Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake! Part ?

[backwardpossom]

Thought we could do with a new thread since the old one is full.

Not family I know, but am going on hols today with a close friend who has no kids and she knows about my mmc but if I mention anything to do with it, or joke about being able to get all drunk this hol because I'm now not pg, she makes some annoying comment about how lucky I am to have a health DS already, and the conversation cannot continue after that - even if I hadn't mentioned anything about being sad or whatever!
I understand she wants children (and to get mattied etc) but now I have to avoid entire parts of my life in our conversations! Why does it have to be such a struggle being friends with some people?!!
Oh dear - AIBU to find it annoying?!?!

Oops! She wants to get married!! Bad iPhone typing!!

fatas firstly a big bear (hug) I can't mention it around my friends, they don't understand that although dd and ds are a HUGE comfort, for me I was very confused and angry as to why I lost that baby when my body carried them. I blame myself and still do. They also don't understand why I want this baby I'm carrying "when you have a boy and girl" ummm sex matters not, its a baby, a child a member of my family!!! That said they don't have dc or even ttc, and I don't think until your in the 'baby' frame of mind be that ttc, had a mc, bfp, or a child, you can get the feelings involved.

I just keep of the subject now, I have here, my mum and dp.

God my nausea is getting worse

Thanks state I agree - and even those who do have children sometimes can't understand about mc's. I am going to not talk about it this week, and it's the only time I have to actually see these friends, but I would rather not have those guilt trip conversations she gives me - my DS has been the only thing that kept me sane and happy the last few months so there is no way I don't appreciate his gorgeous, innocent, cheeky little self!

(worse sickness can only be good??)

Boo, sympathy on the sickness! I know it's a "good sign" but it's still horrible.

Thanks ladies, it's reassuring to have your support!

Sickness is horrid but definitely a good sign, sorry!

Evening ladies TGIF :) - booked early scan this afternoon Tuesday 17th I will be exactly 8 wks then fx.

Have a dilemma this weekend though - sister having a girls only facial party - staying the weekend and it's normally a very very boozy affair so not sure how to get round the no drinking OH and i told a couple of people last time I was pg (because of my age) but we thought we had jinxed ourselves - any thoughts?

I could probably write a book about sisters and SIL but I won't bore you - they all come round in the end and if they don't 'fuck em' that's what I say!

Running off for dindins now but wil pop back later

dont forget to add your stats if you are ready

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fats I want to get mattied too! Sounds more fun than a wedding!

Other people eh... Sympathies with anyone who has struggled with this. I haven't got kids yet but I find it really strange when people say ' at least you have got one' to women who have had a mc. Would they say the same about your grandparents if your nan died?! I hope not! Grief is grief, doesn't matter how many people you have in your life, how much money in the bank etc.

My friend has been hiding her pregnancy from me because she didn't want me to be upset, found out today she is nineteen weeks! Feel awful that she felt she had to do that, but really overwhelmingly grateful for her thoughtfulness. I am now going to make a huge fuss of her and cut her in on my bourbon stash!

Pixie you could tell a fib and say you are on antibiotics... They dont mix with booze!

Or a stomach bug that you are recovering from. Or something that would involve pain killers. Maybe a migraine or back ache. Cystitis is a good one, because it explains any loo visits. Better to name an actual problem, rather than just antibiotics.

Agggh, I'm stuck...... Today I'm day 27 on 30 day cycle and am itching to test tomorrow AM but can't bring myself to do it but can't bear the wait.

Face disappointment head on early or leave myself in denial with a teensy weensy bit of hope. Head fuck

I'm in the same boat (ish), polka. day 28 for me on a 32 day cycle. Desperate to test!! To be honest I don't think I have the patience to wait so think i'll probably do an ic every day for the next week, just for something to do - lol. I assume it will be negative, but at least I can tell myself it's too early to test and it saves the not knowing, wished I'd tested feeling.

Totally agree fat it is very much a 'you have no idea until you experience it' situation. When my baby brother was still born in 2010, I did what ever I could for mum and tried really hard to be compassionate, now obviously my mmc is nothing in comparision but its made me more tollerant and understanding of her bad days. And brought us closer together. As she's been more understanding to me than anyone else.

quicksie that was put very well, I shall remember the granparent theory for the next shitty comment I receive.

Got my fingers crossed for yikes and polka but don't poas too soon because then if its a bfn there's the doubt its a false as its early. I've still no idea how I waited, but I was TWO weeks late before I braved Poas for this pregnancy!

Sneaks in with breakfast and whispers 'I'm in my 25th week'. I've made it to viability. don't tell anyone else I may jinx myself

Whispers, woohoo midget!

I buckled and tested today, why do I do it to myself? yawns, it was BFN, gutted!

Great news midget

Sorry about the BFN polka - could it be too early?

Still no symptoms here for me. Have had a sore head since last night so have caved in and taken a couple of paracetamol this morning. Hopefully that'll sort it out... 3 days until we head off to France! I'm so glad we're going away as hopefully that'll make the early days pass that bit more quickly. Means that I'll be 7 weeks at least before I'll see my midwife, which was when the baby died last time (but was picked up at 9 weeks) so hopefully she'll be able to stop me metalling too much...

How are the rest of you this morning?

sorry polka, I hope it's not my fault that you tested too early, peer pressure and all that. fwiw, I also poas this morning and also got the (extremely unsurprising) BFN but to be honest I'm not bothered as I know it doesn't mean anything when you test super-early (except that you're impatient - lol!!)
I might buy some 'proper' tests today to use early next week. I defo won't use the proper ones before Tuesday as they're too expensive to waste. The internet cheapie ones I've got were about £2 for 30 or something silly like that (-I bought them just after the mc to try to find out when my HCG levels went back to normal) so I don't mind wasting them for random I-feel-like-poas moments. :)

p.s. midget you must be thrilled. When I was pg before I could only dream of getting to that stage. fab fab news for you.

congrats midget! :)

sorry about the bfn's polka and yikes, what dpo are youse on? I love to test early too despite the disappointment!

When I'm TTC, I test from day 10. That's what Internet cheapies are for, isn't it?!

Hello everyone, again . I've been a bit AWOL, not for any particular reason, just trying to ignore the metalling and Get On With It. I'm 19+1 now, and can feel flutters and kicks daily which is actually surprisingly reassuring. I'm already freaking out about the anomaly scan (which isn't until we're 21+4, useless), because I keep thinking that with our luck to date there's probably something dreadfully wrong. Even though it's going well, it feels all wrong because this doesn't go well for us.

Um, stats: GrandPoohBah, 27, no DC (DSS 4 from DH's previous relationship), MC at 6 weeks in 2003, MC at 9 weeks in 2011, MMC discovered at 12wk scan in Feb 2012. Currently 19+1.

Ooh, that was the other thing I wanted to say! We bought stuff! DH (who is generally more optimistic than I am) made me, but it was exciting and made it feel much more real. We have a blanket, some vests, teeny tiny baby socks and a car seat. I'm feeling quite proud.

Good morning everyone

Congrats midget

I am in a mess this morning and can't stop crying - see

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Stats: backwardpossom, 29, DS aged almost 3, mmc discovered at 9 weeks in May 2012, currently 4+2 (!)

Just a quickly as we wait for our transfer to the airport and then home

Today I am whispers 5+4. I feel awful. It is possible that I have morning sickness. I've never had this before. So two thoughts: 1. eugh; 2. Twins??

Any advice on how to survive a three hour car journey, followed by a 3.5 hour flight, then a 1 hour cab? I can barely put one foot in front of the other.

MrsPear I have no advice but I am thinking of you... I wonder if there is a specialist somewhere who could advise you on the statistics for that, some numbers to apply to such a head-f*cking problem might help?

confused again, rubbish advice but is there any chance you could sleep in the car and on the plane? Sleep was the only thing that made me feel better. And eating through the nausea!

Yikes and Polka it could be too early couldn't it. But if not, you can join me for the July offensive! I was gutted to see AF, getting my head around it now I think...pints of restorative bitter are helping.

Midget - congratulations! The feeling of getting past 24 must be fab! Well done and keep on truckin!

yiikes don't worry I need no pressure to test early, I'm 12 days post ov and when pregnant in Jan with twins it didn't show until 15 days post ov, here's hoping!