TTC 1st baby

[Tchelsea]

Hi All,

In the tww of my first cycle trying for my first baby.... learning so much reading through some of these threads! Would be lovely to have people to talk to that are going through the same thing!

@mrssunshinexxx Really sorry to hear that, large glass of wine for you!

It may take you a few months to conceive as I read somewhere you don't start ov straight away when coming off the pill anyway but the patch could be the same?

@ImMeantToBeWorking I definitely ovulated last month I could feel it just wasn't lucky enough to catch on month one but maybe June will be my month x

@als2912 hiya! It's my birthday on the 8th also. According to Flo, I can test on that day, but it's only 10 dpo so I think I might wait it out a little while longer! :)

Hi, hope everyone had a nice weekend? That's me in the dreaded TWW again, anyone else with me? I'm getting tests at the GP at the end of this week so hopefully we'll get good news.

@Goodyear2019 I have my fingers and toes crossed for you! At least you have your GP appointment shortly so can get the ball rolling. How are you feeling? x

Thanks @Danimarie I feel a bit 'meh' this month. I really don't expect to get a bfp since I haven't so far, I don't mean to sound negative but I've got my hopes up too many times before that I just expect AF to arrive now.
I feel a bit nervous about the tests, hopefully they'll show that there isn't anything wrong and we just need more time, or if there is a problem then it's something that can be easily fixed but I am a bit worried that they show something more serious. Trying not to think about it too much though as there's nothing I can do about it either way until the tests are done and results are back.
How are you feeling?

@Goodyear2019 It is a completely natural reaction on both accounts so I am not surprised you are feeling a bit rubbish. At least you know you have the tests soon so if there is something wrong then you are one step closer to getting your BFP. It will just make it even more special when you do get your BFP :) I think we do always think the worst don't we, it is a natural instinct - must be self preservation as we like to protect ourselves. Take your time to process it all, always here if you need a chat.

I am feeling ok thanks, tired but that is about it. I had some brown spotting this morning and I freaked out but it has stopped so I feel okay now...x

@Danimarie I think 'self preservation' is the perfect way to describe it. I know everyone says to think positive, but in a way its then even harder when AF arrives or you get a bfn.
Glad you're feeling ok. Have you had any scans or midwife appointments yet? I just realised that I don't even know what to do when you think you're pregnant, does the GP confirm it or do you wait to see a midwife? I've been so busy trying to get pregnant I've not thought about what happens when you get a bfp haha!

@LittleMissi birthday twins!!

@Goodyear2019 - I try to be such a positive person, I have even had people comment on how positive I am about everything. But it is so hard when it comes to TTC. I would love to be positive that we will get a BFP soon, but I just feel like we won't and it is devastating. I am still in the TTW, nearly over for me now though as AF due the 9th of June. I am going to be in my parents that morning so I won't even be able to test until when we get home Sunday afternoon!!

Hopefully the tests will come back as normal, or as you said something simple to fix. I will keep everything crossed for you!!

@Goodyear2019 where I live you call the doctors and they give you a number for the children's centre where you then go you don't need an appointment at the docs or hospital initially where I live x

@ImMeantToBeWorking I know what you mean, the more bfn's you get the more you just expect it.
How have you been feeling? Have you managed to avoid symptom spotting during your TWW?

My apps are predicting AF will arrive sometime between 12th & 14th so still a while to wait for me.

@LittleMissi happy birthday to you for then too! I'm still holding out from testing which is a miracle for me haha 😂 haven't got long now so I'm just going to stick with it and see if AF makes an appearance!

@Goodyear2019 I had a lovely weekend thank you I hope you did too 😊 I really hope the tests give you a clearer view of what's going on but like you said hopefully you just need more time or it's something that's easily fixed 🤞🏼

@ImMeantToBeWorking I 100% agree that it's hard to stay positive after a while of TTC, there's only so many times you can say oh it's ok we'll just try for next month without feeling more disheartened 👎🏼

AF is still saying due 7th/8th for me so not long to find out what's what this time round, I haven't felt much and haven't noticed any real symptoms so that might be a good sign as I normally feel when AF is due a couple of days before but I've still been trying not to think about it too much as the disappointment is frustrating!

Goodyear2019 no I have been doing no symptom spotting, I am not allowing myself. I was doing it and then AF was arriving. All I keep thinking is when I had the MC two years ago I didn't even know I was pregnant, and I was about 12 weeks. So I won't actually know really either way until I have a BFP.

@als912 it is, and getting harder the longer it goes on! Ah so it is getting really close for you, hopefully the rest of the time flies in. I am in two minds, I want to get FR tests and POAS on Friday or Saturday so I can tell DP on Saturday, but I am scared to aswell!! EEEK!!

I normally have tell tale signs that AF is coming too, nothing yet though!! 🤞🏼🤞🏼

Helloo! how's everyone doing? I'm not sure what's going on today I don't feel too great at all 👎🏼not sure if it's AF due to make an appearance any time now or if it's a start of a bug or maybe another more exciting reason!

sorry if tmi but wondering if anyone who's had a BFP before has had similar symptoms or if I should just prepare myself for a day of feeling rubbish for AF? Hot flushes, upset stomach (sorry tmi), very dry mouth and just a general feeling of uneasiness in my stomach 🙈 sorry if I sound very dramatic today just feeling a bit sorry for myself 😂

Ok so I'm out this month AGAIN 👎🏼

@als2912 sorry to hear that, hope you're feeling ok? I'm still in my TWW but don't feel any different to any other month so wont be getting my hopes up.
Any nice plans for the weekend to take your mind off it?

@Goodyear2019 thank you, I'm not going to lie I'm feeling pretty gutted this month just feeling fed up like it's never going to happen (which I know is silly) haven't got too much planned at the weekend, visiting family but that's about it but that's ok I shall just keep persevering! 🤦🏽‍♀️keeping my fingers crossed for you 😊

@als2912 I totally get it, it's so disappointing. Easily said than done but try to relax and enjoy yourself this weekend. When I'm feeling really down I try to do something nice for myself, watch a favourite film, do my nails etc.

@Goodyear2019 thank you, yeah that definitely sounds like a good plan :) at the end of the day I just have to tell myself I can't change anything now so I just need to focus on the next cycle now once this AF is out the way x

Sorry to hear that @Als2912!!

Well I got my BFP this morning (DP still does not know so any cute ways of telling him are welcome) but I do not feel any different. It was the serial tester in me that made me do the test. Cause I had them I could not wait until tomorrow morning when he was home!!

Today is my last day of my 20's "snif snif so I have things to be happy and sad about!!

How is everyone else? It has been a bit quiet lately!!

@ImMeantToBeWorking woohooo! Congratulations! that's amazing news I'm so happy for you 😊

PS. thanks to everyone in this group for all their support!!! You have been amazing!! And I will you all the luck and baby dust for your own BFP in the near future!!

@ImMeantToBeWorking congratulations! Great news!!