TTC After MC 12: Hopeful Twats and Emotional Wrecks welcome!

[BertieBotts]

Come one, come all, new and old, no-one wants to be here, but at least we're glad we've got each other :)

Hope your stay here is short.

Now, some BFPs if you please and BFNs for those who are waiting for them too!

Hello

I'm after some advice- had a miscarriage that started on 29th June, proper bleeding began a couple days after. Then it continued until around a week ago with continued brown spotting until today. Today i think I've come on my period (around 3 weeks after my miscarriage) as I've had bright red blood and looks very like AF. Do you think this is my period or a prolonged miscarriage bleeding? Any experiences of first period after miscarriage and how long it took to arrive? I'm confused as there hasn't been any clear break in bleeding. Thank you

Hello batmans, so sorry for your loss.

So my period took 7 weeks to come back.

Slightly different but After my surgical management, I had a few days of light bleeding. Then a break then quite a long period of more bleeding then a 3 week gap then my period.

It probably depends on how far along you were and how quickly the miscarriage completed.

I had read online that to be classed as a period you needed "around 3 weeks of no bleeding". Not sure how true that is. I had quite a few weeks of a positive test too. Very annoying.

I also had a few other symptoms a couple of weeks before... ewcm and possible ovulation I guess. So the timing kind of works out.

Hopefully it is your period and things are normal again from now.

Love the title of the new thread! Thanks for setting up

Popping on the new thread first time trying after MC in march.. still a bit all over the place. You lot keep me sane!

Thanks for the reply lime19. I did a test a few days ago and it was negative.

I guess I'll just have to wait see if it is AF and it carries on as I've not had a three week break yet. All very odd.

Hi Bertie and Lime. Thanks for setting up the new thread.

Really sorry to read the stories of Batman and those who posted at the end of the previous thread.

Just been at my book group where fertility issues and mc were a topic of conversation, but I don't know them well enough to share so I just bit my lip hard. Maybe one day.

Hi msjuniper, I've recently sat down and written a letter (that I'll never send) articulating my feelings and experience of my pregnancy and miscarriage. I've found it really cathartic. Maybe I'll share it one day, who knows. I'm not sure I could discuss with my book group though! I'm trying to talk about what happened irl though. I'm astonished that it's 1 in 4 or 5 and that it seems such taboo subject, it is such a traumatic experience though

Thanks for the new thread! Love the title

Place-marking as I get ready to go back to work

Thanks for the new thread ladies- good luck today yellow- going back is never easy, but just one day until the weekend

We've had a mixture of news this week. Happy that DH's old boss and one of his closest friends here and his wife are expecting - on our last year's due date this year! - Actually I feel mixed about this, keep going back and forth. I like vicariously living through others but it would be fun to be pregnant at the same time too. I suppose there is still time, which is positive, but then on the other hand there is more pressure and disappointment if it doesn't happen by then!

And then the sad news which is probably clouding the other, FIL has throat cancer, DH's whole family are in a state of shock so he is being stoic for now, but he has said that he feels like he wants more urgency on the baby thing now because he so wants his dad to meet his child. Apparently throat cancer has quite good survival rates so we'll see but the tumour is already pressing on his voicebox.

Congratulations to all the BFPs from the last thread-I hope it all goes smoothly for you.
I'm CD13, not ovulated yet I think, but lots of EWCM yesterday and today. Haven't managed to DTD since CD9, so hopefully will do tonight, but not holding out much hope. I think it's starting to get to DH, he feels its all a bit sterile and a lot of pressure, so keeps putting it off. Which makes me feel sad, and unattractive, which doesn't help. Due date tuesday...

Sorry to hear about your FIL Bertie. Wishing him a full and fast recovery.

Cookie sorry to hear you're feeling low, particularly with your due date approaching. [Flowers] do you manage to have much sex outside fertile week? I know it's not always easy to drum up enthusiasm.

I'm feeling crappy, have come down with a lurgy since yesterday. Felt sick all day, plus sore throat blocked nose etc. I'm achy and gross so am having the day in bed to recover.

I'm so sorry to hear about your FIL, bertie.

Good luck today yellow - I know you've been really anxious about it, but I hope it goes much more smoothly than you think.

Juniper, what were you reading? I've really noticed since my experiences started how rarely miscarriage comes up in literature, films or TV. I realised that you sometimes get depictions of infertility (not that often, but you do) but that I don't think I've ever, ever since miscarriage covered in a TV programme.

Batman I'm really sorry about your loss. How long are your cycles normally? My period came pretty much bang on normal time, but then I normally have long-ish (35 days) cycles. Three weeks seems quite quick, but maybe if you normally have very short cycles?

Hi, new to the thread! Sorry to all and your losses

Had MC in March at 12 weeks. Been TTC #1 for 3 years.
Had laparoscopy last month to remove ovarian cysts and now I'm back in the game!

Fertile week is next week, so I'm on the countdown. I've been popping the conception vitamins and I've got a hundred ovulation sticks at the ready. Trying to remain calm and positive

Hi everyone,
Glad i caught the new thread......i just found you and don't want to lose you!!!
Batmans im so sorry for your loss xx Its interesting you should mention writing a letter. A lady i know from my gym had experienced miscarriage and suggested i wrote a letter to my baby and that it would be cathartic. I think its a lovely idea. Writing your feelings down always seems to help, but I'm putting it off at the moment as i know ill be in floods of tears.
Yellow I hope it all goes ok today. I dreaded going back too but found that it wasn't so bad. xx

I have purchased a thermomeybobby off Amazon!! resisted urge to add a moon cup to basket.
Also how do you add emoticons on here ?

Wow, this is filling up fast! Just posted on the old one! Thanks for new thread bertie. Going to catch up now.

dudemeister76 writing a letter has helped me remember and extract the feelings I had about pregnancy and miscarriage, the wonder, excitement, the worry, loss and pain and what the future holds. I was off work and just sat and wrote through my tears. I may show it to my DH too one day. I'd recommend doing it.

Good luck and have fun trying foreverhopeful21 👍

Lisasimpson I'm usually 28 days bang on, but as my miscarriage was long and drawn out I can't figure out when AF is due! I really want to get on the bandwagon again as I'm all cried out now. I'll give it a couple of days and see if this is AF.....fingers crossed.

Hello all

Welcome newbies. So sorry you're here.

@BertieBotts I'm sorry to hear about FIL. Hope all goes well with him.

So I should be due AF yesterday if I was going to keep my cycle times post mc. So far nothing but cramps. Couldn't feel less pg so I guess she will appear in the next week or so maybe?

I really don't know how to feel about it all. I dont know if I'm ready to be pg again or if I want more time. I don't have any tests and don't plan on buying any as the only symptoms I have are a bad mood and the odd cramp. When I was pg I had sore boobs, had to pee every 10 seconds, was exhausted and had a strange taste in my mouth.

I know they say each one can present with different symptoms but I'm not convinced.

Good luck to those testing soon wether it's for a BFN or BFP!

Hi guys. Thanks for the new thread. Will catch up later.

Feeling slightly less shit now AF isn't punching me in the back anymore (CD3 today) and my job interview went well but I basically turned it down as I know if I want a baby soon I can't do that job too AND see my DD and also stay sane (even if DH stays home). Feels a bit silly given I'm it even pregnant yet but if I take it I'd have to shelve the whole idea and I'm 31 so don't want to. This way my DD will be 18 when new baby is 5 if I manage to get pregnant soon. That seems like a better time to step up into a crazy work challenge, than now.

Also I'm going on holiday in 2.5 weeks time so will hopefully be super relaxed during TWW!

Thanks all for wishes xx

DH wants me to test so will do one in a bit, trying to build up some wee first!

Bertie really sorry to hear about your FIL. Hope they've caught it in time to be treatable.

Ooh a live POAS! Hopeful for you!! 🤞🏼

Welcome and to the newbies.
Sorry to hear about your fIL Bertie.

I am exhibiting superhuman self control and have not poas at all yet this cycle and I'm on CD 27! Period due CD 30 so will 'treat' myself to a pg test over the weekend. Think it's a defo no though.

Good luck to those testing.

Something weird just happened to me. I've had sharp ovary pains all day. I'm cd 10. It peaked this afternoon and became quite sharp and now no pain at all

I'm really worried it's related to these cysts I've now got. I've got a scan Wednesday to check how bad they are. After this I'm not expecting good news. I do not normally feel any part of my cycle. But this was a definite ovarian pain.

Anyone else had pain after their first af? My af finished a few days ago. It's not that. It's a strange pain.

Ah ha new thread!

Loving the title!
Can I take some credit for the "hopeful twat" part of the title please? It sums me up totally

Am CD14 today- this always makes me vaguely excited & hopeful aka hopeful twat.

The last time I fell pregnant was March last year, we had sex once that month and when I looked back in my diary I realised we had DTD v late on CD14/early hours CD15.

Plus a load of wine earlier in the evening

To sum me up- TTC number 2, have a LO aged 3. I was pregnant last year but bad news at the dating scan in the summer at almost 13 weeks. Baby was due December 2016.

We have been TTC since I got my BFN 3 weeks after medical management. Not a whiff of a BFP since then, apart from positive OPKs which are as exciting as it has got.

I have also just turned 39 (gulp), so have spent my entire time being 38 trying to become pregnant!

DH due home from work tonight, we should get some action all being well. CD14 watch this space...HT!

Wishing you all BFPs very soon!