TTC after MC; hand holding, hugs and lots of things that can JTFO!

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The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Congrats Dulcet. Try not to worry too much about brown spotting. Like others have said keep an eye on it and report to gp if it gets worse.

I'm currently on day 8 of brown spotting, who knows what's going on but I still have sore boobs n feel a bit sick every now and again, so trying not to worry too much. 2 more days and I'll have some answers and hopefully my levels will be somewhere around 48000. Did another test yesterday and it's still just as dark as the one I did last Thursday. Hoping it's still viable but now I'm thinking what if it's molar.

Thanks ladies! I know it can be totally normal. Been for acupuncture though and she has helped to freak me out - telling me no bleeding is normal and I need to lay down all week. No exercise for 12 weeks, no sex... I know it shouldn't take that sort of effort but scared if I don't it won't stick!

grey, thanks for the vit b advice. With late ovulation I am worried that progesterone levels won't be high enough to maintain a pregnancy. Will google!

Dulcet - first off, although your acupuncturist is qualified to do acupuncture she is not a qualified Dr. If you mention brown spotting to any Dr, most will say that is very common and nothing to be concerned about. It is likely from implantation. She shouldn't have said that as it is obviously going to cause more worry. Do take it easy though. Lying down for a week is not going to stop you from miscarrying if that is what is going to happen. Unfortunately only time is going tell. But I will keep everything crossed for a smooth ride for you and a healthy worry free pregnancy.

Congrats Dulcet and I hope you have a happy healthy pregnancy.

Thanks ladies, apparently it's not thrush. I'm being treated now for a water infection. Also in agony with lower abdominal pains and a bit of back pain.
I didn't really focus on that at the doctors do hope it's nothing bad.
Ugh!

Congratulations dulcet. It's such a shame that a BFP comes with worry but I'm keeping my fingers crossed for a happy and healthy 9 months.

AF arrived this morning. 2 days early. Rubbish.

Congrats dulcet - I think we were on the same antenatal thread (jan 2013) so it's great to see someone who was in my position get a bfp. I hope it sticks and that I can join you back on an antenatal thread again soon x

Hey everyone, I do miss you guys. Thought I'd just bob in and say that Dulcet, don't know if you remember I had some bleeding following a faint positive at the start of this pregnancy. I absolutely shat my pants. It was just implantation though (I think!) the doctor said because the tests are so sensitive it's perfectly possible to get a BFP before it implants. It was horribly scary though. Sending you a massive hug and keeping everything crossed for you.

Thanks boozle! It probably is a blessing and a curse that we have access to such accurate tests nowadays!

Hello ladies, can I join you please? Very sadly we had bad news at 12 week scan - scan on Tues showed moving baby with strong heartbeat but sonographer spotted issues (big cystic mypoma for those interested), went back for second scan on Thursday by which point baby's heart had stopped. Heartbroken. Had op on Saturday. now working on putting body and mind back together.

Haven't really told people in RL so just needed to say it somewhere. Sorry to dump on you all before reading your stories.

Planning a week of drink and cheese then will focus on getting body as fit and ready as possible for restarting this whole crazy rollercoaster.

Are we nuts to be thinking of trying again as soon as AF has arrived? How long does that usually take after the operation? I'm 35 so keen not to waste time but don't know if I'm going too quick for body/heart.

Hi Mrs welcome to the horrible club no one wants to be in.

I had my 2nd mc last week at 9 weeks and had surgical management so I feel your pain. I had my first mc back in May and I got pregnant again after my first period. Docs were happy with this. It is suggested that you wait 1 period for dating / emotional reasons. Basically if they don't know when your last period was it can make it quite hard to date you. Plus if you think you are x weeks, and have a scan and it shows Y weeks it can be distressing.

So general advice is wait for 1 period - that said I think if you fell pregnant before 1st period you aren't doing any harm so I guess it's personal choice.

I've now booked a docs appointment for next week and I'm going to ask to be referred to the pregnancy loss clinic at Birmingam Women's Hospital. I appreciate that I could well be told no, but at nearly 38 and 2 mc's close together they might agree.

Little sis who is an obs & gynae registrar has pretty much said "be prepared to be told no as its not 3 in a row, but sod it, if you don't ask you don't get and push how old you are!!!!"

Even if they say no, apparently the blood clotting test can be done in the surgery so am keeping everything crossed.

I'm so scared about trying again, but my determination is kicking in now. I live a 10 minute walk from one of the best women's hospital in the country. I need to take advantage of this

Hi Confusion, I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you find this thread helpful and supportive.
Generally AF can take anything up to about 6 weeks to come. Many women continue to try in that time. Drs generally say not to to make a new pregnancy easier to date. You will have to wait for your hcg to come down and a pregnancy test to be negative. Generally expect the unexpected over the next few weeks. Hormones really do reek havoc with your body. Amongst those who've had a mc it's known as the WTF cycle as anything goes!!
Take some time to allow yourself to heal, it does get easier with time. Big hugs

confusion I'm so sorry for what you've been through. heartbreaking.
It is completely your choice what you do now. Have a chat with OH and decide if you're ready. My hub and I decided to try again straight away without waiting for AF. A midwife friend had reassured us that the only reason they suggest waiting a cycle is for dating and that there would be no harm done getting pregnant straight away.
Hope you're doing ok xx

I think we need some stats... There's so many new faces since I first joined in January, think we should get to know each other a bit better...

I'll start:

EnglishGirlsReturned: TTC#1, TTC 12months, 2mcs - Jan2014 (5wks) & June 2014 (11wks blighted ovum).

Little bit of a random one here - I haven't been doing temping or poas for ovulation - should I be to try and target better than basic maths?

Hi English here are my stats

Brummiegirl15, 37 (38 in Oct!), TTC#1, TTC 5 months, 2 mc's May 2014 (5 weeks) and August 2014 (9 weeks)

My stats are:
Treacle, 24, ttc #1, ttc 7 months, 1 mc may 2014 (8 and a half weeks) - blighted ovum (they thought).

Lauren82000, 29 TTC #2 ttc 5 months. 1st mc May (5w+1) 2nd mc June (5w) currently 5w+5 spotting for last 9days

My stats are:

BlinkAndMiss, 34, 1 DS almost 2, ttc #2 3 months, 1mc august 2014 (6 weeks)

Welcome confusion, I'm so sorry for your loss. I don't think there is any reason, other than dating as the others have pointed out, that you can't try straight away. Just be aware of the WTF cycle, even with OPKs and motoring 'symptoms' it really is WTF. It does help to feel like you're actively trying to do something though, it keeps you focused and helps with the down days.

Dulcet, huge congratulations! One day at a time, and I would also be inclined to speak to my GP rather than listening to the acupuncturist. As awful as this sounds, if it's not meant to be then it's not and no amount of laying down and doing nothing will change that. All it will serve to do is make you feel even worse if the worst was to happen. She can't realise that no one is ever to blame, especially in the circumstances we've all found ourselves in.

I'm almost at the end of my tww, which will also be the end of WTF (I hope!). It's been an awful month, I feel like I have major pmt without any of the little niggles and odd symptoms I would get if I was pregnant which is making me feel lousy. I'm not sure when I ov'd as the OPKs were all over the place. I'm just hoping I get AF between Friday and Monday so that I can start my new cycle and new chance.

In the past I've always had very painful boobs and itching, my cm gets a yellow tinge to it and I feel incredibly thirsty. I also feel sweaty and gross. I've got none of those things this time so I know I'm out. I've had AF cramps since the weekend I should have ov'd so I'm not convinced that I actually did. I just have to wait it out. I'm on holiday from work at the moment and the whole time has been taken up with symptom spotting and being upset. I'm looking forward to when I don't have to do this anymore, it's not very good for me.

Hi Ladies, can I join you?
Barley.
ttc #2
Age 32. mmc march 2009, at nearly 12 weeks. Now have a 4 year old, after falling pregnant a few cycles after.
Fell pregnant in first month trying for #2 this year, which ended with a complete mc at 6 weeks.
Currently in first cycle following it. From what I've read this is an anything goes cycle, so no idea what will happen. But we have already jumped back into trying again, as we were feeling ready.

Not dealing well with constant new baby/pregnancy updates and complaints on Facebook at the minute. Thinking I need to come away from it for a little while!

Dulcetmoans, 29, TTC#1, 21months, one MC June 2014 (7weeks). BFP this week but uncertain.

Welcome confusion and b4rley. Sorry to see you here but hope you are recovering well.

I think the others have pretty much covered this but start again when you are ready. Medical world days wait a cycle but it's for dating purposes more than anything. A lot if us tried straight away!

blink, I know you are right. I have called my clinic and told them now. I know if it's going to happen it will happen, might have already happened! I do resent feeling like I have to treat myself as if I have an illness but worried about what to do for the best! Hope you get a positive end to your TWW.

blink those symptoms you mentioned with pregnancy I now seem to get every month!

Just popping in for a stats update:

Metalhead, 35, TTC#2 for 13 months (though "only" 10 cycles as they are quite long), mmc in Feb '14 followed by erpc. Have DD aged 4, conceived on cycle #2 .

Currently 10dpo and convinced I'm out as I have zero symptoms.

Just taken a pregnancy test as instructed by my consultant when left hospital last Monday. Still showing as pregnant. For fucks sake. How long will that happen for? I guess AF can't happen whilst still showing as pregnant. I just want AF to be here now so I can focus on trying again

My stats are:

fergie11, 41, TTC #1 for 8 maths, 1 mmc in April 14 at 8 weeks ( medically managed), 2 mmc in August 14 at 10 weeks (erpc)