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Fuck you TTC

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painintheholeSIL · 31/01/2020 07:45

Today should be day one of my period. No sign. We've been ttc dc2 since summer 2018. I don't have any tests in the house. I'm trying not to symptom spot, I haven't told anyone in real life that we're trying.
Our son is almost 4. I'm desperate to give him a sibling. I adore him. He's amazing.

But I am aching to have another baby. People keep asking when we're going to and we just laugh off the questions. They hurt. Every one of them hurts. I suppose I'm just looking for people who understand.

Every single thread I look at in relation to this ends up full of BFPs and I'm just not in the space where I can read those and not feel devastated.

So Fuck you to TTC.
Fuck you to months off slightly delayed periods
Fuck you to every fucker that asks me every time they see me if I have any news
Fuck you to the whole fucking lot of it.

Anyone care to add theirs?

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bitheby · 03/04/2020 23:40

@TigerJoy

Big hugs. It's a shitty situation.

Skyla01 · 04/04/2020 08:43

Fck you fcking folic acid. Taking a pill every morning for months and months and months for no f*cking reason!

@TigerJoy that is really awful. I'm sorry.

Sammy1012 · 04/04/2020 12:01

Fuck you AF for returning again today after a 2 days flow, 3 day gap - WTF does that even mean? :(

gypsywater · 04/04/2020 12:05

Really pissing me off the women on MN who HAVE kids already telling those without to wait due to COVID. Fuck off! As if.

Sammy1012 · 04/04/2020 14:47

@gypsywater yeah I mean to be fair I have a child too but fuck off to waiting this time round with DH, my DS is 18 I’m 38 - it’s so low chance each month even at peak fertility anyway as a 25yo so just keep going ladies I say!

Just throwing caution to the wind and being fucking selfish as I don’t really think it’s going to happen anyway! (DH and I both NHS workers so no one gonna lecture me or guess what they can do.... yep you guessed it - fuck off!)

AliSxo · 04/04/2020 15:45

@gypsywater OMG ignore them bunch of idiots! All well and good them preaching, I'm continuing to TTC and that's my choice xx

gypsywater · 04/04/2020 19:54

Damn straight! Its pissing me off every time I see people saying it...as if THEY would have waited!

RobinRose · 04/04/2020 20:12

@gypsywater glad I’m not the only one who has found these comments bloody irritating!

gypsywater · 04/04/2020 20:14

I will be challenging them next time I see them. I actually think they're awful!

AliSxo · 04/04/2020 21:06

@gypsywater do it!! Tag us all in 😂 xxx

gypsywater · 04/04/2020 23:48

A whole thread on it now...vile Angry

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PainintheholeSIL · 05/04/2020 19:18

@gypsywater Jesus Christ. I've read the advice about not ttc now too but fuck that. I'm absolutely not going to stop trying. Can you link that thread?

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Yutes · 08/04/2020 06:29

I had an awful dream where I did a pregnancy test, which was positive. Wanted to do another and it was negative. At least it was a dream. But wow.

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PainintheholeSIL · 08/04/2020 10:48

@Yutes Thanks

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zoomies1 · 08/04/2020 11:45

Fu*k you to MMC no. 2 last week and being back on these boards (but thanks for being here guys!)

Fu*k you to not being able to have the fertility tests done because everything is on stop due to C-19 (yes I know there are bigger problems out there)

Fu*k you to Teams conference calls where people's children keep popping in to say hi

Fu*k you to every call having someone say 'oh yes, I'm pregnant too' Of course you bloody are

Fu*k you to Teams calls which finish with 'oh while we have been on the phone I've just got this message to say so and so has had
their baby - look at the cute photos'

Fuk you to that stupid Facebook thing where mum's pat themselves on the back by posting a photo of their kids and nominating others to do the same - smug basards.

Fu*k you so called friends who I actually told about my MMC and then didn't even bother getting in touch for a week! Because obviously they are both pregnant as well. But I will be expected to be there with flowers and presents, and I didn't even get a 'how are you?'

Sorry - still in the angry phase and having a bad day!

PurpleDaisies · 08/04/2020 11:51

Fuck you to that stupid Facebook thing where mum's pat themselves on the back by posting a photo of their kids and nominating others to do the same - smug bastards

It’s awful isn’t it. There’s nowhere to escape from it. All my WhatsApp threads are the same.

zoomies1 · 08/04/2020 12:05

Oh yeah and...

Fuck you to the woman who cries about being pregnant in the office because she can't afford to have a baby even though SHE WAS TRYING TO GET PREGNANT

Fuck you to being made redundant this year and not knowing whether to take a demotion so I would still qualify for benefits if I got pregnant again

Fuck you to DH's three - yes three colleagues who announced they were all accidentally pregnant with unwanted pregnancies aged 42+

Icouldstillbejoseph · 09/04/2020 12:31

Fuck you to the sudden proliferation of 'line eyes' threads that are so completely, blatantly, obviously fucking positive.

I know that's unfair of me. I shouldn't even click on them, but it feels like it it the only fucking way I'm going to see 2 lines on a test

Icouldstillbejoseph · 09/04/2020 12:37

And while I'm here fuck you to my spotting which heralds another failed month.

Fuck off
Fuck off
Fuck off

There's a chance I have PMT rage

BabyMoonPie · 12/04/2020 15:12

Today's fuck you (probably repeating my earlier post) is to PMT. It's supposed to be a 2 week wait but 1 week in I start with horrendous PMT and know that's it. Maybe I should be grateful the hope doesn't linger for a full 2 weeks but I'm feeling too pained and sorry for myself for that

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PainintheholeSIL · 13/04/2020 14:18

@BabyMoonPie I'm sorry for you. It's shit.

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BabyMoonPie · 13/04/2020 19:57

@PaininthewholeSIL thanks. I hate that TTC makes me so bitter and angry

Sonia2810 · 13/04/2020 20:11

Hi hope everyones well im the same, i have 3 children my eldest is severley disabled. We have decided to try for another one nearly a year ago with no luck. As we are always busy and tired its becoming a chore doing it at the right time rather than just enjoying things and seeing what happens. Im 35 this year so it worries me if it takes a few year than im going to be going onto 40 and higher risk of down syndrom when i already have a disabled child. Me and hubby have started taking procieve his and hers. Has anyone else took and supplements that have helped xx

TigerJoy · 15/04/2020 23:36

Never rains but it pours

My absolute best friend ever has just told me she's pregnant. She was super considerate about how she told me.

I am thrilled for her and simultaneously my whole body feels like an open wound. Have already chosen a blanket I'll knit for the baby and bought the wool.

Sorry I have noone else I can say such an ungenerous thing. I really AM happy for her but I also just feel such pain and despair at the same time.

Christ this is shit, isn't it?

I just keep telling myself that people can get accustomed to all sorts of things. I am sure I will get used to this. I honestly don't feel like I have a chance now (doc says less than 2%) and I'm just trying to get that thought settled. But then some little part of me thinks...but what if?

I've always been such a hopeful person but I think that this is not serving me well and maybe if I'd been less hopeful I would have got my arse in gear about ttc earlier. But then it feels so sad to lose that part of me.

BabyMoonPie · 16/04/2020 07:18

@TigerJoy 💐 I know how hard it is to stay positive but all we can do is keep trying