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Freak Out Room For Those Newly Updiffed After M/C Part VII

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Blackkat · 05/06/2011 14:30

Just found out you are pregnant after a previous miscarriage and too nervous to move over the to pregnancy boards? Freaking out about spotting, cramping, symptoms (or lack there of) and nervously awaiting your first scan? Here is a lovely place for lot's of support, hand holding and problem sharing.

Courtesy of owlbooty here are the Ten Commandments of the Freak Out Room.

  1. Thou shalt check thy knickers to the point of insanity until the baby actually arrives.
  2. Thou shalt also check the loo roll post-wipeage (sorry, gross, I know)
  3. Thou shalt bore thy physician and midwife to tears with the mentalling.
  4. And thy husband/boyfriend/family/neighbour's cat.
  5. Thou shalt obsess over the absence of symptoms.
  6. And the presence of symptoms.
  7. And the fluctuation of symptoms.
  8. Thou shalt pee on a vast number of sticks and keep ClearBlue and First Response in business.
  9. The day before any scan extreme mentalling is permitted without recourse to the Haddock.
10. Self-diagnosis with Dr Google is Forbidden.

The Haddock will be applied liberally to all transgressors.

See here for the previous thread

OP posts:
pigletmania · 01/07/2011 18:34

I am thinking of your hairy and really hope that you have a sticky bean and a lovely baby at the end. I have been following you, since starting on the MC threads, when I had my first MC a couple of years ago. I was really expecting the worse and was prepared for the usual, empty sac or nothing there, bleeding to get worse and was thinking of calling my GP to arrange an appointment to discuss tests to why I keep MC

Velvetcu · 01/07/2011 18:50

great news piglet

willitbe I'm sorry your scan wasnt reassuring but I have everything crossed for you.

hairy good luck for whenever you get booked in

pigletmania · 01/07/2011 18:57

Thanks velvetcu Smile

mamarara · 01/07/2011 18:57

Great news piglet!

And I am so sorry about your stressful scan willitbe - I hope it turns out ok for you.

Fine here apart from pre scan mentalling. Currently on anxiety over drive. Nearly burst into tears whenever I think about it. Idiot.

Although not craving crumpets I mostly want an ice cold shandy bass (you know the non alcoholic cans?). Wrong but so right. Hoping the shandy lust is a good sign and the mentalling is just mentalling.

Happy Friday ladies!

pigletmania · 01/07/2011 19:10

maarara thanks Smile. The things that stopped me from mentallying and knicker checking was the constant sickness and tiredness to bother about all that

ladybird33 · 01/07/2011 19:37

Great news about the scan piglet I'm so pleased for you.

willitbe am so, so sorry that the scan didn't give you the news you wanted. I will keep everything crossed for you and hope you can find the inner strength to get through the next 10 days. We will be here if you want to have a rant or feel in need of support.

mamarara I have been craving shandy for days, and finally got some Becks blue (which somebody mentioned) to make it with. Didn't know about the cans.... I feel like a true shandy baron, but it's worth it! Cheers!

Hope everyone has a good weekend without too much mentalling. :o xx

pigletmania · 01/07/2011 21:38

thanks ladybird Smile

cep · 02/07/2011 08:08

willitbe sorry you're having this worry. fx for your next scan.

hairy good luck for next week.

lily06 · 02/07/2011 10:26

Saturday 2nd July

Lovemysleep 25+4 EDD 11/10/11
Hils74 21+3 EDD 8/11/11
Katherine2008 21+2 EDD 10/11/11
Haffertee 21+0 EDD 14/11/11
Ninunina: 20+4 EDD 15/11/11
delilahbelle 20+2 EDD 22/11/11
Mattsmama 20+2 EDD 17/11/11
Banana87 19+4 EDD 22/11/11
Bigmacsauce 18+4 EDD 29/11/11 Next scan 11/7/11
Jigglebum 17+2 EDD 8/12/11
Minnie74 17+0 EDD 12/12/11
Lucky 15+5
Dooscooby 15+2 EDD 22/12/11
Harassed 15+2 EDD 22/12/11
Hadrian 14+7 EDD 25/12/11 next scan 15/08/11
Youremindmeofthebabe 13+2 EDD 5/1/11 next scan 19/8/11
Updiffed 13+0
Freezingmyarseoff 13+0 scan 5/7/11
Milkyways 12+6 EDD 08/01/12 Next scan 04/07/11
Bump 12+0 EDD 14/01/12
Hairylights 11+5
Mamarara 11+2
Lily06 11+2 Next scan 05/07/11
Pigletmania 11+0
Laylasmummy09 10+6
purpletoes 8+2 EDD 09/02/12
willitbe 7+1
MrsSteph 7+0 Next scan 13/07/11
Shellshock7 5+3 EDD 29/02/12

On the grads thread too:

Nickster 35+0 EDD 7/8/11
Orange 30+5 EDD 4/9/11
Wombat33 30+0 EDD 10/09/11
Daisybell 29+2 EDD 14/09/11
Pinkfondantfancy 28+0 EDD 25/09/11
Tiggersreturn (TTT) 27+5 EDD 26/09/11
mamapower 27+1 EDD 28/9/11
ALovelyBunchOfCoconuts 27+0 EDD 01/10/11
Emoo 27+2 EDD 7/10/11
Tunnocksteacake 23+6 EDD 24/10/11
Onions 23+5 EDD 24/10/11
IreneHeron 23+4 EDD 23/10/11
Velvetcu 23+4 EDD 25/10/11
MummyAbroad 22+1 EDD 4/11/11
CEP 22+0 EDD 5/11/11
CollieandPup 19+6 EDD 20/11/11 next scan 6/7/2011
wombatinwaiting 19+2 EDD 24/11/11
LaraMi 19+1 EDD 25/11/11 Next scan 20/07/11
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy 18+5 EDD 26/11/11
Blackkat 17+5 EDD 5/12/11 Next scan 26/07/11

In our thoughts and prayers
Dachs whose beautiful little babies Alexander & Felicia left this world sleeping

Thinking of.... ladybee; digi; A&R; barbie; MumTum; Knitter, Kat2504, Mistress P

Purpletoes · 02/07/2011 14:54

Afternoon everyone. just updating the list with my scan date.

Saturday 2nd July

Lovemysleep 25+4 EDD 11/10/11
Hils74 21+3 EDD 8/11/11
Katherine2008 21+2 EDD 10/11/11
Haffertee 21+0 EDD 14/11/11
Ninunina: 20+4 EDD 15/11/11
delilahbelle 20+2 EDD 22/11/11
Mattsmama 20+2 EDD 17/11/11
Banana87 19+4 EDD 22/11/11
Bigmacsauce 18+4 EDD 29/11/11 Next scan 11/7/11
Jigglebum 17+2 EDD 8/12/11
Minnie74 17+0 EDD 12/12/11
Lucky 15+5
Dooscooby 15+2 EDD 22/12/11
Harassed 15+2 EDD 22/12/11
Hadrian 14+7 EDD 25/12/11 next scan 15/08/11
Youremindmeofthebabe 13+2 EDD 5/1/11 next scan 19/8/11
Updiffed 13+0
Freezingmyarseoff 13+0 scan 5/7/11
Milkyways 12+6 EDD 08/01/12 Next scan 04/07/11
Bump 12+0 EDD 14/01/12
Hairylights 11+5
Mamarara 11+2
Lily06 11+2 Next scan 05/07/11
Pigletmania 11+0
Laylasmummy09 10+6
purpletoes 8+2 EDD 09/02/12 next scan 01/08/2011
willitbe 7+1
MrsSteph 7+0 Next scan 13/07/11
Shellshock7 5+3 EDD 29/02/12

On the grads thread too:

Nickster 35+0 EDD 7/8/11
Orange 30+5 EDD 4/9/11
Wombat33 30+0 EDD 10/09/11
Daisybell 29+2 EDD 14/09/11
Pinkfondantfancy 28+0 EDD 25/09/11
Tiggersreturn (TTT) 27+5 EDD 26/09/11
mamapower 27+1 EDD 28/9/11
ALovelyBunchOfCoconuts 27+0 EDD 01/10/11
Emoo 27+2 EDD 7/10/11
Tunnocksteacake 23+6 EDD 24/10/11
Onions 23+5 EDD 24/10/11
IreneHeron 23+4 EDD 23/10/11
Velvetcu 23+4 EDD 25/10/11
MummyAbroad 22+1 EDD 4/11/11
CEP 22+0 EDD 5/11/11
CollieandPup 19+6 EDD 20/11/11 next scan 6/7/2011
wombatinwaiting 19+2 EDD 24/11/11
LaraMi 19+1 EDD 25/11/11 Next scan 20/07/11
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy 18+5 EDD 26/11/11
Blackkat 17+5 EDD 5/12/11 Next scan 26/07/11

In our thoughts and prayers
Dachs whose beautiful little babies Alexander & Felicia left this world sleeping

Thinking of.... ladybee; digi; A&R; barbie; MumTum; Knitter, Kat2504, Mistress P

Purpletoes · 02/07/2011 15:07

hi everyone. hope everyone is good today. I had a small mentalling this morning as when i woke up my boobs weren't as sore as they have been. (may have something to do with the fact that I had a 2 hour nap yesterday evening and still went to bed at 10!) Also it is getting close to the time I found out about mc the last time.

I also am finding it hard to not say it to my DM and MIL, I am heading home in 10 days for a week and dont think I will be able to keep it secret then!

i am just holding onto the heartbeat I saw on Monday and scan and I may arrange another scan just before I go home as I will be 10 weeks.

Sorry about the me me me post.

Off to do something proactive and have a gentle session in the gym Smile

willitbe · 03/07/2011 06:00

Yesterday morning, I started some brown spotting, had intermittent cramps and some soreness. I put it down to the internal scan, and just rested. Tried to think positive all day. Nausea increased slightly, which yesterday I thought of as hopeful. (but today remembered that my nausea always increases just as I am m/c)

This morning I woke to horribly familiar cramps and checked and there was red bleeding, at the moment it is just spotting, but the cramps are indicating that more is on its way. I feel like crying, but not sure I have the emotional energy to do so.

CollieandPup · 03/07/2011 09:39

Oh willitbe I'm so terribly sorry. Sad

I really don't know what to say other than it's shit! But darling if you need to cry, then cry. I believe it's better out than bottled up. I hope you have your oh or family near for support. Take it easy today. I hope the bleeding stops and it's not what you fear, but rest and be kind to yourself. I'm sorry.
((massive hug))

ladybird33 · 03/07/2011 10:10

willitbe I'm so, so sorry that this is happening to you. Please be kind to yourself and rest as much as you can today. I'll be thinking of you and hoping that everything turns out ok. Here is another ((massive hug)).

ladybird33 · 03/07/2011 10:15

purpletoes hope the gym session went well. I think it sounds like a good plan to have another scan when you are 10 weeks, then you will have the reassurance so that it is easy to tell your DM and MIL - you can ask them to keep it to themselves if you don't want the rest of the world to know yet! My boobs definitely aren't as sore when I have been asleep, but am with you on the mentalling about that!

pigletmania · 03/07/2011 10:46

Oh no willitbe that is awful Sad, I know the feeling well (had 2 MC). Thinking of you bless you

Purpletoes · 03/07/2011 11:18

Oh no willitbe I am so sorry [big hug]. Thinking of you today.

Thanks ladybird the gym session went well discovered boobs still hurt when tried the treadmill Grin so cross trainer forme. It did make me feel more human again!

At work today, joys of the nhs!

cep · 03/07/2011 11:43

willitbe i'm so sorry, but keeping fx for you that it doesn't develop further.

milkyways · 03/07/2011 17:03

willitbe I am so sorry you are going through this. Take care of yourself and have plenty of rest x

LaraandLittleBean · 03/07/2011 18:25

Ladies... I'M BACK! Boy I missed you... I actually thought about you all all week... I have had a super quick scan over the pages I've missed but it was only super quick so please forgive me if I've omitted anything. Will have a proper read through tomorrow morning when I have more time on my heads at the office tomorrow morning

Firstly, I am so sad and sorry to hear the bad news Willitbe and Mistress. I hope you both have strong support around you and that you give yourselves the time you need. We're all here for eachother...

Also great news on the positive scans... there's nothing like the feeling after seeing a wriggling bean.

I was very impressed and proud to see so much stat updating going on! To be honest I love seeing the days pass as our pgs progress.

OMG - my meeting with WIW was FAB... She really is a lovely, warm and fascinating lady (and ever so chic) and if any of you get the opportunity to meet up with her, please do. Prior to meeting it did feel like some sort of weird blind date (!) but as soon as we met, it was like meeting up with a dear, dear friend. I actually would have welcomed the opp to offload DH and spend the evening with her! Yes, DH did come and say hello for five mins - but only five mins as he was scared we'd be talking about discharge (I kid you not). When we said goodbye I mentioned that it would be great to keep in contact as we will have little ones the same age - I am not sure that you had considered that yet, WIW! It's like we spend so much time mentalling that we can easily forget why we're mentalling and that the likelihood is that we will end up with RL little babies one day!

OMG - had a few MAJOR freak-outs on hol - not sure if any of you can relate... I 500% want this little bean more than I can describe but I did have the odd moment of panic on hol. It tended to be by the pool or when we were out shopping when we'd see couples out trying to have a pleasant time but their little screaming kids not wanting to play ball, throwing tantrums etc and I thought "wtf are we doing? We have a nice life..." Anyone else felt / feel like that? WIW recommended a good book (And Baby Makes Three) that I am going to order tomorrow. I guess it's normal to feel scared - this is the most life-changing decision we're making.

Collie - how's the dream genii? I actually missed it when I was away. Sad you didn't get the cot but it makes sense to wait - we have lots of time afterall. We're only getting the set as we need a roomful of furniture. Great to see progress being made on the buggy. We actually considered the Cameleon but then I got scared by its sheer size so we're going to get the Bee. I'd be interested to hear why you decided against it (as I'm ultra reticent when it comes to large purchases!)

Been getting more fluttering. (Might just be plane wind.....) Bump also looks quite big now... Random people seem to automatically know I'm pg (relieved to be past the "eating all the pies belly" phase). I clearly have no stomach muscles.... Lifeguard at hotel pool came over to me in a panic (I was relaxing on the edge under a palm tree) and asked me to move as he was scared a coconut would fall on my stomach (now that's one eventuality I haven't ever considered!!)

OOH - major step too... After doing lots of lengths on hol I joined Fitness First today so I can use their pool. Am delighted that it is apparently always empty. I asked if they did pg-specific classes and they don't but the guy, erm "helpfully" suggested I could join the over-55's exercise classes! WTF!!!!!!!!

Anyways - DH lurking over me so had better go and get dinner on.

Hugs to you all and will post tomorrow xxxxx ps - sorry for any typos - will blame DH's lurkiness.

LaraandLittleBean · 03/07/2011 18:25

oops - time on "hands" not time on "heads"....

laylasmummy09 · 03/07/2011 18:28

willitbe im so sorry you are going through this i hope you have someone with you to look after you and are not in too much pain, keeping everything crossed for you xxx

Velvetcu · 03/07/2011 18:59

so sorry to hear you are bleeding/cramping willitbe I am hoping that things turn out ok for you

hairylights · 03/07/2011 19:01

purple me too my symptoms have basically disappeared. All of them. :(

I am freaking.

willitbe so sorry love.

lily06 · 03/07/2011 19:50

Evening ladies,

Willitbe I wll be keeping everything crossed that it is not what you fear. ((hugs))

Hairy and Purple my symptoms are pretty non existant just now, other than slightly aching breasts when I turn over in bed. I'm really hoping its just the stage we're at. Guess I will find out on Tuesday one way or the other.

Lara so pleased you had a good trip, and really glad your meet with WIW was lovely. I have those freak out moments about what we're doing on a regular basis - I might have to look out a copy of that book too.

I'm struggling with clothes a bit at the minute. Other than the fact that I'm not liking having anything tight around my tummy, no actual bump here yet so the bottom half of outfits still fit. I'm mainly in cropped jeans and the odd skirt when not at work. However, the top half has become a nightmare. As of yesterday's trip to bravissimo I'm now a 36J (from a 34HH) and the extra has meant that only my vest tops still fit and one kind of waterfall jersey top which I have lived in for the past two weeks. I'm fat between where my boobs finish and my waist starts, if that makes sense. HELP!!!!!!! What can I wear?

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