Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake

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Continuation of the last thread.

There's cake for scoffing, backs for patting, and screeching death metal for all your metalling moments. All welcome so come on in and get settled into the plush sofas!

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So settle into the mosh pit, we have special VIP area's for those on the 2WW, the new bumps metalling with segregated areas for the first/second/third trimesters and the club class cocktail bar for those who have just got AF and can get-pissed let loose for the first two weeks!

The standard 'form' of the thread is the first one on in the morning brings the brekkie!

And this will be a very special thread, it is the one where our first 'graduate' gives us our first bambino Go on IQ give us a twirl if-you can be arsed in your full term state

pebs really hope that IF there is no 'good' news tomorrow that you will be handled with sensitivity and get through it as painlessly as possible

pebs, I am glad that Thurs has finally come around for you after your wait. I really hope there is good news. If not, I hope you are treated with care and gentleness.

tas, how are you doing? Still early days for you. hope you are surviving work.

I am suddenly really anxious about this pregnancy. My boobs are only a tiny bit sore. I haven't felt sick all day. I just don't feel pregnant. I feel very tired after being up most of last night with puking DD but other than that, nothing. My scan is next Weds. I am terrified of bad news again. I hate the EPU. The thought of going back there makes me scared. I am hoping that this is tiredness talking.

jaffa my boobs have only just got really sore today and I am 8w4 - don't panic yet. But do metal away.

Tas - I was too scared to have sex for nearly 3 months. When I plucked up the courage/nearly exploded due to lack of action and actually had sex the brave midget was nowhere to be seen. Poor DH only had sex once and up duffed instantly (no POAS, just good luck). For me the EP changed things. I was used to loosing pregnancies but not so used to worrying my family so much. All so dramatic, and it scared the shit out of me and DH. I think that made me take this pregnancy one step at a time and just be grateful for each step that goes ok. I think there may be a weird positive mini one of all of us somewhere but our past stops them coming out. I figure I will do just as well to let her pop out occasionally and I have good care by being under St Mary's which helps with the positivity. Hope the crazy lady will stick around to get me to my 10 week scan. I am sure you will find your mad woman but if anything like me it may take a couple of months (and I didn't have any intervention to recover from).

Evening all...

Just popping on to say pebs thinking of you for tomorrow, hope you manage to get some sleep tonight!

mumtum keep us posted tomorrow if you POAS!

I'm going to slope off to bed I think, once I've hung the washing, boxed up the casserole to go in the fridge for tomorrow night and had (another!) big slug of gaviscon!! Night all...sleep well...

jaffa my boobs are only just now hitting a propery sore stage (at 7+2) and frankly it's probably bruising from all the poking. I too am not feeling very pregnant - I have failed to up chuck and am not really all that tired. But others tell me it is normal (and likely will pas and I will be miserable as hell when symptoms hit in a couple of weeks).

Hey girls can I join??

I have been bleeding heavily for 6 days and am waiting for the horrible scan on Friday to confirm my MC. This will be my second loss, it's bloody heartbreaking, it's the worse thing to happen to me since I was 15 and my nan died, which probably means I've lived a lovely life so far, but I don't know if I could go through it again.

I know that they always say the doctors won't even look at you until you have had three MC's, but what if you ask for specific tests, do they have to refer you, if it just simple blood tests you want, like hormone levels, progesterone etc?

My history: aged 41, never had a baby, under active thyroid being treated and levels currently ok, HUGE 11 cm fibroid surgically removed in 2009, all looked good in there apparently and no repeats so far.

Do I have any argument at all for earlier tests? Surely if I think it might be something as simple as a hormone deficiency, it might be worth avoiding further heartache in the future? I just need to know how to play it with my GP who is a lady and generally quite supportive... in other words if I ask for these tests, can they refuse me and if so I can I ask for a second opinion? Who knows, maybe there is a GP floating around on our lovely forum who can advise me?

Thanks so much everyone,

Estelle xx

Hello Stela, I am not the best person to ask about testing, and unfortunately I think the level of treatment you can expect varies on postcode lottery, but wanted to welcome you to thread, and say how sorry I am for your losses. I too have found this the saddest time of my life. It is so horrid.

Can I ask, how far on were you when you miscarried? I think this is relevant to what testing you will receive.

tiago, midget thanks for reassurances. I am 6 + 5, and going a bit mad!

Evening everyone,
popping in very quickly, not read the whole thread, will do so tomorrow and write again, but wanted to leave a note for pebs.
pebs I will be thinking of you tomorrow. Can't think of anything more helpful to say than that really, but i'm with you in spirit.
Also, Stela i'm so sorry you have had to join us and that you have got all this worry and heartache for a second time. I've lost one baby and it has all but destroyed me...
I'm also trying to learn all about the why and wherefores of testing at the moment, not something i'd ever thought i'd have to do. How far along in your PG are you/were you last time? Jaffa is right, that does really make a difference in terms of testing.

What Boris said, I'm off to bed now but I will be thinking of you and keeping everything crossed tomorrow pebs be strong.

I'm with you ladies that don't feel very pregnant, with both my boys I was sick from the word go to a crippling level. I have felt slightly queasy maybe twice this time. I have slept a lot though but my boobs are just normal. No funny taste in mouth no nothing! It is a worry and I do hate EPAC, I am just trying to go with the flow and get to this pesky 8 week scan.

Also forgot to say, I will be thinking of you pebs I hope the outcome is as easy as it can be.

Thinking of you pebs stay strong today x

Stela welcome sorry u find yourself here can't help with the early tests requests but again it is that darn postcode lottery

Tits remember every preg is different lack of ms could mean u just lucky thus time

Me? I poas and bfn so think I just have to put this down to a stress affected af what with the wedding so close

pebs thinking of you

stela sorry to see you here, I've had 3 mc but still haven't been offered any tests as the last one was a late mc at 20 weeks and was due to incompetant cervix which wouldn't have been the reason for the early mc. If that makes sense. I think its abit of a post code lottery. Although I'm not sure if things differ if you are over 35.

mumtum sorry about the bfn

Still no af here which is slightly odd as usually if it's going to mess me around it comes early

Thanks for all the messages everyone. I am getting nervous and shitting myself about having erpc. I am really scared of the general anasthetic (shit spelling sorry) but it sounds better then medically managed.

I am going to see what they say about referring me to st marys in London. It will be a long journey down there but hopefully worth it.

Still secretly hoping everything will be ok but I know it's a long shot.

pebs I was petrified of having a GA, had one a few years ago for wisdom tooth removal but was still just as worried about it but tbh I just needed to get everything sorted and couldn't bear the wait (and pain) that can come with the medically managed option. Plus she Erpc (if you have to have one...hopefully not!!) does mean they can, should, be able to clear everything out nicely so that it's a better environment in there for the next bean to snuggle into, iyswim. Really hope you get good treatment from whoever you see today and that they are sensitive in how they explain things etc...it is such a difficult time and the last thing you need is insensitive medical staff!!

mumtum sorry to hear about the bfn...when is your wedding...v soon?

stela so sorry you find yourself here...I'm afraid I can't offer any advice re. Testing except to say that I think age can play a role so you may be eligible to more than you think, but others should be able to advise in more detail than I can!

Well, the sun is shining which is lovely but it does mean the office is going to reach new levels of sauna likeness today so I'd better go and fish out a suitably summery outfit to wear in an attempt to keep cool...wish they'd just switch the blasted heating off or at least say I can move to a desk by an opening window!!

Pebs thinking of you today. I am not sure there is much any of us can say to comfort you but know that whatever happens today we are here to listen and to send you all of the (virtual) support that you need. I really hope that those close to you in RL will be around to support you too at this time. Take care lovely, wishing hard for a good outcome, or if not that then at least some peace for you once its all over and you can move forwards.

Hello to everyone else

I had the most wonderful night of vivid dreams last night, I dreamt that we won £7m on the lottery and then I gave birth in a lovely calm and controlled way to a baby girl. I can remember all of the feelings of her descending, crowning and actually being born and then holding her all sticky and looking down to check to see she was a girl and announcing this to DH. Its making me well up just typing this....

I have never had a dream like that before (the lottery one yes, but the birth one definitely not) and as I had an EMCS with DS I have never been through that before. I almost want to go back to sleep and see if I can dream about it again Ahh pregnancy hormones....

Thinking of you IQ as well, obviously you are a lot closer to all of that than I am Hope you are coping well with these last few days.

Only skimmed the thread but just wanted to come on and send some strength and support to pebs and hope that you receive sensitive supportive treatment whatever the outcome. i will be checking in but dont expect you to jump on here immediately. Please know that we are all here for you and will keep a little slice of the homemade brownies i am going to make later on

Pebs, I hope today goes ok for you. I had a really positive experience with my ERPC, I'd started to cramp before so I was actually in less pain afterwards. The recovery was much faster than with a 'natural' MC, I bled much less and when I woke up following the GA I felt nice and warm and floaty and a bit serene :)

So, I POAS yesterday morning, not really expecting anything but I'd felt like I was coming on for a couple of days and hadn't. And I got a TLP. I'm waiting until tomorrow to do a digi, but.... Eek. I'm in my WTF cycle so I wasn't expecting it, and now I'm stressing that a) it's chemical, or b) it's due to retained products (although I KNOW I ovulated which I suspect wouldn't have happened if there had been anything left...). Argh.

GrandPoohBah, does a TLP mean a positive pg test? Sorry to be dim?!

grandpoohbah did you test to get a bfn after your MC? Unfortunately it can take some weeks for the hcg levels to fall...but hoping it's a proper bfp for you and not remainder hcg After my erpc I think it took nearly 5 weeks to get a bfn and then another 4-5 weeks before AF showed up.

is it a 'Thin Line Positive'?

Did you POAS to get a BFN after your MC? It could very well be a BFP but i would keep an eye on it over the next few days and maybe go and see your GP.

tas DS started wearing glasses (or 'dayez' as he calls them) in November and he is so good with them, he gets the looks from the old dears when we are out and about, its as if i have Justin Bieber with me!!

And i 'do' have wrinkles - as i say, DH has his super duper camera and if he takes a close up shot of my face - jeeeez i look old. But i got him to take that long range and also the way MN shrinks photos to the profile helps aaand the wedding anniversary pic was taken in 2008, pre DS!

It's a Tiny Little Positive, as opposed to a Big Fat! I did test in between to get a negative which I got about two weeks after the ERPC. And there's still no sign of AF...

Oh, and I was doing OPKs and temping to see when I ovulated - I had days of negative OPKs prior to the positive so I don't think it was due to leftover HCG.

I know. I'll bury my head in the sand for the next 8 months and if a baby pops out at the end, I'm probably pregnant

Morning everyone, Internet is back finally,bloody virgin people.

grand looks like we're in this together, I am 4 weeks exactly from erpc, and had a tlp (I'm liking that term) this morning on a first response. I am normally early,just thought I'd try it. I had a negative test exactly 2 weeks ago so who knows. I convinced myself I ovulated (around cd9/10) and frankly went hell for leather around then. Fingers crossed! I don't know what to do,might test again in a few days then call friendly midwife friend to see if she can take some bloods?

Thinking of pebs, lots of love being sent your way. Take all the time you need.

stela welcome,sorry that you have to be here too, grab a comfy seat and snuggle in.