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Mothers of Angel Babies United - wishing for, some of us pg with and some of us holding our Rainbow babies

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Bluetinkerbell · 18/10/2011 22:53

Here we go again! Grin
lots of love to all our angel babies! xxx

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AngelGeorgie · 04/01/2012 09:20

Lucky you August wished mine lived even in another country let alone another continent!!!! Xx

Whatevertheweather · 04/01/2012 11:32

Thank you ladies. Feeling a little more calm today think the shock is wearing off. Spoken to consultant who just said not to worry about not being able to have the CT scan and that she will send me an appt for 3 weeks time at the epu.

We're very similar on dates August new due date is 6th Sept so just 12 days after Erin's 1st birthday. Suspect I will deliver at about 37 weeks though. How are you feeling so far? Are you having an early scan?

AngelGeorgie · 04/01/2012 15:07

Like you 2 august & whatever my Georgie's birthday & I had an ELSC for Phoebe on the 18 th October. So, like both of you all my dates were very similar which at times was hard. Xxx

AngelGeorgie · 04/01/2012 15:08

Doh!!! My Georgie's birthday is 10 th October & I had Phoebe 8 days later!!! ( mummy brain!!!)

AngelGeorgie · 04/01/2012 15:09

Omg & I meant ELCS !!! I give up!!!

Moominsarescary · 04/01/2012 15:13

Hi everyone, it must have been a long time since I last posted, as this is a new thread!

Well the ttc has begun, so fingers crossed!

Congratulations whatever x

MelMal · 04/01/2012 16:29

Back at work today, boo! Never mind changing departments again Monday. I'm only really posting occasionally as I'm a tiny bit stressed at the mo and am trying to be really positive about this pg. Not that you girls aren't a huge support for me but I'm feeling a bit weird if that makes sense. I'm still checking in to make sure everyone's ok but taking a backseat iykwim. Welcome to Whatever and trickle and good luck to all the ladies for this year who are swi ing. May the positive lines etc be plentiful xxx

AugustMoon · 04/01/2012 17:07

whatever yes, consultant has said she would consider induction from 37 weeks which would be end of July. I have an appointment for the 12 wk scan on 1st of feb and then and appt to see consultant on 9th feb, although I have to change that as we're away, and not seeing the midwife until end feb - 16 weeks. Its stressed me out a bit that I haven't been offered anything sooner so went for a private scan last week which reassured me a bit. Back to panicking again now. Confused
Hi Mel, been wondering how you are... Sorry to hear you're stressed. X
Hi again moomin x

Whatevertheweather · 04/01/2012 19:41

Oh August expect you are counting down the days until Feb 1st. Think I would have arranged a private scan too it she hadn't said I could go to epu. Is an 8 week scan done in exactly the same way as 12+ week ones?!

Angel it's so reassuring to have someone who has been though a rainbow pregnancy and come out the other side.

Thank you Mel hope things carry on going well. How far are you?

Fx for all those waiting to test this month xx

JugglingWithGoldandMyrhh · 04/01/2012 19:47

Hey whatever !

Congratulations !

That's great news Smile

TooImmatureTurtleDoves · 04/01/2012 19:57

Hello people!

Whatever, glad to hear you got hold of the consultant and she sounds very positive. Also good that you've got an early appt with the EPU. The birthday thing is hard to handle - Thea's birthday is 13 March and Bean's official due date is 30 March, but if I'm delivered at 38 weeks it will be very close.

Angel, thanks for the good wishes and the advice about fighting for an earlier date - I will! At least, I will prime DH and we will both do it. Am gearing up for tomorrow - I will come out with a definite week, if not a definite day! Sorry to hear about your MIL being a miserable cow again. Do you have plans to move, or is this just a wish?

Fan, it's horribly frustrating when that happens! Don't know if you recall DH getting performance anxiety at what I thought was the crucial moment the month I conceived - I was biting my tongue in RL and then venting on here angrily - but it worked out in the end. I hope you got it this month anyway. Remember, sperm can live for up to 5 days, so you might still be in with a chance.

Hi Moomins, FX and good luck!

Mel, lovely to hear from you whenever you feel up to joining us. I was back at work today too - it sucks! Really feel like I'm just marking time at the moment. I spent the first part of the morning working out my mat leave to make me feel better. How many weeks are you now?

August, that seems like a really long wait, grr! They should be offering you early reassurance scans in the circumstances. Maybe you could call the MW and beg ask for a scan at the EPU?

Is anyone else's DH struggling at the moment? Mine emailed today from work to say he felt very low, and he's asked his boss to refer him back to the work counselling service. He's also having nightmares about me, Bean or both of us dying. Sad He's scared of history repeating itself, and I'm pinning all my hopes for his emotional wellbeing on Bean being born safely.

TooImmatureTurtleDoves · 04/01/2012 20:00

Whatever, yes, an 8 week scan is done in exactly the same way as a 12 week one - the bean is just a lot smaller! They won't be able to make out details other than the heartbeat, really. The sonographer said she couldn't even be sure at that stage which end was the head.

Whatevertheweather · 04/01/2012 20:11

Thanks Too phew had a sudden thought it might be internal Confused What time is your appt tomorrow? I do hope they are understanding about how important knowing the actual date is.

Sorry to hear your dh is finding things tough. My dp is categorically not.talking.about.it. He is absolutely terrified and just keeps saying he can't even think about it at the moment. Am hoping he comes round and talks to me soon as he's the only person other than on here that knows!! He is a lovely man and has been so wonderful since Erin died but it hit him very very hard and he is terrified of going through it again. It's good your dh has asked for a referral back to counselling. Does he find it helps? I'd like dp to speak to someone, even more so now, but other than coming to monthly sands meetings with me he won't. It must be so hard for them to feel so out of control. Hope the two of you can support each other through xx

fanjodisfunction · 04/01/2012 21:24

Thanks too.

Im finding it all very hard tonight, DH has gone to bed early as hes tired and I just cant stop crying and thinking of my Ophelia I miss her so much. I just want it all to get better and then I just dont know what to do. Life just isnt fair

Trickle · 04/01/2012 21:50

It's really good to hear what other people are feeling, don't feel so alone, I'm sorry some of you are having a hard time atm.
Whatever, if you feel you need a bit more time take it. If you can afford to it will be so much better for you to feel ready rather then push yourself and find you went back too early. What you have been through is an awful lot for one person to take in and process, it's not suprising you are feeling the way you are.
I'm really glad you all like my sons name, it is supposed to make you smile - it does us anyway - but then we can be a little quirky.
Sooo.... I tested - BFP, I had got my dates a little mixed up so I'm actually 7 days late today and 5 weeks. I found it hard calling the Dr's to make my first appointments - really silly but it feels like it makes it real and I'm not sure either of us is ready to start planning properly, 5 weeks is so early, but with my joints there isn't really much choice - my pelvis is already getting a bit loose.
Fx for those trying and those 4D scans sound amazing hope everyone is well and happy, I'm currently munching on cherries mmmmm

fanjodisfunction · 04/01/2012 21:54

congratulations trickle that really is good news, you have made me smile. I wish a sticky bean and a smooth pregnancy for you.

Bluetinkerbell · 04/01/2012 21:57

oooh trickle congratulations! :)
this thread is proving to be lucky for us :) I hope the other ones ttc, me included will get our BFP soon!

fan if you fancy a chat, I'm online on FB atm :)

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fanjodisfunction · 04/01/2012 22:01

thats really kind of you blue but I think I shall just go to bed and snuggle up to the Dh. Im not upset thats hes gone to bed or that we didnt have sex yesterday I just miss my baby.

Trickle · 04/01/2012 22:01

Right that took a good hour and a half to post as DH kept nicking the mouse so I posted in desperation without any proof reading - whatever -CONGRATULATIONS! was supposed to be the first part of the sentence to you :)

Fan, I get days like that, Sproglet would have been 2 this Febuary coming and most people think it's hardest on his birthday or that it's not so hard anymore, but the truth is it's any day - any day that happens to be a bad day. You love your daughter and nothing can take that away, the grief comes with that, gentle hugs and hoping for happier days x

Whatevertheweather · 04/01/2012 22:04

Oh fan sorry you're feeling down. It's so hard isn't it. I still get overwhelmed at the 'foreverness' of our losses. Big hugs xx

Trickle congratulations Smile I'm 5 weeks tomorrow so very similar. Scary huh?!

Hi Blue Smile

Bluetinkerbell · 04/01/2012 22:10

hi wtw :)

I'm symptom spotting already... fell asleep on the sofa earlier! Wink
been to doctor today to talk about blood test results and seemed last week CD21 I hadn't ov'd yet, which I knew was going to happen, now knowing that I have long cycles :)
Told her about CBFM and that is showed egg at the weekend. She told me that if it doesn't happen in the next 2-3 months I should go back...

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blizy · 04/01/2012 22:34

fan Im sorry you are having a bad night, maybe a snuggle with dh is what the doctor ordered. Hope you are ok x

trickle wow, congrtaultions! I wish you a boringly healthy pregnancy.

A huge hello to everyone else, i'm way too tired to reply to you all. Goodnight ladies. x

Trickle · 04/01/2012 22:44

Thank you boring and healthy would be fab! Though I'm likely to get increibly interestingly bendy thrown in there for good measure too.

That's a near snap on timing then whatever

Sleep Well All x

AngelGeorgie · 04/01/2012 23:02

Blue hopefully you won t need to go back but at least you must feel someone is listening & will help. Xx
Fan it's crap ian t it? Go with it . I read a lovely poem in Georgie' s keepsake box that says " weep for me as I m worth all of your tears & plenty of people have no one to weep over them" that line always gets me crying. I still cry for Georgie & all we ve missed without her here.it's shite no other word for it.
Too I m here to help in any way I can. Yes, you can & will come out the other side though you don t/ can t envisage it at the moment. To repeat my old mantra; 1 day at a time. Both ant & I felt like your DH that if anything happened to Phoebe neither of would ever recover( still feel the same) & scared to death. But , unfortunately it boils down to : what choice do any of us have? If we want to go on to have our " rainbow" baby we ve no choice but to walk this path.push for a due date ,at least it gives you a date to aim towards , an end point. I m here if ever I can help you in any way. What seems to be taking forever now when you have your baby it ( the pregnancy) will be a distant memory , time doesn t stand still ( for better or worse) it's transient. Xxxxx take cate
Mel take care.Do whatever you need to to get through xxxx
Hi August
hi all ; hope everyone' s well.
Too we re looking to move anyhow to the Midlands ,where my family live ,as it's been a long term plan but when we lost Georgie it put everything in perspective . The need to be closer to family , what's important. Also my parents are retiring next year and have offered 3 days a week child care where as up here when I return to work in April childcare will cost us £700 per month. I also want my family to be closer to Phoebe instead of 2.5 hours away. So , I job hunting at the moment but unfortunately my job is quite specialised so may be a waiting game!!!
Congrats trickle xxx
Love to all xxx

Whatevertheweather · 04/01/2012 23:07

Angel that is beautiful 'Weep for me. I am worth your tears' Very poignant for our much loved angels xx

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