If TTC # 2 has turned you into a nut job this thread is for you! (Part 4)

[sebsmummy1]

Hey!! We have had lots of graduates from Part 3, so let's get on the TTC bus part 4 and make this place a ghost town.

Destination Pregnancy, choooo choooooo

Love it sebs!!!! Fedup - there's no reason why this pregnancy will end like the last. In fact it's much more likely to be successful. I know it's a long wait but you need to almost forget about it (like you did with the ttc I guess). Don't think about symptoms, or lack of, as you know deep down there is no correlation.

In our house it's like the elephant in the room. Last time we planned everything by the 12 weeks scan (narrowing down names, deciding whether we would find out the sex or not etc.). This time we've yet to tell anyone - I don't even know when we're going to tell parents.

Agree with 2be. There is absolutely no reason why this pregnancy shouldn't be H&H. I don't remember having any symptoms with my pregnancy until I was about 8 weeks. Then my boobs looked like udders and I was horrified lol

I had some post coital bleeding from memory and was very scared. Then asked on a diff forum I was part of and they said it was pretty common.

Well OH back tonight at about midnight. I think DS has chicken pox. He was exposed to it about a month ago at a friend's daughter's birthday party and his torso has lots of spots on it this morning. I have noticed the quantity increasing over the last two days, his nappies have been SHOCKING and he has been sleeping more. Otherwise he seems to be ok in himself.

Well this is going to be confusing-I have it set up so the op is highlighted in green that's normally fedup!!

Yep, sounds like chicken pox, sebs. Hopefully he'll be fine - my dd was. 3 week in the supposed time between exposure and the spots occurring so sounds possible.

Thanks sebs - DS loves trains so very appropriate in our household.

Thanks ladies. I do appreciate it. I'm trying so hard not to panic. It will get me nowhere! Poor DH is petrified too. I think he feels very out of control, as do I!

What do you mean, I'm green??? Everyone is the same colour to me on here...!!!

Good to get the pox out the way sebs. Ds hasn't had it yet! Hope sebs is ok though.

Me too 2be. Was so ignorant! Thought of names too. I don't think this time I will do anything until there is a baby in my arms. We don't need to buy stuff as we have it from DS. Even my mum who is usually the biggest pessimist is more positive than me - this has to be the biggest first ever in our family. I've told my mum, my sister and one of my best friend who is going through ttc hell too after mc and I couldn't lie to her, plus she's been ace.

With DS I had symptoms pretty much from word go.. And much less for mc baby. I know every preg is different but I actually want to be throwing up and having huge sore boobs!! Bring it on!

Sebs - I need some distraction - can you get a bfp this month please?! Sod the psychic and get preggers in December with twins!!! Xxxx

oh good luck fedup! I think you will begin to have some symptoms soon, it is early days.

AF a day late here but I ovulated ridiculously late (clear blue fertility monitor and all other symptoms) so I am not testing.

PMSL, I think I can definitely get pregnant with twins this month yep!!! I see no reason whatsoever why that wouldn't happen

Ooooooooh zippy!!!!!!! There was a month quite a while back when I had a 30 day cycle and I was thinking I was late but then AF arrived. So I think I must have Oed late. I understand the whole follicular phase thingy a bit better now. How many days past ovulation are you?

i ov'd on sun and mon according to the fertility monitor, day 24(!) of a usual cycle lasting 27 days..so no surprise AF isnt here yet either way! had had high fertility since day 12, but only peaked sun and mon. I think AF will be here any day

Hmmmm I'm stressing because I think I'm going to OV too early this month as I have EWCM on cd8!

Well I am not going to say anything other then, good luck, hope she stats away. Our bodies are mysterious things and sometimes we do everything right and bfn, and other times we think absolutely no way, couldn't happen this month and BFP!!!!

Jumping on, hello everyone, and thanks for your replies about opks on part 3, definitely think I'll give them a go in a couple of months.

Keeping fingers and toes crossed for lots of BFPs!

Too early for what sebs? Is DH away?

zippy your fertility monitor sounds a bit bonkers? 12 days of high fertility?? Maybe it's you with the twins this month as a result?!

too early for it to be normal fedup! DP back tonight. I don't know, I feel as though I stand no chance of getting knocked up if I don't O on cd14. I know that's irrational of me but its how i feel

I know fedup, but I have read on here that in the first month the monitor has lots of days of high fertility. In addition now I know from the consultant that my breastfeeding (I only stopped earlier this cycle) is affecting the hormones at the start and end of the cycle it probably is all a bit out (so that was £100 well spent, zippy)

It's very normal sebs. I get ewcm around cd 8 too. One month it started while I was still on my period and I ovulated on cd 8! You can also have ewcm for days before you ovulate so it could end up being around cd14 anyway!!
When I was worried about early ovulation I read this article about people from a religion who didnt have sex whilst on their period, but weren't getting pregnant. Once they did have sex during their period they got pregnant - so early ovulation works!!

Gunk still here... At least am not at work today

Hi! I've lurked a bit but am now very much reaching the point of going crazy. Just POAS this morning, convinced I was bfp.....

Bfn

It took us 7 cycles with our first and it's only been 4 so far this time but I was so convinced this month had worked. Symptom spotting like mad over the 2ww and I was having nausea, I was needing get up for the loo in the night, tender boobs, more tired, tingly nipples. Just goes to show how much we can fool ourselves.

You all seem very sure of your cycles. Do most of you use the opk's? I'm thinking about just using them for one cycle to give confirm for me when about i ov in my cycle but those of you monitoring regularly seem to be saying it varies each cycle.

Good luck to those of you still in with a chance this cycle.

Hi Inca, no not using opks yet but may consider it in the new year. My cycle is anything from 24 days to 30 so a little bit random here, but really just trying to enjoy the BDing for now and trying very very hard not to be impatient which is driving me bonkers

Zippy you are right, the monitor does need a few cycles to start giving more accurate results. I think that's what puts quite a few people off as they can end up throwing you lots of peak addy and it can be a bit head scratching. But I would have definitely bought one myself, what out me off was the price if the monitor then the price of the sticks!! If I had been able to get a Chao second hand one I would have done it. As it was they all seemed to be holding their value on eBay and I though feck it lol

Ok, that makes me feel a bit better fedup. I shall calm down. So bloody annoying that yr gunk can't ease up and leave you be so you can start to enjoy your pregnancy. I would say maybe concentrate on your first scan. You said you were going to get one at around 9 weeks? Maybe see that as a marker for you to focus on, anywhere local you're thinking of going to? I used BabyBond from memory (god that seems SO long ago now)!!!! I also had a 4d scan at 20 something weeks and that was so lovely. Got to see him moving around in there although I was convinced he had a funny nose lol

Inca, I think it's really normal to symptom spot like crazy in the early months of TTC. As time goes on you do it less as it's a bit pointless. The only things that would pique my interest now is a lot of unusual prolonged discharge in the 2ww and a strong implantation bleed early on like I had with Seb. Any other twinges is just my body, including tingling nipples etc. Wishing you loads of luck, it will happen for you, we just need a bucket load of patience mixed in with the baby dust xxx

Soz for typos grrrr, typing too fast!!

I was holding out to 8 weeks but if I make it to 6 and going then for early scan. Even if can only see a blob. I just want to know there is something there as last one was just a big sac.

I have been the biggest victim of fake symptoms last 10 months. As sebs says, my only real clue this time was prolonged and consistent watery / creamy discharge for a week or so. It was that which made me think... Hang on! I usually get some before af but more like 3 days.... Not a week!

Fedup, they could see enough at 6 weeks to make me believe it. How many weeks are you now though, dont they count it since your last AF at first so wouldnt that make you officially nearly that? how early to find out if it is twins ?

Does anyone know how many dpo it is worth testing? AF still not here, 2 days late, but only OV'd Sunday/Monday. I kind of prefer the "possibly" than the bfn, but have some Christmas do things this weekend and next weds so there is the issue of drinking or not. I suppose I ought not given AF is late. Nobody in real life except dh knows we are ttc so dont want them all to start assuming i'm pregnant etc.

10 dpo. No earlier! And even that's early. Hold out of you can although fertility monitor could be wrong and you ov'd earlier.
If it was me I would test and if bfn have a couple of drinks but not a binge! Apparently no booze passes to baby before 4 weeks so you will be fine in any case.
I have my work Xmas do on next Friday.. Dreading that one!

I'm only 4 wks plus 3 by lmp but I think I'm more like + 5 as have short cycles.

In my manic google I did find bleeding was much more common with multiples.... But I just don't feel pregnant enough for that!!!

10 dpo. No earlier! And even that's early. Hold out of you can although fertility monitor could be wrong and you ov'd earlier.
If it was me I would test and if bfn have a couple of drinks but not a binge! Apparently no booze passes to baby before 4 weeks so you will be fine in any case.
I have my work Xmas do on next Friday.. Dreading that one!

I'm only 4 wks plus 3 by lmp but I think I'm more like + 5 as have short cycles.

In my manic google I did find bleeding was much more common with multiples.... But I just don't feel pregnant enough for that!!!

Yep 10dpo. Some get positives at 8dpo but I think that's rare.

I have so much EWCM this cycle, not sure if that's a good sign or not. I'm convincing myself I'm menopausal to be honest so I think the early O is a sign of my eggs disappearing on me. All I had to do was meet DP 5 years ago and this TTC lark wouldn't be so blimming stressful for me. I feel like I'm counting down to infertility and it's crap.

It's a great sign sebs!!! And I don't think any sign of menapause at all!! You haven't ov'd yet so not even 'early'!! Stop stressing please.. You have great signs of fertility! Great ones...

Ok ok ok, that made me tearful, thank you so much for being such a lovely support on here for me xxxxxx

Keep calm if you can as it does affect conception, I am now a convert of this. Never was but it took the month that I 'relaxed' to conceive...

Big hugs xxx