TTC 35+ Thread 5 Cougar and Silver Fox Club

[claireb7rg]

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I 100% get you as I have a feeling I’ll have another MMC as I did before having my first, no reason to think I will but I won’t be surprised and I’ll be booking an early scan just in case!

@Pamparam when I (hopefully) get pregnant again I’ll also be getting an early scan as petrified of another MMC. I feel a bit in limbo at the moment as still waiting on my period even although it’s been 5 weeks since the miscarriage. I know they say 4-6 weeks but I’m so impatient and just want to start TTC again.

Welcome @bubblybrit! So sorry to hear about your MMC 💐 It's hard not to worry about your age, but there are plenty of ladies on this thread age 35+ and 40+ who have got pregnant. Fingers crossed 2021 is your year! 🤞

@bubblybrit sorry I should have phrased that slightly differently - I meant that plenty have had successful pregnancies. Sadly I am very aware that getting pregnant isn't the final hurdle ❤

Ladies I've been looking into acupuncture, but unfortunately they are only taking on "urgent" cases at the moment during the lockdown. They've suggested I might want to try Chinese herbs in the meantime. Has anyone tried them?

Just catching up after trying to calm myself down over the weekend! I did indeed have a glass of wine when AF arrived. Stopped short of drowning my sorrows, and am now back on the waggon.

@bubblybrit - I too have put a silly timescale on conceiving & giving birth before the end of 2021! Too much pressure - I just need to plod on for a bit longer.

Thanks all for the advice RE my last cycle length. I'm going to see how I get on this month with BBT and OPK, and pay more attention to my cervix position and CM. Basically get to know myself a bit better so that I have some details if/when I do speak to my GP.

I started taking my temp when AF arrived, and was surprised to see how high it is - A pretty steady 99.1F and now I'm on day 4 that's dropped down to 98.6F. I haven't done this before so I don't really know what i'm looking for apart from the drop to indicate I may have just ovulated, so i'll look out for that.

It has been really interesting to read about the fertility appointments as well. Thanks so much for sharing your experiences and I am rooting for you all. xx

Oh I forgot to mention - I was only taking Folic Acid before, but have started on Pregnacare Conception and also an extra boost of 1000mg vitamin C per day, as I have read it can lengthen the luteal phase. My wee is an interesting hue...like a hi-vis vest!

@Kitekat81 10 weeks is pretty good actually. we had our initial tests in the summer and they said they were fine so we carried on trying. I should have asked for a referral then but I didn’t because I’m an idiot so now getting one is proving a headache (my periods decided to go whacky in the autumn onwards which was not expected but here we are).

Shame about the acupuncture, I hadn’t thought of that being delayed too.

@TTCat39
We are at same stage with our cycle , I am on CD4 and I had quite a few wines at the weekend! Feeling more positive now. Are you the lady who recommended the pink clear blue opks? I have ordered some to try this time xx

Hello @MgW1 !
I’m pleased to have a cycle mate . Thanks for your support so far - you are a fountain of knowledge!
Yes, I suggested the pink CB OPKs. I had a mishap with one this morning (I know it’s too early in the cycle to ovulate but I feel better when I distract myself!) - has to get up for a wee at 6.30ish and bleary eyed I peed on it before putting it in the device. Silly woman.
My AF does this annoying but predictable dance of 3 days on, one day off, one day on. I’m on the one day off at the moment, so i’ll likely keep going with the OPK now until I get a smiley face. Here’s hoping anyway!

Thanks @Kitekat81. That’s reassuring that some ladies on this thread have went on to have successful pregnancies. The EPU did say that many woman go on to have a successful pregnancy after a miscarriage but I also know quite a few people that have had multiple miscarriages. No reason to think it will happen to me but still at the back of my mind. Guess I need to remain positive....would probably be more positive if AF arrived sooner rather than later! How are you getting on? Sorry I joined the thread late and haven’t read all the previous posts.

@TTCat39. I don’t know why I’ve applied this pressure to myself. Think it’s cos I expected to have a 5 month old by Dec 2021! Just need to take it a day at a time but easier said than done.

@TTCat39
I just seem to like peeing on sticks so I would be the same too! I usually have 30 day cycle so il try at day 12 I think cos wold like to make them.last 2 months if not lucky this time. How long have you been trying ? Xx

@TTCat39
I can spell really , I am terrible for typos 🤣!!

@TTCat39 it's great to get in practice taking your temp, but your temps during AF aren't actually the interesting bit! I usually give myself a break in temping during AF. Have you got an app to put your temps into? It's very satisfying when you start seeing your chart emerge, then you can spend hours staring at it trying to see any signs that you might be pregnant! 😄 I use the Premom app and am very happy with it, but I know quite a lot of people like to use the Fertility Friend app.

@TTCat39 @MgW1 I'm on CD4 as well ☺️

@Kitekat81
Ah good i like to know if there are others at same stage ... good to have support through TWW 😊 hope you are well xx

Thanks for the egg info @Kitekat81 - I’m going to give it one more cycle (2 days late - so annoying that AF decides to faff around) and then I’ll have an read of the book you mentioned.

I’ve just ordered his and her’s Proceive vitamins on Holland and Barrett. They’ve got 25% off and then an extra 20% off on top so think it’s a good price. I’ve only been taking folic acid - hoping a wider ranging multivit might improve my energy levels at the very least.

@Kitekat81 wow that's amazing, but yeah, I'd feel the same re: going private! Where are high currently at cycle wise?

@GuessHowMuch how did your scan go? Any sign of AF yet?

@bubblybrit hey familiar face! 😘

@MgW1 I'm waiting for my cycle to kick in! I feel like there's a ovulation-AF war occurring with me atm! 🤪 Not had my first period since MMC yet - hopefully soon! 🤞🏻

@TTCat39 let me know if you have any joy with CM and position! I feel like it's a dark art! 🤣 You can get lots of fluctuations with BBT! The main thing is looking for big dips and increases! 😃

🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻 to those in the TWW!!!

@Kitekat81 clearly I can't type this morn! 🤦🏻‍♀️ where are you at cycle wise is what I meant to say! 🤣

Had an ultra sound and my reproductive organs seem to be in good shape.... well thats a relief 🤪.... just need a sticky bean now 🤞🏻🤞🏻 im all over it this month 💪xxx

@Kitekat81 - Yes, I have been using an app to track AF for the past 10 years or so so I have turned on the TTC setting and have been charting on the graph. It's called Period Tracker (GP Apps) and has input for OPK / CM / CO etc. Glad to hear you are also same CD as me!

@M4v3r1ck - Yes, I am not convinced about CM and position tracking either! I'll give it a go.

How much vit d does 'it starts with an egg recommend'? X

@MgW1 was it the transvaginal scan you had? Were the results detailed? I have one booked later in the month and won't lie, I'm fretting about what they'll say.

@thislittlebird
No just abdominal, i have to go back for transvaginal because i was still on my period. However , she did not see anything concerning or obvious so need not worry. What are you worried about? Xx