Hi cake. Well I have mc both ways. And personally preferred the natural one. But important to remember one was at 12 weeks with a huge sac (baby died ages before and had re absorbed) and I was only bleeding black stringy blood. The natural one was much earlier - bout 5.5 weeks and was like a painful period that went on a bit longer than normal.
There are so many pros and cons of both:
Erpc pros:
Means it's over with - I wanted to get move on and didn't want to potentially wait for sac to continue growing
Unlikely for any retained products
Can sometimes do tests on what they remove to find out cause of mc
Bleeding after op often v light
Cons
Requires general anaesthetic
Risks with injury to Bowel and bladder (funnily enough these were the risks they talked through with me but I didn't care about those as they would mend them, I was worried it would damage my fertility / give ashermans - which they had no risks / stats info to reassure me
It's medical not natural
Natural pros
Natural - body's way of dealing with it
No worries about surgery damage
Cons
Can take a while to complete
May not complete and need erpc after all
Pain - but can take painkillers. Co codamol is good.
There are prob others but that's my quick traffic jam summery!
I think there is no evidence as to which you recover from quickest physically as it all depends on how pregnant you were and your own body. I conceived second cycle after natural mc but 10 months after erpc BUT they were very different pregnancies.
If it was me again - if the bleeding hadn't got going after a week I think I would erpc. I went through the mill last time trying to decide what to do but doctors tell me erpc was the right thing as sac was huge. I felt emotionally exhausted trying to make the practical decision of what to do, it dominated my mc process and I didn't really grieve until afterwards.
Just so sorry you are going through this, I wish it hadn't happened for you lovely. But do ask me anything you want if I can help in anyway xx