The First Time Frolickers leave The Three Follicles to go home and "Do their homework!" The one where all our minutes come at once.

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Ok ladies, here's the new thread, let's hope it's a lucky one!

Hi Frolickers and sorry that people are struggling with money problems, broken cars, annoying in laws etc. Just what you need on a Monday morning, which is bad enough without anything else.

So I had the hangover from hell this morning, we went to see my brother's band at a gig last night as they were in London and although we were determined not to drink too much and get home at a decent time, we ended up having far too much fun and staying out until 1am. This morning I felt dreadful and can't even feel sorry for myself as it's entirely my own fault. One of the other threads I am on, we've had a BFP this morning and a massively deserved one at that (I know everyone is equally deserving, but I'm hoping you know what I mean by that phrase) so that has acted like a miracle cure.

Am mid-shagathon for this month, hoping it's our month.

Josie am keeping everything crossed for you, a BFP could be just what you need to keep the gloom at bay

I know what you are saying about house buying as well, I don't think we could afford to get on the ladder now as we'd be looking at around £40k deposit which would be a huge barrier. We bought quite a few years ago before prices went crazy and our fixed rate ended just before the recession so we're actually benefitting from low interest rates at the moment . We actually rent our place out as we live in London and rather than try to buy here we decided to rent so we can afford to live centrally and keep our own place as our 'foot on the ladder' IYKWIM. I can see why people prefer to rent though, none of the hassle associated with ownership / mortages etc and I did love being able to phone our landlord when our oven broke and a new one being installed the next day!

Right, I've waffled on enough I'm off to make a cup of tea to feed the hangover of doom.

at hangover of doom Truff Hope you feel better soon

I have sore boobs (that couldn't possibly be related to the fact that I've been wearing push up bras for over a week )

Oh well, feel a bit better now then

Glad you feel better FingersCrossed

My mam phoned me at work at about half 3 and asked if I was heading to her house with the dog as she'd seen a dog like ours near her house! So naturally I panicked thinking she'd got out somehow, luckily she was in the house but I only found this out once I'd had a bit of a freak out at work and left at 4. I couldn't take any more of today and needed to be on my own. I feel a little better now, car is booked in for wed so just have to manage till then, and although it's costing loads, I had forgotten we sold our wii so have a little bit of money to do some decorating, and although there'll be no money left for us to get something for ourselves, we'll manage.

I'll be glad when today's over, bring on tomorrow. Plus then it'l be one day closer to testing day.....

Great. Another fucking month and another fucking fertile period when I don't actually get a chance to get pg because OH is fucking working. He works ALL. THE. TIME. So basically in the million to one chance that I ever actually do get pg I will basically be a single mum because OH will no doubt still be working 28 hour days and not even thinking about prioritising anything else above his fucking work.

Really and am stropping off to bed alone.

Night.

Aw Imps, hope you feel better today. It's really frustrating when you know you're at your most fertile but can't do anything about it (hugs)

My manager who's daughter had a baby at the beginning of Jan has sent us a card with a piccy of the baby on saying thanks for the pressies. It's been put on the desk next to me and is staring me in the face

Hello :) I have been avoiding the thread as we have not had the time or the energy to do anything this month :(

Today though is Day 1 - after all those irregular periods last year this year they are following calendar months Makes working out your days easier though :)

Work is completely mad and we both have done so many 10 and 12 hour days the last few weeks that SWIing went out the window. But this month we need to get back on track.
Imp I know what you mean, it is soooo hard.

Hope al is wel in SWI Land though.

Could someone update my stats pliz? Day 1 for me :)

Hugs to Imps7

Hi Tigerseye, sorry for day 1 but yippee that they're going in calendar months

Someone just brought their gorgeous 1yr old son into the office and I had to go out so I didn't cry. Sometimes it feels like we'll never get there

Hello

I'm calmed down now (apologies for outburst yesterday ) although my mood did get even worse this morning - OH eventually came to bed last night (with his Blackberry, obviously) and said that he was far too tired for anything given the busy day that he had. I asked this morning if he fancied a quickie before work, and he said (and I quote) "errrr, errrm, not really. But let me have a shower and I'll see how I feel." Wow, thanks babe, you really know how to make a girl feel special. Needless to say I wasn't really interested after that.

Just before I left for work he said that we could have a shag tonight - to which I told him (somewhat childishly) that I'd have to see how I feel.

Honestly, I cannot remember at what point in our relationship I ever agreed that our sex life could be purely dictated by him - the possibility that I might be tired or not in the mood doesn't ever occur to him. It has been at his insistence that we have not TTC for the last 3 years (when I have desparately wanted to) and now it seems as though it will be his choice as to when we do or do not have a chance of conceiving in any given month. I'm wondering if I'll actually be allowed a say at any point in this baby making business.

Anyway, I have just successfully managed to wind myself up again by recounting the above, so I will shut up and move on! Plus I'm ovulating today so I'll just have to bite the bullet and get on with it tonight?if he's home from work at a reasonable time?

Josie - it's so hard isn't it? Almost as bad as having to go to baby showers - the most depressing events in the world, made worse by the fact that you have to act really happy for the mum-to-be.

Aw Imps, I hope you get something sorted. Maybe you need to sit him down and explain exactly how you feel?

Yes it's really hard sometimes, but I'm glad I can rant on here. My best mate lets me rant but she doesn't really get it and just says I just have to be patient. I keep telling her to wait until she starts trying, then we'll see how easy she finds it to sit and wait month after month

Hi Josie - I think I'm just going to write it off as an overreaction on my part. We're only 2 months in and I don't want to cause tension so early on in the process as we're likely to be in this for the long haul.

So will cook tea, be nice to OH and see what happens!

Hi all, sorry to hear that some of you are having rough patches.

Nothing to report in my world, though I am pleased to report that I'm feeling a bit more positive now.

Imps hope you manage to get DH back on track. Sometimes I think that they genuinely don't "get" that everything needs to fall right in order for us to get pregnant. When I told DH that women only have a few fertile days each month, he was gobsmacked! I guess boys never really get the whole period thing do they?!
On other matters, I see from the One Born Every Minute thread (where we are all shamelessly flirting with midhusband Christian) that you are in the Cambridge area. Whereabouts are you? We're in a certain horseracing town not far from Cambridge!

Oh imps I hope tonight goes well :)

I think being a grown up stinks sometimes

josie it is rough, it keeps happening in my staffroom and get so and that it will ever happen.

Tiger sorry about day 1 :(

Small world Cavemum !! I'm in a village just north of Cambridge - I won't say where as only about 3 people live here and I'd be a tad embarrassed if anyone realised that the girl ranting about her OH-work-dictated-sex life on MN was me!! Unlikely, but you never know...

I was most recently in the Certain Horseracing Town last summer watching Jedward and the other X Factor rejects. They have some great gigs there

ps - there was no "shameless flirting" with Midhusband on my part - I'm always that gushing about people....

(sorry, "gushing" sounds rude. Or maybe that's just me!)

Evening girls and sorry it seems to have been a tough day all round. There must be something in the air as I've been weepy and pathetic this evening. My MiL phoned to say that DH's cousin is pregnant and although I'm delighted for them it is tinged with a little envy, which I hate. Add that to the fact that he was 'too tired' last night and it means we've possibly missed our chance for another cycle! I'm being over dramatic as we had a lot of sex over the weekend and again today so it's only 1 day but if I've ovulated today then yesterday would have been perfect timing

Am being silly so will look and learn from Cave's PMA and HTFU a bit . Let's hope tomorrow is less whiney from me!

Aw Truff, I hate baby but it's so hard not to get it. The longer it's been since you started the harder it is to get enthusiastic about someone else's baby news. Fingers crossed you got the timing right despite missing a day. It only takes one shot

My new colleague just announced she's 5 weeks pregnant. I cried my eyes out in the tearoom and I don't think I can hold the tears off all day. It's really obvious I've been crying. I'm so embarrassed

Oh Josie So difficult, make sure you get yourself out of the office at lunchtime. It's not your line manager lady is it?

Yeah Fingerscrossed I think I'll at least sit at the back door and get some air at lunchtime. I have banned myself from being alone today as when I don;t have to hide my tears from people I can't stop them coming. No it's not her luckily. It's my new colleague who has a 6 month old daughter who wasn't planned either. She hasn't planned this one, I really have no idea how people get pg without planning it. She wasn't sure if she was keeping it and she isn't too happy about it but it's going ahead anyway. I really wish she'd kept her mouth shut. It's awful I know but I can hardly look at her or talk to her. I think everyone knows something's up but I'm silently pleading with them not to ask as I know I'll just burst into tears and I don't think I'll be able to stop

Wow, accidental pg 6-months after giving birth and telling people she might not have kept it? She's an interesting character! I don't think I'd want to be having those conversations with work colleagues, unless I was especially close to them.

I've managed to get over the bit this morning but am still feeling a bit deflated generally. I ovulated yesterday so the weekend efforts may have been enough, we shall see I suppose. I'm sure tomorrow will feel easier Josie I think it's the initial eraction that's hard. I felt sad, envious but also guilty all at the same time. I think I'm a bit hormonal

I'm going out for leaving drinks for a work colleague tonight so hopefully that will perk me up!

Drinks sounds good Truff. She's really lovely, she's just very open, wears her heart on her sleeve

I can't get it out of my head and everytime I think about it I well up. I have a feeling I'll be sobbing tonight, but hopefully then it'll be out of my system and I will feel better tomorow, until she tells everyone and starts to show

To be honest having a little mope and a cry in the comfort of your own home can do the world of good...oh and a nice hot bubble bath...and a glass of wine

Fingerscrossed I think that shall be my plan for tonight, none of this ikea madness