TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 34 - huddle up and bring on the BFP's

[BunnytheBlueWhale]

Welcome to the 🐧 huddle. This a safe place to give and receive support for everyone who has experienced the loss(es) of a pregnancy or baby. Pregnancy and child loss is one of the most difficult things we can experience and it can also be the most lonely time too. I hope you find this thread to be of some comfort.

I have found so much comfort from the lovely ladies on this thread and I’m hoping for lots of BFPs in 2020!

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[SomeBunnyovertheRainbow]

[SomeBunnyovertheRainbow]

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[SomeBunnyovertheRainbow]

Sorry you find yourself here @onedaysoonish This is a lovely group

[SomeBunnyovertheRainbow]

New thread 🐧

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/3913897-Penguin-huddle-TTC-after-pregnancy-loss-Thread-35-time-for-some-sticky-BFPs?watched=1

[peperethecat]

Hi @onedaysoonish, welcome to the thread. We'll need to start a new one soon as this one is filling up!

[onedaysoonish]

Hi can I join you ladies? TTC first baby. Had three miscarriages (all first trimester) but consultants seem to be hopeful. So I am hopeful too!

[BeetheQueenBee]

It’s probably good that you’re busy with work @VenusStarr so less time to worry and obsess which we all do from time to time. Some exercise might help but it’s really hard to start especially if you don’t feel like it. I don’t even want to go for a walk most days. Sometimes the biggest challenge is putting on my walking boots or gym clothes.

[peperethecat]

No, I won't have a scan until mid June (either first pregnancy scan or next ovulation scan).

I have a prescription for hormone testing so I think I might use that to get my progesterone levels checked tomorrow before I start the rest of my treatment.

[VenusStarr]

It sounds stressful @peperethecat, do you not have a scan to confirm ovulation? I naively assumed that a controlled ovulation would make things simpler. I hope you do get confirmation of ovulation 🤞

@BeetheQueenBee work is really busy at the moment and I actually feel really productive, it's like I'm investing all my energy into my work and once I've logged off, I'm spent. I do want to start adding in more physical activity as I do think that would help.

[peperethecat]

@VenusStarr I took the trigger shot on Friday night and then for the last couple of days I've been panicking because I haven't yet seen a clear temp rise. It's my first time taking the trigger shot so I don't know what to expect. Supposed to be testing on 1st June, but I also have to take two more half doses of Ovitrelle tomorrow and on Saturday, and it wouldn't surprise me if the HCG from the trigger shot was still hanging around in my system on 1st June. I've been doing daily cheapies and the second line is still very dark four days post shot, and that's before the top ups I have to do this week.

[BeetheQueenBee]

@Mumlili9 It’s one of those things with conflicting advice but the general gist seems to be that it’s ok to continue what you’ve been doing for a while as long as not professional athlete level. I don’t have a fertility specialist. That’s what you are all for 😂 Just kidding.

@VenusStarr I’ve been exercising since the lockdown started and it does help my mental health if nothing else. If anything I maybe need to put more effort into TTC. I meant to use CB OPKs this month (haven’t used them for a few cycles) and missed the day to start testing but have a load of OneStep tests I could use. Is there anything you can do so you don’t feel like TTC is taking over your life? Are you working at the moment? I have found just being busy at work helps me to feel like I’m not constantly thinking about TTC especially when it’s fertile week and then the 2WW.

[VenusStarr]

Good to see you @clitterratti, hope you're OK :)

@Mumlili9 are you still temping and using opks? Hope you ovulate soon. I'm just going into another fertile week - short cycles are a blessing and a curse - dh said we can properly try this cycle (no news from my clinic on the biopsy). Aiming for sperm meets egg plan 🤞

@peperethecat how did you get on with the trigger shot? Are you in your tww now?

@BeetheQueenBee I haven't done any serious exercise for a while now, I've completely fallen off the healthy wagon to be honest. I think if it helps your mental health to exercise, then carry on. I really feel like ttc has taken over my life, so having things that help you love your life can't be a bad thing.

Hope you're OK @FloDaffodil x

[Mumlili9]

@BeetheQueenBee thank you hun. As to exercise I think it's when your doing excessive exercise I think that it can hinder things but might be a question for a fertility specialist I 🤔 think

@frillyfucks yes it's really rather crappy, the last one was an ectopic and I lost my tube and gained 2 holes in my uterus. So struggling to be honest. 9 losses is enough. We are giving it one more go but if its another mc then that will be it for us.
Hello @VenusStarr and @clitterratti how are you ladies. Sorry to hear your still not better @VenusStarr

[clitterratti]

Hi Ladies! Just caught up!

Will post more tonight xx

[VenusStarr]

Good to hear from you @frillyfucks (like the new name) I'm pleased to hear that all is well with you. Hearing good outcomes definitely helps. After 3 losses now, I have been struggling a lot, but knowing that there is still hope is wonderful ❤️

I hope everyone is doing OK. Just picked up my third set of antibiotics, this rash is blummin stubborn. Hoping these clear it up 🤞

[frillyfucks]

Oh @Mumlili9 I'm sorry to see your number has gone up again, I'm so sorry you are still on this group xxx
Everything is very good with us thank you and @BeetheQueenBee for asking. I really am rooting for both of you, you so deserve happy endings to this journey xxxx

[BeetheQueenBee]

Ok no problem @Mumlili9 I will start a new one and then post the link.

I’m sure we’ve discussed this before but how do you all feel about exercise during fertile week / around the time of ovulation? Do you change anything? I do a moderate cardio class (online) about 3 x a week. It’s 30-60 mins of moderate to intense cardio but not HIIT. Most of the advice is that exercise is fine when TTC but I sometimes worry I will disrupt ovulation if doing good much...

[Mumlili9]

@BeetheQueenBee yes if you don't mind
And your right I can't give up I don't know what's in the future.

[BeetheQueenBee]

@frillyfucks It’s so lovely to hear from you and that you remember my baby girl ❤️. Thank you so much for kind words. This past year or so has been very tough but I have lots to be grateful for and I’m still hoping for my rainbow baby one day too 🌈 💗

I hope you are doing well too?

@peperethecat That all sounds positive🤞

@VenusStarr That sounds like a good listen. And @mumlili9 It is so easy to think the worst after a loss or having been through months or years of trying but none of us know what the future holds.

I don’t mind starting a new thread @mumlili9 if needed

[Mumlili9]

@frillyfucks hello hun how are you? Think I've had a name change since you were here. I used to be lilimum8, been here forever.
@VenusStarr what a lovely thought.


Well it's 2 days past my usual ovulation and lh is none existent. Not sure what my body is doing this time. Thing is I've got evil ovulation pain on both sides this cycle. I've been really bad with temping too. Plus I don't think getting horribly sunburnt 3 days ago helped much with my mood.

How is every one. We are going to have to think about a new thread soon too. Who wants to start a new one?

[VenusStarr]

I don't know if any of you like podcasts, but the comedian Kathryn Ryan has shared her experience of missed miscarriage on hers. I listened yesterday and I'd really recommend it. She talked about when her body held onto the pregnancy and then thinking of it from her baby's perspective and honestly, my heart broke. It was so beautiful and I've not thought about it in that way before, maybe the baby was scared and being with her felt safe 💔 but I like that sentiment. I've been so caught up in my body failing. It's helped me gain a different perspective.

[VenusStarr]

😔 I can relate to resenting my body @Mumlili9. I've bought a baby loss guide book which has some practical tips to processing things. My dh thinks I need more counselling but I'm tired of talking about it all.

I don't want to say it will happen as none of us know. But I do know that even if you ovulate from the bad side, you can still conceive as our tubes float around. But saying that, I think we're in similar mindsets, I almost feel like it's pointless thinking it could work because it gets my hopes up and then I feel worse when it hasn't worked and I feel silly for believing it could happen ❤️

[Mumlili9]

@VenusStarr sorry your not feeling better yet. I've never had shingles but I've heard that it's awful and painful. Hope this round of antibiotics does the trick.

I made the mistake of getting totally burnt in the garden yesterday very badly. I'm feeling very defeated today 😔