TTC After MC 12: Hopeful Twats and Emotional Wrecks welcome!

[BertieBotts]

Come one, come all, new and old, no-one wants to be here, but at least we're glad we've got each other :)

Hope your stay here is short.

Now, some BFPs if you please and BFNs for those who are waiting for them too!

SJ that's awful I'm so sorry. I hope it happens quickly for you and you have a safe delivery and a healthy baby.

SJ you poor love. That's awful and must have been just so traumatic. You're very welcome to be a wreck with us

SJ, I am so, so sorry for what you have been through. That sounds absolutely horrendous. You are more than welcome here. We're a friendly little community, you'll find yourself we'll looked-after x

SJ words can't say how utterly horrific that must be, I'm so so sorry

Welcome to our little ragtag gang though, we're all quite lovely hopeful twats!

Of course you're welcome SJ I thought about changing the title to TTC after loss? But it was too late on the last thread to ask how the other ladies felt but perhaps it's more inclusive.

Thanks everyone it has been (and still is) an utterly horrific time for me & dh. So glad it's ok to join here. Can't tell anyone in real life our ttc plans because most people will think it's too soon or that we are trying to replace our little girl which absolutely isn't the case at all. We would love to bring another brother or sister home for her.. we were so ready to become parents and bring a baby home and that hasn't changed at all. Almost feel like we are stuck in life limbo at the minute - not where we were but not where we should be either. Anyway sorry for the rant I don't want this to seem like I want it to be a pity party for me. Everyone here has experienced loss in their lives and it's lovely to have the support from others who know how we are feeling! Cd9 today and empty circle (negative) on clear blue opk - to be expected I used them the month I convinced last time and think I had a positive on cd13/14 - used them last month too but didn't get a positive until cd18 in a 28 day cycle which i don't think is good? I don't know I'm kind of a novice at all this tracking stuff - so far I've started taking the seven seas trying for a baby, downloaded Ovia and got the clear blue sticks - anyone any other good tips or advice? Xx

I'm so sorry about your loss, SJ. Of course you should start trying again whenever you feel ready, and if that's now then that's the right time. What you say about being ready to be parents makes perfect sense.

It sounds like you've got it covered tracking-wise. We've had quite a lot of discussion on here about temping - some women (including me) really like the extra information, but others find it too full on. If you're worried about how your cycles are regulating you might find it helpful. I like it because it's very cheap and I find a certain nerdy pleasure in it - it does mean that you think about TTC first thing every single day, though, and that can be a bit rough depending on how you're feeling.

SJ, welcome. I'm so sorry that you lost your little girl. You're in good hands here. I wish you the easiest, most boring of ttc, pregnancy and delivery journeys. I'm sorry I can't offer any advice on tracking as I only use my cm and other bodily symptoms to try to pinpoint ovulation. There are plenty of very knowledgable ladies on here though who I'm sure can give you the low down!

Bertie, really good idea about changing the name to "loss", maybe the next one? We seem to move through them pretty fast so I'm sure it won't be long before we're in need of another!

Cd10 here. Apparently entering my fw. Still having bizarre symptoms that don't make sense for this point in my cycle with waves of nausea and even some cramping today. Oh well. Onwards we tread. I've spent the weekend surrounded by wonderful friends for a hen do and am feeling very zen for the time being. I hope you've all enjoyed your weekend x

Welcome sj. I am so sorry you find yourself here. I was very sad to read your story.

I too have been on a hen party emvy! I'm not gonna lie, ive got a baaaaad hangover. I was actually quite good with drinking as in my fertile time BUT my tolerance of alcohol these days is low. I've managed the last 4 days of dtd, I'm gonna try a few more days but tonight, after 3 hours sleep will be hard

Oh SJ what a horrendous thing for you to go through. Massive hugs to you. I am pretty new on here and have found it such a support through such a lonely experience. Everyone is lovely!! Welcome xx

I've started temping to get the hang of it even though i haven't had my AF yet after miscarriage. Does anyone temp vaginally on here and if so do you just miss out when AF comes? Seems unnecessary. Also is it ok to use tampons now? If I never see another sanitary towel again in my life it will be too soon.

Hi SJ, so sorry to hear about your loss. That must and I am sure, still is so tough. If now feels the right time for you guys to ttc, then that's all that matters, definitely not other people's opinions.

Dude- I haven't found it necessary of temp vaginally - seems to be quite consistant generally just with orally.

@SJ88 💐💐

@dudemeister76 I only temp orally, I haven't started again yet, was going to wait until after my 1st af. Which I am still waiting for. Definitely way past normal cycle length now. I hear you about pads though..... hate them.

The midwife at the epu said to wait 4-6 weeks for a bleed. I'm at 5 now, what happens when I pass 6 weeks? Will they just tell me to wait some more? Seems pointless if they do.

@blissful I'm on CD23 now so hoping it won't go past 6 weeks. I'm itching to get on with things!!! Not sure what happens if it takes longer??!!
Temping vaginally seems to be a better way for me because I sleep with my mouth open all the time so not convinced it would be consistent. Also the beep doesn't wake DH up lol.

I temp vaginally (though I'm not sure I've ever revealed this to another person before!) - yep, I just skip when I have my period. It's not like you need the information from then anyway, you just need to be temping for a few days before you ovulate so you have a base line. I'm cd9 and going to start temping again tomorrow.

Thanks everyone for being so lovely.
I've never temped before - I've read a little about it online but it seems quite complicated and the results can be easily misinterpreted if you don't do it at the exact same time each morning etc?
I find the clear blue ovulation kit easy to use but they are so expensive x

Have just realised that there's a good half page there on whether we temp vaginally or orally Love this thread.

SJ download fertility friend. It's got loads of tutorials on there which are really helpful. X im going to do it side by side with clear blue to get a better picture of my cycle.

Lol @ step my fault!!

SJ88 I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter. This is such a welcoming thread and a perfect place to get support going forward or to talk about your baby if you want to.

Lasies, I'm late. AF was due yesterday and didn't come. Breasts are still sore and no sign of af, apart from occasional niggly feelings. I think I'll test tomorrow with a frer. 14 dpo tomorrow. I'm so nervous and terrified it will be negative.

Ladies not lasies! Not sure if that was supposed to be an auto correct to Lassies or lazies! Although I quite like the idea of going around calling everyone Lassie.

sj , am sorry for your loss, you sound like you are a wonderfully strong person and now considered physically good to go, the Drs would not mess about if it were otherwise. Only you and your Drs know when you are ready, and sounds like they think you are so, defacto, if you want to try, bloody hell do it, sorry, aggravates me when 'others' have such opinions on something so personal as TTC timing. Good luck!

Will have a good read of this thread, caught up on the others just now. I have never temped, referring to pee on random sticks for shits and giggles, developing a hatred of smiley faces. flashing or not.

I have been lurking for a bit after a bad month of emotional ups and downs. Today was the due date of my Dec MCC baby, and DH bought me some lovely sunflowers to remember it and cheer me up a bit.

I only had the third loss in March then an awful RMC appt in June , next appt in a week for results of bloods and scans. However... the saga just got fruity. This is rather long winded, apologies.

I had terrible ovary pain overnight on CD25 last night, and 2, what I presumed were spotting pre AF, or a messed up cycle, 5 hour bleeds in the last week and spotting daily after a heavy heavy 10 day af. So thought, this month we are not really trying, only dtd the once due to the daily spotting. Did get a static smiley but kind of ignored it as was 6 days too early given my normal 34 day cycles.

Long story not so short.. .Today, 5 am I woke up and POAS and 9 DPO CD 25 of a 34 day normal cycle, I have the strongest second line on an IC. Thoughts? Is this is a dud test?

Do I buy every brand and every level more tests and pee on them? Do I still go to RMC next week?
Do I book a GP apt for my thyroid levels? I just don't know what to do.
The inertia is crippling. I am hiding in a meeting room at work pretending to work but sat staring at MN.

That in summary is a direct download of my brain today it seems. Sorry, very me me me.

Wow that is quite a line. It sounds as though you might have ovd early this cycle so if it's a true positive you are further along than you thought? Personally I am a poas addict so I'd be buying half of Boots to check. Definitely try and get some proper medical advice though.

Can't remember if you said you had other symptoms too?

I got the faintest whisper of a line this morning but that has happened so many times for me and not stayed, so I'll give it a week to see if it gets darker (well I say that, I'll probably tear every day!)

Well that is definitely a second line stuck! I would be buying a couple more tests (I try not to over do it as otherwise it becomes even more stressful) and then calling your gp after seeing some bfp's on the other tests and asking them what they advise. I have no idea I'm sorry, whether you can have the thyroid tests or what you do regarding rmc. They might still want to see you anyway, I have no idea.. others might know?

Personally, i don't see how that test means anything other than a bfp but I'm not an expert as I restrain as much as possible from poas. In my opinion, your dates might not make sense but that's a definite positive and I would personally be treating it as such. So, tentative congratulations! I have everything crossed for you, please keep us all updated!

Sorry MsJuniper, you must have posted at the same time! Also tentative congrats regarding your faint bfp! I tore myself apart testing everyday after a faint with my last pregnancy and the only time I finally got a nice clear line was after I waited 3 days between. I'm now vowing to only test after I'm a week late because I can't cope with the stress again. Obviously, it's up to you! But I'd advise waiting a few days until you test again if you can tie your hands together and stop yourself!