I received this txt from my dd on Friday - is she the most self-contained 11 year old around?

[growingdd]

I was in work, she was at home with her dad.

"I've started my p**d [her asterisks].yes I'm sure.No I haven't told Dad and I don't intend to.Yes I've put a pad on.No I don't feel scared or worried.Yes everything is under control, so there is no need to ask any questions!!Please carry on with your work and don't worry about me!!No I don't really want to talk about it when you get home, so just tell me which pads to use and you keep on buying them for me and everything will be fine!!OK!!"

I texted her back saying we would have a chat when I got home, she said "I'll pass on the chat thanks".

I haven't actually seen her for more then 5 minutes since she texted, as she has been out, I've been out etc.

She is just so grown up - I can't believe it!

We will be chatting about it, though...

(changed my name as she reads mn sometimes and would be mortified to see this here)

GDD, I don't think your DD was being rude, just pre-empting your questions in that world-weary sort of way that I would expect from an older child; but I don't think changing your name is going to protect you if she sees this post - after all you have written out her text verbatim, she is going to know it is hers!

yes, I am a little nervous that she might catch me out...but as I don't come on mn v often any more, she has lost interest as well...I hope [nervous]

I don't think it is rude either. Or rather, if I had sent that text to my mum (even now) it would have been percieved as a bit rude, but if my sister had sent it, it wouldn't have - just our different personalities She has a much more outgoing, confident personality

Does it not occur to you (peeps who think she was rude) that she is embarassed and has not option about mentioning it to her Mum because she needs pads, not to mention the laundry, and she is just pleading with her mum (the best way she knows how) not to make a big thing about it ... I feel sorry for your children.

Growingdd ~ congrats to you for having a daughter who can be open and honest with her Mum about such a personal issue

You both sound lovely and you've enabled an 11 year old girl to cope with something possibly unpleasant in a mature way. Isn't that what parents are supposed to do??? Be proud of her (and yourself).

I haven't got any children yet - am TTC. I wanted to contribute to say that I thought that was a reasonable text and she handled it in a mature way. I can't really remember starting periods but am sure I wouldn't have felt comfortable having lengthy discussions on protection etc with my mum and my mum and I were always very close. You're individual people and of course now as grown women we see periods as natural, nothing to be embarrassed about but I can see why an 11 year old would just want to deal with it herself.

Ha ha, just found thi thread. I know who your are growingdd - met you also. I think your daughter sounds great (and a little like mine - who has also started at 11) Yours is a better speller though

Very, very scared of all these households where sarcasm isn't allowed . Only earnest "humour" allowed?

OMG! What kind of saddo can't see that a text like that from an 11 year old is very savvy & cool & absolutely one to be proud of? It's a bit of an AB Fab moment really... although presume you're not quite like Jennifer Saunders..

I too have an 11 year old DD and that is very much the message I'd get... and she still plays with dolls!

You have a wonderful daughter. She has been open and honest with you about what has happened, she is positive and confident about how to handle it, she has a good sense of humour, she has set her boundaries of what she wants to talk to you about without making you feel bad. She's not letting this very embarrassing, often messy thing stop her from going out and living her life.

I wonder what all these insecure people, ready to judge your daughter's behaviour so negatively, said to their mothers when they had their pds. Probably not very bldy much!

If I were their daughters I would not share my confidences with them for fear of being judged sarcastic.