TTC after MC#6 - the lucky one for all of us!

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New thread. Hoping for lots of lovely BFPs over the coming weeks

congratulations dobby!!!!!!

Congratulations dobby!

Yay dobby!!!

dobby! Lovely news-huge congratulations!

Congratulations dobby - bloody well done

Hi everyone. Just wondering if you can give me a bit of a talking to this afternoon? I'm feeling a bit down about the mc and the fact that I'm not pregnant and worrying that it's going to be ages before I get pregnant again. Conceiving first time took a while which I found really, really hard - all the hoping, waiting and disappointment each month it didn't happen. The fact that we conceived without really 'trying' last time made it all the more exciting. Now I've mc-ed and we're going to try again, i don't want to go back to the person I was when we were ttc first time but I don't know how to stop myself obsessing over it. I'm only on CD17 since the erpc and I know that I am a late ovulator (and that this is the wtf cycle) so I shouldn't be worried yet but I can't help fearing the worst and thinking that it will take ages again, if indeed it ever happens again (then there is the worry that I might miscarry again too).

I am using opk's this cycle because I want reassuance that things are back to normal and I want to know that I'm ovulating. I've promised DH that i won't use them after this cycle but I know I will because it feels like poas every day to see if I'm ovulating is the only thing I can do to regain some control of the whole thing. But actually I probably would be better to take a step back and not obsess over the opk's.

Aaaargh, sorry for the very incoherent rant! Basically, the question is, how do I break the cycle of negative thoughts and live in the moment a bit more??

I think you have to tell yourself that yes it would be the icing on the cake to get pregnant again but don't let it define how happy you are with your life as it is right now.

I know during my mc when we didn't know why I was bleeding my DP was abroad and he said to me whatever happens we'll be ok. we're enough. No matter what happens from here on in I will always remember him saying that We're enough just us and I love him for that.

If you can carry on charting but try not to fixate on it then you know it'll probably happen in a more relaxed way !!

Thanks adventure. I know it but I needed to hear it every so often. Thank goodness for this thread! I love what your DP said, I am going to try and remember that when I feel like I'm starting to get int a negative thought pattern. Thank you x

Congrats Dobby!

tft I can completely empathise with how you are feeling and it's so true that we just need to focus on all the positive things that we have right here, right now. The rest will fall into place somehow. I'm sure of it. I was a total nut job when TTC my dd and after 12 Mths and an early mc I got her in the end. I'm not going through it again though, I'm determined to enjoy my life and hope that we are lucky enough to give her a brother or sister (today she wants a brother, yesterday sister hehe!). But if not, everything I have is enough, more than. Chin up chuck!

Cd40 today and still no clue what the feck is going on! Spoke to my bestie yesterday and she said her cycle post mc at 7 weeks (natural mc) was about 2 months ... Then she conceived her son, now 2. So, there are no rules I guess! I'm more just anxious about being taken by surprise by the witch.

Hope everyone is ok!

tft hope you ar feeling brighter today.

CD32 here and 8DPO, woke up really thirsty which I hope is a good sign, temp has dropped slightly but nowhere near cover line. My boobs are going to get bruises if I keep prodding them! Must remember in my meetings today not to start prodding boobs.....

Thanks everyone, I am trying to stop myself as soon as I catch myself getting negative, but it's so hard! I am very lucky to have what I have, another baby would be very special but what has happened doesn't make what I have already any less special.

Hope you all have a good day.

Hi everyone...got myself some first response pg tsts today ready to test next week! I know its only 3 dpo for me but really looking forward to testing, nervous as hell but excited. I just hope the stress doesn't 'stop' implantation etc etc? But I its going to stick it will right?
tft glad you're feeling a little better today x
mummy no prodding those boobs in meetings x
I'm glad I had one cycle before another pregnancy, .... But if AF shows up this cycle I will feel very depressed...fc!
Can worrying about it prevent it?

Hi everyone, can I join please? Such a busy and supportive tread. Im 36, had a miscarriage on 28 May (when flying out on holiday...) at 5 weeks and 3, so very early but still devastating. AF arrived yesterday exactly 4 weeks after, pretty pleased about that but so painful though, don't normally suffer from painful periods. I'm thinking of getting some opks any recommendations please?

Paws I don’t think there is much we can do to stop a sticky bean, just like there is nothing any of us could have done to keep a non sticky bean stuck! I managed to leave my boobs alone but last night DP announced that they are feeling harder and heavier like before our BFP – wishful thinking I am sure. Why am I getting so excited on cycle 1 after mc!!

Welcome Sakura sorry for your loss and how awful that you were on your way to holiday! I would recommend the Clear Blue digital dual hormone ones so ease of use, or you can get a load of cheap dip stick ones on amazon but I found them stressful.

Very sorry for your loss sakura. I use the cheap One Step OPKs from Amazon. The shop is called HomeHealth and it's free delivery which is usually 1-2 days

I didn't use OPKs before the MC but have found them helpful since.

And nearly positive OPK yesterday. I think I'll get my positive today and then on to the 2 ww

Sorry for your loss sakura this thread is very supportive, welcome. X
mummy thanks, that's made me feel a little better! X
carrot good luck with today opk, fc we will both get a bfp around the same time! X
4dpo for me, feeling very positive that we have done it, I don't know how to explain it...my body just feels kinda smug with itself hehe! Wishful thinking I'm sure, but sod it, better to feel hopeful than hopeless

Hi sakura. Sorry for your loss. People on here are so lovely and there is so much understanding of how hard and fustrating this whole process can be! I'm also using the cheapy opk sticks from Amazon, they seem ok although I haven't had a positive yet since mc. Keep hoping today will be the day!

Hope you get your positive opk today carrot - enjoy your weekend!

I so hope you get your bfps paws and mummy. I know what you mean about that smug 'think I'm pg' feeling - I had it with the pregnancy I just lost, that sort of knowing feeling. Stay hopeful!

Thanks tft I hope you get your +opk soon...i found the cheapies really good! I ovulated on CD15 for the first time ever I actually felt it, very strong O cramps for several hours...and we dtd a few hours before I got the cramps so I'm trying to stay hopeful but don't want to get too carried away as I know in reality it can take months x

:Example of positive opk for those using and curious...I O'd on CD 15!

Got a +ve opk today and really bad cramps on my right side yesterday so hopefully I have or am about to ovulate. I'm so pleased, hopefully things are going back to normal after the mc. Before mc I used to ov on day 19 and today is day 20 after mc so it looks like my normal cycle is returning. We dtd yesterday morning and will try again this eve so fx! So happy that things are going back to normal, I feel like I can move on a bit now. Feeling hopeful but got to try and stay realistic, I know it could take a few cycles to get pg.

Good luck tft well done on +opk...the tww awaits! X

Thank you all for the warm welcome. I'm going to check out the opk's that some of you recommended, I'd prefer testing first thing in the morning but I think most of them are to be used later in the day?

Ideally between 2-2.30....make sure same time every day so you don't miss the surge. X

Morning guys so sorry not been on my youngest DD has been in hospital with having a number if sezuires been a very scary time we are bnow home and awaiting follow up appointments and test :(.
Also having bloods taken etc to see if my blood clots which is causing my miscarriages.

dobby omg yay :) congratulations about time we got a bfp on here I'm so happy for you.
honey have you taken a pg test just to rule out your not pg again just encase hun? My AF hit last weekend. Was OK though not the nicest but was OK.
tfl you remind me of me. I drove myself mad just trying fall pg after mc. You will get there I promise you. I wish you so many bfp vibes really hope you fall pg very quickly hun
sak so sorry your here hun and to hear of your loss. I don't really use the opks might start this month.
paws gl in testing next week that's coime round so quickly I am keeping everything crossed for you :).

Nothing to report here really CD 7 for me. Hope your all enjoying the sunshine x

Gosh keys how worrying