prior to AF arriving so she mustn’t be far away.. going to just enjoy the Christmas season and try to relax and have fun ☺️

Forgot to mention, when I saw the GP she mentioned there’s a small possibility it could be the start of peri-menopause.. 😱😱 but she then said not to worry, you can still get pregnant if you are peri-menopausal.. anyone have any experience with peri-menopause? I’m 37..

@Farfaraway1 was it or the bleed before a full on period? Could it have been something to do with ovulation? Some women get bleeding around then due to the sudden drop of oestrogen right before ovulation...

Got my bfp approx 14 dpo ( not sure when I ovulated tbh) Af is 5 days late - this has been a long anxious wait! 🤪 xx

@MgW1 fab news!!! 🎉 congratulations 👏 so much good news this thread it’s great to see! ❤️🙏

Wow @MgW1 brilliant news!!! Congratulations!!! What a fantastic Christmas gift!!!

Thank you , i thought evening primrose had spoilt my chances but I think it helped xx

@MgW1 this is wonderful news, congratulations!xx

@MgW1 you'll have to tell your acupuncturist they were right!

@MgW1 massive congratulations!!!!!!!

Thank you ladies 🥰
Still early days , don't want to get too excited with last one ending in mc but its certainly a positive step. Got everything crossed now , my husband will be overjoyed he can have a few extra beers , im gona treat my self to some minty hot choc 👍🏻 xx thanks for your support xx

I think I'm about 10/11/12 dpo now. Took a premom hcg test this morning - bfn. I knew it would be negative, thought that if I saw a negative test it might stop me from thinking about ttc all the time! Have been obsessing even more than usual this cycle, I think skipping the opks and not knowing my ov date made me feel more out of control than usual, have spent a ridiculous amount of time staring at my bbt chart 🤦‍♀️ So looks like I'm out this cycle, oh well, it'll be a boozy Christmas for me then! Am going to chill out over Christmas and then in January start researching other options like acupuncture and private fertility clinics. I don't want to rush into fertility treatments as I'll only be at 9 months trying by then, but just want to know what my options are. I'm on the waiting list for the nhs fertility clinic but no idea when I'll get an appointment or what they'll be able to offer me. All our initial tests so far have come back normal, but I'm starting to lose faith now that it's going to happen naturally for us.

@Farfaraway1 I'm also 37 and was told from my bloods I'm peri menopausal ☹️ had a retest and they were fine this time round so non the wiser really. She said they can fluctuate month on month and that's why they retest to make sure.
I've had regular 24 day cycles up until this cycle which was just 17 days. We have male infertility issues so are now going private for IVF/ICSI in the new year so I'll guess I'll find out more then xx

@MgW1 congratulations lovely news 🥰

@Farfaraway1 I haven't been told by anyone that I was peri menopausal, but it has crossed my mind a few times this year as I've had some irregular cycles as well. If you had only 2 weeks between bleeds then it's probable that you didn't ovulate that cycle. Do you track bbt at all? It's useful for knowing whether you ovulated or not. If you've got sore boobs that's a good sign that you've ovulated that cycle.
I had four bleeds within 2 months in Jan/Feb this year. This was pre-TTC so I did not know what I know now about ovulation, I just knew it was not normal for me. My cycles became regular again in March, but then it happened again in August - 2 bleeds within 5 weeks. This time I was tracking bbt so I know what happened - I didn't ovulate when I should have, and by day 20 I guess my uterine lining gave up waiting and I had a withdrawal bleed, which if I wasn't temping I would have assumed was a period. Then I had another bleed 22 days after that - but I saw my temp go up so I knew that I had ovulated and the second bleed was a real period. My cycles have been regular again since Sept so I really hope that this isn't going to become a regular occurrence.

@MgW1 yay! Absolutely brilliant 🥰

Hello everyone( its being awhile since i last posted), congratulations on all the wonderful bfp's.
No change here things are hectic atm.
Count down to my bday 😀
AF also due on my bday 🙄

Sending positive energy to you all 🤗

@MgW1 congratulations - I’m so pleased for you and I will keep my fingers crossed it sticks

@Overlyanxious
Hi ! I did another test a few days later and it was a bit fainter. I think i am going crazy! Ditched the tests in the bin. Im so anxious. My hubby said I hadnt done the second test properly because I had already got up to do first wee then went back to bed and then when i got up at 7:30 I did the test then so I dont know. How are you doing? Have you had your second appointment yet? X

hi ladies I am nervously joining you all. I am 37 and shall be TTC from Jan currently on CD1 so going to enjoy Christmas and all the cheese and wine then try in Jan x

@strawberryfields4eva
Welcome! Absolutely enjoy plenty of wine after this crap year.... 🤞🏻 crossed for you xx

@MgW1 ah that’s confusing - good plan to ditch the tests for the moment. I’m ok thanks - my consultant appointment is 7 Jan so not too far away.