Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake

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Continuation of the last thread.

There's cake for scoffing, backs for patting, and screeching death metal for all your metalling moments. All welcome so come on in and get settled into the plush sofas!

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So settle into the mosh pit, we have special VIP area's for those on the 2WW, the new bumps metalling with segregated areas for the first/second/third trimesters and the club class cocktail bar for those who have just got AF and can get-pissed let loose for the first two weeks!

The standard 'form' of the thread is the first one on in the morning brings the brekkie!

And this will be a very special thread, it is the one where our first 'graduate' gives us our first bambino Go on IQ give us a twirl if-you can be arsed in your full term state

I've just filled out all my notes and I'm metalling baaaad. Thinking im not pregnant and its all in my head... and I'll get to my scan and find nothing.

Congratulations cake completely understand how you feel xxx

Congratulations Cake, and State wonderful news. I conceived straight after my mc this time. It is a mixed blessing, but feels more and more like a blessing as time goes on. It is hard at first, because you have barely had time to process what has happened, and I think it is also quite physically knackering. I have basically been pregnant since Christmas, (would be 20 weeks now), but I am only 11+3. I feel like I will be living in the first trimester until the end of time. Take lots of vitamins, eat well, sleep as much as you can. But I think it is also a good thing because you are not counting off months ttc. And it is no more risky than waiting. The advice to wait a month is to make dating easier. I think if your body lets you get pregnant, you are physically ready. So try not to worry, just look after yourself.

I have a stuffy nose, and it is caused by progesterone. I have had in pregnancy before. It's a bit of a nuisance. There are a few non-drug things you can do if it gets bad. You can get nasal strips, I think they are mainly for snorers, but they help you to breathe better in the night. You can also have a saline spray which sort of washes your sinuses out, which was invaluable to me because I got hayfever at the same time. I looked awful, and was going round baby groups looking like I was streaming with a cold, but I kept having to say, no, its hayfever, don't worry... blurgh. It is almost hayfever time again, so if you get bad and don't want to confess it's pregnancy related, that would be a great cover story.

Waves at Tas! Glad you are feeling a bit more like yourself.

congratulations cake, must be v scary but it is still brilliant news.

Midget, can i ask, do you mean that you think the 75mg of aspirin helped with DD, but wasn't a high enough dose to prevent the clots altogether and that is why she was low birth weight?

I ask as my baby's PM suggested it died as a result of a clotting problem, so the consultant has suggested 75mg of aspirin as a starter if i get pg before the results of all the tests come back, but DH and I have been having tentative discussions about whether we should up the dose to 150mg ourselves seeing as it is pretty definite it is a clotting issue, they just seem reluctant to suggest any other meds until they have all the tests back that prove it as such. Then of course we would have metalling about doing this and would it be safe etc, but would be interested in your views.

Congratulations cake :)

Jaffa I conceived after one cycle after my mmc in Jan so I have had a month off being pregnant since October - I know what you mean about feeling stuck in the first trimester forever, and it is exhausting.

Sooooooooooo...turns out you can still have the pregnancy hormone 9 wks after a mc and ERPC...AF arrived today despite faint line on 2 Tesco test at wkend...bloody annoyed at my stupid body and stupid tests. Will be ok, just getting on my tits about the fertility window! Thought I'd be pg straight off, well, hoped....anyway, that's the outcome this time, roll on next month, until then it's wine o'clock...

Thank you for those who messaged yesterday

Sorry dorita :(

Sorry Dorita AF is a bitch. If you had a negative test previously though maybe a chemical? Have you tested again and got a negative?

Boris I think I was lucky with DD that 75 got me through the first 3 months but I think I should have at least taken it for longer but also upped the dose. I often think then DD would have had less problems. Terrified this time though I may have to give birth to an actual normal size baby (I am a midget after all). I would ask consultant. All my clotting tests came back normal until I had the TEG test at ST Mary's. Such a relief to find a reason. We all want reasons right? X

Sorry dorita xxxx

midge a reason is what I want more than anything, hence the obsessive "do things differently" I'm considering speaking to my midwife about asprin but worried she'll poopoo the idea.

Calmer tonight, I think.

Dorita, AF is a bitch, sorry.

Good morning everyone. I've just been catching up - cake that is wonderful news, congratulations. Also sorry to dorita - I hope it all settles down soon.
I've had a very metally few days. This MC has turned me into a massive hypochondriac and I've been worrying about hypothyroidism as my mum has it and my gran did too. I'm so desperate to do everything I can to prevent another MC so I have made an appointment for a thyroid test on thursday. I feel so silly about it as I find it hard to sort out the reasonable worries from the irrational ones. The good news is AF is coming to an end so we can try again. I've been charting and have my OPKs at the ready. Heres hoping for some good news. I'm just hoping I don't have an underactive thyroid which will delay TTC again.

I am shit scared now. I started having period pain type cramps in my back this morning. No bleeding, but definitely not good.

I rang midwife, who told me to ring EPU. They are very busy, and cannot see me until Thursday. The midwife I spoke to said this might be the start of another miscarriage, but they cannot tell until the scan. So I have 2 days of fear, struggling to look after a 2 year old on my own, in the fucking rain. I don't know what to do.

Oh Jaffa I'm so sorry, that is just terrible. I don't really know much about such things but could you go to a&e and demand to be seen there? 2 days just sounds so wrong xx

oh Jaffa, sit tight. No bleeding, that's good. Cramps could be anything, there is a lot changing down there. I had these a couple of weeks ago and it came to nothing. They may well have buggered off by lunchtime. maybe worth calling EPU first thing tomorrow and see if they've had any cancellations or anything or maybe try another EPU? It can't do any harm and worth a go if it gets you seen sooner, 2 days is crap.

jaffa Hang in there my lovely. Up until 9/10 weeks I had regular period type crampiness... and then in the weeks since (right up until now) I've had random pains that felt like they could have been 'period-like' or 'constipation-y' or 'uti-ish' and I just tried to put them out of my head until, lo, within a day at latest it was all gone again.

Hoping that it's a similar story for you - something and nothing.

Perhaps take some paracetamol and see if that takes the pain away because at least it not nagging you in the background means you might cope a little better. Can you get any help with DS?

Ohh ~jaffa I am sorry to hear that but cramps can be the sign of a growing and stetching uterus. Are you constipated at all? I sometimes get a sore back and that can feel quite crampy as well.
FX for you.

Has anyone heard from mrsn?

Oh Jaffa, sorry to hear that - I had rotten cramps a few weeks ago that turned out to be, er, constipation. Fingers crossed they turn out to be nothing.

In more mundane "me" news, I have just eaten my lunch and I am now hungry again.

I have rung round private hospitals, but nothing sooner than Thurs. I rang the EPU, and they said their sonographer is on a training course so no scans today, and that there are women actively miscarrying in the ward who will not be scanned until Thurs. So a fabulous service there then. If there are any cancellations, they will quite rightly take priority.
I am going to take my DD out for cake. That should be nice for us both.

Yes, your DD... and not the DS I mentioned before sorry for giving your little girl a teeny weeny, jaffa!

Hi ladies, apologies for longish absence, I've not read back that far, so further apologies to anyone who does not get namechecked. DH felt MN was fuelling my worrying, which in retrospect it had been. So I promised I'd stay off until either AF got me or I got a BFP. In return he stayed off his computer games, which I think was fair. So I'm back because......BFP. Well, it was a very faint one on a internet strip and a less faint one on a first response. AF not due till Thursday, but I felt so sick yesterday and again today that I thought I'd POAS. It could easily be a CP, or end in a big bloody mess, but today I'm pregnant . I called EPU who said they are happy to do an early scan if I get a referral from my GP, though will have to sit and wait as women with bleeding and pain will be seen first. I'm happy with that. I feel reasonably positive, I feel so sick already, and with the mc pg I only felt sick for a couple of weeks, weeks 6 and 7 I think, and the pg ended soon after then I think. I also feel like I'm walking on a bouncy castle, which is exactly how I felt with DS, weeks before I know I was updiffed.

manda thank you for the B6 advice, I do think it has helped restore my LP post MC. Do you think I should keep taking it now I'm pregnant (it feels weird typing that).

jaffa I am so sorry about the shitty service locally. Fx all is fine. They do say that you can get ligament pain as the uterus stretches, I don't remember if I had that or not. I would second paracetamol and cake is a good idea, as always. On a more boring note, lots of water and perhaps a fybogel just in case it's constipation or a UTI. I assume you have checked other local NHS hospitals to try for a scan.

cake that's wonderful and exciting, hoping so much its a sticky one for you. I assume you have had a BFN between the MC and now.

whyalwaysboris thanks for the link. I actually have the baby aspirin in the cupboard, but undecided on whether to take it. I assume having carried one pg to term, and my only MC being a blighted ovum, it probably is not necessary.

dorita it sounds like you have had a pretty nasty emotional rollercoaster the last few days. I deal with AF by getting pissed and taking lots of nurafen even if I don't need them. It's a bit childish but makes me feel better.

bonzo fantastic news, we are all here for you in these early mentalling days

dorita sorry about AF :(

Hurrah, bonzo!

Indeed, there is the whole 'being here reminds you/increases worry' thing but there is also the 'the women here are the only ones who really know what you are going through' and there's something invaluable about that - especially for a certain amount of time.

We're all individuals and it seems from the way I've seen people post that for the most part the thread is valuable for that time they simply need an ear/support and that's that. And that's fine!

I think I'm still here as, in part, I'm still in denial I'm due to give birth in three weeks... (ARGH!) and that being able to offer advice, a pep talk, distraction, virtual cake or a virtual shoulder, knowing that in some small way i might be doing something good for another woman that is feeling the pain I've felt... it gives a positive slant to it 'all', y'know? God that sounds all a bit hippy! I just like it here!

As for the Bvits (did you take B6 only?) B6 is one of the things they say helps with morning sickness (not for me it didn't, when I was prescribed it with DD) so it's obviously safe to take. So, it's whether you want to take it or not, really. As you're feeling quite sick anyway you may find you feel worse if you stop (or not!). Your call - it's not gonna hurt you either way.

manda wow 3 weeks to go!!!

And you are right, I have seen plenty of people on other threads mention the fact they lurk on here and find it reassuring even if they don't post.

afternoon ladies
sorry for th long absence! i will pop back later to catch up!

just marking my place

Ooh, just noticed we need a new thread. Only 24 posts to go. I think form has it that one of the ttc should do it? Also, somewhere there is a stats thread. Perhaps we should update it? Trying to distract myself by being a bossy boots.

bonzo that is fab news! Congratulations!

Manda can't get too worked about DD being boyed. If used to happen a lot when she was little, she is very tall and had very little hair for ages, and I have a bit of an issue with pink everythings so I guess that didn't help.