TTC After Pregnancy Loss Thread 22.

[HidCat]

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A thread for all those who have suffered the loss of a much wanted baby. Affectionately know as the penguin huddle.

We'll start with a roll call as there have been so many new members lately and so many success stories that I think we've all lost track.

HidCat
Age 35
TTC #2
DS 5
MC at 11wks in January
Cycle 3 post MC, trying since August 2017

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Thanks everyone, yeah holiday hd been good. Last day today, having some spa time later.

@zarala this is my 3rd cycle since MC. Before that i went from having the coil and no periods, to pregnancy within a month or so following removal and the MC. So i guess its going to be a little unsettled.

AF is truly here this morning. Belly is so crampy and heavy flow. Glad she is here at least and is 'normal' as the days went on i was pretty sure pregnancy wasn't the reason for her not showing.

I updated my app today and it moved my last ovulation day a week later then what I originally logged it at. Obviously to make it 14 days between this af and ovulation.
Do you think i got ovulation wrong and infact had a longer cycle and af was never really late? I got a very near positive opk followed by a neg, so assumed ovulation was at that point.

@Pancakes7 Uti sucks. Hope the ABs work for you and you feel better.

@weasledee Nice opk! ➕➕➕➕

@Cakelaur Glad all is going well with bubba.

@Lilimum4 good luck with tww crazyness

@CobaltRose ahh congratulations, nice line for 9dpo!

@Boboelephant How are you? Where in your cycle are you? Close to ov surely?
Might try SMEP too next cycle.

@tedlife @hidcat I am in the window with you.
anyone else in the window?

I think my AF is due 4th July, not sure when to test. I am still trying to work out my cycle so just going on guess work for now. Any recommendations on when to test? x

@dreaminofholidays welcome!

I think aim to test when you think AF is due but if you can't wait you can test early. I'm going to try tonight which will be 12dpo but if it's too diluted I might wait til the morning. I think 14dpo is pretty optimal.

@dreaminofholidays wait as long as you can before testing. Ideally the day of AF. If you can't wait that long then definitely not before 10dpo and only with an early result test. I found an ic in the cupboard so will probably use that Sunday then wait til AF due.

Congrats @CobaltRose!

Sorry I've not replied to everyone else, I'm on my phone and struggling to keep track of the thread.

I'm at a work conference and one of my colleagues is constantly (like, CONSTANTLY) moaning about being pregnant. I'm finding it really hard.

Sorry @TinyPaws I know the feeling. I'm also away for work and here with a colleague who just announced she was pregnant - she would have been similar due date to me and it's really hard to see.
Trying to console myself by thinking I don't know what difficulties she faced or how long it took her to get there.
Sadly it's a hard thing to learn but people who've never experienced mc just don't really think about it, I'm sure your colleague doesn't mean anything bad by it. Can you split up from her for a bit to try get some space?

Congrats @CobaltRose quite strong lines for 9dpo too!

Having pregnant work colleagues is tough, especially if they're complaining a lot about their pregnancy.

I've just sat down to do some period maths and realised I should be due by the end of this week (29th-1st). My relaxedness this month has me totally caught off-guard.
I don't feel pregnant in the slightest though and am actually looking forward to next cycle so I can get down to trying properly again.

@Blondcat glad af is over and you're feeling more positive. Fx for this month.
@GPS76 Haha. My friend told me I should be a doula!! That's a sign I now know too much about this subject! 🤦‍♀️
@Laney79 when I had the ERPC the nurse told me to drink cranberry juice and said all women should drink it during af to counteract blood loss. Maybe worth a shot?
@Cakelaur I miss you too. As soon as I type the @ symbol my phone always pops up your name as a prediction. I can't wait to be on the same thread as you again! I'm so happy baby cake is baking well. (Haha couldn't help the pun!) xx
@CobaltRose congratulations!
@TedLife fx for tomorrow!
@YellowDaffodils86 I feel like you've been on the thread longer. Must be because we've been cycle twins a few times. Sorry af got you but glad you're having a proper one at least after last month. It is possible you ovulated later. On my long cycle a few months ago I had a very nearly positive on day 15 I think followed by negatives and kept testing and ended up with a glaring positive at day 21 and ovulated cd22. Your body can almost get there but not quite. Although apps are designed for people with 'average' cycles and sometimes can't handle it if things go haywire especially after MC. Usually though it is your follicular phase that changes not your luteal. I am ok thanks. CD12 so just starting fw. I ovulate somewhere between day 16-18 and got my first ewcm today so fingers crossed!!!
Fx for everyone in tww!!

Thanks everyone. So glad I have this thread. You're all so supportive. Feeling a bit better uti wise. But have my low moments of I'm not pregnant anymore... seems I see pregnant women everywhere now! Still no af... 🙁 Congratulations @Cobaltrose I hope I join you soon! Well I hope we all do.

Oh I was also thinking something. At the start of the year I was wondering if I could shorten my cycles as they were about 35 days. A lady on here recommended seed cycling which I did and shortened cycles to 29-30 days. I stopped the last 2 months but started again the other day. I thought it might be helpful for some of you that are having irregular or long cycles as it is about balancing your hormones. And if nothing else seeds are really good for you and your ttc health!!!

www.cycleseeds.com/single-post/2015/10/11/Seed-Cycling-your-way-to-happy-hormones

I'm on cd 5 - at the end of AF... super anxious as this will be my second proper cycle since MC and my gynaecologist had told us to wait until this cycle to start TTC. Whilst I should be pleased that now we can start trying again properly and that means I'm closer to being pregnant etc but I'm actually terrified that I can't or that I do and it happens again. I had an MMC... had no idea that my little bean's heart had stopped, had all the same symptoms as with my first (successful) pregnancy. I don't want it to happen again :-(. I know many of you have experienced it a number of times and some do not have a little one already to be grateful for, and believe me, I know I am luckier than so many people. I'm just scared and don't want this to put unnecessary pressure on me, my body or my DH who has been amazing throughout.

I need to be positive but accepting that it might take time but that is OK.

I'm grateful for this group. The knowledge that others are experiencing this makes me sad but still comforted that I'm not alone and we will all have our time when we see that line and it stays there until that bump appears and then fast forward until a little bundle turns up fx for everyone!

@Newbie21 your post made me have a little cry. You summed up everything so well. It's a horrible, cruel twist of fate that finds us all here together xx

@Boboelephant very interesting about the seeds, might give them a go next month. Just wondered how you eat them? I know how ridiculous that sounds but do you literally just eat them or put them on things?

@Blondcat and @GPS76
bring on sexy week for you guys !!! 🙌🏽

@Laney79 hope that witch has eased up on you! Sounds unnecessarily heavy!

@Cakelaur wow 15weeks already??? That's amazing! It's gone so fast! So happy things are going so well!
AF is definitely here for me so I'm out until August. I'm really hoping it happens for me in August as it will be exactly 1 year from my first MC- which started at Notting Hill carnival on bank holiday Monday. If I can get a BFP before then I will be really happy 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

@Lilimum4 good luck! Hope these next 10 days fly by for you and you have good news at the end of it!

@CobaltRose wow congrats!!! What a strong line for 9dpo!!! Amazing!! Fx for a healthy happy easy pregnancy!!!

@YellowDaffodils86 yeah that makes sense. Our bodies need time to find their rhythm!

@TinyPaws eugh that sucks. When I was pregnant with my DD I was having a right old moan at my friend who was also pregnant- or so I thought! Turned out she had had to terminate the pregnancy earlier that week (22weeks) after finding out it had a serious genetic disorder which would have meant that it wouldn't have survived outside the womb. I was so so mortified and felt so guilty! (I'm not usually a moaner!) it was so awful. But generally it's not right to moan about it unless it's with someone in the same boat- that's my philosophy anyway...

@KnitKitty fx af stays away!!!

@Boboelephant cranberry juice during AF? Interesting! I will look into that
And yay ewcm! JKS away bobo!!! Have fun and good luck!!!
And Oooh seed cycling sounds very interesting!! Will def check that out!

Nothing to report here - AF is here in full flow. I'm going away without OH to see my parents during the next FW (sexy week) so next month is out- but tbh it's probably better as I can have some nice wines and enjoy the holiday without having to think about TTC (or try not to)

@Newbie21 I can totally relate to everything you said too. I hope we're all not here much longer.

@DaisyMay25 not a stupid question! I asked the same one. You are supposed to buy organic whole seeds and then grind them. I whizz mine in my smoothie maker or you can use a coffee grinder. You can also use a mortar and pestle but that takes a longer! You can sprinkle them on cereal or in smoothies or soups. I just put them in juice and drink them down. At the moment i have them in my grapefruit and apple juice. Two birds!

Evening ladies. We have lovely hot weather, I've been enjoying it with DH.

I'm currently 2dpo. Having to wait one more day to confirm ovulation, chart looks good temp went from 35.95 c on Monday (ovulation day with ewcm, positive opk and ovulation pain ) then 36.30 c Tues and 36.63 c today. Only thing that's odd is I still have cramps like AF cramps and lots of creamy cm, I don't usually get the cramps or any cm after ovulation. Guess I'll just have to sit on my hands for 10 more days.

@Boboelephant interesting that flax seed and linseed are the same thing, took me a little while to realise. I see, I might do that eat then with yoghurt each morning then. I was going to start grapefruit tomorrow on CD5 a week before I ovulate? Apple juice too? What's that for? I love Apple juice!

@Newbie21 love your post- feel exactly the same. 💕

Lovely words newbie, so true....

So I'm now 1DPO I have to admit with that really strong line on OPK I've got my hopes up, I know it's not related probably but I can't help it :(
Anyway here's to a quick TWW :)

@weasledee I understand how you feel I'm 2dpo and feel really hopeful this cycle. Think I might actually loose it if it doesn't happen this cycle. I've done everything I can think of even pineapple and progesterone cream.

I'm keeping my fingers crossed for everyone and sending baby dust by the heapfuls to all the ladies here

@weasledee that was definitely a strong line and can only mean good things. Fx this is your month. We're all routing for you!

Let's hope this is a record breaking month for the group!!!

Haha @DaisyMay25 it's only because I hate grapefruit juice! Just trying to drown out the bitter taste!!

@Boboelephant like a mocktail? I might try that, half a glass of each