Fabulous forty + ttc and having success!

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Old thread just about finished. Here is a new one... Fx for lots of well earned BFPs for those ttc over forty. We also welcome stories from those who have successfully had their babies over forty and we love hearing back from our graduates.

Ooh, and thanks Matts!

thanks ladies, don't feel quite so alone now, feel like I'm going mad sometimes x

Kkmuppet hope all goes well tomorrow. I'm wishing you all the luck in the world that it works and we'll hear news of a bfp soon.

Bondy best of luck to you too for your next appointment.

Bloopbleep welcome to the thread. I'm trying for our second too. Had a mc 8/9 months ago. Are you thinking about intervention or just going to keep trying?

6dpo today, still too early for anything.

Pies how odd. What a bloody pain though, how many tests do you think you've taken? Really hoping this is one of those stories of late implantation etc.

FET is a frozen embryo transfer.

Sorry Bloopbleep, I'm sorry for your loss too. It's bloody horrible.

Four tests! Latest yesterday. It does seems strange. I had a dream last night and woke up thinking 'oh of course, I just forgot that I had my period last Monday.' But no.

We're getting to the point where, if it is late implantation, then it's like the immaculate conception, as there hasn't been a whole lot of action around our house for the last two weeks.

Hi everyone,

Sorry i ve been awol, been mad busy at work and also fed up with whole ttc situation.

Welcome to blooppeep and Bondy.

Bondy there are things you can do to get your fsh down and certainly plenty of stories of women conceiving with high fsh. 'Inconceivable' (by julia indociva) is an interesting read of a lady who was 42 with a very high fsh who got it down with diet etc and sucessfully concieved.

Bloopbeep - sorry for your loss. Have you had your progesterone checked as if you ve got a variable luteql phase and low post ov temps it may be too low.

Pies - sorry to hear you re in pre af limbo with bfns. Did you confirm ov with temps or opks ? Could you have had a late ov and so be too early for a bfp ?

Abs - fingers crossed you dream is a sign of a bfp headed your way.

Kmuppet - yay to getting your little embie on board. Keeping everything crossed for you.

Afm - on cd 5 and planning on a relaxed month as going on hol in a couple of days so going to just dtd when we fancy and hope we cover the critical time without the tiring sex to schedule.
Feeling a bit down as found out yesterday my best friend (also 41) is pregnant. I m thrilled for her but finding the fact the she fell on the FIRST month trying difficult to handle. Can t help but feel its unfair after its been 2yrs since my last bfp (mc) but then i feel pissed off (and bad) that i can t just celebrate her good news without feeling this way. Also makes me think something must be really wrong with me aside from age thats stopping me conceive

Hope everyone else is ok.

Thanks Hula2, will have a look at that :)

I've had two friends now who have fallen pregnant, one had a little boy, the other had twin girls, was both gutted but pleased for them at the same time so know what you mean x

Thanks Hula. I don't temp as I'm still breastfeeding DS through the night most nights, so it wasn't that easy to get the consistent sleep you need for accurate temping. I should take up opks, though, it would seem! so I may well have ovulated late, but it's weird that it would be SO late this month when things have been settling down to be pretty regular after birth and breastfeeding, etc.

It is really hard when it just seems to work out for others, isn't it? It really isn't fair, and that sucks. I think it's perfectly understandable to have twinges of 'why can't it be me' and sadness mixed in with your happiness for your friend. You're only human, after all. Hugs.

Hi ababsurdum- I can't really afford interventions & NHS aren't helping me.

Hi hula2 - It's hard when everyone around you seems to fall pregnant just from sitting on a particular chair. We joked about that at my work but it didn't work for me :( To answer your question, I had a progesterone test last month that only told me I ovulated & nothing more. Apparently NHS don't give numbers to gps. I've asked continually about my progesterone running out early in the LP but I'm told if I'm ovulating then it's not a problem. Today I saw a new acupuncturist who thought that insufficient progesterone was a problem that was being reflected in my temps dropping around 5-7dpo

Do you think if I saved up to go private they'd take the prog issue more seriously than the NHS did?

I'm not sure whether acupuncture is really doing anything other than making me poor but it's nice to have someone in real life listen to me obsess over every detail of my cycle I guess. My oh has no interest in how my cervical mucous is doing or whether my spots have appeared early this cycle.

I hope you've all had a good day & are looking forward to the weekend :)?

Bloop I've no idea if acupuncture works or not, but if it is making you feel better to have someone to talk to about this, then that is worth quite a lot!

My period arrived at last. Onwards and upwards.

Sorry Pies

Oh Bugger PIES . It's like our bodies are playing a cruel trick on us isn't it? Like you say onwards and upwards.

Welcome to our new ladies . I hope your stay on this thread is brief.

Have a good weekend ladies - let's all think positive thoughts only! xx

So sorry pies. Well our little Frostie thawed successfully yesterday still at an AA grade and was implanted. They told me I have to wait 14 days to test but I'm thinking of starting to test around 5 days post transfer- it was already 6 days old so figure that's about right. Please keep everything crossed for us over the next few days!

Oops not implanted - that's wishful thinking! Transferred...

Keeping everything crossed for you kkmuppet x 🙏🏻🙏🏻

Kkmuppet so far so good! Take it easy if you can, I had to go to a family wedding the day of my ET. Unavoidable unfortunately. Wishing hard for a successful outcome xx

Oh KKMUPPET - fingers well and truly crossed for you! x

Come on frosty kk!

Thanks everyone!

Fingers crossed kkmuppet!
Boo to af Pies

I'm 8dpo and my temps haven't plummeted yet which is a first but I don't think I dtd enough/timed it right this cycle. I've never had a birthday without being on my period since my periods started. Fingers crossed it at least stays away for the day (thurs) if not for next 9 months.

Bloopbleep that's good. Are you taking any supplements to help your LP? I think a few people on here are or have done. Very unlucky to always have had your period on your birthday, hopefully this year will be different.

I'm 9dpo today and not feeling anything.

You share your birthday with my dd bloop here's hoping you get a nice present this year!

Hi everyone and welcome to newbies.

Kk - really hoping this works and have everything crossed for you.

I haven't been keeping up because things have been busy here but also because ttc with no results is really beginning to get to me. Although, this thread is really my only support, so I'm not doing myself any favours by staying away! In RL even the people who knew about my mc last year seem to think I should be well over it now and happily accepting that baby days are behind me. Anytime I've mentioned ttc to GP, I'm greeted with a barely suppressed amusement at my optimism and then a polite tolerance. It's awful. It leaves me feeling I can't tell anyone I'm desperate to have a last baby because it's nonsense at my age (45, so they are not being completely ridiculous). And anyway, I'm told I should be happy with the children I have.

I am happy with them. They are marvellous. But I always thought I'd have more and I don't feel 'finished'.

Sorry - I'm really down today. AF arrived, early again. It was an odd month. I ovulated suddenly around CD 10, with no flashing smiley first. I've not ovulated that early before. It took us by surprise, but we dtd a couple of times over the following 48 hours.

Then, I started getting symptoms a week later. Very sore boobs, a little nausea from the middle of last week, then a lot of nausea towards the tail end of the week. I had a few big events last week and found myself turning down wine after a glass or half a glass - couldn't take another sip. That's a pg symptom for me! Then a couple of nights ago my boobs started hurting even more - v pg like!

There was a bit of spotting Friday evening, but it was brown and not really accompanied by the usual AF symptoms I get, so I hoped it was implantation or the one of the myriad of other reasons spotting happens in early pregnancy.

I didn't have tests, so didn't test, and anyway AF wasn't due for another few days. But DH (who was quick to spot the wine thing!!) and I both really started to hope, and he was planning to pick up some tests today.

Symptoms changed suddenly yesterday and now AF is definitely fully here. Gutted!

DH has said all along that he wanted another DC, but only if it happened naturally. I don't know quite why he feels that way still, but he does. I was on the same page before, but not anymore. I have this awful sense of time running out...

Sorry - just re-read! Very self indulgent post!! Feeling v sorry for myself today!