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Freak out room for those newly updiffed after MC to hold hands and support each other... Part III

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YourFriendBrian · 06/03/2011 22:24

Hello!

Newly updiffed and freaking out about spotting, cramping, the wait until your first scan and each little twinge? Settle in for lots of hand holding and supprt until you're ready to move to grads.

Lots of love
Brian x

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tunnocksteacake · 08/03/2011 19:57

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hotnspicyonions · 08/03/2011 20:08

Am at my Nans for tea tonight and not only is she cooking pancakes but she is also doing my most favourite dinner ever..... homemade Steak & Kidney pudding! Can't bloomin wait

CaribouMoo · 08/03/2011 20:11

Digi pal, I honestly can't believe this is happening to you again. Its totally devastating, I was so hopeful for you this time. I'm angry and upset for you and DH. Please take care of yourself, I'm so, so sorry x

AandRMum · 08/03/2011 20:58

digi am so sorry - just so unfair and heartbreaking. Big hugs. Gutted for you.

Sorry all for spreading malicious rumours about papaya. It was a comment made by someone who has never had children owl you are completely right - tearing up the lists and ignoring google is definitely the sensible approach.

Ladybee · 08/03/2011 21:10

digi I saw your news on the other thread, haven't been on here last day or so, but I just wanted to say here how so very sorry you are going through this again. How awful. It's just awful.

appleblossoms · 08/03/2011 21:48

Oh digi there are no words, it's SO unfair. Sending you lots of love. Hope you and DH are supporting each other as best you can. You'll be in my thoughts and prayers. x

OrangeGloss · 08/03/2011 22:58

Digi I am so so sorry to hear that, I am so sorry it wasn't better news. To suffer one is heartbreaking enough, I can only begin to try and imagine what four is like xxxxx

OrangeGloss · 09/03/2011 06:20

Just re-read this, I hope it didn't sound insensitive, it wasn't meant to

digitalgirl · 09/03/2011 07:28

Thank you for all your kind messages. (not at all insensitive orange)

The support I've received on here has been amazing. Truly invaluable. Each time this has happened it's been more painful. I guess because I was holding on to the fact that the statistics were supposed to be working in our favour.

And now there's no clear route for us to take. After three we got referred for tests. All of which came back clear. There are no more tests that the nhs doctors are willing to do, as far as they're concerned there's no reason why I can't have a successful pregnancy. We will probably test for nk cells privately as I think it's important to have explored every remaining avenue before totally giving up. But for the first time I've lost my unshakeable confidence that we will definitely have another child. At some point we may have to accept our little family of three is complete and make the most of our lives and our wonderful ds.

Good luck to all of you.

randomimposter · 09/03/2011 09:22

Oh god Digi have only just seen this, as had slipped off my "threads on".

I was so SO willing all to be fine for you, partly for selfish reasons too as I was hoping to travel in your wake with a fourth time lucky. I can't begin to imagine how you are feeling.

Am so sad and sorry this morning :(

mrsrobinredbreast · 09/03/2011 09:37

Oh Digi. I'm so sorry to read about this, this morning. Life is very unfair. I can't beging to imagine what you must be going through. Thinking of you and wishing you and your family strength. Sad

tonythetyger · 09/03/2011 10:14

Digi - I know my case is different from yours in that I only had one mc and then a long period of failure to conceive but I do know how disheartening it is when they tell you there's nothing wrong and therefore no magic fix.

I'm not sure I should cite myself as a hope because I think the reason I got pg was because I'd given up all hope of it happening naturally and was concentrating on my new job and other parts of my life. I'm still not placing a great deal of reliance on it until I see them appear safe and healthy at the end. Maybe consider taking a break doing some nice things and then hopefully life will surprise you when you're least expecting it and it's most inconvenient (I'm a fervent believer in sod's law). You can still be a far more brilliant mum to one ds than some people are to 3.

PinkFondantFancy · 09/03/2011 11:35

There was pink when I wiped today. Please don't let this be happening to me again :( :(

tonythetyger · 09/03/2011 11:38

Pink - when I was 11 weeks pg with ds I also saw pink and panicked. My consultant said fake period reminder. DS was 4 a few weeks ago. Keep strong.

Wombat33 · 09/03/2011 11:47

Hugs Pink hopefully it's a false alarm. Are you getting checked out?

Digi thinking of you today.

Hello to everyone else and good luck to any scanners today xxx

PinkFondantFancy · 09/03/2011 11:57

TTT I really hope so. Have had backache for 2 days now. Trying not to cry but this all feels horribly familiar....

nickstermum · 09/03/2011 12:01

Pink i have had backache throughout the entire pg thus far. Could be the placenta starting to take over... hope so lovely xx

PinkFondantFancy · 09/03/2011 12:08

Consultant says pink common due to blood thinners and should be ok as long as it doesn't turn red. God I hope so.

tonythetyger · 09/03/2011 12:14

Why don't you go to EPU this afternoon? It's better than worrying. I'd also recommend eating lots of chocolate and trying hypnotherapy breathing "inhale positive feelings, exhale negativity" as an interim measure.

PinkFondantFancy · 09/03/2011 12:26

EPU won't see you without referral and make you wait a few days before scanning you.... Consultant says call him if turns red, and ironically I have midwife booking in appointment tomorrow morning so will see what she says, otherwise will go for scan friday.

hotnspicyonions · 09/03/2011 12:26

Digi I'm so sorry for your loss, and what would appear my total lack of sensitivity from my post at 8 pm last night Shock. I actually did the post when everyone else was talking about pancakes in the afternoon, but may not have posted it. I think DP must have come on here last night and pressed post because I was definitely serving pints at that time. When I read it in amongst all the lovely posts, I felt awful! I really hope you can get some answers very soon. Thinking of you today and tomorrow, and sorry again Blush Sad

Pink keep thinking pink! I've to had backache last night and a really heavy feeling in my lower abdomen. Hope it's not the start of anything Hmm

tonythetyger · 09/03/2011 12:31

Pink - do you have another EPU near you or can you get a friendly GP to give you a referral? I don't know if you're in London but UCH appeared to operate a walk in one when I had my mc.

owlbooty · 09/03/2011 12:38

Aw Pink you poor thing - as you are seeing the MW tomorrow if you're getting more pinkness you can push her for a scan referral can't you?

Hope you are okay

katherine2008 · 09/03/2011 12:42

pink sending you lots of sticky thoughts

Daisybell1 · 09/03/2011 12:54

Am not on here much atm as am having appalling headaches but just wanted to say to Digi how sorry I am, and hugs to Pink too.

Will be back soon when can look at a screen without it hurting

xxx

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