TTC after MC#6 - the lucky one for all of us!

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New thread. Hoping for lots of lovely BFPs over the coming weeks

drifting I actually got so upset reading you post your an amazing mummy don't you never forgot that. Mother nature is a bitch hun. We've all lost our babies no one on here deserves it at all. You just can't plan these things you will fall pg when you least expect it who knows you might ovulate early or late next month our visits are so messed up arnet they. I keep thinking I would be 16 weeks pregnant today and indo keep thinking if in November my due date what if I'm not pg how am I going to cope but we do. Your so deserving of another baby and I promise you it will happen hand on heart it will. Don't ever give up you deserve this and it will happen. I'm so sorry you feel this down I wish sometimes we knew each other so we could pop over for a coffee and a hug. And if it don't happen next month you know why cause your busy hun probably will happen next month because you won't be expecting it. Big hugs lovely.

Well mother nature was a bitch to me yesterday my first night out in months she struck me. Cd2 for me today even though I'm heavy today yesterday was more spotting. First AF after mc dunno how I feel tbh mixed emotions sad and relieved. Fresh start now and at least I know my cycle is getting back to normal going to stuff my hungover face at the harvester today and get another wine. We DTD so much this month dunno how I couldn't of fallen just goes to show you ay xx

Sending big hugs to all you ladies, I'm so sorry to hear so many of you are feeling low....and i understand the disappointment, yet relief of first AF after mc...I was convinced I had conceived in my wtf cycle, then AF hit heavily.

Still that's behind me now, as hard as it was. And have been trying hard to ttc this week...hope all our efforts are worth it!
Got my +Ov today CD14....fc!!! Xxx

paws I'm really thought I was going to fall straight away you read so many stories but as painful as it is I'm glad its here and I've had a cycle before I fall again will probably hit me more AF next month. It's just so long you wait until AF has gone the you wait for ovulation then your in the 2ww its like arrregghhhh so impaitant.
That line is very strong good baby dancing :). Fx for you this month we need some bfp ladies xx
I'm in agony though pains are the worse ive ever had.I'm hungover and the tumble dryer just blew up so I'm having a bad today.

keys thank you for your lovely message, it definitely made me feel better. So sorry about AF, especially for your night out. Hope things get a bit better soon. I feel your pain about the tumble dryer-what a nightmare. Stay strong lovely, I feel like we are all being tested at the moment.

paws yay for a positive Opk! Hope you have fun dtd and fingers crossed it's your month!

So I'm feeling a bit better this evening. Had (another) emotional breakdown this morning-luckily it coincided with a good friend ringing me so I cried at her down the phone about the unfairness of it all. She is one of the few people who knows that we are TTC and about the MC (she has been through one herself). Anyway, she is such a source of support and I felt a lot better afterwards. Still in limbo land though-ongoing backache and cramps but possibly less than normal. 11dpo and temp still up this morning which is good, but did a frer first thing and it was negative so looking pretty unlikely. Bit pissed off really, just want either AF to arrive or to have a positive test, it's driving me loopy.

Hope everyone else has had a good weekend though. Any other news? Who is due to poas? We need some good news on this thread!

Thanks ladies!
keys sorry you're in such pain with 'post mc AF' its very crampy isn't it?! Mine didn't last long, only 3 days so fc same for you x
drifting I'm glad you have at least one friend who you can unload and talk to, I hope you feel better soon. Struggling ttc is no reflection on your parenting hunny x
I think we're all due some good news soon x

Well I'm shattered! Not long got back from a very busy weekend away with my mum and dd. We've been almost none stop since yesterday morning visiting my mum's side of the family. Despite setting off just before dd's bedtime in hopes she'd sleep and could just be poped into bed when we got home, she just napped for half an hour and chatted for the rest of the way. So she's in no mood for bed.

paws congratulations on positive opk

drifting I'm sorry you've been feeling down. It's awful feeling like everything is against you when you want so much to concieve. I hope good things happen for you soon.

keys sorry you're in pain and you couldn't enjoy your night out as much as you could. Did dh and your oldest get on alright? You were worried about her setteling weren't you?

4 weeks post mc, 11 days po, had backache and cramping the end of last week, but no sign of af. Been feeling really nausious the past two days, not sure if I should blame the country roads or not! Not sure if I want to test in the next few days or not.

Hope you're feeling a bit better drifting. Sorry you're in pain keys, I am slightly dreading the first post mc AF. Hope you got dd off to bed dobby and you could relax a bit.

Thanks for the pic of the opk's paws, I was wondering what a positive opk stick looked like (used the digital ones last time but they are soooo expensive). Now I know what to look out for! Hope you had fun dtd, fx for you.

I was just starting to feel better after the mc and now I've gone and got a d+v bug which is making me feel awful (and not in the mood for dtd at all). I heard that the immune system can be a bit low after mc and that you are susceptible to bugs which seems to be true in my case. As if mc wasn't enough!

Drifting so sorry you are feeling down. I know what you mean about feeling let down by your body but I refuse to think there is any message from the universe happening. Do you have a back up plan for your due date? Mine is in early October and I am already thinking I should get something planned with my DH for that weekend as a distraction (even though I know I will be consumed by emotion and nothing will properly distract me).
tft hope your bug doesn't last long. Did you make a GP appointment to talk about your LP? My cycle seems to have been thrown off completely, I used to be on a 25 day cycle and I am now on day 35 with no sign of AF yet. It's the first proper cycle I've had, even though my MC was 3 months ago so I guess it is the wtf cycle. Please don't worry about taking up your GP's time. Fertility has such a huge impact on your overall mental and physical health, and if something is stressing you out, it deserves taking seriously.

dobby hope your DD settled soon and maybe even gave you a lie in after your busy day! Fingers crossed for you this cycle.

keys hope the AF pain has settled a bit today for you

tft sorry about the bug, hope you feel better soon. I struggle with reading the opks I have to say, I'd like to do the digitals but they are too pricey!

fruit I sort of have a plan, well it's a summer party at the playgroup my kids go to which will be busy and they will distract me. There are certain points of my cycle when I know I will be ok, then others when I am an emotional wreck. Fingers crossed I will be positive on that day. Sorry that your cycles have changed, Given time they may settle back down-have you done a test if you are a lot later than normal?

Well today I am cd34 (usual 28) and 12dpo (usual LP of 10) but many many bfns on testing! I have no idea wtf is going on and I'm not even in my wtf cycle-cycle 6 since MC so you'd think I'd be back to normal. I'm sort of resigned to not being pregnant and now would just like AF to hurry up to get it out of the way before we go on holiday on Saturday. Spoke to DH about how I was feeling this morning and he was great and made me feel much better. Weirdly I kind of Feel like I do at the beginning of a cycle-sort of full of hope and ready to get going. Makes me a little anxious that maybe I didn't ovulate and my cycles are running into each other? Hmmmm, really hope not though as will have no idea where I am.

Anyway, unmumsnet hugs to anyone feeling low and good luck to everyone dtd to about to test!

AF today. Bang on day 42 which is good. First 2 cycles after mc both the same which bodes well for charting etc (obviously DP needs to be in the country next time I know)

Sorry for AF adventure but it is really good if your cycles are regular! Good luck for this cycle

Sorry you're feeling unwell. tft sometimes life likes to lay it on thickly doesn't it!? Hope you're feeling better soon x
dobby fingers crossed for you hunny x
Remember the longer you wait to test, the more reliable the result will be....but I know I wouldn't be able to wait x
drifting don't worry, your cycles can't possibly run together, you cant start another cycle without having an AF hun x
adventure hi! Hope you are well...its good that your cycles seem to have sorted themselves out, even my wtf cycle was bang on time, this one too! I think its because I had my erpc almost exactly 28 days after mc, so my body was kinda already going through cycles xxx

Dd is strugling today, she eventually went to sleep for dh at 11.30 but was up a couple of times in the night and up at 7. She's shattered and keeps trying to drift off everytime she stops. But I'm be mean and not letting her nap, she can have an early bedtime instead.

I've picked up some tests in superdrug this morning but will try not to give into temptation until the end of the week, friday will be 15 days po. Or possiably much later. Some part of me thinks I'd want to get past the point where I mc, which means waiting another week or two. But another part of me wants to know if I need to be prepared for AF as we have quite a bit going on the next couple of weeks!

Sorry guys will catch up soon feeling a little :( x

So my opk yesterday was my first positive,...then today another positive...! Then from 3pm onwards I had cramping on my left side where ovaries are, followed half hour ago by one almighty cramp....now nothing.
Was my second positive opk the last part of my surge? And was the cramping followed by one big cramp, the actual ovulation? I hope so! We didn't dtd last night but did around midday today...so here I am calculating the time it would take swimmers to reach fallopian tubes (6hours) which would hopefully mean that they would get there around 'now' which is not long since I'm guessing I ovulated???

I'm trying not to get carried away, but never had such bad O pains before, none in wtf cycle which might explain why AF arrived last time.....TWW is going to be hell! Just resting now to try and relax my body in the hope it will aid conception!

Big hugs keys x

Sorry so many of you are feeling down. Cake all round...

I'm on CD9 following the weird neverending post tsunami spotting of my first AF after the MC. We're both knackered so not a lot of ttc happening so far this week

paws both times I've conceived I had proper ov pain as you describe.

Thanks carrot ... Trying so hard not to assume we have 'done it' this month x

Morning all.

Well started spotting last night and AF in full flow today. Onwards to the next cycle I guess. Happy to be out of limbo, can't believe I'm on cycle 7 post MC though. I think in all likelihood this will be our last cycle trying. I can't do this to myself much longer-at some point I need to be grateful for the kids I have and move on with my life

keys big hugs. Is it anything specific? Would it help to talk? Hope you are feeling a bit better today

Hi carrot nice to see you. Glad the first AF is over for you, sorry that you are shattered though. Cd9 is still early though-plenty of time to dtd!

adventure I'm not great with those opks but the two positives might be because you were catching the surge on the way up and then on the way down again? The cramping does sound like ovulation to me-I quite often get ovulation pain (although less so this recent cycle which might be why it was so messed up)-I find it really helpful and reassuring! At least you know you dtd around the right time. I would probably try and squeeze in another dtd today at some point if you can (easier said that done sometimes) just to make sure-the egg can survive for 24 hours. Good luck and fx for you

doby good luck for poas! Fingers crossed for you, I hope it's good news. You have so much more willpower than me, I probably would have done it already!

and to us all-we will all get through these tough times

Afternoon drifting I'm guessing that message for 'Adventure' was for me
Thank you for the info on surge going up then down, that's what I suspected as I tested at 3pm same time every day, and they say half 2ish is the best time!
I'm sorry about AF hun, I can only imagine how awful it must be ttc for that long, I don't have any children yet and pray it doesn't happen for me, losing our first destroyed me mentally already! You know what they say though, the moment you stop trying it happens...? Maybe if you weren't actively trying it might happen for you? I really hope so, it must be so sad struggling ttc even if you already have children. I suspect its not happening for you as its all you can think about? They say if you're too stressed it can stop it happening.
I hope you feel better soon hunny anyway, just look at your dc's and remember how special they are, and the future may bless you with more when you least expect it xxx

Just read that back to myself, I didn't mean 'i hope i don't have children' I mean 'i hope ttc doesn't take many many months'

Whoops yes paws that was for you! I was a bit bleary eyed this morning. I sincerely hope that TTC doesn't take too much longer for you and have every faith that you will get your baby before too long.

I think you are right though, I definitely need to relax a bit about it. We weren't even trying properly when I got pregnant with the baby that I miscarried. It feels like we've gone from one extreme to another. I'm looking forward to shutting my brain off from it for a couple of weeks-AF now and then we fly on holiday at the weekend (and I will not be taking any opks or thermometer!). So I won't be around on this for a while but will check in when I'm back and look forward to seeing lots of bfps!

No worries drifting ... Perhaps a holiday is just what you need! Thank you for your kind words, I'm hopeful it will happen soon for us too. I'm trying to relax and not add up days we have dtd, the odds etc...what will be, will be (I keep trying to remind myself)
I wish you all the luck in the world, the fact that you previously concieved accidentally is a good sign I think. Just rest your mind for a while and let fate play out...you never know xxx

Well I gave into temptation and pos this morning. Than again and again! I have a cupboard full of dip sticks and another supper drug one to play calling my name. Not sure I believe my eyes. May also go to the supermarket today so will probably buy something more expensive to test with tomorrow morning.

I think I've got something to tell dh when he gets home from work.