Freak out room for those newly updiffed after MC to hold hands and support each other... Part III

[YourFriendBrian]

Hello!

Newly updiffed and freaking out about spotting, cramping, the wait until your first scan and each little twinge? Settle in for lots of hand holding and supprt until you're ready to move to grads.

Lots of love
Brian x

Finally 5 min's to post... when they say buying/selling and moving house and buying a business and starting up are some of the most stressful things to do, 'they' weren't kidding! (AR I think I am gonna contest that trophy ) Keep an eye out for my will to live... it's gotta be out there somewhere

On a brighter note... 10 weeks today! Whoooop!

knitter not seen love for a while on here but she's been posting on FB and did try and cook porridge in the fridge apparently so guessing that'll be baby brain

velvet (((hugs))) I'm sure dh doesn't mean it to sound so harsh... men say shit like that because they don?t know what else to say, it's also self preservation!

Welcome Ali congrat's pull up a bean bag... weren't you on the ttc after mc thread? Is cep still posting there? Do you know if she's ok?

waves to all x

million x-posts digi lots of funny coloured goo being reported by everyone on here so I think you should remain hopeful that this is just par for the course... get your self off to EPAU and let us know what they say xxx

digi hoping that all is ok and saying a little prayer or two

Digi fx everything works out ok for you

Hi knitter, blackkat, cep and everyone else on here, hope you are all ok?

5 weeks tomorrow and managed to not POAS yet, CBDigi time tomorrow morning to see if my weeks have gone up.

I was thinking that if it has I'll book an app with the GP at 6 weeks, next week. Does that sound ok to you? Or should I wait a bit longer? I do want to see if I can get an early scan...

Digi so sorry honey, I know it must be excruciatingly difficult but try and keep positive. Remember that you are further along in this pregnancy than any of the other ones, and you are having extra monitoring and treatment.I'm hoping and praying that its just a scare and everything will be alright

Moan alert coming up! We had surprise visitors last night, my DH's cousin and his wife turned up to announce their pregnancy. She is 2 months gone, and produced a photo of the US scan she did last month (containing a sac but no heartbeat yet - who shows people a picture of a blob with no heartbeart?) and chatted annoyingly happily about the baby she was sure she was going to have and then - worst bit coming - DH OUTED ME!! He told them I was pregnant after we previously discussed NOT to!! I'm so Of course then followed a really awkward conversation about my miscarriage complete with ridculously insensitive questions, then when they finally left DH got an earful and I went to bed in a sulk. Not a good evening at all. Moan over, as you were.

Thinking of you digi

Hils a GP appt sounds sensible; at least then they know what's going on and can hopefully support you. However I'm going to have to confiscate that CBdigital you're clutching there as they are officially evil - best plan is to do the happy dance if it gives good tidings but PLEASE don't stress if it doesn't as they have been the source of much wailing and lamenting for absolutely no reason in here.

MummyA I think that deserved a good moan - men can be right daft buggers sometimes. It must be lovely to be as carefree as your visitor though. Lucky her!

Thread crashing to give support and hugs to digi xx

Mummya I would kill my dh if he did anything similar (or probably spill some personal secret he didn't really want known in revenge). I think cooking/other strike is called for in minimum retaliation.

Thanks tony glad someone else shares my point of view. Revenge and retaliation is just what I feel like doing! I think its really pissed me off because its a very clear example of how despite my best efforts to maintain some sort of control over the situation, being pregnant is simply something I cant control at all. Gah! I hate that realisation!

In better news, my HCG is up over 8000 now, and I just read that after 8000 you are more likely to see something on a scan.... I think I will be booking that first scan for closer to 6 weeks than 7 now.

Even better news... its PANCAKE DAY!!! Please post how many you have eaten by the end of the day!!

digi thinking of you this afternoon - really hoping for good news for you xx

mummya I am completely on your behalf - I would be sooooooooooooooooooo annoyed!!! Thing is, maybe DH felt like it would be awkward when you decide to announce your pregnancy in a bit and they work out you were pregnant at the time but that you didn't say anything? Doesn't excuse it, just trying to work out what on earth possessed him. Scan picture pre-heartbeat?? Thing is, I've come to the conclusion that most people seem to be under the impression MC only ever happens to other people, so she's probably completely oblivious to what might unfortunately happen.... Does DH understand why you're angry yet?

Hi ali, welcome and congratulations on BFP!

wombie fab news on the goo staying away for a bit! Nightmare about the chicken pox - there's a good chance you're immune though so fingers crossed blood test comes back ok

owly thanks for the real pie chart om nom nom I was tempted to eat a sausage roll for breakfast this morning.... Managed to restrain myself, just - keeping looking at what I fancifully imagine to be baby bump but turns out I think it wobbles too much for that I'm also finding it mindblowing that a small person has taken up residence in my stomach and I'm basically none the wiser!

hils just wanted to second owly's CB digi warning - please try not to stress if it hasn't gone up yet as they are a bit rubbish on the accuracy front....

TTT sorry you're not getting on with the new house - what's wrong? Dream sounds v. distressing!!

velvet my DH was a bit weird early on as well - I had to literally drag him to the 8 week scan, I think he was afraid that it might be bad news again (not that he would admit that) but he's been loads more excited and engaged since so maybe if you can take him to a scan it might change? TBH the other thing that's hard for my DH is that I don't think it's easy for him to act 'right' around me - if he's too enthusiastic about the baby I have a go at him for getting excited because it might not happen, if he's too disinterested I get cross too...... Poor man!

onions I am loving the sunny weather too - so much easier to get up in the morning when it's vaguely light outside!

I've booked a private NT scan for 12.5 weeks - I called the antenatal clinic today to ask why I haven't had a letter about an NHS scan date (just getting through was a mission in itself but anyway........) and apparently the midwife has to book it. Interesting, given my booking in appointment is at 11.5 weeks!!! I'm just grateful that I had the option of a private scan. The most amusing bit was that she sounded a bit concerned about my chances of getting one in time, yet was unable to book one herself because 'that's the midwife's job'.

Anyone think mini-eggs taste different this year??? I can't put my finger on it but maybe blander??

MummyA at your DH - very poor form. I bet he felt threatend by the fertility-bragging of the other couple... Mind you at 7 weeks shouldn't they have been able to see more on a US scan?

Pink it's a rental house and it's rather smaller than last one. Was quite happy with last one but we got served notice, tried and failed to buy something and are still house hunting. I have these dreadful nesting urges as well and need to be steered clear of all home decoration sites otherwise they bring on depression.

I think the dream was actually a sign of my sub-conscious accepting that maybe there's a chance of me actually seeing this one till the end (although I had anxiety dreams relating to c-secs with the mc too). I had a c-sec with ds and it's pretty much a dead cert this time given that I have a scar, have type 1 diabetes and twins. My MIL actually did get cut very high with dh (so high she couldn't even hold him after) but as he pointed out to me this was in the late 1970s and they do things differently now.

Don't you love the nhs! When booking this scan and my next appt the dr gave me a request for both at 12 weeks thinking that I could do both at the same time and save 2 trips to the hospital. Instead of having the appt at 13 weeks which is what would have happened otherwise. However, it turned out on booking the appts that dating scans are not done at the same time as antenatal clinic but either the day before in the morning or the same day but in the afternoon. So I asked to have the scan at 12 weeks in the morning and the AN appt the following week. "Oh, no" "we need doctor's authorisation to change your appt date by one week" - 10 minutes later authorisation duly obtained, smile somehow still intact (mine not the receptionists) I got out of there.

Am thinking of pancakes, in between boring contracts and the ing pain in my stomach from this meter.

Oooh oooh ooh pancake eating challenge??? I am SO going to win!!!!

TTT that sucks about the house, can completely understand why you're miserable. I am currently going through a zen/fate phase, (maybe brought on by watching the Adjustment Bureau the other day....) and maybe the life plan is that you were served notice so that in some perverse way it'll be easier to buy your next house, which will be lucky because it'll be the house of your dreams.... Maybe???? I told you there's something funny in the mini eggs this year.....

Pink let me take away the funny tasting mini eggs, tis probably your hormones making them taste odd. I will obviously have to sample them all just to check

I think I shall have to have a bit of a pancake-fest this weekend - I do love my pancakes, oh yes. If DH is lucky I may even supply nutella for him to put on them. Which is clearly Wrong; lemon and sugar are the true way forwards.

Oooooooohhhhhhh pancakes!!!!!!!! Yummy!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Can't wait for this evening!

Had to wake up at midnight last night for food!!

I think hating the house will give more of an impetus to move but it could prove tricky given the break clause is around the time the twins may make their debut.... We'll have to wait and see.

I am challenged in the pancake competition due to carb restrictions but fried bananas beat lemon and sugar any day! and cheese and spinach mmmm

Oooh. Or with fresh mango and papaya & a squeeze of lime.

I had banana pancakes in Thailand; they were lush.

Okay am dribbling on desk now. You lot are evil.

I have just eaten a bag of mini eggs.. that smiley is not an envy smiley but how I now feel. At least I have no room for pancakes! I am now worrying that my boobs aren't sore yet. Am I being a little previous if my dates make me 4+5? ....

Ooooh pancakes yummmy! Lemon and sugar or nutella? Choices!! :)

Thanks for the advice on the digi test, will not buy any more! How do you measure HCG levels at home? Or do you go to the gp for tests?

Had three creme eggs today so far, oops!

katherine I am 4+6 and only just got sore boobs so don't worry

TTT moving house and giving birth at the same time seems to be a very normal combination amongst my friends - I figure if you are going for upheaval you might as well get it all done at the same time!!! Also means you don't have to do a darn thing and rellies and friends etc and more inclined to help!

Owl I thought papaya was on the no no list? Isn't everything

Kat I am almost 7 weeks and have almost no symptoms whatsoever - I keep trying to make them up but really nothing huge happening here. [trying not to worry emoticon]

Mini eggs yum - must go find some.

MummyA all I can say is - what a wally?!

Nix go girl! That's one growing bub.

mmmmmmm. I have just eaten 6 pancakes With sugar and fresh lime juice from the limes off our tree in the garden.

katherine if my memory serves me right there are a few people on here much further along without sore boobs - everyones pregnancy symptoms do seem different. My "missing" symptom is sickness, but I am quite happy about that.

knitter the same thing crossed my mind about this ladies scan - I am not sure when she got it done though, she seemed pretty ignorant about all of it. I hope for her sake it was just too early to tell and not something ominous. Interestingly her doctor has put her on progesterone. Private doctors over here are very free and liberal with medication so I think he probably has given it "just in case" and/or because she is 37 (ancient for a first time pregnancy for a costa rican!)

i keep prodding myself in the boobs - I'm not sure making them hurt counts?...although now tempted to pee on my remaining test and see if the dates have changed...! Help, I can't wait another 3 and a half weeks for a private scan. I am going to be quite mad by then

Katherine I think Mummya might be recalling my lack of boob pain - I''ve had really none to speak of at all (and I'm 13+3) and certainly didn't have it at your stage - fear not!