Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake

[MarthasHarbour]

Continuation of the last thread.

There's cake for scoffing, backs for patting, and screeching death metal for all your metalling moments. All welcome so come on in and get settled into the plush sofas!

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So settle into the mosh pit, we have special VIP area's for those on the 2WW, the new bumps metalling with segregated areas for the first/second/third trimesters and the club class cocktail bar for those who have just got AF and can get-pissed let loose for the first two weeks!

The standard 'form' of the thread is the first one on in the morning brings the brekkie!

And this will be a very special thread, it is the one where our first 'graduate' gives us our first bambino Go on IQ give us a twirl if-you can be arsed in your full term state

Snaffles crumpets

Hi all, no news here. Am 11 weeks today and no sign of bleeding or anything. Have been getting very anxious as my tiredness and nausea have pretty much vanished, but am trying to convince myself that the doc said all looked fine and that I had less than a 1% chance of it all going wrong.

MissC - thrush is a yeast infection that makes your bits itchy and hot, and some people treat it by putting natural yoghurt on the affected area . When you get it you get thick white discharge. It can also be cleared by very very thorough cleaning sometimes I get rid of the white stuff.

tiago I am also feeling so much better and have been for the past couple of days. I am also 11 weeks and started panicking but as your doc says the odds are in our favour. I think the placenta is taking over now and often means a decrease symptoms. When is your scan? Mine is next Thurs

thanks for the brekkie tits glad your 'secret' is out now. I still cant get over how naive i was when i announced my pregnancy with DS at 4.5 weeks i am going to keep the next one a secret for as long as poss if-i ever get there

no news here. still on AF, still an hourly reminder of my barren state

ignore me, just feeling sorry for myself! will be back later with the bouncy positive martha, she has just nipped out for a breath of fresh air!

Morning ladies

tiago great news that the dr says that so keep focusing on that xxx

Manda et all think I may have confused peeps my last cp was June last year so this defo a new one !! Metalling though as the mc in dec 2010 stopped growing at 5 weeks but natural mc didn't happen til 8 weeks ..... If I get to 6 weeks this time with no bleeding etc I'd Like to go for a scan at epu to check for a heart beat do u think they would allow that ??

And defo manda get out to Barbados if you have the opportunity it is blooming gorgeous !!!!!

in my area you can refer yourself to epu to get early scans after previous miscarriage mumtum. try giving them a ring, they might want a referral from your gp in some areas.

barbados is one of my dream holidays - i am hoping i don't need to go on anymore dream holidays as i will be pg and having babies but i have been on a few since i started ttc . although i did say to dh at weekend that i wanted to go on a honeymoon type holiday!

i have booked in for a acupunture session at work. we have a clinic here and it's only £10 a go in works time as well - bonus! the guy i was seeing last time was £30 a session as i didn't realise they did it here. i am hoping it will help to clear up the spotting and get me back on track. if nothing else, it's very relaxing.

i feel like i have a lot of appointments on the go at the moment and i am lurching around a bit. i am just going to pop them all down here to organise my mind a bit.

1. appointment with local consultant at end of month. this is organised by the hospital and hopefully they will have genetic testing results ready following erpc. i am not holding out any hope that there will have been a genetic problem and it was one of those things. i think it is most likely that my body couldn't handle identical twins - again it was one of those things and i was unlucky to concieve identical twins.

1. appointment with private consultant mid may. i have organised this myself as i would like the TEG test and this is only done at st marys in london. it detects blood clotting problems which other tests cannot pick up. as my placenta was full of blood clots after my 20 week mc and the nhs tests have come back clear i am hoping the TEG will show something up and the consulatant will be able to prescribe the correct dose of asprin and heparin rather than the nhs 'let's give it a go' approach.

1. appointment at epu on thursday. i have organsied this to check up on the brown spotting and positive pg test. i will test again on thursday morning and if i get bfn i will cancel this appointment.

1. acupuncture. this really helped my cycle after last mc and it's very relaxing. also it's cheap and i can go in work time!

ok thats everything justified!!! back to work!

Morning all, hope you have sunshine outside today
Woke up at 1.30 this morning with very strong "contraction" type pains, every few minutes for about an hour.
Took my beloved solpadol, and the pains went off. I expected that may possibly be the final touches, but bleeding is no heavier.

Feel good today though, got a list of things i need to do today, so going to get cracking, list includes going to GP for sick note and contraception to never allow this to happen to me again that is just so very very final and breaks my heart .
Time to face up to bare facts and bite the bullet.

Good luck all x

pebs that is great news about all the appointments, it feels good to be doing something positive I imagine.

I had spotting for ages after my last chemical, I think 2 weeks, I had some acupuncture and she burnt some moxa by my toe and it stopped. It might be coincedence but it seemed to do the trick!!

mrsn I am sorry that things are so unclear still and you have taken the decision to stop trying, have a hug from me.

martha sorry I missed that AF had arrived :( I have kicked her hard and she knows not to come back next time ok!

missc that is terrible they can;t see you until Friday, can you ask your midwife for an appointment instead that really is silly if you need antibiotics you need to be seen pronto.

So, went to my scan and saw...

A yolk sac shaped blob, a baby shaped blob and a flickering little heartbeat! Yay! Still not getting our hopes up - we got to this point last time and ended up with a MMC - but it's a good start. And the consultant was generally positive, my blood tests have come back normal and I'm booked in for another scan in 2 weeks. Fingers crossed...

Hope everyone's doing ok, I want to be outside in the sunshine instead of behind my desk...

Congratulations GPB!

Far I am so glad you are alos feeling better. It's been sending me round the twist - especially as on the antental thread everyone keeps talking about how they are expanding and having to buy matenity clothes and I am distinctly not. I have a scan booked for Monday morning, as I am scheduled to tell my Dad to following Saturday and if it is bad news he shall remain blissfully ignorant.

• to get rid of the white stuff (correction to previous post)

Sorry AF got you Martha

Great news, GPB!

In "I know I should be grateful" whinging news, I am sick of feeling tired and queasy and kind of hungover all the time. I know the symptoms are good news but am I allowed to be pissed off at them as well? I have to play a gig in a different city this weekend and am dreading it (even tho have told bandmates that I am upduffed and am going to factor in naps and cushy hotel time) - travelling! staying up late! Bleurgh. One of the many reasons why I really want this to work out this time is that I'm really not sure if I can go through the first-tri hideousness while trying to work and gig and have a toddler YET AGAIN, even if I can get pg again.

Anyway. Enough of my self-indulgent whining. [passes around waffles with jam]

Leedy, you are definitely allowed to be pissed off at them! They suck and for all that I'm grateful, I wish I would stop feeling sick

Good news GBP! like you say you can't take anything for granted but you've had the best possible news you could have for now.

I don't feel sick or even very pregnant AT ALL and it scares me so for those suffering with symptoms I really don't think there is any winning with this pregnancy lark!

mmmmm waffles.......[dribbles]

Hi ladies can I join you? It is 4 weeks now since my MMC at 11/12 weeks. My baby died at 9 weeks and I found out when I was scanned after some bleeding at 11. I had opted for medical management but it happened naturally at home in the end. It has been an awful few weeks and I am still feeling really down waiting for the return of AF. I was on the due in October thread and I recognise some names on here so hi to you! Heres hoping for some better news soon!

OK, I know it's my WTF cycle (6 weeks and counting), so nothing should surprise me, but this definitely didn't happen last time round. (TMI alert...)

Had brownish red stretchy CM a couple of weeks ago around the time I might have expected AF if I had anything like a regular cycle . Tested for the hell of it and of course got a BFN.

Have had copious amounts of blood-tinged CM for the last 4 days, not proper blood but every time I wipe there is loads of the stuff. Tested again, not a whiff of a positive. What the jeff is going on with my body?

On an unrelated note our car went bang and stopped dead on the motorway at the weekend so I need a new car urgently and if I want something remotely reliable I can't afford a bigger one (was planning on replacing it with something large enough to accommodate 3 child seats in the back once I got my BFP, hahaha - but hadn't reckoned on needing one so urgently - figured I had enough time to save more money) Am wondering if this is a sign that I should stop ttc. Or maybe I should go ahead and buy a smaller car to tempt fate?

Congratulations GPB!!

HHHB Sorry to see you here too, I remember you from the October thread. It's a lovely safe haven over here for picking yourself up after MC. Hope it's not too long before you get your BFP.

FWIW I think it's perfectly acceptable to moan about pregnancy gripes - just because you've waited so long for a BFP doesn't exempt you from MS, aches, pains, and raging hormones

Sorry for rambling post, off to actually read the last few pages of the thread!

Hi everyone,

heehee welcome, sorry you've had to join us, but there is lots of support on here.

mumtum my midwife referred me automatically for an 8 week scan due to previous mmc, and EPU then offered me a 10 week one just for a reassurance so it definitely won't hurt to ask.

GPB congratulations, that's great news - a very positive start :)

I am 10 weeks and my symptoms are wearing off a bit, which both nice and scary all at once. My 12 week scan is 2 weeks today but I'm not sure I can wait that long - is that crazy? I'm going to try and hold out but may cave and book another private one between now and then.
I think I've been rumbled at work, not surprising as I am massive though definitely more bloat than baby Part of me just want to say Sod it and just tell them, but I can't bring myself too - I feel like I'd be jinxing it. They know my history so they won't say anything until I do.

Hi just read through all your thread and gives me hope I'm too from oct thread and found out last week that I had a Mmc at 12 wks baby had died between 8-9 weeks had ercp on Monday and looks like bleeding ending today nothing really there I'm going doctors to ask about ttc and want to know what is best things I should take I'm 41 and had eptopic this time last year and then got pregnant again in jan we was not ttc by the way but now we R really going to ttc so all suggestion would be grateful x

Welcome Tenner and heehee sorry you made it over here but you are in good company. Sorry I am not good for TTC suggestions as I do that bit at the drop of a hat - it is the getting it to stick bit I have trouble with. lots of experts on here though who know all about B vits and d vits and peeing on sticks. Personally I would go hell for leather with DTD in the WTF cycle if you can manage it physically and emotionally.

kirrin not crazy - remember those are dog weeks for us so actually like making you wait 7 weeks. If it makes you happier book it. I was so lucky to have them every 2 weeks up to 12 weeks. I would have gone crazy otherwise and some weeks i had them weekly. Whatever keeps you sane is what I say.

Yay to GBP and thrice Yay.

martha sounds like you need a good licking. And AF needs a good kicking. i am the midget for the job.

Leedy of course you can whine about being pregnant - doesn't mean you don't appreciate it. i love it and hate it at the same time. Most of all I hate the worry and the grumpiness but the nausea and the tiredness are no great shakes either! Doesn't mean we don't appreciate how bloody lucky we are. My husband things I have a split personality as always desperate to be pregnant with an acutal real live bean and then moan about being pregnant. it is our right. Sometimes secretly I love it all though - even the shit bits as it is reassuring and keeps the metalling at bay. I am nothing but inconsistent!

better go - trying to work but my doppler arrived this morning so also trying to distract myself from listening in. I think therein lies dragons but it stops me metalling for a bit so that has to be a good thing, right?

Love to you all - must work hard as have a few days leave coming up to wander the lake district in the rain.

Hello everyone,
GPB Great news
hello to Tenner and Hehe, sorry you find yourself here.
MrsN Thinking of you today.
Martha sorry about AF
Midgetm raining in the lakes? surely not!

I'm metalling like mad today. AF not due till saturday, having to practically sit on my hands to not test before. Have been getting lots of really sharp pains on one side which is giving me hope, which is mad really as I didn't feel anything last time. I'm a bit worried about how i'll be if i get a BFN as i'm feeling hugely desperate about it this month...

Hi again and thanks for the welcome. Sorry to see you here twolittlemonkeys and tennerlady. It looks like there were quite a few of us with bad news on the October thread, its so horrible. Hope things are going well for you midgetm.
Well I did one last test this morning as I have some superdrug digitals. I got a "not pregnant" result as I was hoping but when took out the stick to throw away it had two lines! I did get what looked like a negative cheapy test just over a week ago so I don't know whats going on there. Also, I'm not completely counting on it but I think I have the beginnings of my first AF today - yay! Hopefully won't be long now until I can try again.

Hello ladies - just been lurking to see how all of you are doing because I miss you!! Myself and the mini miss are doing ok, tired but ok - still can't believe she's mine to be honest!!

Big hugs and welcome to all the new ladies - so sad that theres so many of you but hopefully you find this thread as supportive as I did.

To everyone newly pg - keeping it all crossed for you - you will metal like mad but hopefully all the metalling will be worth it in the end.

To all the 'veterans' sending you all positive thoughts for upcoming milestones.

And for everyone still waiting for that positive test wishing you all the luck in the world that it comes to you soon.

Love to all xxx

IQ lovely to hear from you, glad you and your little lady are doing well

Welcome to the new ladies and sorry you're having to be here.

Large glass of to those that have af or are waiting for bfn etc.

mrsn I really hope you're doing ok today and are being kind to yourself.

I have spent another day in bed, actual vomit now got a call from the hospital to say my urine sample is either contaminated or I have a bad infection, I haven't noticed any symptoms except that it smells awful when going for a wee so I guess that explains it (sorry tmi)

I had a really nasty message left on bloody Facebook from a "friend" this evening, I was meant to see him today for a catch up, although nothing was set in stone. I haven't been near my phone for days so missed his reminder texts, I slept straight through the alarm this morning, DP took the day off work to take the kids to school and look after me a bit, I've either been asleep of had my head in the loo, needless to say I missed seeing said "friend" at his house.

I finally woke up to a message on my wall, "dear Tits, sorry. I have run out of medals for so called friends who stitch me up and have generally been acting like shit friends for a while now, signed A"

This upset me a bit so DP replied and said that I had been really poorly and to either be supportive or shove off basically.

I will be glad to tell people at 12 weeks so they know I'm not just being a recluse for a larf.

Anyway, enough ranting!

I hope everyone is safe and well.

IQ lovely to hear from you and glad you and miniIQ doing well.

Oh Tits that message would have really upset me, poor you. Well done to your dp for replying. Do you think the infection might be why you feel so poorly?

Hello to everyone else, another day of finger sitting non-testing for me