Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake! Part ?

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Thought we could do with a new thread since the old one is full.

Pear it sounds quite a quandary, to stitch or not. I'm so indecisive but usually end up asking what they'd do (if a gal) or what they'd recommend their sister to do so u cut thru' the medical stats and put it in a more real life situation.

mrspear I've had one, but it was placed as an emergancy which is less likely to work as the cervix has allready started opening.

Yep it's pretty undignified, no more so than having a retained placenta removed though ( had one of those too)

The two main risks are waters breaking or infection. Luckily enough I didn't suffer from either and was given abs just incase.

Did she tell you which type of stitch she wants to use?

level 3 pebs?! like, omg. Am in awe. I am still huffing and puffing and I-can't-ing my way through level two :) I love it! it really hurts! Hurray for half a stone, well done! I sadly am not losing any weight... I am eating like a pig mostly because of my PhD BUT am getting toned so my body is changing for the better.

Am glad you are back on board ttc wise, super duper.

mrspear that sounds stressful for you. Luckily you have lovely knowledgeable moomin to hold your hand!

hi ladies...just checking-in...on iPhone so difficult.
wilde**...just noticed you are ttc as well this month...I've just been & bought Folic acid...made me feel reminiscent & a bit sad ...very daft.
Somedays I feel more mentally ready than others...hope that's normal??
Congratulations on the BFPs...how wonderful--wishing healthy & happy pregnancies.
If any bunch of people deserve it...it's us lot x

level three is a whole new world from level two! i accidently left the dvd running and saw a bit of level three when i was still on level one and it looked scary!

i haven't lost weight through the shred though, i have been doing myfitnesspal as well. it keeps my eating in check!

sounds normal to me wifey i was freaking out about ttc yesterday but am chilled today. i am on high dose folic acid and have been taking it for a while now to get ready for ttc. it's a bit annoying as i have to get it on prescription and they will only give me 28 tablets at a time. bloody cutbacks! i am sure i am the only person in the world paying for prescriptions - they always look suprised when i say i am paying and i never see anyone else paying!

wifey hello old friend. I hope you are ok chuck. We are indeed ttc this month, first proper month of trying since the mc... am very excited and totally bricking it - what if it is a BFN, what if it takes months... or what if it is a BFP?! That's a whole new world of worry (hence being on this lovely thread). I have been taking pregnacare since the mc, didn't stop seeing as I want to ttc and it has lots of lovely vits in it anyway so is ok... Am very used to taking it every day now! Will prob still be taking it when am 50!

where are you in your cycle for this month? am on cd8, waiting to ov on cd20... hopefully!

Am terrified (and quite excited in a twisted way) about level three pebs. i could only peep at it from behind the settee at the moment

oh well. better go and wake fireman sam up from his nap... !

wilde....I know that feeling...wanting a BFP but being so scared yet fearing a BFN! I am on CD10..OV day 15 usually but hoping to dtd every 2-3 days I guess to cover all bases! I'm terrified I'll get it wrong again..
Taking Multi-vits as well-- can't hurt I figure!!

ooh wifey just realised i was either 'funthatisfunny' or 'soveryfedup' on the mc boards :) not sure if i was wilde there - don't know if you remember me but we had a few chats! just realised! don't worry if you don't remember tho, is a sadly busy board.

you are lucky you ov around day 15. I have such a looooong wait, too much time to get all het up about it!

Just found DH's wellman vits in the cupboard . He is getting serious it seems! chuffed :)

Sorry wilde....I didn't realise.
Having an emotional wobble...I write in a journal occasionally & haven't done for a week & now I have it's reduced me to an emotional mess. I know others have suffered/are suffering worse than me...but I just want things to be different...I want my baby back I'm scared of what the future holds & I want the life I had 12 weeks ago...my baby

Anyone needing folic acid, its free at asda pharmacys for the baby event, again!

wifey I know how you feel. It is ten weeks since my MMC and I thought I was doing alright until my boss called me in to his office this afternoon...said he had noticed that I was keeping myself to myself, hiding away from the staffroom and that people were making allowances for me, because they 'feel sorry for me'. I tried to explain that I just want to keep my head down and get my job done, but I don't think that is good enough and I need to be putting on a smile and be sociable every day. I don't want people to make allowances for me, obviously, but not sure what I can do about that either. I left his office in tears.

I am now feeling guilty about all you lovely ladies doing such a fab job on your exercise and diet, as I eat a whole packet of bourbons, sometimes more than one at once!

aw wifey. I want my old life back too, hence wanting to be pg so I can look forward to all the things I had before it was taken away. We will be pg again soon :)

thanks state!

wilde - we will, sooner the better!
state thanks for the tip. Free folic acid - do you have to spend millions in ASDA to qualify?!

quicksie....so sorry for your loss
We all deal with things in our own way..& like you I withdrew & kept myself very much to myself. Feeling just like you about having to put a smile on & an Oscar-worthy performance when around people who didn't know..
wilde....I guess the key is to be positive for the new chapters we hope to face.
Feel a bit better since I've been tending to my baby's resting place...the sun shining & rose petals were everywhere. So peaceful.

quicksie, on the bourbon eating front, why do you think my name is what it is?

quicksie am so sorry about your mc.

I just want to say, the only reason I am getting on 9 weeks after my mc is because I have been signed off work (well, uni, two months away from completing my PhD). I was having panic attacks and getting worryingly withdrawn and depressed, went to drs beg June and am signed off until 15 july. Uni have said I don't have to go back until sept which is actually harder for them to say than it is for a lot of people to get sick leave from normal jobs and totally screws their targets and funding, not to mention my supervisors retirement date :( But I literally could not think and needed time away from the pressure before it overwhelmed me, and so I took it.

so it is not that you are not coping, or others are coping better, it is that others might have better support or have taken a step back from the demands of everyday life for a couple of months to get used to the mc and try to make peace with it before trying to also meet everyone elses demands.

Please don't feel bad that you are not bouncing around. And fwiw I still avoid social situations where I might hear a pg announcement/see anyone who might be due around my previous EDD. but otherwise, yes, am absolutely fine now, and back working although uni don't know this :)

Hello everyone, I thought you'd all given up but then I stumbled across this new thread... (not so new now!)
Totally with you there wilde on avoiding social situations where I might see anyone who is due around previous EDD. I feel really bad about it but figure it's the best way to minimise the risk of me feeling shit / saying something I might regret. Self preservation really.
possom - am so absolutely chuffed about your news; I had a feeling you'd be lucky this month. Here's to a healthy happy pregnancy for you :) (p.s. I logged on early this morning especially to see if you'd tested again but you hadn't yet posted!!) xx

Oh my god I lost you all. shudders will catch up properly.

Thank you wifey JaffaSnaffle and wilde!
I work in a school and so never escape the gorgeous kids of other people )I do love them though!) We have got 3 members of staff who are pregnant and 4 off on maternity at the moment so yes, I know what that is like!
I had two weeks off when I found out about the MMC, and still felt like I was taking the piss as the woman in the next bed in the EPU was going back to work the same day! I know my boss is trying to help, well, either that or is sowing the seeds before putting me through some sort of capability procedure...My fella would kill him if he did!
wifey I go from telling myself to pull myself together, to telling myself to go back to bed and stay there. Every day is different. I think I will feel much better when my body stops acting like a berk.
wilde your uni have been pretty supportive - good to hear. and hats off to you on the PhD, I did an MSc a few years ago and the dissertation nearly finished me off, so I can't imagine doing a thesis.
Jaffa you have made an excellent choice of biscuit/cake. Usually I go for party rings but today I would have shovelled anything in there.

quicksie nope there is just a table at one asda with it on, saying free for ttc/pregnancy/bfing. Another has a sign at the pharmacy saying to ask. They also have tommys books with ttc/pregnancy guidelines advice and stories. Quite good advice on the food side of things.

jaffa I just snorted most unladylike at the revalation of your nicknames meaning.

I might have just troffed a bag of cadburys clusters, there's raisins in them though

Wilde and yikes my nightmare sil is due next week, month after my duedate. All hells broken loose as her ds party is the same time as mine --thank GOD luckily dp calmly informed everyone, as its ds school friends one its no issue as we weren't prepared to drive 220mile round trip and spend money on fuel when its Jacks birthday and he was born first, and ofc our sons our priority. And sil has never bothered with our dcs birthdays at all. and I'm not ready for a newborn in my face--

Morning ladies, I've bought a hot pot of tea and yummy breakfast muffins - we need them it's like winter out there!

I'm with u ladies entirely on avoiding social situations, it's my godsons birthday party in a few weeks and the other god mummy is due the same week as I should be, I feel like I'm weak telling my best mate I don't want to go but I really don't think I can handle it, I'm telling myself I'm not being selfish?!

Stay dry ladies

polka....my sister is due the same month I would of been... we are not on speaking terms (un-related to situation)..but she was spiteful after my MMC. I'm finding it easier to keep away.

Gives polka and wifey a squeeze, my sil was spiteful too, "not my fault, selfish for not being happy for me, you obviously did something etc"

aw I am sad to hear of the lack of sisterhood amongst us! My sis is a mentaller but will never be able to have a baby because she has lupus :( Poor chicken, she is fabulous with kiddies too (nursery worker). My SIL is lovely, had her baby just after I mc'ed but couldn't be happier and enjoyed my cuddles with my neice, was a tonic really as I was bizarrely gald to leave them to the crying baby and get me a BIG glass of wine!

My toddler is in the garden in the teeming rain! I try to bring him in, he collapses on the floor in hysteria. In my defence he is togged up head to toe in waterproofs... crackers absolutely not complaining though as I swig tea and mumsnet.

polka you have to do what you have to do. pull a sicky if you are worried about hurting feelings. Really, this is such a unique feeling and it will go soon enough.