TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 34 - huddle up and bring on the BFP's

[BunnytheBlueWhale]

Welcome to the 🐧 huddle. This a safe place to give and receive support for everyone who has experienced the loss(es) of a pregnancy or baby. Pregnancy and child loss is one of the most difficult things we can experience and it can also be the most lonely time too. I hope you find this thread to be of some comfort.

I have found so much comfort from the lovely ladies on this thread and I’m hoping for lots of BFPs in 2020!

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@mrsmb03 mines happened at the weekend on the sunday evening. I ended up being off work for 8 weeks in total. I am so sorry this is happening to you. Sending you a massive hug.

@tmc14 I hope this is your month hun. We also had a proper babydance about 6 days before ovulation. I thought it was too late to count too but now after reading your posts we might be in with a chance too.
Ps dont worry about the syringe too much. As long as its dried properly then you should be ok.

Thanks @RR369 fingers crossed for us 🤞

It’s DH birthday tomorrow and he just said he hoped I might do a test tomorrow and surprise him

Err no pressure then

@mrsmb03 I had a MMC at 16 weeks. Found out at 16 week scan (complicated twin pregnancy).

I had 3 months off work in total. Felt like I needed to spend some time just being me. Not worrying about school work (teacher) or anything other than me and my family.

So I did a FRER just in case I have a nice surprise for DH for his birthday. Realised while I was waiting the 3 mins that I have a bit of spotting (TMI alert - just tiny bit of pink when wiping but probably AF coming) and it’s a BFN

I was a bit hopeful but never mjnd

@mrsmb03 I think you should take the time that you need if you can. My situation was different as I was already on maternity leave (I had a full term loss) when I had a MC at 5 weeks. I was due to go back to work a month later and went back as normal a few weeks after MC. It’s different for everyone, depends how much it involves physically and emotionally for you, whether your job allows you to take time off. But work isn’t the most important thing. I hope you have a good employer as it makes all the difference xx

Disappointed for you @BunnytheBlueWhale I hope your DH's birthday can take your mind off things 💐

Thanks @RR369 We’re not feeling. V celebratory for DH birthday as it’s a year this weekend since DD died so not sure we’re even going out but I’m ok and work is a good distraction

Distraction is good @BunnytheBlueWhale but I'm sorry you didn't get your bfp. Its easy to hide under a rock, just do whatever feels right for you both this weekend xx

Sorry if my last message was insensitive @BunnytheBlueWhale I'm sure nothing could be celebrated this week. You are an amazingly strong woman and your future children will be lucky to have you as a mum and role model xx

Thanks @SweetpeaMarigold

Thank you @RR369 and no you weren’t insensitive at all. It was quite nice give DH his gifts this morning. I do think it’s important to celebrate those we love who are with us. It’s too easy to focus on what we don’t have.

Hi just been reading through the thread I'm new to mums net. Sorry to hear about the struggles.
I have just turned 32 and had missed miscarriage at 16 weeks in July 2019, only found out when I went for a private early gender scan, then had to wait a week to be in hospital to be set off with pessaries for giving birth to a perfectly formed baby boy. There was no explanation apart from this wasn't meant to be. We were actively trying for 9 months for our baby boy after I had had a laproscopy for endometriosis.
It is now 6 months but just got ovulation tests and basal body temp thermometer and the apps but feel like I am getting obsessed. Hopefully we fall pregnant with our rainbow babies this year 🌈❤️💙.

@Trying2030 I’m so sorry you find yourself here but this is a v supportive thread. I am hopeful for 2020!

Sorry@BunnytheBlueWhale we r pulling for you out here!
@mrsmb03 I took 3 mos off and yesterday was my first day back. I took half day and will return only 3 days a week for now. I had preterm labor and our DS passed after 2 days he was born when I was 5.5 months along. It was so hard to go back! So much emotion! I kept trying to tell myself be positive but it was rough. Thankfully I didn’t get a lot of questions like when I first went out and got so many texts...anyhoo I did receive good news that my labs r nml and I can apply for IVF. DH and I r excited! It’s another little sliver of hope!

@Trying2020
I’m excited for 2020! Let’s all get BFP for Valentines Day!!

❤️ @Morganmom that would be lovely lol its also my partners birthday the day before.
@bunnythebluewhale thank you for welcoming xx

Hi guys, just popping back in, not caught up yet.

I'm sadly having a chemical 💔 miscarriage number 3. I just feel numb. Trying to focus on the fact that we did conceive this month so we may not need ivf after all. We've got our rmc follow up in a couple of weeks so that's a positive too.

Hope everyone is OK @BunnytheBlueWhale @Mumlili8 hope you both are well xx

I'm so sorry @mumlil9 ❤️💔 should've read before I posted. Sending lots of love x

Thanks @Morganmom @Trying2020 Hope you’re ok

@VenusStarr I’m so sorry. It is positive that you conceived again but so rubbish that you’re having your third loss. There’s nothing I can say but you know we’re here when you need us.

I’m struggling a little bit as it’s coming up to the anniversaries of my DD death this weekend and what would have been her first birthday next week and I’m just feeling a bit emotional and angry at the world. I feel like I expect more from people, including / especially those closest to me, and AF is here today too so I’m sure hormones are playing a part. I’m ok though xx

@VenusStarr I’m so sorry!

@Trying2030 sorry you are joining but you're very welcome. Here's to lots of BFPs and sticky beans this year.

@VenusStarr I'm sorry about your chemical but as you say it is positive you can get pregnant and hopefully your appointment will help.

@BunnytheBlueWhale I'm sorry you're struggling, it is understandable though with the anniversaries coming up. Big hugs.

AF arriving also sucks. She has struck for me too this afternoon so I'm out. Surprisingly she's a few days early. Before I was pregnant last year I had been regular 28 day cycles. Since losing DD my first proper cycle was 30 days and this one was 26. I know both are normal lengths and it's normal for them to be a bit irregular but I naively thought hoped they'd go straight back to 28 days after birth. It doesn't help not knowing what to expect but I need to accept it. Anyway onto another cycle I guess.

Thank you @BunnytheBlueWhale ❤️ I'm sorry you're struggling. I think it's completely understandable with your DD's anniversary coming up. Sending lots of love.

Thank you @Morganmom and @Shefliesonherownwings - sorry af arrived today, hope things settle soon.

I did say to dh we have to just keep going, we dtd every other day up until cd 17 (I ovulated on cd11 this cycle) and it clearly worked this time. Struggled quite a lot today with my ptsd symptoms - failing spectacularly with my therapy homework this week but I'm trying not to be too hard on myself.

@Shefliesonherownwings It might take your cycles a bit longer to settle down yet xx

Thanks @VenusStarr I do feel a bit better today as I’ve had some kind acknowledgement of DD from some friends and family today which is nice in a way. You should keep going if you feel like it and be kind to yourself xx

@VenusStarr I'm so sorry this happened to you again x 💔

Update hcg yesterday was 483 which is really low for 5+4. I've a scan in the morning but epu thinks ectopic or blighted ovum. Im still spotting and cramping. I feel so bad for DH, I've tried to tell him not to get excited but gp didn't help by says the doubling numbers is a good sign. I know in my heart this isn't going to work out but I can't stand hearing the sadness in his voice. I'm having nightmares from our 12 scan (the only pregnancy that made it that far) when the sonographer said I'm sorry I can't find a heartbeat and DH just said NO and crumbled. Also I keep dreaming about the gushing blood and waking up crying. I'm so not looking forward to tomorrow at all. I'm gutted I've not been able to enjoy any of this pregnancy at all.

Hi everyone,

I've been posting on the infertility chats but a lot of the stuff they talk about there is going over my head at the minute - for now I'm mainly just stuck in the cycle of ttc after one miscarriage and finding it very hard, as I'm sure we all are.

I'm 34, started ttc April 2018, conceived July 2019 but MMC naturally end of September (embryo 6 weeks). I don't know why it's taken us so long but I have large fibroids which I think are probably the reason - but I know I can implant because I did that one time.

This is month 5 post mc and I'm marginally less of an emotional wreck than I was the last few months. However I'm on CD24 of a 28 day cycle and these days are always so hard for me. I keep flip-flopping thinking I'm pregnant then thinking I'm not. I think I'm going to test tomorrow morning to put myself out of my misery, but think I'll be disappointed.

Glad to have found this thread - so many of you have stories I can identify with.

Anyone else on here pre-menstrual atm and going through that phase of waiting? xx