Freak Out Room For Those Newly Updiffed After M/C Part VII

[Blackkat]

Just found out you are pregnant after a previous miscarriage and too nervous to move over the to pregnancy boards? Freaking out about spotting, cramping, symptoms (or lack there of) and nervously awaiting your first scan? Here is a lovely place for lot's of support, hand holding and problem sharing.

Courtesy of owlbooty here are the Ten Commandments of the Freak Out Room.

1. Thou shalt check thy knickers to the point of insanity until the baby actually arrives.
2. Thou shalt also check the loo roll post-wipeage (sorry, gross, I know)
3. Thou shalt bore thy physician and midwife to tears with the mentalling.
4. And thy husband/boyfriend/family/neighbour's cat.
5. Thou shalt obsess over the absence of symptoms.
6. And the presence of symptoms.
7. And the fluctuation of symptoms.
8. Thou shalt pee on a vast number of sticks and keep ClearBlue and First Response in business.
9. The day before any scan extreme mentalling is permitted without recourse to the Haddock.

10. Self-diagnosis with Dr Google is Forbidden.

The Haddock will be applied liberally to all transgressors.

See here for the previous thread

Scan news alert!!! Baby was measuring 4.9cm and moving around all over the place! Then at one point he/she made an erratic movement and I actually felt it :) So those movements I've been feeling really were the baby. It is still so surreal. I actually have a moving baby inside me. I am feeling much more positive and happy today, and the sun is shining too! I've finally made a booking-in appointment with the midwife today, and was told to book my 20 week scan too. So that's it. I might as well allow myself to get a little excited - I still know there is a chance something might go wrong but I owe a few positive vibes to this baby

ladybird Don't worry, I have a flabby flab stomach and still can feel a bit of hardness above the pubic bone. Just stand infront of a mirror and feel your way up from your pubic bone and there should be some hardness there. Don't worry if you can't feel anything though because if it's your first pregnancy it might pop out after 12 weeks.

lara I'm rhesus negative too, and had sex for the first time since BFP last night - no scary bleeding or spotting here!

I have my first midwife appointment next week - do you think she will try to hear the heart beat? Or is it too early? I'll be 12 weeks next week. I've also gained enough confidence to add myself to the list! Here's hoping it's not short-lived :S

Waves at everyone Hope you're all well!

I hope I do this properly!

Monday 20th June LIST

Lovemysleep 23+6 EDD 11/10/11
Tunnocksteacake 22+1 EDD 24/10/11
IreneHeron 21+6 EDD 23/10/11
CEP 20+2 EDD 5/11/11 - 20 wk scan 22/6/11
Hils74 19+5 EDD 8/11/11
Katherine2008 19+4 EDD 10/11/11 next scan 23/6/11
Haffertee 19+2 EDD 14/11/11
Ninunina: 18+6 EDD 15/11/11
delilahbelle 18+4 EDD 22/11/11
Mattsmama 18+4 EDD 17/11/11
Banana87 17+6 EDD 22/11/11
Blackkat 16+0 EDD 5/12/11 Next scan 26/07/11
Jigglebum 15+4 EDD 8/12/11
Minnie74 15+2 EDD 12/12/11
Lucky 14+0
Dooscooby 13+4 EDD 22/12/11
Harassed 13+4 EDD 22/12/11
Hadrian 12+4 Next scan - 13/06/11
Youremindmeofthebabe 11+4 scan 22/6/11
Updiffed 11+2
Bump 10+2
Hairylights 10+0
Mamarara 9+4
Lily06 9+3
Pigletmania 9+2
Laylasmummy09 9+1
purpletoes 6+4 EDD 09/02/12
willitbe 5+3
Milkyways 11+1 EDD 08/01/12 Next scan 04/07/11

On the grads thread too:

Nickster 33+2 EDD 7/8/11
Orange 29+2 EDD 4/9/11
Wombat33 28+2 EDD 10/09/11
Daisybell 27+4 EDD 14/09/11
Pinkfondantfancy 26+2 EDD 25/09/11
Tiggersreturn (TTT) 26+0 EDD 26/09/11
mamapower 25+3 EDD 28/9/11
ALovelyBunchOfCoconuts 25+2 EDD 01/10/11
Emoo 24+4 EDD 7/10/11
Onions 22+0 EDD 24/10/11
Velvetcu 21+6 EDD 25/10/11 next scan 22/06/11
MummyAbroad 20+3 EDD 4/11/11
CollieandPup 18+1 EDD 20/11/11 next scan 20/06/11
wombatinwaiting: 17+4 EDD 24/11/11
LaraMi 17+3 EDD 25/11/11 Next scan 20/07/11
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy 17+0 EDD 26/11/11

In our thoughts and prayers
Dachs whose beautiful little babies Alexander & Felicia left this world sleeping

Thinking of.... ladybee; digi; A&R; barbie; MumTum; Knitter, Kat2504

This feels a bit strange and scary but here we go.

Monday 20th June LIST

Lovemysleep 23+6 EDD 11/10/11
Tunnocksteacake 22+1 EDD 24/10/11
IreneHeron 21+6 EDD 23/10/11
CEP 20+2 EDD 5/11/11 - 20 wk scan 22/6/11
Hils74 19+5 EDD 8/11/11
Katherine2008 19+4 EDD 10/11/11 next scan 23/6/11
Haffertee 19+2 EDD 14/11/11
Ninunina: 18+6 EDD 15/11/11
delilahbelle 18+4 EDD 22/11/11
Mattsmama 18+4 EDD 17/11/11
Banana87 17+6 EDD 22/11/11
Bigmacsauce 16+6 EDD 29/11/11
Blackkat 16+0 EDD 5/12/11 Next scan 26/07/11
Jigglebum 15+4 EDD 8/12/11
Minnie74 15+2 EDD 12/12/11
Lucky 14+0
Dooscooby 13+4 EDD 22/12/11
Harassed 13+4 EDD 22/12/11
Hadrian 12+4 Next scan - 13/06/11
Youremindmeofthebabe 11+4 scan 22/6/11
Updiffed 11+2
Bump 10+2
Hairylights 10+0
Mamarara 9+4
Lily06 9+3
Pigletmania 9+2
Laylasmummy09 9+1
purpletoes 6+4 EDD 09/02/12
willitbe 5+3

On the grads thread too:

Nickster 33+2 EDD 7/8/11
Orange 29+2 EDD 4/9/11
Wombat33 28+2 EDD 10/09/11
Daisybell 27+4 EDD 14/09/11
Pinkfondantfancy 26+2 EDD 25/09/11
Tiggersreturn (TTT) 26+0 EDD 26/09/11
mamapower 25+3 EDD 28/9/11
ALovelyBunchOfCoconuts 25+2 EDD 01/10/11
Emoo 24+4 EDD 7/10/11
Onions 22+0 EDD 24/10/11
Velvetcu 21+6 EDD 25/10/11 next scan 22/06/11
MummyAbroad 20+3 EDD 4/11/11
CollieandPup 18+1 EDD 20/11/11 next scan 20/06/11
wombatinwaiting: 17+4 EDD 24/11/11
LaraMi 17+3 EDD 25/11/11 Next scan 20/07/11
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy 17+0 EDD 26/11/11

In our thoughts and prayers
Dachs whose beautiful little babies Alexander & Felicia left this world sleeping

Thinking of.... ladybee; digi; A&R; barbie; MumTum; Knitter, Kat2504

laraandlittlebean are you also larami? If so we are due at a very similar time...

Thanks for the doppler and grads info - I'm going to ponder whether to dopple or not. I think i might have a tendency to be on it all the time quaking in my slippers. Bit early for me to grad yet I think and I'm enjoying this thread a lot - lovely people

Baby shopping (for clothes etc not actual babies) is a bit too scarey for me to contemplate yet but I'm loving reading about what everyone is buying. It's like guilt free shopping isn't it... I think DH is going to have a fit when he finds out how much things actually cost. If he had his way I expect he would want to try and make a pram to save on cost :)

Hello Scooby - that wedding sounds like a nightmare but that you handled it really well. Why does the world have so many cowbags?

Blackkat forgive me but my brain isn't on the ball - what is happening tomorrow?

Yeyy - add yourself, Milky! Great news re. scan!

Thanks for the rhesus negative update too, Milky - am quite scared of bleeding, having a jab etc. What's with all this horniness in the freak-out room at the moment?! (Wish some of it would pass DH's way.)

From what my MW told me, it's hard to hear the HB before 15.5 weeks. But if you saw your wriggling bean, then you can relax in the knowledge that there is a heartbeat, non?

Am I actually going to do any work today? (not if I can help it)

Sorry Milky A cross post from me there

An updated list including me and you - congrats on the scan!

Monday 20th June LIST

Lovemysleep 23+6 EDD 11/10/11
Tunnocksteacake 22+1 EDD 24/10/11
IreneHeron 21+6 EDD 23/10/11
CEP 20+2 EDD 5/11/11 - 20 wk scan 22/6/11
Hils74 19+5 EDD 8/11/11
Katherine2008 19+4 EDD 10/11/11 next scan 23/6/11
Haffertee 19+2 EDD 14/11/11
Ninunina: 18+6 EDD 15/11/11
delilahbelle 18+4 EDD 22/11/11
Mattsmama 18+4 EDD 17/11/11
Banana87 17+6 EDD 22/11/11
Bigmacsauce 16+6 EDD 29/11/11 Next scan 11/7/11
Blackkat 16+0 EDD 5/12/11 Next scan 26/07/11
Jigglebum 15+4 EDD 8/12/11
Minnie74 15+2 EDD 12/12/11
Lucky 14+0
Dooscooby 13+4 EDD 22/12/11
Harassed 13+4 EDD 22/12/11
Hadrian 12+4 Next scan - 13/06/11
Youremindmeofthebabe 11+4 scan 22/6/11
Updiffed 11+2
Bump 10+2
Hairylights 10+0
Mamarara 9+4
Lily06 9+3
Pigletmania 9+2
Laylasmummy09 9+1
purpletoes 6+4 EDD 09/02/12
willitbe 5+3
Milkyways 11+1 EDD 08/01/12 Next scan 04/07/11

On the grads thread too:

Nickster 33+2 EDD 7/8/11
Orange 29+2 EDD 4/9/11
Wombat33 28+2 EDD 10/09/11
Daisybell 27+4 EDD 14/09/11
Pinkfondantfancy 26+2 EDD 25/09/11
Tiggersreturn (TTT) 26+0 EDD 26/09/11
mamapower 25+3 EDD 28/9/11
ALovelyBunchOfCoconuts 25+2 EDD 01/10/11
Emoo 24+4 EDD 7/10/11
Onions 22+0 EDD 24/10/11
Velvetcu 21+6 EDD 25/10/11 next scan 22/06/11
MummyAbroad 20+3 EDD 4/11/11
CollieandPup 18+1 EDD 20/11/11 next scan 20/06/11
wombatinwaiting: 17+4 EDD 24/11/11
LaraMi 17+3 EDD 25/11/11 Next scan 20/07/11
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy 17+0 EDD 26/11/11

In our thoughts and prayers
Dachs whose beautiful little babies Alexander & Felicia left this world sleeping

Thinking of.... ladybee; digi; A&R; barbie; MumTum; Knitter, Kat2504

Milky fab scan news!!! I heard the hb last week at 12+6. The gp found it. At first he was just picking up that it was there (188bpm was def not me!) then he moved it down a tad and bingo...... was fab, although dd was a bit " what's mummy crying for now?!"

blackkat you're going to be fine lovely!! What are you knitting?? I love knitting, although not much going on at the moment as I tend to go to bed just after dd .

lara another horny hormonal one here! Always the same...... dh is not complaining. Although he is off work today with a bad back

As I am pedantic and anal, I thought I'd just put Milky in the right place!!

Monday 20th June LIST

Lovemysleep 23+6 EDD 11/10/11
Tunnocksteacake 22+1 EDD 24/10/11
IreneHeron 21+6 EDD 23/10/11
CEP 20+2 EDD 5/11/11 - 20 wk scan 22/6/11
Hils74 19+5 EDD 8/11/11
Katherine2008 19+4 EDD 10/11/11 next scan 23/6/11
Haffertee 19+2 EDD 14/11/11
Ninunina: 18+6 EDD 15/11/11
delilahbelle 18+4 EDD 22/11/11
Mattsmama 18+4 EDD 17/11/11
Banana87 17+6 EDD 22/11/11
Bigmacsauce 16+6 EDD 29/11/11 Next scan 11/7/11
Blackkat 16+0 EDD 5/12/11 Next scan 26/07/11
Jigglebum 15+4 EDD 8/12/11
Minnie74 15+2 EDD 12/12/11
Lucky 14+0
Dooscooby 13+4 EDD 22/12/11
Harassed 13+4 EDD 22/12/11
Hadrian 12+4 Next scan - 13/06/11
Youremindmeofthebabe 11+4 scan 22/6/11
Updiffed 11+2
Milkyways 11+1 EDD 08/01/12 Next scan 04/07/11
Bump 10+2
Hairylights 10+0
Mamarara 9+4
Lily06 9+3
Pigletmania 9+2
Laylasmummy09 9+1
purpletoes 6+4 EDD 09/02/12
willitbe 5+3

On the grads thread too:

Nickster 33+2 EDD 7/8/11
Orange 29+2 EDD 4/9/11
Wombat33 28+2 EDD 10/09/11
Daisybell 27+4 EDD 14/09/11
Pinkfondantfancy 26+2 EDD 25/09/11
Tiggersreturn (TTT) 26+0 EDD 26/09/11
mamapower 25+3 EDD 28/9/11
ALovelyBunchOfCoconuts 25+2 EDD 01/10/11
Emoo 24+4 EDD 7/10/11
Onions 22+0 EDD 24/10/11
Velvetcu 21+6 EDD 25/10/11 next scan 22/06/11
MummyAbroad 20+3 EDD 4/11/11
CollieandPup 18+1 EDD 20/11/11 next scan 20/06/11
wombatinwaiting: 17+4 EDD 24/11/11
LaraAndLittleBean 17+3 EDD 25/11/11 Next scan 20/07/11
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy 17+0 EDD 26/11/11

In our thoughts and prayers
Dachs whose beautiful little babies Alexander & Felicia left this world sleeping

Thinking of.... ladybee; digi; A&R; barbie; MumTum; Knitter, Kat2504

Hello all.

Hope you're all well. I have been mostly mentalling about the 12 week scan on Wednesday, (same date as your 20 week scan cep) I can't cope with this being another phantom pg, and I have to go by myself, and I am just in terror. I can't feel my uterus, only my bladder in a random place, and I just need to STOP THINKING ABOUT IT. I can't control this so need to relax, but finding it so so hard.

doo that bridesmaid sounds like a right PITA. Some people just don't have any idea what they're saying though, I don't think. That's being kind though, you could argue that they are just twats. So, go with whichever explanation you like!

Get you all shopping at M&P. This poor baby will only have second hand everything. Although I'm going to have to get myself some clothes soon, I look pg as am normally quite slender, but now have this suspected chocolate induced pouch tummy. It's already really obvious.

lara when is your wombat meeting? are you excited?

yrmotb i have to admit i think you're really brave, to have lasted till your 12 weeks scan. Can't blame you for being so scared, but am sure things will be perfect. Do you not have anyone that can go with you at all?

I'm not brave, I'm stupid. It's on a week day, so no. Parents all live around 2 hours away. My friend has to go to an interview that day now, so will pick me up after. How are you feeling about yours?

Afternoon everyone

Doo bridesmaid and SIL sound horrible. I suspect SIL has told bridesmaid and SIL is actually jealous of your pregnancy and so they are just being catty and mean. Tell her she can come for Christmas if she wants to do all of the cooking and cleaning after everyone as you will have more important things to be taking care of.

Milky so pleased you had a good scan.....please god let this lucky can thread continue. I have mine a week today. Eek! Having serious mental paranoid thoughts that they will tell me its a MMC...

YRMOTB totally understand the complete freaking out. BUT we are on the lucky scan thread so all will be well!

Lara Harasseddespite being really tired I have had the odd day here and there over the past week or so where I've really fancied it. DH is keen but I am too scared until my 12 week scan so I've told him he's not allowed. When do they tell you about your blood type? Will they tell me if I could be RN after they take my blood at the booking in appointment?

Hi to Collie Cep BigmacLadybird and everyone else

xxx

YRMOTB - I think you're very brave, not stupid... remember, most people in RL wait until the 12 week scan and are absolutely fine. Remember the mantra...

Very excited for WIW meeting but the lady has disappeared so perhaps my farting-on-DH and increased sex drive has scared her off... Can't think why??! Am off to Dubai on Sat and so hope to meet her next week. Very, very exciting. I will get lots of gossip and come back and tell you all and I will also get DH to take lots of sneaky photos from afar and then post them on my MN profile page... (only joking, WIW).

Glad others are feeling randy too (it's actually quite out of my character). I think DH will think I am putting baby at risk and am therefore an incompetent / incapable and highly irresponsible mother-to-be so I'd better not say anything for a while.

Just bought a bag of Thorntons Special Toffee - something I never, ever eat (don't think I've ever stepped foot in a Thorntons). However, something told me greed perhaps? I absolutely had to eat it today. Problem is that I am sure it is designed to just have the odd piece. Am chomping through it with gusto. Suspect I'll feel quite sick soon. The best part I didn't tell you about is that my gums (and erm, teeth) have been agony for the past 4 days but it's not stopping me...

Bump - yes - if you are RN, they will tell you. It is stamped all over my maternity notes as if I have the plague

3 hours and 16 mins to go - have done nothing today. Oops. Oh well.

Bleugh - just wrote a message and the browser just went off by itself!

Thanks to everyone!

lara just wanted to say that, that was the exact same reason why I've been putting off sex because I didn't want any spotting and having to have extra anti-D jabs on top of the two I'm going to have during pregnancy anyway. Oh yes and thanks for putting me in the right place; I've just noticed there's 3 of us due around the same time - hi updiffed and YRMOTB!

harrassed that is amazing! I will be 12+2 when I meet my mw, so will definitely ask her to check the HB - if she's not scary like my last mw!

YRMOTB can understand your fear about the scan - it's so nerve wracking, but like bump said, this is a very lucky thread so fx for you!

yrmotb i'm actually feeling rather nervous. i keep doubting myself whether the little feelings are actually baby or not, i just can't remember when they're supposed to be getting stronger, so i keep thinking it's wind. And ofcourse they check for any problems as well, as well as needing a full bladder this time, i don't handle full bladders very well. What time is yours? Mines at 11.25

Hello all, newbie alert. I've been lurking for a while, and have final summoned up the courage to sign up and post. First mumsnet post ever! Bear with me and sorry for any daft faux-pas.

I have one DS aged 3, and had an MC at 6 weeks in 2010. Now 10+5, EDD 14/1/2012 with my 12 week scan booked for 28/6/2011.

Having had an obliviously delightful first pregnancy, I am now crapping myself on a daily basis (not literally) over every fluctuation of symptom (and yes, I have read the 10 commandments!), every twinge, every loo trip, every wipe etc.

Yesterday was horrid as I experienced some pinkish very light discharge (my MC started this way) and spent all night worrying and welling up thinking that this was it. I feel better today but have convinced myself that my boobs are smaller and less sore, and am generally freaking out and in need of some hardcore haddock action from you lot.

Hope some new blood is welcome [tasteless black humour pun emoticon]; I feel like I know you all from my mackintosh-clad recent stalking and am looking forward to chatting with you all.

welcome mistressofpemberley congratulations. You're in the right place for crapping yourself.

hello...sob.

hyperventilating everytime i think about "stuff" im SO anxious its untrue.

dont know if any one can relate?
Im 6+2.
have told only 2 good friends.
Have pushed it completely to the back of my head.
Threw away my + tests to further help me in my ignoring the whole thing.
Had very faint + result and feel nothing, no symptoms at all, SO presuming its all going wrong. Waitning for the bleeing to start.
Scan in 2 weeks, taking hormone injections, 5mg folic acid & 75 mgs asprin.
Been attending mc clinic.

CAnt explain how i feel, i am just so nervous & anxious every time i go to the loo.
Not listening for any one else anouncing thier pregancy as 1 in 3 pregnancies end in mc.....if i hear of 2 others, i will be the one, always am.
Feel very sad that every other woman takes it for granted that thier pregnancies will be fine, dont give it a second thought.
Dont mind admitting, im bitter.

Hello all sorry I haven't been on for a while

I have been lurking for all your news though, but have summoned the courage to pop in on the grads thread too (I see you've moved me on the list - that's fine ) but will keep popping back in to see how you're all doing.

By way of a brief update, as you know I had my 16 wk appt, the mw was lovely but rambled on for aaaaaaages about not listening in, policy policy blah blah blah but eventually agreed and found the hb straight away. I cried . Which is especially daft given that I had had a scan a few days earlier and found the hb myself with the Doppler that very morning. I think it was just the sheer relief of getting through the 16 wk barrier that was so awful last time.

Anyway they're sticking with my original dates which makes me 17+2 today and I am feeling a little more confident since the appt. I am feeling movements most days now (4th pg, 3rd baby so probable complete lack of stomach muscles!) but bizarrely am not looking very pg at all - I do have a slightly rounded tummy now but it's not obvious and people don't know unless I tell them. However baby was measuring ok at last scan so am not going to worry about this.

Welcome to all newbies and good luck to all scanners this week (yrmotb, cep and anyone else).

doo the bridesmaid was a bitch. Ignore.

Hi all

Milky - great news on the scan!

I had a doc's appointment today at the fertility clinic. I was given the red-carpet (or red flag on my chart) treatment, being first in to see the consultant (no more junior docs for me!) and jumping ahead of others in the queue (I was happy to wait patiently but they moved me up).

This all follows having to make a complaint last year about the treatment of women with recurrent miscarriages. Being told by a doc that "you'll be glad to know you haven't got cancer"! being one of the innane comments made to be by a junior doc, who clearly had never met anyone who had had recurrent miscarriages before!!!! And the other classic of a different junior doc scanning me and showing showing me my ovary and saying it looks like the sac is empty!!!!! If I could tell it was my ovary she was measuring, I am not sure how she missed it. The sac and embryo was just a little below in the picture!!!!

So now all over my notes it is clear that I am to be treated with care!!!! Shame my complaint has only made a difference to my treatment and not to all women with recurrent miscarriages in general.

Anyway the doc was lovely, she is heavily pregnant herself, and the first doc I have seen in this hospital who actually talked about pregnancy with some sensitivity, although the head nurse was more tactful with me today than previously too!. Anyway the upshot was that I have two early scans arranged. One at 7 weeks and the next at 9/10 weeks if I make it that far. I am happy to have some goals to aim for now!

The only downside was that after the clinic appointment I had to go and sit in the EPU waiting room while waiting for my scan appointment to be made, I don't like that room it has too many painful (physical and emotional) memories. But I came out feeling quite positive.

Then whoops - comes my slap me with a fish moment, I went home and did a conception indicator test. I am 5+3 and it only came up with 2-3,,,, arrrgggg. Why did I do it, it was stupid, somebody hit me and tell me not to do it again with the last test I have sitting next to me! I should be focussing on my positivity.

Sorry for the long tale here, too much of me, but thank you all for being here as a support as we journey together.

scooby your sil and the bridesmaid sound like real cows. I agree with bumps post about them being jealous. Still dreadful though! Some people just like upsetting others

mistress and faint congrats and this is definitely a great place to freak out!

milky lovely scan news and well done on adding yourself to the list- I had to really pluck up the courage to do it!

yrmotb chill! Wed will be fine (obviously easy for me to say though I'm already imagining all sorts for my 20 week scan and it's not for another 6 weeks

Love hearing what everyone is buying but still too scared to buy anything cute myself! I bought a doppler 3(?) weeks ago and haven't been brave enough to use it in case there's no heartbeat! Was only £12 but at the minute seems to be a waste of money. Maybe when I start to feel some movements

Got really depressed on Saturday about the size of my boobs-to the point of crying about them (yep I'm still wittering on about them sorry!) Even looked into a breast reduction for afterwards! Then bought 2 Topshop maternity dresses to cheer myself up! Realise this might cost me a fortune!

willitbe missed your post cos stopped for tea mid-typing. Glad the doc was nice and that you're feeling positive cos it sounds like you've met some pretty numpty docs before today! Throw away the last test right now!

Big hello to mistressofpemberley and faintpositive. I am in-between you both (am 9 weeks today) and your posts really resonated with me!

mistressofpemberley I also have a 3 year old DS and an early mc last year. I have also been obsessing over wiping at loo trips etc. I know it's been said a lot but spotting is so common - I was initially freaking out over mine which comes and goes, but have decided that as long as have other symptoms to fixate on I am going to ignore it (at least as long as it stays pinkish/brownish). I have just ordered a fetal doppler for £15 on amazon - I know the risk is of not being able to find the heartbeats and freaking out, but all this waiting for scans is driving me crazy!

faintpositive I really understand how you feel. I think that having a mc ruins all future pregnancies (or at least the excitement at the beginning) and it does seem so unfair that other non-afflicted people never have to worry about it. What really annoys me is people moaning about their symptoms or, for example, how annoying it is for them not being able to drink alcohol as it will ruin their holiday when all I can think is - you don't know how lucky you are!!!! I have been forcing myself not to think about the mc risk (for me it's 5 times higher anyway as have ID twins) - personally it's not helpful for me either to assume everything will be ok or to terrify myself with negative thoughts. I just try to think that what will happen will happen and there is nothing I can do about it so no point in stressing. Sorry if that's really unhelpful but just try to breathe and clear your mind if you feel it all getting too much (I frequently feel on the brink of panic attacks). Do you have an Early Pregnancy Unit near you? I went at 6 weeks and they could at least see a sac in the right place and often they can find a heartbeat after 6 weeks.... At our one you can just walk in and wait. Either way, I hope the days pass quickly for you until your scan!

Milky YAY for great scan news. Fabulooous!!! And to see and feel it move too! Amazing. Mine was a proper lazy sausage at both scans!! I found the hb at 12 ½ weeks (ish) on my home Doppler.

harassed that?s good that you can have your SILs Quinny. Is it heavy/light? Is it good ?off road?? lol, sounds like I?m buying a car!!

Scooby the bridesmaid sounds like a right moose!!!! Think you handled her v well. I have to admit though, I agree and think she must have known, but can?t imagine what would have possessed her to behave that way!!

blackkat appointment tomorrow will be fine. What time? Good luck. Knitted bear sounds sooooo cute!!

Just updating the stats as i reaslised i was down as having scan today. After quick panic i am happy to say i didn't miss it, its in 2 weeks.

Monday 20th June LIST

Lovemysleep 23+6 EDD 11/10/11
Tunnocksteacake 22+1 EDD 24/10/11
IreneHeron 21+6 EDD 23/10/11
CEP 20+2 EDD 5/11/11 - 20 wk scan 22/6/11
Hils74 19+5 EDD 8/11/11
Katherine2008 19+4 EDD 10/11/11 next scan 23/6/11
Haffertee 19+2 EDD 14/11/11
Ninunina: 18+6 EDD 15/11/11
delilahbelle 18+4 EDD 22/11/11
Mattsmama 18+4 EDD 17/11/11
Banana87 17+6 EDD 22/11/11
Bigmacsauce 16+6 EDD 29/11/11 Next scan 11/7/11
Blackkat 16+0 EDD 5/12/11 Next scan 26/07/11
Jigglebum 15+4 EDD 8/12/11
Minnie74 15+2 EDD 12/12/11
Lucky 14+0
Dooscooby 13+4 EDD 22/12/11
Harassed 13+4 EDD 22/12/11
Hadrian 12+4 Next scan - 13/06/11
Youremindmeofthebabe 11+4 scan 22/6/11
Updiffed 11+2
Milkyways 11+1 EDD 08/01/12 Next scan 04/07/11
Bump 10+2
Hairylights 10+0
Mamarara 9+4
Lily06 9+3
Pigletmania 9+2
Laylasmummy09 9+1
purpletoes 6+4 EDD 09/02/12
willitbe 5+3

On the grads thread too:

Nickster 33+2 EDD 7/8/11
Orange 29+2 EDD 4/9/11
Wombat33 28+2 EDD 10/09/11
Daisybell 27+4 EDD 14/09/11
Pinkfondantfancy 26+2 EDD 25/09/11
Tiggersreturn (TTT) 26+0 EDD 26/09/11
mamapower 25+3 EDD 28/9/11
ALovelyBunchOfCoconuts 25+2 EDD 01/10/11
Emoo 24+4 EDD 7/10/11
Onions 22+0 EDD 24/10/11
Velvetcu 21+6 EDD 25/10/11 next scan 22/06/11
MummyAbroad 20+3 EDD 4/11/11
CollieandPup 18+1 EDD 20/11/11 next scan 06/07/11
wombatinwaiting: 17+4 EDD 24/11/11
LaraAndLittleBean 17+3 EDD 25/11/11 Next scan 20/07/11
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy 17+0 EDD 26/11/11

In our thoughts and prayers
Dachs whose beautiful little babies Alexander & Felicia left this world sleeping

Thinking of.... ladybee; digi; A&R; barbie; MumTum; Knitter, Kat2504

Morning all. I knew I'd jinx myself by joining up. Had a little bit of red blood last night followed by a dull ache in my lower abdomen all night. Feeling very worried. Do you think I should ring the midwife today? Or just sit and wait for... I don't know what? Argh. If this is happening again I'll be so gutted.

Sorry for miserable start to the day.

Hope the rest of you are feeling happy and healthy, and thank you for the kind welcome messages.