I received this txt from my dd on Friday - is she the most self-contained 11 year old around?

[growingdd]

I was in work, she was at home with her dad.

"I've started my p**d [her asterisks].yes I'm sure.No I haven't told Dad and I don't intend to.Yes I've put a pad on.No I don't feel scared or worried.Yes everything is under control, so there is no need to ask any questions!!Please carry on with your work and don't worry about me!!No I don't really want to talk about it when you get home, so just tell me which pads to use and you keep on buying them for me and everything will be fine!!OK!!"

I texted her back saying we would have a chat when I got home, she said "I'll pass on the chat thanks".

I haven't actually seen her for more then 5 minutes since she texted, as she has been out, I've been out etc.

She is just so grown up - I can't believe it!

We will be chatting about it, though...

(changed my name as she reads mn sometimes and would be mortified to see this here)

Your dd is clearly a star of the first order, growingdd. I love her funny slightly sassy texts and hope she has unproblematic periods from this day forth till menopause comes as easily, in erm. aound 40 years time.

I have re-read my posts and would like to retract them
I do really hope my dd, who is only 8 at the mo is as confident and sassy as yours when she is 11

I have no idea what has been wrong with me

no way I could judge your dd or your relationship
I'm sorry

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That would go with the territory of being 11, cod.

dont you start cod

shes 11, she was being sassy and showing she was coping

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Good on you TR

[narrows eyes at cod]

[passes Trinity some chocolate]

I read the op, realized it turned "funny" so stopped reading peoples comments.

What I read from the text was a mature and self assured girl who sent a text to her mum giving all the necessary info, and trying to at the same time cover everything she imagined her mum would ask, short and to the point, since nobody wants to text an entire essay.

ok, not read the whole thread, just the first few and was really shocked at the responses!

I really remember being 11 and starting my periods and despite me and mum talking about it before, I still felt embarrased to talk to her. I wish there were such things as texts around then and I would have probably sent an identical text to my mum!

I also would NOT HAVE BEEN BEING RUDE as some of you think!

Surely it is obvious she is a) embarrassed b) just pre-empting the answers possible barrage of questions she imagined her mum might send back, whilst trying to be helpful, but coming across in an over protective way about something she clearly feels embarrassed to talk about!Or at the very least, if she's not embarrassed she just doesn't want to talk about it. Its her body, her change in life, its upto her if she wants to tlak openly to her mum about it!

Jeez... then to read that some posters feel it "sad" that the OP cannot see that her daughter is being rud, flippant and sarcastic! Well, i'd just like to say, that if she can't see it, perhaps it's because she knows her own daughter, and you don't....

Like I say, this is probaly resolved now, but maybe not since it's still going... Iwanted to add my thoughts, and to tell the OP that i don't feel she needs to worry about her DD. she is a normal 11 year old

Good grief mumsnet drives me bonkers at times...

I thought it was a funny, feisty text and exactly how I would have chosen to tell my Mum if we'd have had mobile phones when I was 11..!

Good on your dd and good on you for having what seems like an easy going, open relationship with your dd. Hope I get funny texts from dss when they hit 11+. Ds 1 (6) was telling me today he's never going to kiss anyone - I hope when he does he can tell me - even by jokey text...

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ok, just seen the retraction of one of the posters whom was being overly harsh...

Well done for re-reading and thinking you may have been harsh and apologizing for it... how very un MN

ooooh chocolate thanks

better start now if I want my dd to be as self assured about it when it happens as growingdd's dd is

roffle
on a serious note
my dd has had the 'mummy laid an egg' book for a couple of years now so we have that covered

she still seems to think saying willy boob and vagina is funny when she is with her best friedn

but she knows the basics

but what book is a good idea for puberty and that sort of thing???

dont desert me

I remember when I was about 13 my aunt striking up a conversation with me 'so, your mum tells me you've just started your period. When I started mine it went all over my knickers and I had to throw them away...'
I was mortified, then later at the dinner table my four year old cousin said 'Why does lazarou wear a bra? She doesn't have a baby.'

I never stayed with my aunt and uncle again. Actually, all that was bad enough but they tried to make me eat pop tarts for breakfast as well.

Tigermoth, no, you would know me starting with an 'e' and ending with an 'l'.

Marina and scummymummy were both at the meetup as well.

Trinity, I am in admiration at the way you have turned your opinion around through this thread/

aargh! can't think who you are! Ethel? Evil? Ethanol? none of these sound quite right...

Am also a bit drunk (wedding party - same one that I sang at yesterday), so sorry if that didn't make any sense.

Scummy! I saw John Hegley at Somerset House a couple of years ago, you were v jealous...I really can't put my "real" name here, dd would just kill me.

Ah! light has dawned. I seem to remember that your dd1 is v bright and feisty in a fab way and this would be v healthily in character, I reckon.