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May this thread bring us luck and lots of support through the journey of life after the death of our little ones.

3lbs off!!! Yeh!! Should get my stone next week (12.5) in total now

Oh Fan my love which docs are you at now War M? She sounds useless! I was 'lucky' that as Erin was a live birth c-section I had a consultant (Nime) at QA who I was under. She told me at the post mortem meeting that I was to call her secretary when I fell pregnant again and arrange an 8 week scan in the epu at QA. I was so stunned when I first got bfp I did nothing until 6 wks then rang and arranged. Nime even called me back to talk through the risks of not having the MRI (I was supposed to have one to get the all clear as Erin had cancer) and to congratulate/reassure me. I haven't been via gp's at all. Once I'd had the 8 week scan I called my old midwife (Sarah Milton based out of Merryfields on NL School and Fareham Community Hospital in Park Gate). Are your mw's at Blakes now?

This is what i've had so far (to give you an idea if you are getting the right level of care)

8 week scan - extra with Nime at QA
10 week booking in appt - standard with mw
12 week scan - standard at QA
16 week midwife appt - standard
18 week appt with mw - extra to listen to hb

And I have booked:

20 week mw appt - extra to listen to hb
21 week - standard anomaly scan at QA
22 week - consultant appt with Nime standard in high risk pregnancies.

I have a feeling the real extra stuff will come towards the end with reassurance scans/appts etc. I was under Dr Salloum (consultant) with Erin as I'd had a pph and bad tear with K but only saw him twice for about 5 mins each time.

Which obstetric consultant did your post mortem review for Ophelia? I would be tempted to ring EPU at QA and ask to speak to their secretary and self refer for early scan. sorry for the essay hope it helps a bit xxx

Angel glad the first day back went okay and that you are enjoying snuggles with Phebs now xx

Same to MrToo but with Maia

Cheese big hugs lovely. Sounds like a bit of delayed shock after the scare with Ella which is totally understandable. Take care of yourself xxx

Feeling a bit weepy today. Shitty day at work and just felt everything getting on top of me. Customers and colleagues all complaining and I feel like screaming 'I'm doing my bloody best here!!' My PA caught the tears in my eyes earlier so no doubt they'll be gossip that I'm not coping! How quickly people forget you've been through a major trauma.

well done angel yayy!!!

Oh fan that's absolutely rubbish, cannot believe your GP was so uncaring. Do you have a number for the midwife base so you can call them yourself, hopefully they will be considerably more sympathetic. Is there a different GP you can go to in future?

Well done angel, you are doing so well x

Right, fan's BFP has inspired me to keep my head down at ww for the next few months, hopefully this will help us in the future when we start TTC in earnest. For now though, we have got our new house to finish refurbing, our old house to get on the market, and a holiday in 5 weeks to look forward to, and building up my work again, to keep my mind occupied!

wtw Dr Shalloum was our consultant, I never saw him through out the pg either but he did give us the resluts of Ophelias pm. He didnt say anything about getting in contact with them if I feel pg again. I guess our situations change their wtw as Erin had cancer its a rare and terrible thing that could be picked up early maybe. Ophelia died from a knot in her cord so I can understand why I have not been given a consultant number from the set go. Apparently Dr Davis is the consultant for G-town, Shalloum does F-town. And yes Blakes is where the midwive will be coming from, not sure I want that but have no choice at the moment. I will just have to wait to see how she is and then I may complain and ask for hospital midwife appointments, which I think I can ask for. Even if Fi had not died I would still be consultant led due to fibroids.

wtw I know what you mean, I was in tears the other week and people were asking why? I thought how forgetful you all are. As DH would say Fuck them! Always makes me smile when I think of what he would say. In the grand scheme of things they are not important.

Sadly not Fan there is absolutely nothing they can do to test/check that the same thing isn't happening to this baby as did with Erin. The extra checks etc are just for reassurance and you should have the same. I think we just lucked out with our consultant and that she is based at the hospital that coupled with the fact that she was quite traumatised after my section as Erin was expected to survive (at least out of the operating theatre!) I really really would call the epu at QA you really shouldn't be left hanging until 12 weeks. Privately there is a scanning place in Cams Hall estate that is supposed to be very good and they do early scans. We're going to go there for a 4d one later on

wtw thank you, I think that I shall wait a couple of weeks, and then ring the epu at QA. Its so early now, I will wait till six weeks then give them a ring, I'm sure my nerves will be very high by then as it will be Ophelias week. As long as I know you are getting it then I deserve it to. Thanks again.
I really don't want to be looked after by blakes.

Thanks all xxx

Very pleased .. xx

How is everyone today? I've been idly wondering about names today for the first time this pregnancy. Would Maisie be too much together with Katie? Too twee? We still have the boys names Aidan and Alexander which is what K and E would have been if they were boys.

wtw I think and talk about names with DH all the time. Maisie is nice and I don't think its to twee at all, its down to if you and DH like them or not. Aiden was on our list and Alexander is my brothers name, how strange.

We still like Odessa for a girl and Lachlan for a boy, but we could still change our minds.

I'm doing ok, still can't believe I'm pg. Had a lovely chat with supervisor this morning he's over the moon and nearly cried. Then had a chat with personnel who were lovely and said they would uphold what occupational heealthy said last time, also they don't want to give me added stress by sending me again. So I'm happy at the moment.

Just going to wait till 6 weeks and then ring hospital.

A bloke at work his grand daughter was born last night without a diaphagm, they are not sure if she has two lungs or not. They didn't think she would get through the night. She was on a vertilator but they've put her in an incubator now as she wasn't getting enough oxygen.
Its very sad, I really hope she makes it.

That's so sad, Fan. I didn't know it was possible to be born without a diaphragm. Will they be able to help her?

So pleased you're doing ok. Roll on 6 weeks and some action! What will your due date be?

Wtw, are you going to find out the sex?

HV was here today and Maia now weighs 8lb 3, hurray! She was 6lb 10 last time she was weighed 2 weeks ago, so I am very happy. All the night-time feeding is paying off!

Oh Fan that is sad Hope they can help her.

Yay for weight gain Too that is brilliant. Yes we are going to find out the sex this time - 2 weeks today and we'll know!

too I'm not sure what they can do, they are trying apparently there were 14 doctors there at the birth and they were all working on her. The bloke told me there are success stories of babies that survive but it is rare.

My due date by my reckoning is 16th December, by doctors its 18th decemberam so have to wait till the dating scan to confirm.

too well done maia on the weight gain! Yay!

wtw that is exciting. Do you have feeling of what the gender is? I was convinced Ophelia was a boy DH thought she was a girl. He's pretty good at guessing right, he got my nephew right as well.

I keep thinking boy but only because I was so sick in first trimester and I wasn't with K or E. I rang to try and move scan to next week when I am 20 weeks but no spaces! Am feeling anxious and impatient and want to tell K!!

wtw I bet it feels like an age.

It does!! I just want it to be the 25th already! At least appt is 9am so no hanging around on the day.

How you feeling Fan Blue and Mias? I found 1st trimester tough this time x

How is Alfie settling in Blizy?

Very tough indeed! Was supposed to work today, but didn't do anything, just lounged on the sofa feeling nauseous constantly. Just had to throw up as well. Although I managed to eat some pasta, hopefully it stays down...

Ah Blue my sympathies. For about 2 weeks I didn't eat much but those dairylea lunchables things with ham cheese and crackers and lemonade ice lollies. Hardly the most nutritious but better than constantly being sick! How many weeks are you now? x

mmm lemonade ice lollies sounds yummie! DH made pastabake, which I love and could eat every day... there was a bit left still so he's put that away for me to have later.
Just having to talk about food makes me gag (funnily enough typing it out seems to be ok)
oh well, hopefully it will ease off in a few weeks! I'm 8+2 today.

Whatever- Alfie is great, just like a baby eats, sleeps and poops!
I hope the next 2 weeks race by in a blur...

Blue- boo to the sickness!

blizy alfie justs sounds so sweet.

I have been feeling a bit sick, but really its the bowel thing for me, every bloody time I end up on the loo most evenings! Sorry.
I guess sickness will arrive later for me like last time, I had to take three weeks off work, and just laid on the sofa like a Blob, gagging at every scent wafting from the kitchen. Even went of DH's smell for a while.

blue hopefully the sickness will be over soon. Have you tried the anti sickness bracelets? They worked a little bit for me last time.

Meant to say earlier whatever, I will hoping and praying for your colleagues granddaughter.