Feisty, Fabulous Forty somethings

[galwaygal]

This is a continuation of the "More ongoing and continuing conceptions and follicling ahead of Feisty, Fabulous Forty somethings"

I thought I would keep the title short as there are so many long ones out there.

I thought I would start the new thread so that you don't forget me

lia crossed posts. What a horrible woman . someone said to me that perhaps my two lost ones were girls - like they had any flippin' idea.

You are my inspiration at the moment. I keep thinking , "Lia is preggers and she's only a tad younget than me!" Sounds like you had fun with Alba - I am quite . When i have my next baby I am gonna insist that you ALL turn up!

louise thinking of you. XX

HI all, louise I feel the same about Victoria Beckham. Also can't bear to watch One born every minute atm - I watched it last year just after my mc with no problems, but just can't face it at all at the moment.

have news from Dr C at the veryexpensiveclinic that all my tests are fine and no reason why i can't conceive. grr. Anyway, dildocam awaits me on Weds (have paid for it already so may as well find out).

I am going to give ttc a rest though for a couple of months - really can't face the whole swi/two week wait/spotting/cramping/disappointment thing at the monent. And with Vietnam on the horizon it seems sensible to give it a break. Im not sure I can actively avoid it though, so we'll see when it comes to ewcm time what I do.

Hippy hope your spotting is just implantation...

diege your sweatty betty stuff sounds good. I live (out of work) in their warrrior pants - really comfy. don't do any exercise in them mind. I have some nice new running stuff from an internet shop called Sweatstuff waiting for me to try on. I'm managing to resist though

Shred dvd remains in its shrink wrap too. weight and fat remain static unsurprisingly

jolls and lou sorry you feel low. I always feel pretty crap at this time of year too even in the ordinary course of life. I could quite happily move abroad for the whole of the winter (apart from a small need to earn a living).

anyone else close to testing?

BB Vietnam sounds very exciting. You were good to watch one born every minute after your MMC. I tried but ended up in tears and DH TOLD me to turn it off.

I would love it to be inplantation spotting, boobs are still aching away and it was only a tiny amount so I suppose you could be right .... but no, Hippy, be realistic now woman - it probably isn't.

You lot are all so fancy in your new sweats - NOW GET EXERCISING YOU LAZY BUMS!!

Morning lovelies.

Jolls and Lou, I'm so sorry things are hard. I can't imagine how you must be feeling, but I know what my loss feels like and I imagine it is much worse for you. Hang in there, and share with us...

Diege our beach is much nicer than the Home and Away one! You can see a picture here:www.domain.com.au/Property/For-Sale/Land/WA/Goode-Beach/?adid=2008136495

It really is very special and we are spoilt, because other beaches just don't seem as good! I feel really lucky to live here and try to make the most of it.

BB your trip to Vietnam sounds wonderful.I know loads of people who just love it and my DH and I would really like to do the trip. Are you taking your kids with you? I'd love to know how it goes because I'd like to take my kids with us.

My SIL is planning her 50th to be in Bali and Lombok in May 2012. We really want to go and I was happily making plans on how I'd go with a 9-10 month old in tow. It's awful when our plans are changed. We'll still go to Bali, and maybe I'll have a younger baby to take , which I think will be easier, if they are carried all the time, less chance to pick up nasty bacteria!

Good luck all you gym bunnies. I'm sticking to long walks on the beach, but I think I might have to get something else happening soon to tame the wobbles!

I'm going to read about Alba's birth, how exciting!

Alba congratulations.

Louise and Jolls so sorry you are down. Thinking of you.

Gum glad you are feeling a bit better.

Hippy here's hoping for you for this month.

Incognitoorwhateveryouarecalled, Dige, Alba, Spotty, BB, GG, Muchlove, Curley and Frustrated, if you are still looking in - and all - love and hugs.

The insomnia is not as bad but have now got backache! I am falling to bits!

I had chat to DD today, she was pretty naughty and difficult, not sure why. I wanted to get her old baby monitor out to lend to a friend and she said that she wanted it in case we had a baby. Had to explain that that was pretty unlikely but said I was trying. She asked how do you try to make a baby!!!! I said that for me it involved the doctors because my tummy was poorly! Not sure what I will say when she asks how the rest of the population does it!

Love, blessings and arrow prayers to all.

Hi ladies.

Gum your beach is beautiful i m so jealous

.Glad you sound a bit better.X

Hippy me old mucker!!! How's things? Keep sympton spotting its like an addiction we just can't help ourselves!!!!

Italian your dd sounds lovely, the innocence arh bless.XX

BB i .too, can 't watch "one born every minute" i even get my dh to switch over when the adverts come on.I hate it .How dare they have no problems and be "entitled" to a baby if we re not.Whats wrong with VB? shes got everything but still never smiles and has to continuoulsy strive for a career!!!! I bloody wouldn t if i was her!!!!!

Jolls how are you? Hope you're feeling a bit brighter today?

Lia Hi ...nice neighbour!.It has constantly amazed me how stupid or thoughtless people have been with me since loosing Georgie.I guess in a way you have to pity them for being so totally crap.Hope you
re ok?

I m ok today, just heard some good news my manager is retiring early in March.There is a god!!!! Yeh,she's crap.Shes not been in touch with me at all. I ve not seen her since Georgie's service in November.She has told my friends she "doesn't know what to say to me!!!"

This makes my return to work way more bearable.Half of the problems at work are because she is so weak.She lets certain individuals get away with loads which breeds a lot of frustration in the rest of us.I hope my buddy goes for it as hes strict but fair.At one point lots of colleagues wanted me to go for the band 7 [i can i meet all the essential criteria] and i would have considered it previously.but, now my priotries [sp] have changed and as soon as i ve had Georgie's bro/sis we ll be moving back down south anyhow.So, i ll only be back at work for a maximum of 2 years.

Had a good reflexology session yesterday,really enjoyed it.Tracey is lovely its all very interesting.Next session in 2 weeks.Cd 8 so ems plan starts again tonight.I m DETERMINED to be pg this month!!!!

wow gum your beach looks amazing. I'm definitely . I had a look on the bigger map to see where you are too - how long does it take you to get to Perth? I think I have no idea of distances.

Lou good news about your boss. Hopefully your friend will get the job.

hippy any signs? go on test, you know you want to!

Gum we are intending to take them all to Vietnam with us, possibly slightly foolhardy! I am waiting for someone to phone me with quotes for flights now.

I am very happy to Alba. but I must admit that reading the Totally grads thread makes me feel really sad - I had my mc at the same time as the people who have given birth/are about to give birth, and i can't help feeling a bit "why not me too". Feel awful admitting it, and don't want them not to be pg/having babies, just want to have my own baby. am working at home today because dd1 is ill and am feeling very low about the whole thing.

Totally agree with you BB You're very brave to admit that.I did post on the thread before that i was too sad to post regularly on that thread.I m happy they've had their babies and Georgie's donation site was donated a lot of money by lots of people from that thread but i do look at the list and all the others having their babies and think "why did this have to happen to me?".

Why , when the list has 1 stillbirth does it have to be me?

Love to you XX

BB I know what you mean. I am happy for them all but also am in the same boat. We both lost a bean last feb and many of them have gone on to have successful pregnancies after.

louise It is awful that your name has to stand out at the bottom So sorry my love.

All i can say is that things arn't always as easy for everyone else. The girl at work who is 32 and 14 weeks pregnant told me today that they called her before xmas cos they thought her baby might be downs. They have ruled that out but are now testing for another trisomy. She's had a lot of stress about it all and I felt bad cos just a couple of weeks ago i was moaning about how she just 'popped out' for her 12 week scan and then came back all smiles. All this extra stuff has happened since the scan. Just goes to show that it's not just us old birds who have problems.

Still no AF as such but a few more brown spots and a bit crampy. So am fully expecting AF tonight or tomorrow.

Mother nature is having a good old laugh at me, she gives me crappy old eggs but then plants the idea that i might like a baby very firmly in my stupid head .

This was meant to be a cheeky last baby. We had a discussion about it when i was 42 and now here i am aged 44 and I'm bloody obsessed. What a twit.

I saw about 5 minutes of one born every minute yesterday. there was a strange lad (who seemed to have autism or aspbergers) and his girlfriend who also seemed to have trouble socially. She was saying, I want to get on with it so i can put my knickers back on, i don't want him staring at my 'place' all the time. How the heck did they ever make a baby?

gum what a lovely beach. I can just imagine walking on it for ages.

Ok I have just watched the whole of One born every minute and I have decided that the young lad is actually quite a sweetie and they make a nice couple. But I still think it's hilarious that she referred to her fanny as her place .

Bloody Hell GUM what an idealic location !!! I want to live there ..... its beautiful !!!!....
Saw a lovely house for sale on the I.O.W in The Times today HIPPY and I thought of you it's in Yarmouth a 3bed detached Victorian house close to harbour thetimes.co.uk/property.....looks lovely. I too watched One born....and thought the young couple were sooooo sweet but made me laugh too..... better than the other one....Jeez wot a racket (my DH said 'can you turn it over please she's making my nts shudder ...'
Oh girls (LOU ...BB..JOLLS) it's really a big pile of POO this life.... why do bad things have to happen to good people.....I just don't know why ????? BUT I know it's not much consolation but you are both still youngsters' in TTC years so I do think you both still have good chances to fulfill your dreams I really do..... it'sjust you want it yesterday and I totally understand. I liken it to a game of 'snakes and ladders' and I keep going back to the begining (ggrrhh) but my time is running out now and I feel like I am in some demented dream going round and round in circles and getting nowhere fast....how fcking frustrating !!! But slowly and bit by bit I am taking back my life...I have to....so now I too am looking at exotic holidays and thinking about getting my body into good shape again and blah blah blah...... I am going to visit my niece with the baby girl tomorrow and where once I would feel all anxious and uptight now I am fine ..... infact I visited a friend with twins last week and came away from there feeling drained.....she doesn't get a minute to herself she is just wiped out...and anyway other babies don't upset me coz it's not my baby....... I guess I've sort of realised that I can't make something happen that's not gonna be..not when it's to do with MOTHER NATURE so by doing that I've cut myself some slack and though I am not totally stopping (by going back on BC) I am now of the 'if it happens it happens' thought process.....
Hmm same here HIPPY what was a little thought at 41 has now turned into a rotten bumpy journey at nearly 44......bloody hell where did the time go ?????

But congrats to ALBA and her little boy x
And love to to all

xx

Oh just checked that website HIPPY and it said u need a subscription...so the Agents are Creasey Biles & King I don't know if they have a website or not ..... why can't I do links to sites like others I am crap on the computer ggrhhhh.......

Hippy i m glad they highlighted Georgie as out on her own, but, i wish it wasn t my Georgie there,IYSWIM.

Muchlove thanks very much.You say the most encoraging words.Know what you mean about feeling like i m right back at the begininning.I always seem to be but i will not let go to the fact i WILL have Georgie's brother or sister and soon and then i ll let out the biggest sigh of relief EVER!!!

Right , off! swi its cd8 here we go again.Best month ever.....extra fertility dueto cp and still only 3 months since giving birth and same month we concieved Georgie.[Yes, i know i m repeating myself!!!! Wrong side of 40]

Night all XXX

Hi all thinking of you.

Louise big hug.

Gum, Jolls, Diege, BB, GG, Hippy so sorry that it is a bit of a hard time for you all in varying degrees. Certain times do remind us of things and maybe January is a bit of a hard time. I know some were not looking forward to Christmas but I was and it was great but it is all a distant memory now. We have all the new 'stuff' gifts and all the old cr*p too! So the house is bursting with stuff! I always feel worse when I am aching and cold and the house looks like tip!

Hope the not too distant future will be brighter for us all.

Love and hugs to all.

Feeling OK, DD behaviour being challenging and life busy. Tired, aching with backache but lost 2 pounds at Rosemary Conley and was slimmer of the week. I am OK, I guess the dream of another baby is still there but at the moment feel a bit like I am sleep walking!

love and hugs to all

Muchlove special post for you sending you a big old hug.... XXXX and kisses.

Go for it Louise! Get those troops in the right place and let nature take its course.

Well, I finally got the pathology report yesterday and it was pointless. I had a suspicion it might be. I wish the surgeon had never said,"They'll probably tell you if it was a chromosome issue and the sex of the baby", when in fact all they said was that it was a "normal" pregnancy(rather than a molar pregnancy). Fortunately I didn't get my hopes up for much more, but it really did set me off again. You know - why do I have to be having a path report when I just want to go for my 12 week scan this week. Perhaps I've been spared the worry and grief that would have come if our baby had made it this far and had a trisomy. We'll never know.

I also had a package arrive yesterday that I'd ordered just after Christmas, before I knew our bub had died. I've been making a patchwork quilt for the baby, and needed more fabric to finish it off. So when the order arrived yesterday I was quite sad. I told my DH it was for the baby's quilt, and he said,"Well you had better finish it then". And I will. I wasn't sure whether to think my DH isn't completely opposed to another baby. I overheard him say to his sister, when asked if we'd try again, "I don't think so", which isn't all that positive, but it isn't "definitely not" is it? And besides he's made no mention of using contraception, and I'm not mentioning it, and I'm hoping I'll ovulate any day now, and I'll have heightened fertility and a bfp in a couple of weeks!

Is there any truth in the fact that I should wait a month so that the lining can build up after a D&C? I hope not, because I don't want to wait.

I'm going to see the surgeon today, but don't quite know why, I guess I'll ask her a few questions, maybe it will help...

Yes, our beach is amazing isn't it? I intend to get a walk in this morning before the doc's appointment.I'd better hurry up.

We are a long way from Perth. A 4 and a 1/2 hour drive. We live in a pristine, beautiful,unspoiled place, but the trade off is that we are miles from anywhere - to go to Melbourne or Sydney we have to drive to Perth then get a 5 hour flight. Bali is closer to us(4 hour flight from Perth) than the Eastern cities! And as for overseas travel - everything is a bloody long haul flight - London - 24hours. So, there's a bit of a trade off. I don't mind because I'm happy being a homebody and enjoying our lovely place.

I also read the grad thread and thought that it was sad I wouldn't have my bub to hold in July, and that so many of us have had losses.It was so sad to see little Georgie's name, Lou, but I'm glad her name is there, because your little girl was here and you are a mum to her. I too wish her name wasn't there and you had her with you at home.

Much love to all of you. Best get going for that walk!

Oh GUM I'm sorry you didn't get to hear more from the report. I imagine you must have expected all sorts of answers were gonna be given. Am not sure on the lining issue as haven't had a D&C before but honestly I would say do what you have to do. Your body will soon let you know if it is up to this month or not.
I have a feeling that the reason your DH said that is because he is protecting you and his emotions. After my first 2 losses everybody (because I naively/stupidly told all and sundry) was asking are we 'gonna try again' and I felt so exposed in my grief and sadness it was awful. But naturally people just want you to be PG again to take your sadness away and so they ask the million dollar question. I learned to tell people no 'we are not trying' and they stopped asking and in a way it really took the pressure off. So maybe that was the reason he gave that answer. Now today nobody asks anymore (well other than my mum) which suits me just fine xx

Thanks ITALIAN and well done you for 'slimmer of the week' .....sorry DD is being a bit difficult at the mo how old is she ?

Love to all xxx

I had typed a better message than the above but it got lost in cyberspace (DONT YA JUST HATE THAT WHEN IT HAPENS) so this is a shorter version

x

Hi Gum You re not anywhere near the floods are you? [excuse my lack of geography].

Sorry you didn t get any answers....I was never told to wait a month after my erpc.In fact i didn t.What the hell? Theres no rationale to any of it!!!! Maybe you should finish your quilt just in case!!!!!!!!

Thanks XXX Go for it with your extra fertility!!!!! Yeh

Italian well done you on loosing weight XX

I m trying very hard, particularly,being off work I m eating more but i try to get a walk every day and more swimming tonight.Mind you my walk location is nowhere near as exotic[sp] as Gums.

Morning Hippy hope you re ok?

Hi Jolls Hows the "improving going?

Hi BB hope alls well with you?

Morning Muchlove XXX

Hi to Diege and anyony i ve missed.

Been to gp got another sick note for 6 weeks then will try and go back then but it all depends on my pregnancy status [long story; i ll explain nearer the time]

Did the deed last night more to come [oh no, wrong choice of words!!!!] tomorrow night.

Feel sad,sad today Miss Georgie so much XXXXX

muchlove that house is brilliant. I would love to live in Yarmouth. It's a bit too much money for us though - we are hoping to use the money we make from selling in Hertfordshire and be virtually mortgage free in IOW - so we have to go for a cheaper house. DH wants to get something that needs a bit of work doing on it - but he is the laziest man in britain and although full of ideas, is usually VERY slow at DIY. Example - we've been in this house for 10 years now and there are still jobs to do

Can we perhaps have a whip round for the Hippy family so they can live in that house please???

Still no AF as such here, but more brown spotting so i really don't think this is my month. Isn't brown supposed to be the stuff left over from last month making it's way out ready for the new blood??

gum apparently the main reason they tell you to wait a month just so they can work out dates if you get pregnant- so it's your call. i chose to wait and have a full cycle after my EPRC but only because I was told the lining can be a bit thin after the procedure and i wanted to let it build up for itself. But i didn't wait a month after my natural MC.

lou I get what you mean completely. Nice that they have put her name there etc but really she should be on the list with all the others. Good luck for this month my love. I know you've got a busy schedule ahead of you (Hippy feels exhausted just imagining how much sex louise is gonna have).

Started your collection Hippy there's oh, £2.35 from me!!! It is half way through the month.

At least all this swi should help me loose weight!!!! OR put weight on in the furure!!!!!

Hiya, It's been so long since I posted that the thread fell off my Threads You Are On list, so it took me a while to find you all again.
Last time I posted I was slightly freaking out because my period had not arrive (and I WASN'T pregnant).
You and my GP all reassured me that it was normal to sometimes miss periods (had never happened to me before)
But I was still worried. Especially after I spoke to a friend who said her periods just stopped abruptly at 44 (I'm 44, had birthday recently ) without any other symptoms of menopause and her periods never came back.
Well guess what? Bang on midnight New Years Eve AF makes her Big Comeback!!
it had been about 60 days since my last one.

Phew, now I know I'm not menopausal I can get back into the difficult task of TTC.
Wish me luck.
I'm age 44 and have one DS aged 5.

Welcome back porth a great start to 2011 for you, yay

Yay! Thank you curly I was pretty happy (and drunk)

I think a few of us myself included have had missed AF's or changes in cycle lengths etc..........