Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your leathers, black nail polish, air guitar and jump in the mosh pit for some serious metalling. All welcome! (Part 17)

[MarathonMama]

Hello! Just miscarried and ready to start again, come and join us...

OMG! I have been off MN for 2 days and I just can't keep up! Chatterboxes, the lot of you!!

Although I can't name check everyone (sorry) and comment on what's been going on with everybody, I will say "Mmmmm.....Thai food and cupcakes......"
Welcome new peeps Far Iam Shorty (well, welcome back anyway) and Boobeez (ps maybe we should change the mantra to "chin up, boobeez out..." I like it! )

Good luck tomorrow marathon will be thinking about you. x
wtf blue this wtf phase is really taking the piss. FX for some normality for you soon.
Good luck to everyone approaching the end of the 2ww
And also to all those almost - but not quite - there, but metalling anyway (hmmm, no elbows pointing manda )
Talking of metalling IQ , good to see you're not letting the side down!
Summer hope you're well. Swear and rant away, All part of the metalling
Whatso lol to:
"So based on that experience I think the first month can just be a pain in the fanjo."
Well said!

Hi baby Eve Pie Shimmery cuttle and anyone else I might have missed (I blame the )

Well, AF seems to have tailed off but it was 2 days of heavy bleeding (which I'm not used to) with cramps (also not used to). Added to that, it was the first anniversary of my Mum's death yesterday so was feeling a bit rubbish yesterday - not helped by the bottle of wine I tanned last night (this emoticon pretty much sums up how I have looked for most of the day!)

But, I must get back into the PMA swing of things, and it's almost finish time! Mojito anyone???

marathon I know exactly what you mean re. your hairdresser, one of the girls who works downstairs is due the week I would've been due and I keep finding myself staring at her bump when she comes to see anyone up here and wondering what size I would've been by now and my secretary is now starting to show too...she's about 8 weeks behind where I would've been...it's tough and unfortunately think it's going to get tougher as their bumps grow and especially when they leave to go on mat leave!!

But trying to stick with the PMA and thinking about what holiday we might be able to go on next year as it will be our 5th wedding anniversary next September...thinking we should maybe try and go earlier in the year as (hopefully!) we may have a little person to think about by september and be nice to have some time away just the two of us...so that means February probably to fit in with a soon to be conceived pregnancy...but where to go in Feb?! Sunshine would be preferable to cold I think...less mat clothes needed!!

whatso have a fab holiday in Ibiza with lots of SWI!!

IQ hope you feel better soon!

Right...back to work searching on the internet for February holiday destinations!

x-post missg was wondering when the anniversary was as I remembered you said it was August not an easy time I'm sure! My AF was v heavy for a couple of days with bad cramps and then seemed to stop...before starting the true WTF that has been the last 11 days!!! Hopefully yours will behave itself!!

Hello ladies, may I join? I've been pg twice in the last year but have not seen a heartbeat in either. Having only ever had previous pg symptoms to go on I have convinced myself for the last week that I am pregnant- mad dreams, waking up at virtually the same time each morning ( between 3 and 4 am), constipation (soz) and headaches. AF usually arrives between CD25 and 29. Yesterday was CD26 and late last night there was blood. I woke up at 4 this morning, POAS which was negative. I've been miserable all day waiting for AF to unpack her bags for the weekend as I've been a bit crampy today.
I can't help feeling like I've been fooling myself.

Thanks Blue go you with the PMA! My DD has been asking when we can go back to Orlando. It's so hard to plan ahead when TTC isn't it??!! Am thinking I should just go ahead and book it for next summer - Sods law will mean I will get pg, won't be able to fly (or will have a newborn, and wouldnt travel as far as America) and will lose all the money. Would be worth it!

Where are you thinking? Probably need to head further away than Europe for sun in Feb wouldn't you? Hawaii??

Welcome Jambo and sorry to hear of your losses. We drive ourselves nuts don't we?!? It's so hard not to get your hopes up each month. Don't be too hard on yourself though. We do imagine symptoms, and we do convince ourselves that we might be pg each month, but we can't help it. Then when we get that bfn we feel so daft for getting so excited. I've come to the conclusion that MCs turn us into some kind of raving loonies. But, if you want a bit of support, a friendly ear, or sometimes even a well-meaning kick-up-the-arse bit of advice, this is the place to be

Hey everyone. Cupcake coming up for marathonmama and missG. Gonna need to do some more baking! I have been stuffing my face with them-they are rather good, but at this rate I'm going to end up looking pregnant when I'm not! Teehee! Am def up for the new mantra missG "chin up boobeez out!" I think we should maybe get it printed on t-shirts.

Hello everyone and welcome to everyone new.

I can def join in with the crazy symptoms spotting. Not sure what I going on with me, af not meant to be due till monday but since tues have had light bleeding, nothing like my normal period and it seems to have stopped now. Did a test on wed but bfn. Thanks for listening, I think if dh hears one more thing about it he's going to explode. X

Welcome to jambo. Sorry you're in the same boat as the rest of us, but you're not alone. It's a shitty time, but things will get better. You can have ny last cupcake. x

Just a quick one :-)

Have read but it has not sunk in. Just to say hello, welcome newbies, sorry you have had to join us, but in time it will get easier and we will soon all get our bfp.

Had lovely few days in Skeg. Have drives bloody miles and I am finally home, washing on, about to colour my hair and have a night out tonight.

Af has finished - have always had 4 day periods so think we are back to normal, part of me is very excited, part of me terrifed.

MIL phoned this afternoon to tell me SIL doesn't have infection in her ovaries, has plenty of eggs and is likley to get pg as soon as she starts trying. Thanks for that you insensitive cow!!!! Cheered me right up.

Hope everyone has a great weekend :-)

MissG sending some sympathy your way, anniversaries can be very tough

Jambo welcome and sorry for your losses

oh crikey i have been off line for 2 days and i too cant keep up! sorry for not name checking but welcome to the newbies, so sorry for the reason you are here but we are a fab thread and everyone is absolutely supportive, i have gone through it again this last week and these guys have been amazing

IQ i think it was you that said that your mum said 'well at least it happened now and not later' well that is EXACTLY what my mum said this week - i too wanted to lamp her one!

marathon i am keeping everything crossed for tomorrow - and shall jump on here when i can to check up on you - all the best mate [mumsnetty hugs on their way]

today was my first friday off (which explains my absence from MN!) and i had two playdates - the first one was odd as both of my friends are PG i didnt tell them about Monday as no preggy woman wants to hear that their friend has miscarried! however me and pickle (me boy) have had a wonderful day.

i spoke to my mum again last night and decided not to confront her about being bloody useless! she said 'have you had a better day' i said i had and she said 'so you are moving on then? good' FFS what is the point!

anyway - i will try and do a proper catch up later on but big waves to you all x

Am slightly pissed again so sorry again for anything missed out.

Thanks to those who told me what their spotting etc was like post MC.

Marathon good luck and loads of love for tomorrow!

DH redeemed himself a bit today - was watching Outnumbered this eve and he said, about Karen the youngest one, 'do you want one like that?' but then added 'I know I do'. This is progress indeed!

Will go now as a bit tiddly tired

Night all x

thanks all. Nice to know I'm not alone in being increasingly screaming mental neurotic over the 2ww.
summer - one of my friends declared that I was lucky to have my 2nd mc before 6 weeks as i would be over it in no time! I think I gritted my teeth a lot that day...
marathon I've read back a few messages. Good luck for your scan today.

I shall be falling off the wagon today, in style, after remaining mostly alcohol free for the last 3 weeks EVEN whilst on holiday.

missG So, so tough to pass 'sad' anniversaries - perhaps moreso the first one. Sending you strength and serenity.

marathon My thoughts are so with you. I'm totally counting down the two hours until your scan Postive vibes, positive vibes!

Well, I've had the advance call from my dear aunt - temp crashed even further, way past the coverline so af will be here some time this morning I expect. 8 day lp this time. Fgs, my lps have always been spot on (af arriving on 15dpo) so this is sooooo... ugh. I know I should go to the dr but I can just imagine them wafting me away with a 'wait and see' and I've been waiting and seeing already. I think, too, in the uk we're not as proactive managing a short lp as our american cousins - everything I read on their forums, women are nstantly prescibed progesterone to at least give any potential pregnancy a chance. So, it doesn't address the cause, but I want my effect sorted!

Just wanna be back to normal. I really, really do. I feel a bit lost.

Just a quicky hiya! Am home alone with DS this morning and he's causing havoc!

marathon - thinking of you this morning!

manda - I went to see my GP yesterday about my very short LP (8 days last month) she was actually really good, I went armed with a bunch of blood tests I wanted her to do (list recommended on another thread, I can pass it on?) and she agreed to most of them. I have to go for another CD21 test when most of the other tests will be done apart from the CD3 ones (LH & FSH or something). I think they prescribe Clomid for a short LP but there must be something else as I think that's pretty strong when you ovulate but just have a short LP. There is a also a 'short LP gang' thread on here somewhere I sometimes lurk on. She did say that most hormonal imbalances can be sorted though so maybe it's worth a visit to your GP? I am also going to try acupuncture on Monday as I've read it can also help - will report back!

Waves to all the newbies - you couldn't find a more supportive bunch of ladies!! xx

Morning all...well, so much for all my PMA this morning been really weepy and stressed out with it all again! I think seeing the growing bumps of my work colleagues say in day out is really getting to me...esp as one of them is due the same week I would've been it just feels as though we can't plan anything and have no idea how long it will take again this time and my body clearly isn't back to normal with all this post AF spotting etc...had twinges near left ovary yesterday but no sign of any ewcm so who know's if I'm ovulating at the moment or not...then again no DTD this morning as I was so stressed out and PIL arriving any mo so no time for hanging around...in fact doorbell just gone so must go!

But just v quickly... whatso have a fab holiday and marathon hope all ok!

Just a quickie as in the car. All ok, heartbeat there and measurements spot on. Phew! Feeling relieved but won't be fully reassured until the 12 weeks scan given that our early scan was ok last time. Off for lunch...

marathon whoooo hooo!!!!!! Just been sat in a breastfeeding session with my SIL and being surrounded by bumps.....so happy for you - hopefully that will be us in 8 months time!!!! Xxxxx

Great news marathon enjoy your lunch!

manda I can sympathise with that 'lost' feeling...the whole process is just v hard work physically and emotionally...I thought I was doing ok but feel really drained by the whole thing and quite lost too...that feeling of 'do i just have to wait for it all to sort itself out, should I go and talk to someone/GP, or just wait and round the circle goes'. DH moaned at me this morning for being too clinical and scientific about it all as I was stressing about when/if I would ovulate this cycle and not wanting to get AF at the end of the cycle and feel that we hadn't SWI at the right time to give ourselves the best chance and he kept saying 'can't we just do it when we feel like it?' which is fine except that he works crazy shifts that are different every day and we could easily go a week without any SWI as we will hardly see each other so there needs to be some planning...but now I feel as though I need to internally plan and then surrespticiously get him to SWI on the days I feel are important...if I can work out when they are...oh this is all a total mess with your head time...

Yeah Marathon !! So glad all is well. x

marathon so pleased for you that all is well so far

Blue room on that bench in the padded cell for another one? Last night and this morning felt a few twinges on my side too. I'm on CD15 so it could fit - DH back from Japan tonight before setting off for Ibiza tomorrow - hope he's not too knackered for some SWI (feel a bit mean for even thinking that but we get to Ibiza late tomorrow night so don't want to "waste" two nights

Main reason for requiring a cell stay is thus though: I got over enthusiastic when pg and signed up for loads of stuff from the Emma's diary I got from the midwife plus the free bag of stuff from Argos etc. Anyway just saw my next door neighbour who took a parcel for me yesterday and I wasn't expecting anything. It said "Philips avent" on the side and my heart sunk. I went inside and opened it - a baby bottle with a personalised leaflet saying "Philips avert family welcomes [insert real name]'s family".

Tears are running down my face. I know this company couldn't know but it feels like being punched in the chest

Hi girls. Great news marathon That must be a great relief for you. Stay positive manda. Right now is the hardest part and you and everyone on here will look back on this as a challenging time in our lives when we are through it and have our babies. Sorry to go all intense! I really believe it will work out though.
Your situation sounds tough blue I am kind of avoiding one of my friends who has a baby and who the last time I saw her, I told her I was pregnant. Ho hum.
I am on cycle day 29 right now dating from mc and just want af or bfp now! Will not test again for another week.
Did some more baking today -butter whirls which are swirly biscuits. They have made me feel a bit sick though. They are basically pure fat and sugar!

Hey whatsoever. You poor thing :( Thinking of you hun. You're not on your own.

Thanks boobeez I had a good cry, had a word with myself and got on with packing