Best part of being childfree

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Whats the best part of being childfree.
I chose not to have children knew from an early age i never wanted them.
But i have been ask why not whats so good not having them my reply was whats good with having them.
I like my life i like doing what i like i love my freedom.
I have no intrerest in schools finger painting teen dramas i also like sleep.
I dont have the stomach to be around them when they are eating either.
My sister didnt like my reply.
And told me im missing out on what love really feels like.
I replied with.
I'm really not missing out on anything.
You're the one that had kids in your late 40s and all you want is help.
And now im in the doghouse because i was rude.
My family all know dont ask me to baby sit because it won't happen.

And again, another little dig at those who choose to child free 🙄 It's presumably OK if you cause us offence with your suggestion that we will are worthless and will be lonely in old age?

I cannot see even ONE advantage to having children.

By not having them by choice I now -

Have Financial freedom
Can live where I like - no school catchment area dramas
Can take jobs anywhere I want
Do not ever have the constant WORRY about kids, that lasts throughout a parent's life it seems.
Have no babysitting needs
Have no childhood illnesses to deal with
Have no constant laundry piles
Have no organising school uniforms, books, lunches, dinners and teas
Have no arranging "quality time", or ferrying to this and that activity.
Have a quiet, peaceful, tidy and organised home.
Can lie on at the weekends for as long as I want
Can cook what I fancy anytime
And so much more - Freedom is the key.

I'm a very generous person to my nieces and nephews. Can deal with them in small doses, and enjoy listening to their adventures, lives, latest trends etc. but they are not MINE, and not my responsibility either.

I do thank my late parents for bringing me into the world, but I am not going to replicate it.

Yeah, that was pretty sly.

We both made a choice and like you have said she has said the same to me about grandkids and how lonely i will be.
Helping my sister out yes but im not going to be a baby sitter coz thats all she wants.
And thinks i dont know what love is because i dont want children is a spiteful thing to say.
I do hope she remembers it because ill always remember what she has said and has said.
Grankids lol our mother moved away over 300 miles because she didnt want to be raising children again not as i blame her shes in her 70s.
My dad is dead.
Family is what you make it not about reproduction.

why are you on "mumsnet" if you are childfree?

It sounds like your relationship with your sister is quite fractured anyway, regardless of kids.

You knew full well you was on the child fee section.
But getting called out you come up with i didnt know.
Its at the top of the page.

I'd say the freedom (as someone with 2). It's my birthday on Sunday. I'd love to go and see Matt Rife tonight and go the Davis Cup tomorrow. Just to buy the tickets, sort the travel and go. Children make the logistics/cost prohibitive. For years.

Why are you on the childfree mumsnetters board if that's your attitude? See above for MN HQ comment.

Mumsnett is for all people.

Lol

BINGO!

Can’t believe it took over 100 posts for that to show up. But I did predict it some time ago.

Please respect the forum you are in. I tried for a heart breaking amount of time to have children. I couldn't. I will be alone in my old age. I worry about it. I can do nothing about it. I find the positives in my life and like having a space where there are people on the same page as me whether by choice or otherwise.

I started on mumsnet on the miscarriage board. I ended up here. Tell me I shouldn't be here.

If you'd like an individual answer, I started out reading the conception boards when I was trying to conceive. Then I moved to the infertility boards. But I also was reading other boards in that time for entertainment. Should I have just stopped coming on here when my final IVF failed?

And for a general answer, there are so many boards and threads which are nothing to do with children. They can be really fun to read. You don't need children to read and post on most of them. About books, films, elderly parents, spooky threads etc. So why does everyone who discusses for example, weird spooky happenings they've experienced need to have children in order to contribute to that??

Seems to me that there is a bit of envy out there directed towards those who do not have children. For all the reasons mentioned by us.

And just one more thing, there is absolutely zero guarantee that a parent will be cared for in their old age by their children. They may not even see their grandchildren either. They may be very lonely even having had children. Nothing in life is guaranteed - apart from the freedom awarded to those without children by choice.

Not being a grandparent so not expected to provide free childcare constantly and at the drop of a hat and getting passive aggression when saying no while at the same time many parents on here cheering on the rise of the state pension age and refusing to see the correlation.

Ah but you cant win on here If you do the care for your parents you are just after the inheritance If you dont and they pay for professional carers you are lazy and cant be bothered.

BINGO

Or you become the evil mother in law.

My brother and sister don't want kids. Never have and they are in their 40s. They have very busy lives.

Yet they still enjoy seeing my kids and taking them out and having them stay at theirs.

They are their nieces after all.

Oh bugger sorry this is the without children board!!!

😄

Freedom, absolute freedom when no longer married (for any reason).
Ability to be on your own with your own thoughts whenever you like.
If wealthy, you can become "anything anytime",
obviously depending on health.
Wonderfully preserved body.
45 yo here, remaining child free was so far the best decision made, by myself and for myself.

Not having to worry about other people. You're only as happy as your least happy child.

Thank you for a thoughtful intervention.
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