Mothers of Angel Babies United - wishing for, some of us pg with and some of us holding our Rainbow babies

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Here we go again!
lots of love to all our angel babies! xxx

blue the stone is beautiful, very fitting for your little girl, fx for a bfp for you in the next few days too x
razz I suffer from that type of pain in pregnancy too, not pleasant
mel glad you sorted your hr department out, hopefully now they will think twice about how they treat people in very stressful and upsetting situations
too heartburn is such a pain, I suffer with it too

I have just got back from having my flu jab, anyone else had theirs yet? I have also had to put up with an over excitable colleague today, she is pregnant with her first and she is lovely but she just doesn't get that I can't assume that all will be fine with this baby. She keeps asking me if I have booked a nursery place/ antenatal classes, bought anything etc. She also said to me today, ooh 20 week scan, how exciting! I dont want to burst her bubble or anything but I get worried about scans, not excited, though it is obviously lovely to see the baby. I don't know how I can deal with her without coming across all negative. It's nice that she is so excited, I just can't join in with it all the time.

Ciwi, I booked my flu jab this morning. It's not til 12 Nov, though - was stunned to be told the next available day was a Saturday and was that ok? Hell yes! Usually you have to take time off work for anything doctor-related.

Poor you with the excitable colleague. It's so hard to know what to say and still be nice. I actually phoned a couple of nurseries when I was on mat leave with Thea and one of them phoned me back and left a message a few days after we got home from the hospital, asking if I was still interested. Not surprisingly, I won't be doing that again!

I never get a flu jab and especially not when pregnant, I'm not keen on vaccinations at the best of times.

Managed to bake lots of biscuits this afternoon, they never last long though!

cheese I don't usually but it's been strongly advised by my consultant and midwife and it protects the baby for 6 months after birth too. My reasoning is if I do have a perm baby it would be very vulnerable throughout winter so the fact that it is already protected against flu can only be a good thing.

ciwi oh that's fair enough, I just can't myself, I would worry too much. I don't know, sometimes not making that choice is easier? I understand why you have though and it's right for you :)

I know what you mean cheese we all need to do what we think is right for our situations. I don't like the thought of having an injection of any kind when pregnant but I think I would also worry if I didn't get the jab. I work with sick kids so it's highly likely I will come into contact with the flu anyway, so that was the right decision for me.
My size up work trousers wouldn't fasten today :) bump is getting bigger x

blue that stone is beautiful

ooo i hadnt even thought about the flu jab, i had the swine one last time not sure i will have it this time round. will speak to the midwife in a couple of weeks when i next see her. have my next scan tues not sure at the moment to ask gender.

shakey I asked but baby had his/her legs firmly shut so still dont know. Got my 20 week scan a week tomorrow so will see if we can find out then. I am maybe thinking girl as they are more likely to see boy parts. Don't mind in the slightest but want to be able to say she or he!

we have never asked previously and has always been a suprise but this time i think it may make this pg more real, as at the moment even though i know i am pg i am finding it hard to think of the baby at the end. (if that makes sense)

I will find out sex with the second part of the amnio results, which should come back next week some time. I wanted to know anyway, so it will just be a little bit earlier. Shakey, I would never have the willpower not to ask! Besides, with most of us having lots more scans than the norm, it might get harder to keep it secret. Same thing as Ciwi, I want to be able to say she or he, although I don't mind which it is at all. I also want to start picking names seriously, and if it is a boy, de-girlifying the nursery, which has lots of pink right now. I think Beatrix Potter pictures are unisex, even if I did pick the Tailor of Gloucester ones of the mice sewing the cherry-coloured silk. I bought one of those Ikea cot canopies here and if Bean is a boy I could attach planes or pterodactyls or something to it to make it look more masculine.

Cheese, your biscuits sound excellent!

Had a rough night - burst into tears halfway through the evening because I had been neglecting Thea with all the worry over Bean, and then DH woke up in the night with a really upset tummy and I was convinced it was some sort of baby-killing virus that I was going to get too. Poor DH crawled back into bed freezing cold and shaking and I was lying there going oh no, what effect will this have on Bean? I had to put the light on and read for a bit to rewire my brain into common sense. My stomach was churning with nerves and I thought maybe I was ill too (I wasn't!), so I had to calm down. DH has gone to work despite being up from 1.30 to nearly 4 with bouts of diarrhoea - crazy!

I made the mistake of telling my sister about the middle of the night paranoid hypochondria and she now thinks I am insane! She said after this I had to leave at least 3 years before getting pregnant again to give myself time to calm down.

Hey all. I had my flu jab at work 3 weeks ago as was advised best to. Sorry for short post; hope everyone is ok??
Phoebe is gorgeous & so much like Georgie it's lovely. Very tired ( though not whinging!!!) trying to get on top of breast feeding we both only had 3 hrs sleep last night. However, it's all good hoping to be discharged tomorrow if not on top of breast feeding then will switch to bottle, section totally fine no problems whatsoever. Just , understandingly sore now!!! But up & mobile drip, catheter etc all out.... Will try & post photo of Phoebe at some point. To all of you ; if you ve got the strenght keep going. Having Phoebe doesn t erase the pain of loosing our Georgie in a funny way both run parelle. We have Georgie' s photo up here with us & everyone has asked after her. As you all know ( its well documented) at times , during this pg, I did think I wouldn t make it but by sticking to my mantra ; 1 day at a time we all got here a new chapter in our lives , with Georgie with us.I m still so very grateful we had our Georgie & still think & miss her every day but Phoebe helps dull the pain & focus on
The future : a new chapter.
Ok, sermon over!! Just thought I would share with you lot as you all understand.
Good luck to all testing, on
2 ww or swi.good luck to scans coming up & big relief for all the great investigation results

Morning all angel mummies, boo for sciatica and heartburn, hope you're not too uncomfortable razz and too.
Angel thanks for sharing your feelings about Georgie now that Phoebe is here, I often wonder what it would be like and was looking at DS2 sleeping this morning and noticing how like him Jacob was, same nose same dimple in the chin - so beautiful, both of them.
Question fo all - how long after your tragedies did you get a proper period? I'm still waiting and panicking a bit now, 10 wks on (did a sneaky test the other day and not pg, knew I wasn't but with no AF thought I should check.)

Angel I know exactly what you mean about a new baby helping dull the pain and give some hope for the future, a purpose again. But they don't replace their sibling, and they don't make it all ok, but they do comfort. So glad you're up and about and hoping to go home soon. There is practically no sleep to be had at the start... invest in some matchsticks for those eyes! Good luck with the feeding. We had a rough start to that but I'm very lucky to have had a lot of support and we cracked it, hurrah! So easy now to go out and about without bottles etc to worry about.

angel thats so good to here. Im so glad you and Phoebe are doing well.

Im not finding out the gender next time round, we didnt last time, I thought I was having a boy. And I loved the surprise and hearing my DH say her name to the world while I was still coming round from the copious G&A. We have both agreed that next time we wont either, in our minds it will be easier to cope with if we lose another baby. Our own twisted logic.

I had problems feeling pg and bonding with the bump last time, so we gave it a bump name and I would sing songs to 'bubble' in the car. I will force myself to do this again I think.

Got another week and two days till I can test, if I get that far (if AF doesnt rear her ugly head) How you holding out Jane have you been thinking of testing early? blue have you been near the sticks again?

August I had my first AF 6 weeks after, so four weeks after I stopped bleeding form the birth.

Angel, glad to hear things are going well! Hope the feeding sorts itself out - it must be so much more convenient not to have to drag bottles etc around.

August, AF took ages to come back for me too - think lochia went on for about 4 weeks and then AF was 7 weeks later. I also did a test or two, despite not having had unprotected sex!

nope haven't been near the sticks again! will wait it out!

Hello all,

I stumbled across this thread and altho' I don't know your stories I think i can guess what some of you have been through. We had our little baby boy last summer after an uneventful and healthy pg - something happened during delivery, we're still not sure what, but he was just too poorly to make it and died aged 13 days. We, along with his big sister were devastated. Within 3 months I was pg, which was a huge shock and the next 8 months or so was a v anxious time. We had amazing support and had DS2 after a section. He's now 5 mths old and sleeping in his pram. I just wanted to tell you all that you will never forget your little ones who are no longer with you; they will always be part of your families (I try to always say that DS2 is our third). It does become a little easier with time, esp when holding your precious new baby. In no way does it diminish waht you felt/feel for your other babies.I think the advice someone mentioned to just take a day at a time is a good way to live whatever stage you're at in life. We learnt a lot about ourselves and life by having DS1 and will always be so grateful to him for that. Much love to you all, be kind to yourselves x

dcb thank you for staring your story with us and Im so sorry to here about your baby, that is so sad.

angel what a lovely post, it had me sobbing. Im so glad you and Pheobe are well.

august My af didn't appear until 12 weeks to the day after I gave birth to Zoe.

green I'm trying not to think about it, I'm not sure I ov. I had ewcm for a few days last week it went away and then I had more yesterday .

dcb Thank you for sharing your story,it is full of hope. Im so sorry to hear about your little boy.

ok jane well if you feel like testing early come and find me on here and I shall persaude you to wait, and I hope you return the favour.

Im ok now but I might start to waver mid next week.

Thank you, dcd, that means a lot.

All of u ; hugs as I have documented it can mental you having a ." rainbow" pregnancy but what choice do any of us have??
We worked our tonight it's 3 years since my first MC & now I ve got my take home baby.
Love & best of luck to all xxxx
Phoebe fine. We had a busy day saw loads of people we know, colleagues etc...
Hoping to be discharged tomorrow. Can t wait to get Phoebe home.
Sleep well all xxxx
Too 1 day at a time , today is another day done & today all is fine xxxx

Oh sorry didn t see other posts!!!
August I was " lucky" I got my AF 4 weeks to the day after I had Georgie.
Dcd sorry , glad life turned a corner again. Can totally relate to what you re saying.
Spilt hi... Thanks , I know you understand. Hope Freya is well? Nice to hear from you xx
Hi Green,Shakey,Ciwi, Jane , Mel & razz
I hope with all my heart we all get what we deserve is some good fortune. Xxx