Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake! Part ?

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Thought we could do with a new thread since the old one is full.

and hi to springforward, hope your journey TTC#2 ends soon!

I'm having a major metal - was supposed to be going to help friends with their allotment, but now freaking out about toxoplasmosis. Should I get gloves?!

tas the average person will have usually come into contact with toxoplasmosis at some point in their young lives so many of us are already immune... but gloves would seem a sensible precaution, particularly if it will set your mind at rest. And, y'know, no mud pies for you, missy!

Right. marff I still haven't got much time... gotta make/feed DS2 his lunch and it's already late! But what markers have they seen indicating cf? Have they taken blood from you and DH to see if you're both carriers? Because if you're not, then baby hasn't got it either.

Didn't one of our regulars have a cf boy? Was going into hospital with him when got bfp/bad ms? Her name is on the tip of my tongue... Gah, can't remember!

Also, my DD has been diagnosed with a mild scoliosis this year (aged 17) after about a year of back pain... I googled a bit at the time and it seems it's only rarely that it's a 'big deal' iyswim.

Back later.

hi spring. so sorry to hear about your losses. You'll find a comfy home here I hope :)

martha you poor sausage. No one would ever judge you about what you have to do, you have to do what is right for you and yours. Hang tight for the consultant and see what they have to say, hopefully it might not be as bad as they have suggested - that more details are needed and second looks had...

And not 'glowing' doesn't indicate anything bad! my SIL had a terrible time with HG which only eased after 22 weeks then all the pelvic shit and bad back kicked in so she could barely get out of bed. And she looked awful (don't tell her I said that ) But her baby was fine. healthy momma does does not mean healthy baby and vice versa.

take care of yourself. Come back and rant away [tea]

ah ha! x

Oh Martha - so sorry to hear about your scan. Sending lots of love and hoping that you get some positive news on Thursday.

Congrats to Tas - may the metalling begin. I wouldn't worry about gloves.

Pebs - hope everything's ok with you.

I'm doing ok. Supposed to be having a break from TTC but can't bring myself to use contraception. Maybe I'm hoping that a more haphazard approach to conceiving will end in a baby.

Need to vent about a tactless pregnant nct friend too - she knows about my miscarriages including my recent one and keeps going on about her pregnancy without asking how i'm doing. 'having a girl - so thrilled' was the last message. Arghhh.

urgh jolly dont we just love these tactless friends, that goes down with all of the smug FB status' (oo i am gonna drag my pregnant belly to bed; oo i am just sooooo pregnant today - they are two direct quotes from a 'friend' of mine on FB)

Thank you for all your words of wisdom ladies. I do just want to add that we are not going to take this decision lightly, if it were just 'one' of the issues picked up then we wouldnt think twice about carrying on, but the notes indicate problems with just about every organ and spine (and i am only guessing at CF, just going by the notes). I truly dont want anyone to think that we only want 'the perfect baby'.

We have had a better day today, took DS to Chester Zoo and had such a giggle. We are so grateful for the family we already have, and a DC2 would be wonderful, but - well you know what i mean...

MANDAAAAAAA i confess to stalking you yesterday as i was going to PM you about our news but then saw that you posted on here and though - well they ALL understand how shit life can be sometimes, so i moseyed on over here. I have aaaalways wanted to spot one of those Rightmove classics to start a thread and so was over the moon last week when i found that little gem. So how are you and your li'l 5 a side footie team (including DF in the team as goalie)

In answer to your questions they havent indicated any markers as yet and havent taken bloods, but as i say i took a completely un-medically-educated guess at CF. We will have a good chat with the consultant on Thursday.

Good to be chatting to you all again; as i said i didnt want to come on here and moan about how miserable i was during pregnancy as we have all struggled to get this far, i didnt want to 'devalue' anyone's good news or struggles IYSWIM

Martha, I am just trying not to cry sweetheart. I've often wondered how you were getting on. I am so sorry you are in this dark limbo.
Can you remember my 1 in 20 downs result?I know its not the same, but i have some experience of this waiting and what iffing and feeling so very sad. One of the longest weeks of my life. I will never judge you, whatever you decide. All I can say is think of everything you want to ask the consultant and write it down before your appointment. Make sure you can get as much info as you can to make your best clear judgement . Also, the antenatal tests and choices thread is a very kind place to be. Huge hugs for you x

Scrunchy hugs jaffa I do remember your ds tests, am I correct that all was well after the CVS?

I have just looked at the ante natal choices topic and will post there after Thursday I think, thank you all for directing me there, it is the thing u was looking for yesterday

Oh god martha how feecking unfair is life. No one on hear will judge you, actually admiration is more appropriate really as everyone knows what an incredibly tough decision it will be. I only hope on Thursday things are a hell if a lot clearer. HUGE hugs to you and your family, life is really incredibly tough xx

Ggrrrrrrr when will it end - I've never been so embarrassed - six weeks on from my mmc and I'm still bleeding intermittently, got dropped off for some last minute school shopping and started bleeding through my clothes. Felt such a berk with my jacket tied around my waste to hide it.

The ladies in debenhams were great - quick dash to superdrug for wipes and pads and then into debs for new clothes they also helped in the loo giving me a bag for old clothes!

This is the third time this has happened (through clothes) but the first time in front of people - any idea when I can expect this to stop! I seem to have a bad bleed then nothing again.

Sorry if this is too much info but I'm physically drained and want it to stop :(

Martha, yes I was one of the 19, and all chromosomes came clear... Now 30 weeks.

I just want you to know I've been thinking about you and your family all afternoon. Do whatever you can to get through this week, and if you can, a little bit of space to think. I went through a lot of different emotions... I got so angry at one point. Felt I'd already had more than my share of bad luck, like I was slowly working my way through the obs and gynae text book... If you want to pm me, I'd be happy to listen or help in any way I can. Xx

Pixie I think you should go to the doctor (if you haven't already, of course!). 6 weeks on and bleeding heavily enough to bleed through your clothes doesn't sound right to me x

Pixie, x-post with you. When you bleed, is it quite a heavy flood, then stops again? If it is, I think you might have 'retained products' (horrible name, I'm sorry). I think you need to either ring your Epu or or GP, depending on who is going to treat you better... I had this after my mmc. They looked at my cervix which was still slightly dilated, ( had some cramps too) and they gave me antibiotics. Sorry if tmi, but I ended up passing a small piece of tissue, which my body had been trying to expel with the bleeds. If it is retained products, i don't think it is an emergency, but it needs treating.

Pixie - I agree with the others - you need to go back to your EPU. I don't think it's normal to bleed for that long. My EPU nurse told me quite firmly that I needed to get in touch if I bled for more than 2 weeks or if the bleeding tailed off and then started again.

Thank you thank you thank you everyone, it really means the world. haffa I may pm you later in the week.

Off to the in laws tomorrow so will update you when we get back Tuesday, though will be lurking on my phone.

Big licks to you all x

Pixie - both times I had same advice as Jolly, FWIW. My friend had similar experience and eventually had a couple of units of blood put up as she was struggling a bit.

hi all,
martha glad you had a good day at the zoo, you sound very strong. Keep us posted, don't feel like you can't come on here and rant/moan etc etc. We are here for you. Hugs.

manda hi!!! lovely to hear from you again, glad all is going well. Thanks for replying to my metal about gloves and gardening. In the end it was all bramble clearing, no mud or cats in sight. Had a lovely time, glad I went. And thanks jollyb as well.

pixie not right at all, you must go back to docs/EPAU. I had a MMC last year and the bleeding just tailed off like a normal period, so what you're describing doesn't sound normal. What jaffa said sounds right. It sounds very stressful and draining, take it easy.

well my bloods came back, they were meant to double in the 48 hrs. And they didn't.....they TRIPLED!!!! (almost) YES! 366 to 900and something, nearly fainted when the nurse told me, so didn't catch the exact number. No EP symptoms at all, so I'm really really pleased. Scan booked in on Friday, I'll be 5+1. Hopefully they'll be able to see something in the womb and NOT in the tube or the stump.

was it titsalina that had a DS with CF? Sorry if it wasn't you tits. But Mands is right, there was definitely someone..

Thanks ladies - I contacted EPU couple of weeks ago had a scan and TMI alert was advised I had a 13mm clot still to pass but as less than 15mm was classed as a complete mc and I just had to wait it out :(. Contacted the GP and was prescribed pills over the phone which turned to be pills to suppress the bleeding (EPU told me not to touch them)

The bleeding had pretty much stopped then this morning felt a bit of cramping and thought AF was arriving but this afternoon I had a sudden gush I was mortified and now the bleeding as pretty much gone again - seems my body is not ready to give this one up!

I thought I was coping with this mc but have been really down over the last couple of days :( and feel really selfish after reading the dreadful waiting games some of you are having

pixie can't they offer you something else? I'd go back to EPU as I'm sure they'd do something after bleeding for so long?

martha I can't imagine how you're feeling, and just echo what everyone else is saying. My thoughts are with you during this horrible waiting time.

Haffa? Jaffa!

polka your beautiful words have just made me cry, in a nice way

pixie you should def get checked out, 6 weeks is a little while after

And pixie you are not selfish at all, your waiting game is as rough as everyone else

tas that is wonderful news

Big hugs to pixie and martha

pixie, love, I am so sorry. It seems mad that for a minuscule 2mm, you are not getting treated. But as long as this goes on, you are not able to physically or mentally recover from your miscarriage, both of which are so very important...
I don't what else to say, except try the Epu again, and maybe exaggerate.. But if you are feeling drained etc, it has gone on long enough. I really dislike this sort of thing. When you are down already, you shouldn't have to battle for treatment.

oh pixie that is dreadful for you - and they won't treat it in any way? that is really shocking to me :( How are you meant to get over your mc, and live your life without expecting to bleed all the time? And you must be exhausted. If it is making you ill surely there is something they can do? big hugs to you x

congrats to you tas you must be so pleased!

hope you ok martha

pixie I agree with Wilde and jaffa, I couldn't even begin moving on from my MC until the bleeding stopped. Do get checked out asap if poss, maybe just go to a&e?

At the ILs now being pampered