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TTC after miscarriage - lucky thread number 3

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Brenna24 · 15/03/2016 18:34

Still hopeing for 3x3 BFPs for this month. Hopefully thread 3 will do that.

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Pacothepidgeon · 29/03/2016 11:29

jo really good book, film, walk?! I usually start planning some diy and end up wrecking the house in some way when I need to keep busy!

JoMalones · 29/03/2016 11:31

Thanks paco my cleaner is off sick so cleaning might do it, or packing for holiday. Currently sat on sofa with sick child watching Inside Out and getting teary

Waitingformiracles · 29/03/2016 11:54

Jo that sounds positive. Hope you manage to keep busy.

The hospital do a short 15 min service for all the babies who died before 24 weeks and it's tomorrow. Debating whether to go or not. I would like to but I know DH doesn't as he was so upset when we visited the memorial garden before but he says he will come if I want him to. It's at 11am and is an hours drive away so it will mean him missing a full mornings work for 15 minutes so I'm a bit torn. I would go myself but just don't know what to expect. Anyone ever been to anything like this?

Phoned the EPU today and the nurse I spoke to was adamant that I had to wait for AF before ttc again but I thought this was just for dating purposes?

Loki17 · 29/03/2016 13:03

That's good news Jo. Keeping everything crossed for you xxx

Loki17 · 29/03/2016 13:06

Ic - totally get your meltdown. Hope you are OK. Still waiting for the witch. I want my body back.

InsufficientlyCaffeinated · 29/03/2016 14:03

Thanks Loki. I'm just hormonal and I hate feeling like I'm at the whims of hormones and my body rather than fully in control.

redstrawberries101 · 29/03/2016 18:27

Feeling everyone's pain. Nothing to say or do really. Just hope and pray for the best and keep dtd as much as poss! Rest is not in our control Sad

Pacothepidgeon · 29/03/2016 19:08

DH had a minor freak out about ovulation sticks of all things. It's too medical apparently Hmm what a strange guy he's not having to pee on anything!

Loki17 · 29/03/2016 19:39

Paco my dh had a similar reaction. Men are idiots.

Pacothepidgeon · 29/03/2016 19:44

He has some romantic notion of conception that it just spontaneously happens! Not sure what he thinks happened the first time we conceived but it definitely wasn't down to chance! Lol Grin

LuckyinOctober · 29/03/2016 20:11

Cheeky the book I read was by Penny Vincenzi, would recommend anything by her if you want something light but addictive. The one I read was called "the dilemma" but any of hers would probably be worth a try.

Supplements-wise, I'm taking evening primrose oil for the first time this cycle up to ovulation, but will then stop as it's not safe to take after that if TTC. I'm also taking agnus castus for the first time this cycle, and raspberry leaf tea, nettle tea and rec clover tea every day before ovulation. Too early to say if they help with symptoms but will get back to you!

Great news Jo! Really happy for you, hope next test result will be positive too xx

Brenna24 · 29/03/2016 21:45

I really hope that is as positive as it sounds Jo.

Welcome back Jodie.

Waiting I had my m/c at home but caught the baby and we had him or her cremated as DH wants to take the ashes to the family plot in Italy. It was a very short service, they basically walked in with the teeny coffin, put it down, bowed and had a minutes silence, then we went out. Nothing said. It was a sort of closure I think.

IC I had a bit of a meltdown this weekend too. Just general frustration at life and hormones all over the place as I had AF.

DDog is not helping by hating his new pills. I am starting to feel more like I am torturing him than helping him. I don't think he will be with us for much longer. Sad

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HopefulKate1980 · 29/03/2016 21:56

HI everyone

Sorry to hear lots of us are having such a tough time. It feels bloody relentless for me too at the moment.

I am so pleased it sounds positive for you though Jo. Wishing you tons of luck.

I've now had two cycles since my MC - the first turned out to be a chemical pregnancy and the second one this weekend has been extremely clotty and heavy. I bled through 3 tampons in about 3 hours. I have never had that before! I know I had retained tissue after surgery in Jan so hopefully that is all done now and I will have a clear run this month. God hope. I think I may have a scan just for peace of mind and to check it is all out.

Thinking of us all. Hope everyone is finding comfort in family and friends.

xx

HopefulKate1980 · 29/03/2016 21:59

Waiting - I think that sounds beautiful and a lovely thought. I wish I had marked our two MCs rather than just blocking it all out. Sending you lots of thoughts if you go.

The nurses at the EPU from my experience say different things. I have spoken to three nurses after my MCs and they have all had conflicting advice - after my first they said no need to wait, but then after my second which I needed surgery for, one said it was best to wait for at least one normal AF, and the other said, every egg is precious and start when you feel ready.

xx

Pacothepidgeon · 30/03/2016 06:44

Good luck for your results today jo

AKP79 · 30/03/2016 08:24

Loki I've been lurking around undecided about whether to post. I took a new Preg test and it was positive, so it looks like I'm pregnant. It's brought a whole new amount of anxieties and guilt though. I feel guilty that mine seems to be positive and your AF is here, I wish so much you'd had a more positive outcome. I have also become full of guilt for the baby we lost, both of us are feeling this and are talking, which is good.

I also now find myself waiting to miscarry. Wiping after the loo I'm inspecting the tissue for blood, every twinge I worry about.

However, my main reason for posting is I wanted to share how I think it worked for us. I was monitoring ovulation with the Clear Blue sticks and when we got the smiley face we went for it. When we did go for it, we used pre seed lubricant. On top of that, since the miscarriage, I have been having weekly 'Solution Based Therapy' a form of hypnotherapy, which moves your brain from the primitive negative side to the positive 'intellectual' side. It's helped me deal with things, helped me stay calm and has undoubtedly reduced my stress levels. When we were trying before my stress levels and anxiety were incredible and I'm sure this played a part in the length of time it took to conceive.

I hope all this helps someone reading it. I'm sorry everyone's having such a tough time, miscarriage is a cruel, cruel thing which I don't think many people will ever fully understand.

Loki17 · 30/03/2016 09:21

Congratulations AKP!Flowers You mustn't feel guilty. It is brilliant that you are pregnant and I hope that you have a happy and healthy 9 months. Are you having a reassurance scan?

Brenna24 · 30/03/2016 09:22

Congratulations AKP I hope this is the one for you.

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JoMalones · 30/03/2016 09:57

Congratulations APK!

Thank you so much for thinking of me everyone. I've been checking my phone every two minutes since waking and the results are in..... Hcg doubled over 48 hours so I think and hope that means I'm still pregnant!

Loki17 · 30/03/2016 10:02

Brilliant news, Jo! I hope it's uneventful going forward!

AmyB1986 · 30/03/2016 10:06

Congratulations AKP and brilliant news jo!!

Af is on her way... I know this because I have the rage in me and frustration in my bones for no reason!
No cramps though Hmm had cramps the last two weeks now none when af is due in 2 days!

JoMalones · 30/03/2016 10:22

Thanks Loki and Amy. Still petrified but nice to know I'm still pregnant.

AF here yet Loki? Are you sure it was chemical?

jodiebee664 · 30/03/2016 10:25

congrats APK and Jo

I really hope it isn't for your Amy

I dreamt I was pregnant and had a baby last night :(

Thanks for the tips APK, def going to try preseed next time, I tried before and didn't work but will give it another go :)

Pacothepidgeon · 30/03/2016 10:51

Congrats apk and jo Grin

Loki17 · 30/03/2016 10:54

No af but tested this morning and BFN. Definitely chemical. AF is late like last month. Maybe 30 day cycles will be the new normal?

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