TTC for 10 months or more, and now we're moving onto thread 4! Ten plussers welcome!

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Thread for anyone TTC for over ten months. Please feel free to join us!

Took the liberty of starting a new thread (with what is obviously a brilliant piece of rhyme!) as I assume everyone else is sleeping peacefully right now :)

Thanks mpp! Marking my place :)

Thanks MPP :)
Love the rhyming! Xx

Thanks MPP, marking my place.

Place marking from a ski resort.

Banana - interesting news on your tests.

Sammy your DH sounds great.

Thinking if you lucie.

Wave to everyone else :)

Place marking - thanks for setting up the new thread MPP. Poetry worthy of James Joyce!!

Cor get you Boris!

Thinking of you lucie

I'm absolutely shitting it about the test results on Monday and what they might say. Completely and utterly bricking it.

The tissue testing results that is. So many bloody tests that could have been anything!

The genetic analysis on the 'products of conception' which will hopefully say whether the baby was chromosomally normal or not. Ie which bit was broken - the baby or me.

Thanks for the new thread MPP

Banana, whatever the results remember knowledge is power and you are doing everything you can to get your baby.

Nurses appointment for us this afternoon - eek!

Banana I definitely agree with Trixie. It might be hard to find out it was something to do with you but you couldn't have known that beforehand. Nobody would go through every test under the sun before having their first transfer. Knowledge is definitely power though and if it was something to do with you then there is probably a way to fix it. It seems more likely that it was a chromosomal issue though that's what they say he majority of problems are.

Boris, hope you are having a good skiing holiday but taking it easy!

Trixie, eeekk very exciting for your appt!

Oooh, good luck Trixie, let us know how you get on

Good luck keeping calm this week banana. I remember the weeks I had to wait for my consultant scan for fibroids - I drove myself insane with late night googling of horror inducing outcomes. I don't recommend that but have never been able to take my own advice

Banana I couldn't put it any better than Lucie. You couldn't possibly have known if it was to do with you, but I'm sure it's more likely to have been a chromosomal issue. I can't imagine how you must feel but I am thinking of you.

Trixie Good luck with your appointment this afternoon! Very exciting!

Lucie how are you doing/feeling today?

Hope you're having a fab time Boris!

Nurses appointment went well. Just need to call them when AF arrives and start taking the bcp. Have a prescription for my prednisolone and need to decide whether to do intralipids through health care at home which would be so nice and easy or go to another clinic which would be cheaper. We got to have a chat with the acupuncturist too so should be able to have acupuncture at the hospital on the day of transfer. All in all things seem to be falling into place.

Forgot to wave back before Boris, hope you're having a lovely break!

Belated thanks for new thread, MPP. I don't have a lot to say as IVF not til June but I have been reading and keeping my fingers crossed for you Lucie - so sorry to hear your news, must be torture waiting.

Trixie, glad it's all falling into place - good luck with the next steps. Am interested to hear how you find acupuncture. I was always sceptical but desperate times ...

Banana, fingers crossed for the test results. On a completely different note how was Chiltern Firehouse (aside from the barren bantz?)

Boris, happy skiing!

Hi to everyone else - even if I don't post often it's great to know I'm not alone in this grim inbetweeny stage of life. I keep telling myself that in 4 years time everything will be settled one way or another - we'll either have kids or we will be doing other things. It kind of almost helps ...

I've also been distracted by other things in that my mum has been diagnosed with Alzheimers. She's only 73 and it's hard. She forgets so many things but ironically, for added horribleness, the one thing she does remember, and feels sad about, is that we don't have a baby.

It is shit. I feel like I've been catapulted into Life Stage 4 - caring for elderly parents - without passing through Life Stage 3 - having kids. When I see people with healthy parents and kids, I wonder if they know how lucky they are.

Anyway - she won't get better but we might still have good news. Here's hoping ...

I hope Monday goes ok for you Banana. As others ahve said better than me once you know what is going on you can use that knowledge to help yourself.

That is so sad Rebecca. Have some unmumsnetty hugs. My mum is 72 and still fine and independant for now but I admit I worry about how much longer that will last. She lives in France and all of the rest of the family lives in scotland, so when she starts to struggle we are going to have to make some hard decisions.

rebecca that's tough. One of the hardest things for me about tTC is knowing my mum and dad (who died when I was a child) dobdont meet any grandchildren and aren't around to share the highs and lows with. It's tough - adds a different dimension of grief to infertility. Give your mum a big hug and enjoy what you can.

'Accuse my spelling

Lucie - how are you doing?

Banana - thinking of you for Monday. X

Excuse my spelling. Damn auto correct

Thanks both, I really appreciate it ... Brenna, thanks and fingers crossed for your Mum's future - I hope she stays lively a long time yet.

And Boris I'm very sorry about your parents - I imagine coping with elderly parents would be a dream scenario for you. It's all relative isn't it (no pun intended). Hope you are enjoying some nice easy slopes and hot chocolate ...

I meant to say also Sammy, I'm really pleased your DH spoke to his mum and that she's trying to make amends. You deserve support not gossip. In fact can that be our motto?!

Morning all!

Trixie That's brilliant! So this is one of the cases where we hope AF hurries up?

Rebecca Im so sorry about your mum. It must be so hard, for you and for her.
Your way of looking at your ttc journey - that in x years it will be decided one way or another - I'm not sure why, but I found that quite a comforting thought. I hope you are Ok.

Brenna also crossing my fingers for a lively long time for your mum. I imagine those difficult decisions will be tough.

Boris I'm sorry about your parents. How are you doing on your hols?

Heard from reprofit today and wondered:

A) can anyone doing ivf help me out with what kind of protocol this is?

B) can anyone doing ivf with reprofit tell me about prescriptions. I assumed they would automatically send me one but now I assume I must ask for it? Also, if I ask for a prescription now, should I collect them straight away? And if I do collect them now, will they be OK as late as August or should I get them closer to when I want to use them?

This is what I got sent:

I’m sending a stimulation protocol which Dr. Straková created in attachment. So you can start your treatment whenever you want.

My comments:

1. Start with Gonal-F 150 units a day on day 2 of your menstrual cycle. Inform me please once you start.

1. Undergo a ultrasound examination on day 8 of your menstrual cycle and sen dme your result please

1. Ovitrelle/Pregnyl, Orgalutran 0,25mg – using and dosage will be set after the ultrasound scan

Please let me know if you want me to send to you the prescriptions for medications.

There was no actual attachment on the email so I assume she means the info underneath that comment. I'm a bit confused!

In other news, submitted my James joyce essay last night hallelujah

Also, thinking of you Lucie. Hope you're OK.

Mpp nice work on the essay! That’s a short antagonist protocol, or short protocol - the Gonal-F is the stimulation drug to make the eggs grow (that’s a pretty mild dose - guessing you have a pretty high AMH so they don’t want to overstim you), and the Orgalutran is the blocker, which you add in after a few days, after your first scan, to slam the brakes on and ensure you don’t ovulate. The Ovitrelle / Pregnyl do the same thing, you’ll have one or the other, that’s the trigger shot, which you take at a very specific time, 36 or 37h before egg collection, which ripens the eggs and gets them ready to be ovulated - except the retrieval is scheduled to harvest them before you go pop.

Boris likewise about your parents. I lost my Mum 3.5 years ago, and I know getting married without her there, and knowing she never got to be a grandmother, breaks my heart. Losing them as a child must have been incredibly tough, you are one very strong woman. I know I personally find it very difficult at times when I see three generations together as I don’t have my Mum and I’m scared I will never be a Mum myself. Mother’s day can do one, basically! Hope you’re having a nice break and early preggo symptoms aren’t giving you a rough ride

lucie thinking of you

trixie great news about the appointment! Sounds like you are in terrific hands

Rebecca I’m so sorry to hear about your Mum. A good friend cares for two parents with dementia and it is incredibly rough. I hope you have a good support network around you in RL.

Chiltern Firehouse update - I don’t get the hype!! Food was nice but not OMFG spectacular, decor reminded me of Cafe Rouge (!) - was nice but I really didn’t get why it was THE place of the moment. Anyway, we injected some serious glamour into the overall ambiance with our dildocam chat…

star yes staying away from Google is a good rule for life generally…which of course I don’t ever follow either

Brenna echoing MPP about your attitude to TTC being a great one, I think it’s definitely a good way to think about it

AFM, well, I’ve been following the TNT tracker and my bloods have arrived in Athens. It was quite weird leaving the lab with my bloods in my handbag as I went to Mailboxes Etc to get them shipped off to Greece! Would be awesome to get the results before the weekend, but we’ll see

Think Dr is definitely going to need to scan me and do bloods because my BFP lines haven’t got any lighter at all, plus the pigmented belly line (which I thought was a second or third trimester thing, but apparently it can be a first tri / post miscarriage thing too!) hasn’t faded. Hmm. Want to do a hysteroscopy at some point before we cycle again, so maybe we could kill two birds with one stone if he gets up there with a camera and removes anything that might be left behind…

Currently laid up and can’t walk properly as the relaxin from pregnancy has fucked my already hypermobile joints, my ligaments are like cooked spaghetti, so every time I walk, I throw my hip out. Brilliant!!

Mpp I had an identical email but did get an attachment so might be good to reply saying it's missing.

Ask them to email a prescription over and post it soon. You can use the emailed prescription to get quotes from different pharmacies. You'll need an original posted prescription if you want to get drugs from asda or other UK pharmacies (who I found were cheapest). It took me about 10 days to sort out meds, so you'll want to be researching them at least a month in advance. You have time now but Dont leave them too last minute. The drugs I had were all best before 18 months on the future so you can get them early. The Gonal f is really easy, it's a pre filled syringe. It needs to be kept in a fridge, but has a shelf life of 3 months of kept out of the fridge.

I took Gonal f day 2 to day 8 then I had the first scan to show it was working. I kept on the same dose of Gonal f until the scan on day 10 which showed I needed to add in the orgalutran to stop ovulation as my folicles were growing big. I then took
Gonal f and orgalutran for 3 days before adding in the trigger shot pregnyl 36 hours before egg collection. Day 13 taking all 3 drugs at soecific times was the hardest. I took my Gonal f and orgalutran at night, at 8 pm - you have to do pretty much the same time every day. The pregnyl they give you a specific time to take it. Then the jabs were over and the eggs were harvested. Hope this makes some sense. You e got loads of time to get it all clear! X

Banana that all sounds like a mission and a half you are on. Sorry for the bfps, rubbish you still have the signs.

Banana and Boris thank you very much for your help! Very much appreciated. I have emailed them back and they've sent the attachment now, and said since we don't start Til july/August they'll send the prescription in june. Since this morning, I've found myself being pretty gutted we aren't doing a round before then. AF is due in just over a week and my brain is saying 'you could be all ready to start by then' but my sensible head knows that it would just be too difficult and stressful to try.

Banana, I'm so sorry about the bfps. I hope your doctor can help you understand what's going on

Any chance you can take a last minute luxury holiday in May MPP? That would destress you wonderfully before you start and make the wait seem less of an issue.